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What Is The Value Of A Woman Who Can't Cook?

Hey guys recently one a guy was in a relationship in which he later learnt that the girl cannot cook.

In fact, she said she hasn't cooked all her life. Please advise on what is best for him.

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Im not arguing with David, michelin. He's bipolar.

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HA HA HA MR DAVIDYLAN, ALL THE REAL MEN HAVE  HAD  THEIR SAY AND HAVE LEFT THIS TOPIC BUT U < WOMAN WRAPPAR> IS TILL HERE NAGGIN ABOUT LOL.ABEG MY NIGER BROTHER I NO UR WOMAN WAN KILL U WITH HOUSEHOLD WORK, BUT VENTIN UR ANGER ON US WONT HELP U ,GETTIN A JOB IS UR BEST BET ,COS LIKE I CAN SEE U DONT HAVE ONE THAT Y U ARE HERE SENDIN SILLY POST, THIS TOPIC IS NOT  4 CONFUSED KID LIKE U!I BEG TO TAKE MY LEAVE COS I HAVE BETTER THINGS TO DO WITH MY TIME

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They don't need to learn anything. What works for one couple does not necessarily work for the other. My dad doesnt cook, my mom does all the cooking and stacks up for when she is not available. they've been married for donkey years without any incident of vultures looking to reap where they did not sow.

Sit down and cook for your husband, if he wants to help you out then so be it.[quote][/quote] @DAVIDLYLAN BOBO LIKE U WANY DAY YAP FOR HERE, NA UR KIND THEY WASH UR WOMAN PANT 4 HOUSE

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@MICHELIN, TRU TALK MY SIS.I CAN NOT BE BOTHER ABOUT THIS LAME TOPIC, WITH THE NIGERIAN MEN CRYING FOR WOMEN MAID 4 WIVES[right][/right][[color=#990000][/color]

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Abeg what is the need of fighting for women who can't stand for their rights? Nigerians are annoying. Na una know if una wan die for inside kitchen and bedroom. Carry una wahala commot!

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@davidylan, did anyone notice,i can see u did give it up woman

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i can see u are a woman, u just cant stop talkin

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'@davidylan, u are here by IGNORED

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@davidylan, whatever, trust me i dont ever whant to no u either

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4Play sharrap jare.

since you think your traditional food is "nasty" then what should be made? hotdogs?

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if putting a tv dinner in the microwave is considered "cooking" then yea they cook.

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Arguing with you people is like having a down's syndrome kid read the dictionary

In other words, it's a waste of time.

quote where anyone said that cooking is an abomination? Everyone should be able to cook, why not?

gosh you people give me a headache.

as for independent black women, isnt it ironic that you people keep using that word even though black women are more likely to be able to cook than white females?

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trust me, i dont even want to know.

If "making sense" is the same thing as simply taking ur side then i dont wish to ever make sense.

hmmm this did not even deserve a comment.

For Christ's sake its a mere forum, the way some of you go on here one would assume the arguments here are about life and death. People are busy with their life cycles and some sad individuals are busy hyperventilating here. kapish!

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That has always been his problem unfortunately.

I think it's all that cheap crack in Rochester.

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This David is confused and he is confusing me. Who is he?

First he makes sense and later turn senseless like the 99% of the men here.

David stick to one opinion!

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David it's not your fault. Continue eating that spoilt panla soup that your mom made for you before you left Nigeria since your oyinbo hos can't even toast bread.

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@DAVIDYLAN, SPEAK 4 URSELF, COS U DONT NO A DAMN THING ABOUT ME

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proud that he's not a typical Nigerian that would follow any conniving woman with tupperwear? Yes.

what kind foolish question be that?

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Um I was responding to debo, david.

He asked about the women that called and I said they were miserable married whores.

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Abi, and u r proud of wat ur dad did

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married miserable women with ugly lazy husbands.

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They dont need to learn anything. What works for one couple does not necessarily work for the other. My dad doesnt cook, my mom does all the cooking and stacks up for when she is not available. they've been married for donkey yrs without any incident of vultures looking to reap where they did not sow.

Sit down and cook for ur husband, if he wants to help you out then so be it.

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Story Story Once upon a time, time time

When we all went to Nigeria summer last year, my dad stayed behind because of work. A few of my mom's "friends" called asking if they could "make stew for him" and that he must be hungry and all that rubbish about loneliness. He politely said No and told them that he usually makes his own food anyway. The funny thing was that these women would usually come to our house and KNEW that he's the one that makes pounded yam and all that as my mom has never picked a mortar(for pounded yam anyway) in her life so for them to make such slow suggestions just proved how conniving they are.

Everytime my mom called him from Nigeria, he would tell her about how so and so called him about wanting to bring food and they would both just laugh on the phone together. Seriously it's hilarious how pathetically ridiculous some Nigerian women are. Awon asewo oshi.

Now had my dad been one of those lazy men who relied on others for everything, he would have fallen for their crap. This happens all the time in most Nigerian homes and it's quite depressing. HOPE ALL THOSE KINGS, THAT FEEL THEIR WIVES SHOULD ALWAYS DO THE COOKIN WILL LEARN FROM THIS

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@thiefofhearts, good one

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Good. More mothers should do the same.

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@davidylan, like i said no one will tell me how to run my home when the time comes,that will be the decision of myself and my husband, a man that we both reason the same way

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@anold, i wont even bother myself with ur nasty post, cos i no i will neva end up with someone as daft as u are

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My brother, you just encapsulated the entire 20 pages of this thread into one fantastic statement.

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why not? he is her husband and if she wants to keep her home intact, I don't think that is an unreasonable sacrifice to pay. even though my dad can cook, my mom insists on stocking up food for him, why? because she knows he loves her cooking and it gives her pleasure to do that for her husband.

this attitude of seeing everything as a burden is not helpful, the cooking, cleaning or whatever else should be done out of love.

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david, why didnt you say that to RichyBlack?

anyway my point is why should a wife feel the need to stock up on food so some vultures dont come out with their claws in her husband if the man actually bothered to learn some basic cooking skills?

Im pretty sure that's one of the reasons why your mom taught you, so you wont be at anyone's mercy.

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Story Story Once upon a time, time time

When we all went to Nigeria summer last year, my dad stayed behind because of work. A few of my mom's "friends" called asking if they could "make stew for him" and that he must be hungry and all that rubbish about loneliness. He politely said No and told them that he usually makes his own food anyway. The funny thing was that these women would usually come to our house and KNEW that he's the one that makes pounded yam and all that as my mom has never picked a mortar(for pounded yam anyway) in her life so for them to make such slow suggestions just proved how conniving they are.

Everytime my mom called him from Nigeria, he would tell her about how so and so called him about wanting to bring food and they would both just laugh on the phone together. Seriously it's hilarious how pathetically ridiculous some Nigerian women are. Awon asewo oshi.

Now had my dad been one of those lazy men who relied on others for everything, he would have fallen for their crap. This happens all the time in most Nigerian homes and it's quite depressing.

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If that be the case, no arguement. I agree with that!

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Because i can't understand which work women should stay away from! Please tell me!

So why are women adviced to stay away from work when they need intellectual capacities?

Good for him!

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It's more like they should understand(they already do) that some jobs are physically challenging, and would be more suitable for men.

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David, last I checked you werent married either so why are you too responding? I beg don't push me jare, you know I consider you a friend hence why I don't insult you like I do the usual Nairaland morons.

You just said that it's ok that a couple come to a compromise. Like I said before, the reaosn why most of the females on here are responding the way they are is because of the way this thread was titled. I mean your aunt barely cooks for your uncle, yet they are still together abi? Do you believe that your uncle believes her "value" as a woman is low?

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no one is fighting with the girls (that's really what they are in reality), most of the girls here have approached this subject from a combative stance. Most of the responses have been unrealistic, selfish and unreasonable. Yes a woman is not forced to cook for her husband as a matter of law but to say a woman has the right to REFUSE to cook for her husband simply because she works too is ludicrous.

Before you all start arguing, a good place to start would be to get married first and then practice what you say on ur prospective husbands. If you are still married after 3 yrs then we can start taking u seriously.

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Bia who dey talk about farm work here? Even sef na women do farm work pass where strength is needed more than anyother thing.

Most of the jobs today need intellectual capacities. Who bleeping cares if Tom is a wrestler?

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Oh, and do trust me on this, I have little/no worries about my literacy.

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If you believe this then why are you fighting with the girls? If anything I dont believe it's that they dont believe in cooking(unless they believe in starvation), it's the title of this thread that offends them and frankly I dont blame them

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Physical demands as how?

This is natural. Men are averagely physically stronger while women win when it comes to emotion.

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David make we marry!

Seun abeg come celebrate my wedding!

Serious: Considering as I have said that the Nigerian society doesn't value the individual but the bunch, this mentality of traditional roles will linger on!

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since you havent tasted the cooking of "most nigerian women", i would consider this statement incorrect.

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Have fun with that then, slowpoke

All you had to do was tell me that you didnt understand what i wrote and I'd either translate it into Yoruba or pidgin for you.

Nothing to be ashamed of as not everyone can be literate.

Here's an example: you wan chop abi? make ya own food alajenu.

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tradition does not impose roles on anyone, it simply suggests. I have seen happy couples where the husband does most of the cooking while the wife runs the larger part of the family business. There are no hard and fast rules that state thou must cook for ur husband. Whatever compromise the couple reaches is fine so long as they are happy with it.

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The rest of the stuff is too assaulting, it seemed like a personal-onset (may be something you're going through). I'm dismissing as intellectually weak (pretty much meaning dull/silly).

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This is pure arrant nonsense! What right has the tradition got to impose roles on anyone?

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please wat value is awoman when she can't cook for kids and her husband. guess we miss the picture. seun aint right one bit. Can't marry a girl if she can't cook. rubbish. u guys sholud be real and stop this funny thing about chef. Even married women in advance countries still cook. Imagine africans !

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