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What Rights Has Your Wife Over Your Mobile Handset Or Vice Versa?

Husbands, do you allow your wives free access to your mobile handset at all times?

When the phone chimes, who picks up the call? You or her?

And the most serious one, when you have a text message, who reads it first? you or wife?

This simple question has wrecked homes in the past.

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for my peace of mind, i dont answer his calls.. and he doesnt answer mine.. its no use snooping thru his phone..if a man wants to cheat, he will still cheat. so y bother my frail heart over his phone:/. abeg, i no need the tension,if a lady answers from d other end.

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Only insecure men or women should rush to pick their partners calls.

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no right, stay away from prying in to your partners handset.

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As 4 me there is no atrocities pickin yr spouse's call as far as you guys dont have antin negative to keep 4rm each other also it depends on how you guys handle each odas personalties.

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Uhhhhggghhh, It's a phone, not an arm for cryin out loud!!! If it's being used as a mobile handset, then as your husband, he has the right to answer it and vice versa, just like the house phone. We're not talking about a friend or even a girlfriend. As husband and wife, you share responsibilities.

People are trying to reach you. When he wants to use his phone for extra curricular activities, then the issue shouldn't turn into "what right do you have to pick my calls". He/she should be savvy enough to know how to keep his/her game on the low and not blame technology. This is the information age. You're only as private as you make yourself.

And as to all this privacy bullish for picking a call, it's annoying. Privacy refers to ownership of information. Privacy is essential in a marriage, and with that comes responsibility and trust. You don't go into text messages because there is information there. But picking a call, please. Don't make it a big deal. It's so not.

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Like someone said earlier, if you want privacy stay single!!!

The fact that your spouse has the right to every inch of your life does not mean he/she should abuse that right. If not acting inappropriately, you should not feel violated if your spouse answers your phone in your absence ( or is there something about you that you don't want them to know).

If you feel your spouse answering your phone is disrespectful, then I am truly sorry.

Its quite funny how people go on about their mobile phones as if they were born with it. Not so long ago, the bulk of telephones were land lines. Would you have restricted your spouse from answering the phone at all, or gotten separate lines?

You can defend your turf with your bf/gf, but with your spouse, keeping certain aspects of your life private, or tagged restricted area, will do more harm than good.

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It all depends on the people concerned. To some homes, it is not an issue while,

in other homes it is the most important law in that household

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Trust is not about control -

if you trust your husband, there is no way you have to think of even answering his phone!

That is my point of view, i have my phone, he has his phone and unless he tells me to pick the call for him - his phone stays his private property - not because he has something to hide - but because people who call his phone are calling HIM not ME!

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Thanks, chikito1 (f) I think you understand what marriage is all about. thank you very much.

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I just do not understand people sometimes. If you are that private why get married? Marriage is all in your face when

spouses begin to live together. Its no longer boyfriend girlfriend. Why make marriage formal? All this don't touch my

phone i will not touch yours bullshit theory will only bring problems like distrust, contempt, grief etc. Why build a

relationship on this? If one is that private i beg your pardon remain single so that no one with pry on your phone. In

Marriage it is almost unavoidable. If my man hides his phone for no reason and all that, i can never trust him and i will

have my eyes on his every move. If he has nothing to hide i will not go after the phone as there will be trust and

transparency. Enough said.

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We need to put this issue in proper perspective.

I give you my cousins LIVE scenario. He had this chick (mind u i said he had, which means past tense) that was always insistent on seeing his phone, that why would he use a lock code for his fone and that since they were getting married there was no need for them to keep secrets.

Its not in the nature of my friend to pry into his chick's private affairs, but since the chick had been insistent and he had agreed to remove the lock code, all in the name of transparency, he decided a few times to check his babe's phone and behold he saw some gurry details, he confronted her and she gave some flimpsy excluses. Today, they have broken up.

The lesson to learn: Those who live in glass houses dont throw stones. For me, i am against a woman prying into my phone, i will not pry into yours. We all have secrets and the best thing to do is respect our individualities and privacies.

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@=michelin89, If you know you still have privacy for yourself to keep, then forget about getting a husband cuz you will not make a good wife/ home.?

Thanks.

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Thank you.

@ any husband

I go cut your hand!

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she has a right to all of it

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All Man, ''to your tent oh isreal''

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As for me, we pick each other's calls or text messages. There is no secret in my home. In every area even financially, we know all. There is no reason for secret

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None. Unless its a between life and death situation.

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phone call -rwx-

SMS        -rwx-

abi u get something to hide

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Funny enof,each time they pick their guy's calls and even read text messages korokoro,

we always have a way of "riggling" out of the quagmire.

No matter how sharp a girl is,she can never beat a smart guy to it even when

she read texts messages dat contains i love u or i miss u.

To be on a safe side,women shud desist from dis act.It causes unnecessary problems.

Relationships should be built on TRUST,whether the man is guilty or not

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There is no big deal if my wife answers my fones. She is my wife and can answer my calls anytime she wants.

I know some fools in here like almondjoy must have influenced those she could, by telling them that the hubby does not have any right to answer their fones.

If you dont have anything skeleton in your cupboard,I dont see why a right thinking person should find anything wrong in that.

Except those under the guise of marriage are living in hell. Almondjoy can tell better.

Shameless .

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We all need a little bit of privacy sometimes, invading one’s privacy isn’t rite howbeit he is spouse

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every one to his / her phone, a guy should answer his phone & vice versa.

But if the guy is going out of his way to answer the fone e.g if he is in the bathroom & anytime the phone rings he runs to get it even if it will be easier for the girl to pick it up & then obviously there might be a problem.

& if the guy is so secretive about the fone & always have to hide or move far away to receive phone calls then it doesn't take much to start havin doubt.

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As a married man ,Before giving your mobile no to your girlfriend THINK? what are the consequences of my actions? what effect is is going to have on my marriage ? does my marriage really mean anything to me and finally is this Kitty-Cat really worth wrecking my home for Bleep sake. There are many ways to kill a rat. husbands LOVE AND RESPECT your WIVES. Ask your girlfriends to give you their numbers but don't give out yours.in this way no one disturbs your peace @ home. you call them when you want but at the same time they know their limits. As a married man you must know where to draw the line if your marriage means a lot to you. its best to be faithful to eachother. remember your vow was before GOD and not before man. Finally, any married man that gives out his mobile numbers to girls outside sounds like a recipe for disaster. remember you loose something when your marriage dies but your girlfriend loose nothing, she looks for the next available .

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"Everybody to his or her phone. That is the only way

to avoid wrecking your home especially in these days

of women's infidelity.

If you like shout Crucify him crucify him"

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i suppose you meant 'men and not women's infidelity'. what percentage of married women are really unfaithful to their spouses compared to the men folk?

anyway this issue is basically one of trust or lack of it. it all depends on what yor spouse does or doesn't do but it shouldn't become an obsession and it is definately not a right of either party. it is a simple privilege, you may have it and you may not. that is the way life and relationships go

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It all depends.

I have 2 seperate handsets, both on my Vodafone Business User Accounts. 1 number is my private one, the other business. trouble is, sometimes I return a business call on my personal number, so the personal line becomes known to my clients.

It's not everytime a client calls, I'm prepared to speak to them, so my girlfriend doesn't answer either of my phones. If she did, and called me, it may be a client I don't want to speak to at that moment in time, and it does become complicated, for her to tell the client, "oh, Siena's not available, I thought he was".

Most clients know self employed folk tend to have their phones on them most of the time, so my girlfriend answering my phone kind of gives the game away.

No different to respecting folks privacy, when it comes to letters. You wouldn't rip open letters addressed to your partner, would you? If there's that much distrust, then you definitely don't belong together.

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Its love that brought the two together, to live for better for worst. So i see no reason for a husband to answer a wife's phone and vice versa. The ingredient in a happy marriage or relationship is TRUST. I know is very hard butthe ladies just have to trust the man so that everything will go on smoothly.Its just that the men these days play prangs and still have a wife at home. In this case, the wife should not pick his call or read his messages. If she does, she will be the one to be hurt within.

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Personally, I want my husband and my relationship to be built on trust.  I do not have anything to hide, so I would not care if he answered my cell phone or not.  And vice versa.  If he has nothing to hide from me, than why would he object for me to answer his phone or read a text message.  Everyone is different, but our relationship is built on mutual trust, love, and respect, and I thank God for it.

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well if the love is there the wife can check his husbands fone or vice versa bt if love no dey there omo na yawa oh. Cos grundging go dey there sha ni. And e fit break relationship

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when i was newly married, i noticed my husband likes to keep his phones off from me, and i tried to tell him that he is free to answer my phone, but am not free to answer his own, so i decided to tell him that no way, vice cersa, if i dont answer ur phone, u dont answer mine.

now he wants to be answering mine, and let me be answering his, and i refused.

it actually made me to mind my business, and not have heart attack, or disturbances at all. And on, he wants me to have heart attack, no way. i kind of like it like this, so i prefer to mind my business by not touching his phone, and he doesn't touch mine.

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both couple have full rights 2 answer each others call or read text messages, unless both of them reach an agreement that non of them should answer each others calls or read each others text messages, which is better and safer to avoid unnecessary problems or heart aches.

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Except if its a joint business line, if not then one should mind his/her business and stay away from the other's cell. am not married and i have never for once ventured to pick my man's phone, the only time i looked into his fone was wen he took a pix of my Bottom and i had to see it (he offered to show it to me). of course i ordered him to delete it immediately. privacy is very vital (dem say wetin u no know no dey kill u). Peace y'all.

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spouse are not suppose to attend to each other phone without the owners permission.not only because of secrect relationship, how about job, family, friend and society

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Do you have any secrets you are hiding from each other? If there is then the problem of hiding of phones. BUt when there is no secret or extra martital affairs then anyone can answer the call except there is a mosquito hiding in your cupboard.

That shouldnt be a problem. I can answer the call of my wife and she can also do the same to my phone. It pose no problem at all.

She has every right.

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you really should have just picked up the phone and handed it to him since he was available not actually answer it. you may answer if the caller persists(and you think it may be important) and he's unavailable.

dont go looking for trouble.

besides if you want to snoop, you should act like the call doesnt bother you and when he goes to the bathroom or wherever you can do your thing! not fight with him for the phone.

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WHAO! THIS IS AN INTERESTING TOPIC.

I FELT THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN PICKING UR SPOUSE'S PHONE CALL. I HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT TOO UNTIL JUST TWO HOURS AGO WHEN MY HUSBAND PROVE AND QUOTE ME WRONG.

WE ARE USED TO PICKING EACH OTHER'S CALL UNTIL THIS EVENING, WHEN I WANTED TO PICK HIS PHONE FOR HIM COS IT WAS LOSER TO WHY I WAS, AND B4 I KNEW WHAT HAPPENED, HE HIJAC]KED THE PHONE FROM ME EVEN B4 I SAID HELLO. AND AFTER THE CALL. I INSISTED I MUST SEE THE PHONE NUMBER OF THE ALL HE JUST REFUSED. HE REFUSED AND BELIEVE ME, MY NAIRALAND USERS, WE WERE ON THIS TOPIC FOR TWO HOURS, HE REFUSED,I STRUGGED WITH HIM BUT COULDN'T GET HOLD OF THE HAND SET. EVENTUALLY, I GAVE IN COS I WAS TIREDAND HE WAS ADAMANT TO LET GO OF THE SET. I KNEW SOMETHING WASN'T RIGHT ABT THIS CALL, HIS BEHAVIOUR. I DECIDED NOT TO GIVE HIM BREATHING SPACE THIS EVENING, BUT U KNOW MEN,HE ASKED ME TO BOIL RICE FOR HIM AND B4 I COULD RETURN FROM THE KITCHEN, HE HAS TAKEN HIS CAR KEY AND DRIVES OUT. BUT HE WILL COME BACK 2NITE. DAT PHONEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

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YOUR WIFE should have all access to ur phone, and so should the husband

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different theories work for different ppl. for me, keep ur phone and i will keep mine. i will only act when u don't answer well in my presence or when their is change(s) in your manner because of my presence.

i see couples fighting to answer each other's phone but it is not surposed to be so.

i can keep a business friend who is not a family friend or not worthy to be close to my friend.

if am a trader, does it mean my wife will know all my costumers or if my wife uses an official telephone line, i must know who calls, for what purpose and all the rest.

for christians, the bible says women shld be under their husbands and not fight to know who is calling their husband's phone.

if you have any reason to distrust your husband, it is advisable u quite in peace than in pieces.

for me, an ordinary hello delievers the right massage and i can tell how good is the calling friend.

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I'm sure that will defeat the purpose.

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Its better if you keep to your phones. Being nosey only brings heartache.

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Well said rotweiller, it is not about secrecy, it is about privacy. .

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all dog like poo, all pig like mud, all pastor like bible, all mallam like qurian, all men i mean real men are poligamus in mind. take it or leave it.

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If you want to have peace in your marriage, PLEASE STOP BEING UNNECESSARILY INQUISITIVE! Despite the fact that husbands and wives are supposed to be one body, a bit of basic privacy should be acknowledged. If you don't agree, keep on prying into his/her email box/phone/letters and you would get what you are looking for. Then what?

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Picking your spouse's call when he/she is around is not reasonable for the following reason:

1.What if some one with some little credit on his/her phone just wants to confirm something from ur spouse?

2. Can that prevent infidelity?

3. What will u tell the caller?

Always introduce urself first if answering your spouse call.

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I am married and we do not answer each others phone, unless requested to by the other.

I have no inclination to answer hers anyway but I had to curb her natural instinct to pry into my phone and stuff.

I am sure she still checks behind my back.

Funny incident:

I was asleep and she was testing her new phone, she decided to send a text as a test to my phone.

In my sleep I heard a text arrive on my phone with a beeping noise, as I woke up and reached for the phone I saw her also reaching for the phone. I got to it first and gave her a funny look as why she was trying to answer my phone.

Then I realise it's a text from her but now she starts ranting that I "rushed" to pick the phone and what am I hiding, blah, blah blah,

It became a whole scene.

It was almost as if I was being blamed for answering my own bloody phone!!

I had to put her straight.

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I dont see any problem with your wife picking ur calls or vice versa if that love exist unless u guys are playing OFF SIDE

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now seriously, aint any problem in that provided he's pickin my call to help out and not with the malicious intention of diggin up a ghost! cos he will find one 4sure.

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checked my babe text messages,i saw over 15 love texts sent by a particular guy.i vexed wit her.but on the other hand there was this lady that sends me text almost everyday lovely texts of course,she vexed too after a while we keep to our separate phones.let there be phone privacy

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For me personally. i hardly answer people's call cos i believe the caller wants to speak to the owner and not me. but as for text i love that reading that just for the fun of it plsssssssssssss before u guys will crucify me.

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i sincerely believe the issue is for the couple involved.if they see themselves as one and there is no secret, then there is no big deal in it.but if there is skeletons in the cupboard and there are secrets each doesnt want the other to know, then the best thing is keep off each other`s phone so that you wont hear what you didnt bargain for.

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to have peace in a relationship/marriage i tink its better to stay out of eachother's phone, not b/cos the person has got somethn to hide but just for the sake of peace and to let sleeping dogs lie.

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