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What's The Best Way To Avoid Cheating When The Physical Attractions Are Gone?

I'm asking a SINCERE question here because I need some tips from EXPERIENCED people, preferably, faithful married men/women.

I know one of the reasons (though not a justifiable one) why some men stray after being married for some years with kids is that some of the physical attributes that used to drive them crazy in their wives would have gone (or almost) after a few pregnancies and all. You know what I mean - the once firm, perky bosoms are sagged and lifeless, wrinkles and flab appear here and there etc. Yet the man remains almost intact and there are younger women flaunting their fresh, tempting features and jostling for his attention here and there.

I know women can take solace in their children when their men are becoming something else but I know the case is different with men.

So, as a man, what's the best way to continue to enjoy your woman with all the realities without getting carried away by the alluring attractions around? I'm not there yet, but I know someday I will. I just try to imagine how these noble faithful men cope. Any practical tips?

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Ehm,,,I dont agree.Its not only marrying for physical looks that brings this kinda thing. Like they say, guys are generally wired to be moved by what they see. This has nothing to do with how she is as a person , but that's how most guys are. At least he loves her personality well enough to care about how she looks. The physical has quite a bit to do with things sha. In my opinion.

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i will say develop a deep friendship and likeness for your wife.  always calculate what you are likely to lose if you cheat and is it a price worth paying?  try your best avoid places you know you are vulnerable plus when you can travel with your mrs it does protect you and make you bond more but on the other hand it can test / stress your relationship so you have to be extra tolerant when she is out of her comfort zone.

always go for someone you cant live without not someone you tolerate.

if you can get till the heart be touched by gordon and gail mcdonald and making love last forever by gary smalley. those 2 books are compulsory books for any young christian man and woman

more importantly just practice the act of loving her cos your well being depends on her happiness and being relaxed most of the time.  you get more from a happy wife.

no man ever does wrong loving his wife cos it is your first ministry.

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If you love your woman enuf, mind you, you and her made those babies together, no matter how saggy the books looks, you need to love her beyond the physical, you need to appreciate her and celebrate her, or better still, i will try to make sure my woman dont over bosom feed the babies, cos i wanna enjoy dem bosoms till i grow old.

bosoms will never be lifeless except the nerves aint working no more.

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maybe this is more of the reasons why the few good men marry and still stay/love a woman beyond the "physical" attraction.

@ poster

you can always take for a complete makeover, if her true beauty have faded in your eyes

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