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What Should A Good Wife Do With Her Earnings?

Keep it for herself, parents and siblings and occasionally support her husband or combine her earnings with her husband's to cater for the immediate family?

A woman raised the alarm, sometime ago, accusing her husband of asking her to share in the household expenses (even though he was to bear the greater burden). I was shocked because I thought marriage was supposed to be a partnership where things were shared/done together for mutual benefits.

What's your opinion?

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Many times married women ( wives) are so engrossed with raising a family, managing their home, building their careers and other issues that they fail to spend time in personal financial planning until later in their lives (late 30s or 40s). Some leave the crucial activity of financial planning to their spouse and run into trouble when there is a breakdown in the relationship. Others are caught in a web of debts and unsustainable spending habits of their spouse.

Every Good wife should for the sake of her personal financial security and her children should become more financially smart and money management savvy? How should strive towards achieving financial freedom, debt free so that her retirement free of money problems

Below are five useful tips on money management for married women.

http://personalbudgeting.suite101.com/article.cfm/women_and_money

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She should use the money to take care of herself and pay the little bills. . .

Or she can use it to buy her Children clothes, shoes instead of depending

on her husband for every single thing.

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Don't tell me u are a lazy man.What is ur own with ur wife's income?When u feel u are up to the age of marriage,note it is also age of responsibility.So u have no deal with ur wife's income.

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Simply put as a woman i would not let my kobo or cent out unless my hubby is worth it!!

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That's similar to what we do in my house. First, both incomes come together, then we discuss the budget, then everyone takes what they need, and whatever is left over stays in the joint account.

I am a strong proponent of marriage with 100% openness and oneness.

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the husband and wife should combine ALL earning from them both, then the bills should be paid out of the combination. Both parties should have equal rights to whatever money is left over after expenses regardless of who made more

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FYI, it's better to file taxes as a married couple than for both of you to file as individuals. I would say more but I don't want to derail the topic, but thanks for sharing your opinion.

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Personally, the reason why i might not have "just one purse" with my woman is the tax man.

Have to look for a way to make sure that we can file taxes seperately, cos only me is paying too much money on taxes and combined, i am sure will be worse.

So have to be a bad man when that time comes.

Also, i once raised a topic about should the man and woman keep joint account and i said then, there is no problem in both keeping a joint account as long as the man can be able to stash some money away for the days that it will come so handy.

So that is how i blv, and what i hope to do.

Please note that the money stashed away will never be used for nothing but for my wife and kids, cos i dont blv in giving money to some that will not add to me.

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Fhemmy, I see you didn't answer my question. Since you were really passionate about this issue in your earlier posts about a woman contrubuting her fair share. Tell me now, what would stop a husband and wife from having one purse?

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a good wife should kneel down and give her earnings to her husband everytime she receives her paycheck.

And then rub his back and thank him for his manly awesomeness.

After that, hop into the kitchen and make his favorite meal.

Finally, take a shower, smell fresh, wear something sexy and arrange herself seductively on the bed.

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U should spend some, put some in a family savings account, but put most of it in a child's college account. Every child should have the right to an education.

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If you tell me under what circumstances it is not easy, then I can tell you what I think should happen.

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In some cases, it is not that easy, so in such cases, what should happen?

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Oh, please don't get me started. Look at my old posts. In marriage, I don't believe there is a man's earnings and a woman's earnings. A family has (or should have) one purse. Chikena!

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i think that is very wrong.

She must help if she has the means to.

However, like i said earlier wont mind my woman saving the money, so that we can fall back to it when needs be.

BUT, if she is a woman with plan B, we will sure have a formula of contributing to the expenses of the home.

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Look good and help when she wants to but situatiion has changed this days

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Yes, i agree with you whole heartedly.

I think the law needs to change and make sure that the woman is taken cared of when the man decide to kick the woman out all in the name of infidelity or for any reason at all.

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It is her obligation. The kids are also hers. That's an excuse for selfish women. Sorry, but I don't buy it.

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@michelin

when next you want to respond please read and think properly. if you were able to reason logically and go through my earlier posts you would have noticed i said its not her obligation but she shiold be able to HELP vouloutarily. in other words she is not expected to give all her earnings to her husband. simple. i am not against giving, i am aginst giving ALL to her hgusband. simple

please when you cpomment, comment with sense and reasonin

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When a woman goes into a marriage with a plan B, then Plan A is already a failure.

Besides, i think what they need to do is change the marital law in nigeria to provide for the woman in case the marriage falls apart.

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so what does the man do if it all falls apart? by all means, maintain a career, a level of independence (which, i concede may mean both keeping a little money aside) but both parties have to invest as much of their energies to create a successful marriage.

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it is always good to have plan B

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That is how it is in a normal world.

But Nigeria is abnormal.

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i'd like to believe a family can pool money. they can, together, put money aside for a rainy day. i don't see why she should be squirrelling hers away. that's (hopefully) how i'd do things.

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Full Gbammmmm!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But would be nice for the woman to keep the money for the family to use when they are broke.

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Why must there be a difference? Just like the husband a woman must give all she can to her family.

Only selfish and greedy women want to keep their earning to themselves. Oleeee!

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again, what's the difference.

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Take care of his family and make sure all are happy.

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what should a good husband do? what's the difference.

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Better to have said, "some women"

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i hav concluded a long tym ago dat women survive on shopping, competition & Gossip!

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I believe she doesnt know what she is saying

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She should rather pity you. The type of selfish and lazy woman who wants to put every responsibility on her husband's shoulders. If the bible hadn't said, you'd still find an excuse to keep your money to yourself.

Admit you are greedy and stop hiding behind the scriptures.

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@benedict

i so pity u. when it clears from ur eye i hope its not too late.

a woman is not meant to provide for the family, it is the man's duty and the bible did not say the woman shold bring what she earns into the hose she is meant to submit not provide

women that have goone the way of benedict usually regret itFOR EXAMPLE ask the women selling akara on the street what really happened

WOMEN BE WISE

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A Marriage Without Regret Featuring Kay Arthur

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Women are supporters to men, so pls nairalandergilrs, kindly be a supporter to ur husbands.

Someone said they both should share the family expenses equally- why can't they also share the house keeping, laundry,cooking, taking care of the children.

men=80% or 70%

women=20% or 30%

thanks

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i will never advice anyone to do that.

for the single sisters, i will advice u to look very well befor u leap

dont give urself to that guy before marriage, he is not worth it, i man that loves u will wait and respect ur feelings.

Marriage is honourable with the bed undified

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Naturally, the earnings of both couples are for the family. A house divided against itself cannot stand.

I'm still single but i know that my wife has to help me plan and build our family.

We have to plan and save for our kids futures. I'm very comfortable right now and can take care of all that but it's not wise that a wife should keep her earnings to herself.

The bible describes the woman as "the helper"

A wife is meant to assist the husband is every way possible, that includes making right decisions, curtailing unneccessary expenditure, raising the kids, building a loving family and ofcourse paying the bills if neccessary.

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Definitely. Enough of all these I-must-stay-married-by-force!

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Yes, but if the man is not responsible and wanna kill you, pls, dont submit to the face of the gun oh, run for your life, cos even God will call you silly at the pearl's gate

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i think there is a need of re-educating the mind of the women.

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Osisi is pretty much the only wife on Nairaland that doesnt make me sick and Im sure she's happier than most of these loudmouths

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That is great.

I am happy for you and wish you the best.

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i cant remember the thread exactly but i remember a lady here being attacked for saying she set up the kitchen in her home. i dont know any sensible man who knows is back is fully covered by the wife that wont let her be the queen of her castle.  like your hubby the mrs runs everything in the house/ family that is becos i trust her with my life.  she is a blessing and good team player.  

if most women know how important and easy it is to get your man as your best friend they would stop all the   unnecesary & unhealthy craving for controversy and  quarrels some enjoy so much.  the danish say "Wise men do not quarrel with each other".  that is wisdom.

the ability and power of strife to ruin a good family has not been well explored by many.  if you can avoid quarrels and strife in your home you are almost gauranteed to achieve whatever you set out to do by Gods grace. the psalms said violence and noise should not be in our street let alone home.  relationships dont have to be nightmares and battle ground.  it is always a place to relate, share and not divide or go soloand lonely as some have made it.

i know we come from background where we have to fight to survive but we must come to the stage where we learn it is wrong and begin not to tolerate it especially in our family and relationships because the main looser is always you and your partner.

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