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What should i do if My Son confides in me that he is Gay?

Scientist claimbeing gay/lesbian is as natural as being heterosexual. They say we are all wired differently.

What should i do if my son confides in me that he is in love with another man!

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What has this being Naija got to do with anything? Are you heterosexual because you're living in Nigeria or because youre a Nigerian? Don't be ridiculous! A gay person has not chosen his sexual orientation, just as you didnt choose yours. He has come to this world that way and when you punish him, or beat him, or reject him or admonish him for who he is, you are killing his spirit and your actions will achieve no positive result. There is no verifiable record of any homosexual person who has ever been beaten into changing his sexuality. It is not possible to change a person's sexual orientation. What Nigerian gay people suffer is hostility and intensely bitter homophobia which is borne out of the lack of a basic understanding of this issue by the majority of Nigerians.

The same people who condemn homosexuality quoting religious texts from the Bible and the Quoran, are the ones who will tell us that homosexuality is unAfrican. But they don't remember that even the Bible and the Quoran that they have quoted from, do not themselves originate from Africa. Homosexuality is a part of nature. It is our attitude towards it and our basic ignorance about it, that makes life for the ordinary Nigerian gay person much more difficult than it should be. It never ceases to amaze  me the comments that I hear and read from my fellow countrymen, when in reality homosexuals are all around us. Any of your brothers or sisters could be gay.

We need to grow out of this, because gay people are human too, who are capable loving and giving love to members of their families and their relatives. Many are in normal jobs, in the professions, paying taxes etc,  Many are forced into unhappy heterosexual marriages. This is not what you want for your son. You want your son to be happy, so you should love him, and accept him as he is. It will mean a lot to him because being gay, he will already know what it means to feel rejected and left out.  Your love and your acceptance of him and his lifestyle, will be the best thing that you can ever do for him.

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well i go get am finest chich wit a fine Bottom booty and Kitty-Cat,Oya put ur koboko and try am,u must like am pass batty.on a serious note,i go jst dey pray for am,on the mountaint for sure.we go move bck go 9ija,go c woli.

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abeg, dnt wish me bad luck. . . .

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manliness cheney and alan keyes believed the same thing too.  keep on deceiving ya selves.

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May God forbid bad thing.

Infact, this is impossible!!

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Remember this isn't a problem u can fix all on ur own. First confirm medically if he is truly gay or he just stumbled on some naughty ideas from his peers.

If he is truly gay, realize that only a miracle could make him normal, and I advise u to go spiritual. Don't border to waste money on any trial and error medically.

Let's call a spade a spade. Start serious communication with GOD.

That's the only thing that can change the situation.

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you funny ooo, i laugh fall for grand ooo, u no think say the boy involve is an adult?

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@Ugborikoko,

God made Adam and Eve. God did nt make a mistake by nt making, adam and adam.

Hw cn u b in love with another man? That is sickening.

Deliverance from sexual immorality is required in this case.

Maybe, this person was abused by a man when dy were young and now think, this is right.

IT IS WRONG!

U cn be delivered if u want to be delivered.

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@poster, get a good koboko or horse whip if u like, and beat the living-'gay'-light out of his silly mind, even God go happy with u (spare the rod n spoil the child),

abi are u ready to be ur son's gay partner?

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Tell him its not right!!

If he dont change,Pray for him!!

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As a father, you should sit him down and tell him the dangers his likely to encounter in homosexualism; he should know that what his doing can lead to his ruin.

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Slap the gayness out of him

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You'd be amazed by how many hardcore christians that are closet homosexuals, plappville

even priests sef

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i will advice him to always use condom and tell him how much i love him.

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Give him a  big hug and a kiss on the cheek, and say 'well done son'. I ask kini BIG deal.

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You really just confirmed my suspicion, You really are well read in this field,  So, when did u know?? does your Bottom hurt?? hehehhehehehe

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People, this is a possiblity, considering that gays have been society since bible times. By the way there is now a gay bishop,

Should you kill your child because he/she turns out gay?

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I thouhgt he has done already**hissesss

she come shout help!

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u support him and be ther for him

theres a whole lot more to a person than their sexuality

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Wat can i do, but allow him or her be . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

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