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What To Do? My Wife Refuses To Come Home!

She's a foreigner. We married 1989. We have a son. I live in Naija. She lives in her country. She visited me once. Each time I say come home she says she'll come and visit and I hate to hear that. For the sake of our son in 1996 I tried making a living in her country to show how much I care for them. I came back home briefly on my return to them I was deported. Ever since she had never made attempt to move to Niaja or do anything about my re-entry. Advice me honestly what to do. I'm what u can call a married single for 17 years! Don't ask me how I'm surviving! I'm fine & not doing badly in life, I av what it takes to live.

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at least he has some interest in the child.

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Give her a call and talk with her. Let her udnerstand your views, give her good reaons why she should come home to you.

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No point speculating, he probably saw his wife and son more than 9 yrs ago. Do you think that "wife" still considers herself married to him? If she were she would have at least visited all these while.

No stress, all that will be ironed out well before i give her a ring.

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your "wife" divorced you years ago in her heart.

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didnt you guys talk and agree to compromise before you got married? thats a down side to marrying a foreigner! naija is unbearable for them.

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My brother youare really lost.

Even Nigerians living abroad with their whit wives have families in Nigeria.

You better Wake up.

I do not know where the problem is? In Nigeria Polygamy is still allowed.

Sorry but I think the problem is you

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Maybe you should try appealing to her through your son.

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u sure she ain't seeing someone else?

or maybe got other plans?

maybe she re-married?

how often do u guys speak and when last did u see em?

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The boy must almost be a man by now . Lets see what they say in the Topic 15 years after your dad left you.

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u ve heard it all, sorry about ur dilema, but pls move on, doesnt look like she ll ever come down, u understand that she has to live her whole family and friends and start affresh with u in nigeria. so pls move on and try to keep a good relationship with ur son and encourage him to visit u more often.

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Yeah divorce is the thing, he can't go back and she is not willing 2 live in nigeria

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did u see the part where he said he was deported? i hope you know what dat means.

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well she visited once and he could always go to europe and have a face to face talk with her giving her an ultimatum

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the man said she doesnt wann@ come home mening he cant see her. they only talk on phone and u are telling him to sit her down and talk to her. hmmm, funny though. i bet he has being taling to her on phone for 17 years. the best thing for him to do is to divorce her and move on. he has even tried staying for 17 years. me ke, for don divorce after 7 years.

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The son is lost.A blackboy in Europe? or were ever that dose not know his roots.

But lets stay real the woman dose not want anymore and there is nothing he can do about it.

The Government is heartless to such things.

Dose he have a part custody of the child, was he paying maintenance? .

In this case he can try but he needs to get a lawyer

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but what about the son dont u think it would be hard on the son in the long run if they get divorced?

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Divorce her and move on.

Or better still ask her to apply for the Divorce.  There is nothing you can do again.

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its seems your wife isnt willing to compromise maybe u should sit her down and tell her how u feel that might help goodluck!

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