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What Would You Do To Such A Wife?

During one of the usual heated argument in your house. Your wife brought out a picture of "A FRIEND" removed your picture (The husband) from the standing mirror and place the picture of the guy there.

Her Reason: Thinking about the guy always give her happiness so far she is not happy in your home.

What will your reaction be?

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I have been following the all the posts. What a thread!

All I want to say is that: How can two work together except they agree?

It clearly shows there is no agreement in your marriage.

As the man, you have to make a conscious effort to bring the groove back to your marriage. Go back to the tiny details that brought you a lot of joy and happiness while you dating that made you look forward to marrying her.

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@Travelista,

you seems not to get it. I have since apologized to her, she did the same as well. I agreed that I overreacted, but it is still bothering my head that after all these time together, she still had her mind on one boyfriend of hers in Nigeria.

Is that the reason she always pick up fight with me? Was that the reason she do call me different names all the time?

The relationship with my wife has not been the same since then, everybody is just keeping to his/her own.

Has I have said earlier and I will say it again. I got nothing to do with this lady in question apart from the fact that she is a client and she is a Nigerian, of course we talk (not only to her but to other Nigerian cribs around, she has my personal no like every others do), There is no attachment or string. I ain't doing her and not planning to do so.

It is not a fab and I pray that it should not happen to you.

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@jennykadry.

The truth in life is that you don't need a woman before you are successful. I have started making it be4 she came to my life. I am not too sure she will agree to my moves if she cannot see that I can take care of her. To all men out there. It is God that giveth power to succeed not woman. I can count many people that made it without women around them.

I am not standing by the lady that called me teddy bear definitely I did not appreciate the text but she should have listened to me and let me do the fighting. I know my wifey

@TruAkebaje,

I pray you won't have Margaret Thatcher as a wife. All the tension in the house is caused by her. She is very aggressive, very very fiery and can say anything with her mouth without thinking with her brain be4 saying it.

Knowing what she could do

2. I had wanted to delete the message instantly, she said no, I even asked her to promise 'cause i know it will hurt her. She refused as usual.

3. I can't just tell the lady off like that. She brings heavy investment to my portfolio, I believe there is a way to tell somebody you are stupi and the person will reply Thank you (managing your client). My ring is(was) always on me then

4: I laffed because I can't help but just laff at the whole scenario. You Know , just coming back from work and the woman welcome you with fire, i was like soooooooooo, i just lafffed at her, make jest of her that next time u will listen. You know i made joke out of that scene

5: I have actually done that and she has apologized

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sometimes i wonder why God did not creat woman from adams anus, rather than the rips. Women always act before thinking.

let the man endure the insult. its part of marriage

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Whatever might have transpired,

It simply is an act of total disrespect for your wife to put up the picture of another man. Take this as the writting on the wall. she had absolutly no reason to do this and you have to be consequent or loose all respect.Your wife has no bus. looking into your phone least of all calling any nr. there.

I have never in all my years of marriage answered my husbands mobile, looked into the nrs. or read his post mail. I am always polite on the phone and hand the call over or take a message. This is ont silly but a sign of respect and trust.

Calling that woman is bringing herself down and she got what she deserved.

Just call her to ordrr and look that the respect and trust is restored in your family

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@Big_Man and Chaircover,

Thanks for the WORDS. I really appreciate every bit of it.

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@Kind.way - I am sorry, i went for field (offshore) job and didn't have access to the network.

I have gone through your explanations and permit me to say you have not behave maturely. This is not what i expected from a man like you. You have proved that you still dont understand your wife. My wife is not better than yours in terms of attitude. Your wife reaction is normal; it shows she loves you and she wants to have you to herself. You have overreacted and you own that innocent woman an apology. Please note that the grass is not greener somewhere. Let me quickly give you my own story:

There was this girl i dated when i was an undergraduate (before year 2000). We so much loved ourselves and i would have liked to proposed to her if not that we lost contact after our graduation because there was no mobile phone then. During courtship with this my precious wife, i narrated to her (my wife) about the relationship i had with that girl back in school. I told my wife her name and how much i loved her. Some years after my marriage i saw a friend of this my past girl friend in the town and we exchanged numbers. I never knew she was going to give my past girl friend my own number.

I was in the office when my phone rang and she was the person that called. The first thing i told her was i am happily married now and she congratulated me. That was how i saved her number on my phone. She said she is looking forward to seeing my family someday because we dont live in the same city. One fateful afternoon, she called my line and my wife picked the phone, as soon as she noticed my wife voice she cut the phone. When i came out from the shower my wife asked me and i reminded her on the girl and told her how she managed to get my number. I told her she is aware i am married and nothing more. Heaven was let loose and the rest is story.

After couple of days, my wife called her and both of them had it hot. Guess what! The girl called me and started abusing hell out of me that i set her up with my wife and she sent a text to my wife that she was going to take me away from her. My marriage was at the brink of collapse because gossippers came in. My wife blood pressure increased as a result of this. I could not convince her and she denied me of meals for several days. It was only between me and God that know there was nothing i had with her. I was not silly enough to send my wife packing because i understand how she felt and it gave me another idea about her. I paid the price for not telling the nasty girl never to call me again. My wife and i went for marriage seminars/conferences and since then i learnt my lesson and such a mistake never happen again.

So my dear throwing your wife and your baby out for a girl is inhuman and you need to grow up. I advise you call her and apologise for your childish behaviour and do make amend henceforth. Those flashy girls wont make a better home.

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If she want to post a picture of another man on her mirror, let her, you men do it too, puttin picture of women in ur wallets, car mirror, work office, and gym locker, what the big deal?

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Now what kind of a cruel woman would do such a thing?

If I was the man, I'd just withdraw from her. Not divorce o, just not be with her being with her. She can go do as she pleases with the man that makes her happy. Even if I've been insensitive to her and havent made her happy in a long while, taking my pic down in our home and putting up another man's own is just wicked.

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@JennyKadry,

I have seen your comments:

1: I never believed and will continue to tell every man that it is a woman that makes man: "See a man is diligent in his work, He will stand be4 kings" It is not a man that worship woman.

I pointed out 2 extreme actions taken by her be4 I did my own madness. I was just laughing that the U know like This woman, you have carried this ur attitude outside and be4 I land , she has picked on me and started displaying a fiery attitude.

Please note the lady that sent the text is NOT MY MISTRESS OR GIRL FRIEND.

may be you should try it with your husband. ant any slight argument take away his picture and replace it with ur boyfriend and see may be he will now knee down and be worshiping you.

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^^^I can sense the female chauvinist in you. One sided comment.

You should read chaircover's comments and you can compare with yours.

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My Guy, I think there are lot more involve than you are telling us.

You mean you sent your wife out (possibly with your baby) because of this matter? Because of a stranger? This is not the best.

This matter shouldn't get to this if you've handle it maturely. And I think you are overreacting on the picture removal incident. She was only trying to get back at you.

Now you want to end your marriage because of a stranger? or are there more to this other lady than you are telling us?

She made a mistake calling the other lady. But you should overlook that for now and forgive that, because it is understandable, she is only protecting her territory from an invader.

Like I said, the last thing she expects of you is to take up a fight with her because of the other lady.

By the way, whose side are you? your family or the other lady?, Who is more important to you? Your wife or the other lady?

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@Nlander,

The worst she that she has done is that she took my picture away in the house I paid for.While I am still alive, bringing in somebody else picture into ur home. As somebody responded she is a fiery type, even telling me to do my worse, and did u know what I did.

@1.00am that very night, I packed her stuff out of the house that she should go and meet that guy. she refused and packed her things inside. I forced her outside, locked my door and went to bed to sleep. She went to a family friend of ours and she stayed there overnite, After all the meetings with friends and co, she got back to the house around 1.00pm the next day.

NB: This happened real life and by this time We are having a little boy. We are not resident in 9ija. Series of "things" has happened in my home and I am to make some decisions this year 'cause I can't continue this way.

Its easier for me to express myself here.

@Chaircover,

If you won't mind, can I have your email add, so I can pour some more personal things to you.

@OAM4J,

What else did she want/need again when I told her initially that this is just one of the things that do happen and I assured her I was going to take care of the situation. She never listen, she always want things to be done in her way even going extra mile by calling the other lady bringing all of us into disrepute.

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@ Kind.way.

The issue is not about her not trusting you, no woman will feel comfortable knowing there is another woman out there interested in her husband.

I agree she shouldn't have called the other lady, but having done so, what she need now is your support and not your rebuke.

Your wife expects you to take a stand with her against any outsider, please do that, you can correct her later, not now.

As chaircover said, You need to handle this with lots of maturity before it gets out of hand.

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@Chaircover and Big_Man,

May be i should have delete the text but the question is why should I be hiding things from my wife. I don't lock my phones, I don't have affairs but I got a lot of friends (male, female, known and unknown to her). We were on the bed about to sleep when the text came in. i wanted to delete it immediately and she insisted that she want to read it. Knowing the kind of person she is, it would have been worse if i delete the text right away. Men Hell will let loose.

I warned her not to, she refused , she even promised not to react. Sincerely I don't think I can trust her words again since the incident.

@Chaircover, I have tried to give myself some distant from both of them, The wahala is just getting tooo messyyy before U know it, Pastor, Friends has started calling me for private meetings.

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I think it is just her way of telling you, she is tired of fighting.

However, replacing your pix while you alive? watch your back, bro

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you wont have made a scene out of the msg. if you never wanted her wahala, you shd have quietly deleted the msg without her knowing. l think u created this problem for urself.

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@rokiatu

It is not a joke, This is like part 1 of the series of things that we've been through and you know that in our African settings, You don't tell other people about your family issues, they will tell you to endure it that all marriages are like that.

@Big-Man

I am about too go into a meeting now. I will give u the full story on my arrival.

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@Chaircover i understand all your explanations. Unless the argument which the poster didn't tell us is on CHEATING. If the poster is cheating on the wife and the wife does that then the poster deserve more than that. But if it is one of these usual arguments in the home like he said and the wife does that to him then the joke is priceless. That is a taboo.

@poster please tell us more on the arguments so that some of us will not wrongly advise you. Are you cheating on her, if yes prepare to get more than this from your wife as that is what you deserve. During my short period of NL membership, I understand that Posters dont always give full details in their threads probably they want to keep the urgly side that could haunt them.

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Boot her nd the silly pictures outta your house!. . . Silly woman!. Temper

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This is a joke like rokiatu pointed out. The guy in question is he her blood relative? If both of them are blood relative then i can compromise/tolerate it otherwise she will pack her baggage out of my house immediately.

This means she has long relationship/affair with the guy no doubt. Just send her packing to go and enjoy the full dose of happiness in the guy's house and move on.

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Boot her nd the silly pictures outta ur house!. . . Silly woman!.

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Very funny woman indeed. Sure wanna make the hussy mad with jealousy. Only God knows what the arguement was all about, that'll make her react like that.

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stupidity at the highest level!

if she is THAT unhappy, putting the picture of some dude isnt good enough, she should go and live with the guy.she will then have all the happiness she is seeking.

unless he is family, nobody will hang pictures of strangers in my house.

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