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When Your Spouse Starts Getting Fat: what should you do?

What should you do when your other half starts getting fatter and fatter?

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Get a bloody needle and be ready to puncture the balloon!

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When Your Spouse Starts Getting Fat: what should you do?

direct him/her to the gym and give your full support

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When my spouse starts getting fat, the thing to do is to go buy a new bigger bed and matress.

i'll only talk to her and encourage her to start a weight loss program which I'll join her in as my means of supporting her.

But weight or or no weight, I'll still love her all the same.

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tell him/her for check up especially check the liver if is functioning very well.

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In a woman's case, guess she gets fat cos' you feed her properly. Its' a sign of good health in abundance

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As d woman, put him on a diet, u are d one cooking and fattening him anyway, so research into healthier alternatives, less fried stuff, fruit instead of ice creams and chocolates for desert, less carbs, less meat, more fish, lottsa veggies etc

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What you do not want to do is keep telling her she is fat.

Otherwise she will get bigger - just tell her nicely that u wanna get a bit trimmer and both of you can go to the gym together.

Just help her with the calorie intake and she will keep up. If you can sign her up to a calorie counting class, then its ll good.

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Hey there is a non judgemental site that deals with this issue.

Its for people who are married to fat wives and husbands

www.myfatspouse.com

Before you start whining about spam at least look at it, ITS NOT SPAM, its a real support group for people have this issue where they don't get scolded about being shallow for having natural opinions.

On the other hand they don't tolerate "Dump the Fat B**ch" very well either there are real people who are in this situation that have real ideas and suggestions.

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starve him till he returns to the desired size

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If him or her being fat really upsets you then you and he/she need to discuss it. However, not all fatness is harmful - moderately overweight people are actually at an advantage in some areas, especially if they also exercise and eat healthily.

The real issue here is the personal dynamic. Most heavier people already have an awareness that they are heavier, some actually are naturally heavier. Many times they are comfortable with their size, in others they are not. In the former they are not really interested in losing, in the latter they are likely to be insecure and resentful. Bottom line: any advice not asked for is going to be resented. Ask yourself, how would I feel about someone trying to change me without being asked?

Now a real surprise - do you know that some people actually LIKE fatness, either in themselves or in others? Before bringing up to another person the issue of their changing you need to first determine how they feel. If they change it should be primarily for themselves, not for you.

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Sorry, man. i have no idea about what response would be helpful. Is she refusing to admit the problem because she feels she can't do anything about it? You know sometimes to avoid criticism people just clam up.

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ohhhhhhh  my,

dangel,

obesity can be a big problem. It's also a breathing ground for other problems as well, (high blood pressure, high  cholesterol, etc, )  Obesity complicates everything and worsens problems that could have easily been treated had the person not been obese.

Tell your wife you love her and you want to grow old with her, something you might not get to do if she doesn't get help. Try to find out why she's eating more--is it emotional eating? is she stressed out about something? or even depressed? Hire a dietician (sp ?) (if there's one where you are) to start preparing her food for her and advising her, if you can't afford to do this, clean out whatever is in the fridge and storage/pantry and replace it with healthier things, change how you prepare your food--i.e. don't fry everything, try baking, get her interested in something active and participate in it together, get rid of anything that's not water or a healthy liquid, start counting calories and gradually reduce it as times go by, and have her talk to a doctor about the potential consequences of being obese in case she doesn't want to listen to you, sometimes we need to hear things from the horses mouth, you know. 

www.webmd.com is a fairly informative site for good health info,

good luck.

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dont let him eat too much

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If you really love your spouse, it shouldn't matter weather he or she is fat. However, if you are concerned about health issues, the appropriate way to act is encouarage a few workouts at the gym.

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generally most men turn outside when there spouse/wife get fatter but i must advice if the love is till there you should take out out for a gym and some evening walk.most Ladies stave them self all on the name of not getting fatter but how long will they do this

men!!! just help her out for a gym and show her more love

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As a woman I will put kitchen strategies in place to enable him get down the weight. As the master of the kitchen, I will watch what I serve him. "Reproduction" gives weight.ooo.So if possible reduce the frequency.

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since he is a pig, I think there are places where pigs are meant to be

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oh gawd!

go to gym sessions together, find a way to tell her shes putting on weight, {dont say shes fat o} and help her to help each other not that u stick a needle in her thinking she will burst

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The beautiful ones are not yet born because the Ugly ones refuse to die

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ok this is a realistic answer..if u r newly married, it is understandable that happiness and confort might make her fat up. If u werent planning on getting a baby anytime soon, just ask her to find a job that will make her wake up early in the morning. Very stressful job like working in mc donalds and standing up for hours. She does not even need the gym and she will melt within a week. I am saying from experince....

If she lives in nigeria and ofcourse no business in open by 6 7 in nigeria, just advice her to wake up early with alarm clock and do some jugging in the house. It will not help as much as starting work early in the morning though in an office where she will stand up for hours..good luck to the men with fatties. Definitly not my type..The beautiful ones are not yet born....

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[b][/b] Oh dear, so much for my question. My hubby has got as fat as a pig over Christmas...and it's all my fault. I didn't intend to fatten him up but I couldn't stop myself cooking for him.....and he couldn't stop eating... So now what do I do ?

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well.............. I wouldnt marry her if she was fat.............. am saying supposing she got fat after mari eji (marriage)

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and you actually married her?

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allright............. I will make her prepare pounded yam for me every day............. lift heavy stones every morning................ his/her meal will be pebbles every seconds......... the liquid shes going to take will be nescafe with urine

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I would just find summin to get out at least 4 litres of blood from him/her everyday..... how do u c that?

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This na temptationooooo.(for me). Just advice her to Watch her weight if you dont like fat laddies, or you sign out.

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I mean I visit the three before a year runs out

1. its whre I skool, my country

2. my mothers parents resides there

3. My fathers based theres

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Then change them every year or is that so much work?

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cos I revolved them every year

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then why not erase the rest to ease confusion?

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the second country on my residence

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where EXACTLY are you lastdon?

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will be back at nooooooooon......... keep it rocking.......... need to go out.got lectures.......

I dont think its called AIDS/HIV....its growth

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hey... hotttie .where the hell have u been since...beeen expecting uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

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can we changed the topic to :when ur spouse starts gettting thinner and thinner

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gosh.............. whre the hell is Hot-angel........... shes not been online for hours.......... I will be going for lecture very soon.......

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The truth is nobody is perfect in all sense of it, you find your love and your niche, and reside there......sefini

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There's American size 10,12,14,16,18 etc and there's British size 10,12,14,16,18 etc.Geddit?

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thanks bro, I have many

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Send him to boot camp

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This is making me sick to the stomach,(I will do it with love) Love has notthing to do with it.....LOL

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I will caution him to watch his weight and i will do it with love.

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If she likes how she looks(fatty bom bom) I will like still love her like that.

If she's slim, no qualms.

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They r lucky if they get a contented guy with their weight. If not it's not the end of the world...alot can be done to trim down. I've seen a very good and encouraging example. My aunt(it was like a miracle)

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If my partner knows i don't like him getting fat.i'll leave it to him to make decisions to trim down but if he doesn't.....then i'll make him

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