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Where Should Babies Sleep? In The Crib Or Beside Mummy?

Do You Think It Advisable For Babies To Sleep In Their Crib Or Beside You?

I've heard that it's better for newborn babies to sleep in their own crib, how true is it?

The fact is, some ppl sleep better next to their parent or on their mother's chest, yet it's not advisable.

Which do you think is better? The crib or on your bed beside you?

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Anywhere the babies mother chooses is fine by me as long as it doesnt pose any risks to the baby, the mother or me.

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I believe it's best babies sleep in their cribs.

They'll get used to it, which is a good thing, rather than become too dependant upon their parent's bed.

There's also the danger of one or both the parents rolling onto the baby, and smothering him / her to death. It's not just the risk of being squashed that makes it a bad idea, there's also the added risk of the baby being smothered by too many sheets / blankets. Baby blankets are special breathable items, and so a different material from that generally found in an adult's bed.

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The crib of course. The baby cant disturb the flow between me and my wife.

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in the crib most times but you can be flexible about it.

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Mister Man, listen we are not talking about baby carriers here that moms use to carry their babies in the daytime. we are talking about CRIBS that babies lay on when they are SLEEPING.

don't confuse baby carrier with cribs they are totally different things

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my children slept in the crib right in my room till they were about a year old then they go to their room,

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babies should sleep in their cribs and not on the bed , a lot of sudden infant deaths have occured that way , funny enough even in bible days(remember the two prostitutes who went to seek a redress from king solomon) one of them overlaid on her baby, it sure takes discipline to consistently ensure that your baby sleeps in the crib but trust me , it is better to be safe than sorry.

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funny, however and whichever way that is convenient for the mother ,what matters most is baby perfect care, safety and sound sleep.se finni. getting use to anything all depends on upbringing when he is getting matured.

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~I couldnt agree more!!

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Ebony silk the fact is that even if a woman rolled over her child she will never say because she would have been called a witch and roasted on the nearest stake. We just do not have the statistics. We still have one of the highest infant mortality rates in the world. We can include all those babies whose mothers accidentally rolled over them

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I think it's more of a personal thing rather than generalise which is better because I guarantee you we can argue forever if it is safe to keep our little angels in their own crib or share the same bed with us.

For me I have two kids and am about to have another one soon

I slept with the first one on the same bed for a long time which I did not regret,the second is a little bit demand for attention but I allowed him to sleep by himself at 7months although I always keep the door to his room open so that I can check on him from time to time and once in awhile I move his crib to my room because he is very young but I enjoy bonding with my kids.The story of kids choking when you lay them on their chest is just ridiculous because it is surprising to hear Nigerians agree with most of the stuff this doctors say; mind you most of us grew up with our aged parents in the village and those people gave us the best care which is far better than what we even give to our kids due to demand on our time from work and other activities but the bottom line is we all know what to do best if you think it's safe or better for you to keep you kid in a crib in a separate room so be it but if you think other wise go on ahead with it because it the individual that will reap the benefit and not those on this blog.

But I must comend the response so far it has been educative and enlightening to read diffrent view which we all have to share.

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Thank God!! In relation to outstrip's testimony.

I always thought mummy's and babys sleep together until the baby is old enough to sleep in his/her own cot. However, how would you know, if your baby was to have a stroke or seizure in the night??

When I have my baby, I want to sleep with him/her but I don't want to roll over and suffocate him/her because I'm sure after running after the baby all day you can enter into a deep sleep??

Luckily for me, I cant' sleep on a lumpy mattress or anything bumpy.

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In the crib, beside Mummy's bed

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I think that the dummy/pacifier is the best invention ever!! We would be goners without a dummy in our house. Our daughter doesn't use it a huge amount, but she loves to know that it's there and when she's crying or just grumbling her "dum dum" always restores peace within seconds. I do worry a bit about weaning her off it when she gets a bit older, but I guess she can always put it under the Christmas tree for Santa to take with him, lol.

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I really think it is better to let the child sleep on its crib. Though the mother's bossom will serve the purpose for short naps.

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Never had a problem with sleeping at night on the same bed with a baby, and they didnt complain about sleeping in the the cot too as they usually sleep in it during the day.

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Did your mother sleep with you strapped to her back. Mcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew. My mother did not carry me on her back so I don't know where your expert opinion came from. Just ran in here and started talking off point.

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I think pacifiers are better. You can take away a pacifier but you cannot take away their thumb

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It is purely un-African and unmotherly for mothers to carry their sweet babies in that bleeping thing called crib. Did they not realise that strapping your baby in your back is more secure, and bring about a strong bond between mother and child. Although in recent times, crib has taken over, that does not mean that putting babies in the back should be substituted. My advice is dont put your babies in cribs if you dont really have to.

I trust my mother. I even trust my wife, she wont try it, afterall I paid for everything(dowry)

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In the Crib, due to danger of the mother rolling over the kid.

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@ Okoronoja

I feel your rythm,

more please

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I think i need to ask my mummy where i slept when i was a baby, i saw her twice two years ago, probaby because i dint sleep with her on the same bed when i was young.

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This topic is quite educative.

Good job poster.

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I think that the best place for babies to be is in their cot from day 1. We tried to do that with our daughter and she hated it at the beginning. She would scream as soon as we put her down so for the first two weeks or so we would bring her into bed with us. But we were really scared that we would suffocate her, not to mention the fact that we just got no sleep. Eventually I decided that she was going to sleep in her cot even if she screamed all night! So I started controlled crying. Basically meaning that I would put her in her cot, she would cry, I would reassure her and then leave. Then she would be allowed to cry for about 3-5 minutes and then I would go back and pick her up, reassure her again and then put her down. My Mum was staying with us when this happened and she was crying herself because she thought I was being cruel to the baby! And sometimes I had to physically restrain my husband! However, 3 nights of baby screaming was worth it. She soon figured out that there was no point and since then she sleeps in her own cot and is able to put herself to sleep (without any crying). And then at 5 weeks old she started sleeping through the night and has done ever since (she's now 13mths), absolute bliss!

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Babies should be made to sleep in their crib and not beside they're mother.

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Amebo no.1. . . u neva change. Lol

Haba! U too like to tumble with dadi. . .lol

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I think it depends on the size of the bed. Get a 6ft x 6ft put the child in the middle of you and your husband that way the baby has prompt attetion if needed. Use the crip is for day rest in the living room.

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this interesting cos my kids have been sleeping with me till now.but there is need to seperate kids when they are of age before they start showing their whay mummy and daddy have been doing.GOD abeg!!!!

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What if i rolled on the baby by mistake?

Once I became a mother I became a very light sleeper. Still to this day I hear everything that is going on and wake with the smallest noise from one of the children.

So for me there really was no fear of rolling on them and all of them were sleeping thru the night by 3 months at the latest so they were in thier cribs after that.

It really was very convient for me to just nurse them while i slept and trust me even at a few weeks they knew how to beat thier fists on the bosoms when it was empty. I have say my eldest son was the greediest in that he would eat and sleep all night. He would wake nurse, sleep, wake nurse. His mouth was forever moving.

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babies ought to be in their cribs from day one.

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its not to good except u are a very calm sleeper and there space on your bed. if ur sleepin alone u can roll on the baby and the baby can suufocate it doesnt take much for that to happen. the duvet ur using can fall on the child in the night or your clothes too. I TWONT TAKE UP TO 2 MINUTES TO KILL D BABY. if ure sleeping alone there might be enough spacse to move the baby a bit further but if ur woith ure partner ulll be to close i think.

sistahwoman had a good point but wta if she rolled on the bayb by mistake?   i dnt want to think abt it!

people say a crib means the baby is too far frm th mom and if the crib is n the room its bad for a baby to watch or hear sex it can affect them pshchologically or later in life. even thogh thier just babies.

i say CRIB AND CONNECTING ROOMS + BABY MONITOR = happy family  END OF STORY

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A baby should sleep with the mother , it's just the natural thing!

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@ Ebonysilk he is okay. In fact as soon as the temperature finally came down he was like brand new. Febrile seizures happen when their temperature goes up very quickly and very high. I am just grateful that he slept in my bed that night

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Interesting topic. Nice!!!!

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I always asked my wife to send our kids to their cribs when we had them but she never agreed and i am grateful to her today that she didnt. I believe the best place for a child is by its mum - preferably between the father and mother. it helps them to be psychologically close to the parents and makes the family bonds stronger.

well that's what i have observed of my kids.

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I have 2 kids. Both of them slept in the bassinet in our room from day 1 for 6 weeks then they were transfered to their cribs in their own room. It is safer that way and gives them some independence. Hubby wouldn't let them sleep on our bed. kids usually get used to it.

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Im not married yet neither do I have a kid yet but Ive 'nursed' some nieces and nephews and little cousins and I know from that little experience that babies love sleeping next to the chest. There's something bout the heartbeat that they connect with. I also enjoyed carrying them and letting them sleep close to my chest too. However, at nights, I wouldn't know what methods their mothers use, whether they sleep on same bed or in a crib but like some others on this thread, Im worried about the risks too, especially rolling over on them.

I also noticed that the babies I used to 'nurse' back then (I was in my teens then), become so attached to me as they grow older. Infact there is one who when she's in my house for vacation, will stand up from my sister's room at night or early in d morning and come and sleep on my bed.

If this is a result of how I used to carry them to sleep when they were younger, then Il recommend mothers do same and even fathers too.

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My sister always held her kids so they could fall asleep before putting them in the crib, and the crib was always in her room. When I have my kids i'm going to do the same. I don't like the idea of leaving the baby alone in a seperate room,

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i prefer the crib beside mama's bed @ 6months before they are transfer to their room,its safer

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Simple obviously beside the mother there is no dilly dally on the issue

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Who cares, as long as babies sleep soundly!

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babies should be allowed to sleep in thier own crib in order to get used to it.

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I think it's best babies sleep in their own cot, from the onset.

Sleeping in bed with mom / parents, there's a risk of them being suffocated.

Also, it's good they get used to being in their own space from the beginning, they become more independent as the get older, and are less likely to cry if their mom / parents aren't in the same room as them.

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Mine slept on my chest,later beside me in bed. He is four years old and will not go sleep in his bed room,still sharing bed with me. My advise send them to their room the very first day.

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I support this opinion but, unless in rear cases maybe when the child is ill then you can make him sleep on the same bed with you so as to monitor him.

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My first born was in his own room at 7 months, number two was in his crib at 5 months and sleeping through the night. I don't think anyway is wrong though there have been cases of mother's rolling over their babies. I slept in a separate room with my first born for about three months. I kind of feel bad for my husband now when I think back but I had complications with that pregnancy so it gave me a lot of anxiety to be away from him. Also with my baby earlier this year he was running a fever and I gave him tylenol. Something told me to let him sleep in our bed that night. He kept jerking for about an hour just one little jerk then about 15 minutes later another. I got scared and called his doctor around 2 am in the morning and she told me to call 911 as it was the beginning of a febrile seizure. His temperature shot up to 104 and tylenol was just not working. Fortunately while I was waiting for the paramedics to get there I gave him ibruprofen and then they got there and hooked up the machne that checks for the amount of oxygen in his blood. I felt so sick. If he had slept in his bed that night I would not have noticed the little jerks that would have definitely led up full seizures. God was looking out for my baby that night. It was very scary. I know people that their children sleep in their beds till they are 4 or 5 and that usually kills their sex life.

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babies should be allowed to sleep in thier own crib in order to get used to it.

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IS THERE NOTHING TO HIDE?

Mom came to visit her son Okonkwo for dinner. He lives with

a female roommate Ada. During the course of the meal, his

mother couldn't help but notice how pretty Okonkwo's

roommate was. She had long been suspicious of a relationship

between the two, and this had only made her more curious.

Over the course of the evening, while watching the two

interact, she started to wonder if there was more between Okonkwo

and his roommate than met the eye. Reading his mom's thoughts,

Okonkwo volunteered, “I know what you

must be thinking, but I assure you, Ada and I are just roommates."

About a week later, Ada came to Okonkwo saying, "Ever

since your mother came to dinner, I've been unable to

find the small bag of Garri. You don't suppose she took

it, do you?”

“Well, I doubt it, but I'll email her, just to be

sure" said, Okonkwo.

So he sat down and wrote:

Dear Mother,

I'm not saying that you did take the bag of Garri from

my house, and I'm not saying that you did not take it

either.  But the fact remains that it has been missing ever

since you were here for dinner. Do you know what became of

the Garri?

Love,

Okonkwo.

Several days later, Okonkwo received an email from his

Mother, which read:

My dear Son,

I'm not saying that you do sleep with Ada, and I'm

not saying that you do not sleep with her. But the fact

remains that if she had been sleeping on her OWN bed, she

would have found the bag of Garri under her pillow by now.

Do you know where she has been sleeping?

Love,

Mum.

Moral of the Story, Don’t tell lie to an elderly

woman, especially if she is, African!!![/b][/color]

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