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Where Will You Allow Your Wife To Work After Marriage?

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Marriage is said to be a life contract and also an agreement between two ,a woman and a man.[/b]I want all readers of this posting to be faithfull to themselves when answering these questions:

1. [b]where can you allow your wife to work ? ( a bank, hospital  e.t.c.) we all know that this have to go inline with their qualification and course of study, but we still need to say something about this.

2. Will you as a man allow your wife to work or stay out of your base or station though your are married? e.g you are working in lagos and your wife is work somewhere else (in another state ). please i need a sincere answer to these question they are question that afects marrige. thanks

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The same idiotic topic as usual.

What does "allow" mean? Is she a goat? If you cant tolerate the girl's profession, leave her alone and allow someone who isnt an immature slowpoke marry her

So Simple.

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Men and women have different roles in marriage; taking care of the home is part of a woman's duty.

She should, therefore, not embark on a career that compromises her primary duty as a wife (ie its not her duty to earn the daily bread while it IS her duty to take care of her home). For instance, if her place of work compels her to work till around 8:00pm every weekday that would clearly inconvenience her husband and kids. However, if her work has no effect on her taking care of her home and spending time with her kids, then its none of the husbands business. So the husband should have a say in where his wife works insofar as it affects her responsibilities as a wife.

That aside, the nature of the job could also be an issue. If its a job that has unpleasant connotations or arouses suspicions (such as being a bartender), then obviously its a no-no.

But in most cases, the woman is able to make the right decisions herself so the husband doesn't have to intrude.

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If i have the means,then my wife wun't even work at all.Full time house wife.

And if she complains too much,then i'll get her a biznes to handle.

But, if i dont hav the means,then she has to look for a job that lets her close as early as possible.It cud b very anoyin to com home from work and my wife is either not bak or just preparin food.

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Ladies, i dont think there is anything bad in your husband telling you where to work and not to work. He is the head of the family, whether he pay your school fees not that is bull poo you knw.

:oIs not good to allow your husband to work far away from you, just imagine what both of you will be passing through, lol

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I think the dude has some deep issues LOL

Jokes aside, this shouldn't even be allowed to post. If my wife is a doctor, she will work in a hospital, Journalist: TV or radio, pharmacist: pharmacy.

As long as she feels comfortable working wherever she is working, I have no problems with that.

that's my 2 cents

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In reality every man and woman would definitely be concerned about where their spouse works.But using the word "allow" is stressing the point a bit too far.I can't even imagine my husband telling me where i should work.Its obvious a lot of people still hold the view that the man is some sort of boss who calls the shot and who must be obeyed.These days it doesn't exactly work that way.Rather than allowing or disallowing,the woman's interest needs to be considered and a compromise can be reached.

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To the poster

Well the question of where is a good one because it can make or break a marriage, and i think that goes both for the man and woman, distance i.e another town has to be workable for the couple and if one expresses concern for it then it should be taken into account, but then again it could be good for some, if the woman's salary is that huge a figure that the man is willing to accept the distance and is comfartable with it then it's good luck i say.

AS to whether a woman should be allowed by husband to work after marriage,i speak for my self, if he can comfortably pay for everything or is a millionnaire then by all means, if its a job i love and its a fulfilment issue then i will probably find it unfair to be asked not to work. Some will say how can a man ask me not to work? well each relationship and circumstance is unique to each couple and those who want to remain with the old values of man work woman stay home, then fair dos , but the question is can the one who goes out to work make life very comfortable for all in the family? if not then throw that tradition out the window cause money issues will break it up

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IAH thanks for the comment u got me right am not saying working in a specific company i mean working in another state so i think Old Glory should get me right .

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I think it is wrong to conclude that this question is lame/dumb. In case you have forgotten, this is Nairaland and so most threads will be dominated by trends and social norms in Nigeria. Inasmuch as women have gradually become freer in Nigeria, one cannot rule out the fact that social standards in at least 60% of the homes in Nigeria give the man (husband) a dominant say. Consequently, he can 'allow' or 'disallow' his wife from doing some things. I believe it is in this context that the question was asked. However, many homes are liberal enough to debate this issue and come to a compromise.

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i don't think @whoknoxluv meant the question to sound like that. Anyway, i think working in different states or countries is not the best but sometimes you just can't help it. But if you can help it, it's better to be together.

As to the question about the kind of job, that shouldn't be an issue, because everyone should (where possible) do what he/she loves to do.

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@Weak Topic

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I think the question is lame/dumb and the answer is "we are in the year 2006" Slavery is Over, and women have been Liberated.

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My wife is free to choose where she'll work -- it's not like I control her or something.

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I gotta admit, this thread is disturbing:

. where can you allow your wife to work ?

Are you for real?

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I would not appose my wife working anywhere, if your marriage is strong it should not really matter. The question I would be asking is why does my wife want / choose to work away from me?

My father worked most of my chilhood away from home and my parents mariage has suvived, could it have been better if he did not travel? Who knows.

My work takes me all over the world, so my wife is aware that I will probably have to travel to another country after this job. Is she upset, not really as she know that I will do everything possible to have he near me, the worst that can happen is that I only see her for 6 months of a year. It sucks but that's the game I play.

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as a woman, i think we should be allowed to work where ever we wish - in respect of what type of job, however i dont think husband and wife should be sperate - unless absolutly nessecary!

i am married and i work. At the moment we are in two different countries (never mind states!), only because we have to! he is waiting for his settlement visa.

i will continue to work - when needed!

i am however very supporive of being a at home mum - and bringing up my own children - so

when we start our family i will resign from work to be with the kids then when they start school i will start part time work if needed.

Emma

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