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Who Cheats More In Marriages?

In our world today, we all know that the level of unfaithfulness has reached its peak. Most people can’t stand the problems related to marriage. And as a result of that, they cheat on their partners. I decide to start this topic so we can know the exact problem that causes it.

From my opinion, I think the woman cheats more than the man.

Here are my reasons.

1.Promiscuity: In our world today, promiscuity among women has reached its highest state; women are now liberated; women have become breadwinners of families too. They support income coming to households; unlike the days of our forefathers when women were mostly at home as housewives basically taking care of the home.

In our world today, its not so. This could definitely be a reason; since her work place throws up the chance of the women meeting a member of the opposite sex and she could be attracted to; and one thing could lead to the other.     

2. Sexual Urge: I was reading a Newspaper one day when I came across an article which was about a man accusing his wife unfaithfulness. He asked the court to dissolve his marriage.

When the wife was asked to defend herself, she simply told the whole court that the size of her husbands privates doesn’t give her the maximum satisfaction she needs.

Women today are becoming more and more sexually liberated; but most men seem to be hooked on the outdated and traditional views about sex. They feel sex should be meant for the production of children and not for pleasure.

There are some men who don’t touch their wives; the only time the touch her is when they need children. This could make the woman look elsewhere for sex.

3. Economic Reasons / Emotional Problems:

a) Economic Reasons: In Nigeria today, economic situation is now a major reason why a lot of wives cheat on their husbands. With a lot of men loosing their jobs, lots of women are forced to get into the labour market to help out financially. Most of them earn very little from the strenuous jobs they engage themselves into that they have no choice than to start going after men for cash. 

b) Emotional Problems: Some wives cheat on their husbands due to emotional problems; they feel their husbands doesn’t love them any more because he beats them and comes back from work late in the night. So gradually as a form of revenge, they start cheating.

I’d like other suggestions; if you feel it’s the other way round, then give us your reasons.

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men cheat more, women cheat because they lack something or they were cheated on. men cheat because there is an opportunity to cheat but women cheat because there must be a reason to do that.

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Is d man de chet more rubish pple. Den de wul say girls re not vigins n de r d ones spoilin d girls

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I think women are more tempted to cheat in marriage for the following reason:=

If one thousand men love a lady/woman, nine hundred of those men will have the courage to approach the lady, thereby increasing the tendency of her unfaithfulness(esp. if the husband is a busy man or someone who doesn't show enough concern).

Secondly, some men will be 40yrs while their wife is 20yrs. The wife will sometimes see the husband as her uncle instead as husband.

But on a second thought, I think men do cheat for the following reason:-

If Okoro, Dele, Musa, babtunde,crazykid, etc, enjoy a marathon of sex outside marriage, he can still come back to apologize to lady if she happens to discover his evil act. And we all know that 99.9% of ladies will definitely forgive the husband. But if the lady is cut in that same act, 99.9% of men will spell out the word "GOODBYE" to the lady.

Secondly, most ladies, for the respect of their belove family(her parent family) won't like to engage in such an act to avoid damaging the reputation of her family.

Can a lady marry more than one husband( with the awareness of the husband)? If your answer is NO, then I think men cheat the most.

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women, better do your best to keep your men tight, cos they are cheaters by nature.

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The wife, cos they are good and can hardly get caught.

Men are just lousy cheaters, makes noise but not enuf action.

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I have said it before and I would continut to say it. men cheat more than women.

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It's both, but women keep it on the down low.

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To be honest I would say the women are more faithful in marriages and unfaithful in relationships; today in our society, most girls see relationships as an avenue for making money.

Date a rich guy, have fun, enjoy your life and get married; The men also are the opposite of the whole matter; a men respect relationships, but disrespect marriages; a man can go to the extent of committing murder just to secure a place in heart of the woman he loves and cherishes.

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men cheats more than woman it has alway been .

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Women are pretty good in hiding it

They also tend to do more emotional cheating, But cheating isnt a gender thing. Men and women do it .

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why is this thread and every almost every thread geered toward bashing women, abi una no know say una mama na woman. alot of men cheat but no one sees it as anything they blame it on him being a man, which is bullshit. i think women try alot to keep the marriage together but the man always seems to bring it down. and then blame women if they cheat, if you don't want your wife to cheat then be a F-ing man

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I think its the men; they can still impregnate at 60 years of age even if the babe be 20 years

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Think like this and i can assure you that you will lose your woman pretty fast.

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Well i think its not that clear as black and white.

Firstly yes women are having more sex then ever before and more open about it.They view it as having fun same as men have.

So its actually quite common nowadays to find women having more sexual experiencfe then their husbands before marriage .Remember its also easier for a woman to get laid then a man .

But I think when it comes down to marriage the ball game changes .firstly by nature a woman is more loyal.I have seen girls who have romped a few dozen different men but when they get serious or married they become pretty much loyal as can be.They probably viewed the other men as a fun and exploration stage and the husband as the love stage.

Also the society we live in also has a strong factor,more so in Nigeria.If a woman cheats on a man even if the man is willing to forgive ,family/friend/society will almost certainly make him leave her because its almost considered a stigma.

However if a man cheats on a woman you will find even her family try to save their relationship.

Women are aware about this and know that its often 1 strike and you are out so tend to be more cautious.

Mind you its not that women do not cheat.They certainly do but i would say as a general rule less then the man.

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silly reasoning. If that's what you try to do to keep a woman, it wont be long till you lose her to another guy along the street. Even if the guy in no better than you in bed, she'll want to enjoy the novelty of the new guy.

No wonder all you black people in America cant stay married. The only thing in your heads is sex. Life, especially married life, is much more than sex

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I think it's the women

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IF U TREAT UR GIRL RIGHT THEN YA MARRIAGE IS TIGHT,IF U FUK HER HOW SHE DESERVED TO BE FUK IF U TREAT HER NICE AND SWEET THEN SHE WILL NEVER CHEAT BUT IF U DON'T SPEND TIME WITH HER AND YA THINK SHE'S NOT GONNA CHEAT THEN YA ON CRACK.

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You're damn right. I'll just add that in the U.S, its the women who cheat more.

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It's the Women Fool!!!

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In Nigeria, it's got to be men.

In UK, women cheat more in marriages (I believe) than men.

Not sure about in America

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There's no definite answer to this question. Both sexes seem to be at it, though the reasons could be different,

Antara Mali's Mr. Ya Miss has the incorrigible skirt-chaser Sanjay (Aftab Shivdasani) while on his way to heaven being sent back to earth by Goddess Parvati in the body of a woman hoping that it'll give him an insight to what it is like to be a woman betrayed repeatedly by the man she loves. The movie focusses on men being cheaters and women being the sufferers. The audience, largely comprising of young girls and guys, had a clearly demarcated response - the girls seemed to enjoy the film totally being in agreement with the fact that guys are eternal womanisers. The guys seemed to find this film too gender-biased. True, because there can be no definite answer to the question: "Do men cheat more than women?"

Counselling psychologist Priyanka Shah's professional reply is, "I don't think a blanket statement that men cheat more than women can be made. Cheating on one's spouse is more related to individual situations rather than gender-related ones."

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men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men. men.

Did i forget to say men!!

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What has this thread got to do with virgins?

@ Crazykid

Is that all the reasons u got? I thought you could really break it down very well, but it is ok.

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BABEELOVE, u sure wanna disvirgin the broda's eyes oh

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Have you read what some of the women have been writing on this forum?

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@mellow

You should know that all those requests you stated are being approved by the woman.

If a boss asks his female staff out; it's left for her to agree or not. So if she eventually does, then it show's how easy and vulnerable she is.

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I think the men cheat more than the women . All the reasons enumerated above

by craze apply to the  men. who is the Boss that will want to sleep with the woman

before giving her a job? the married man.

A married woman does not date every man she sees on the way like the men do.

Every thing on Skirt.

A  woman does not look lustfully at every Handsome man that comes accross her way

like the men do.

I can go on and on and on but the bottom line is that men cheat more than the women

and remember that the men can cheat without the society frowning at them but the women?

Well, I quess you know better.[/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000]

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@ Bolarge

Your reasons are quite solid enough, I agree with them.

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Secondary school leavers yet to pass JAMB so sitting at home.

  Unemployed peeps doin nothing at home.

  NYSC folks who go to teach like twice in a whole week (averaging 'bout 6hrs/week) n' then have nothing else to do.

  And may I add jobless housewives (social constraints/fear of repercussions go a long way in slowing 'em down though)

  In summary, idle folks.

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@Marlet01

Children that’s my reason. I see no reason why one who becomes wealthy in the future should allow his wife to work when there are kids at home who need attention.

Children like we both know, learn very fast and if there is no one around who can discipline them, they might end up being something else.

How would you feel if your children turn out to be criminals and prostitutes in future, and you the parents have all the money in the would? Believe me that money won’t be worth spending because the kind of shame and disgrace they would bring on you – you might end up dying before your time comes.

@Bolarge

Would you mind explaining yourself?

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@ Bolarge

There is a saying "An Idle hand is the Devil's workshop" don't u think she being idle can even do worse at her husbands back?

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@ Crazykid

Now you are starting to make a point, so what are your reasons?

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@Marley01

I know women are vulnerable but not all of them are. If I get married today, I can’t tell my wife to stay at home simply because I think she might cheat on me if she gets a job.

That would be stupidity of the greatest size. There are more tangible reasons for me to make her stay at home than that.

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@ Crazykid

You're right, women these days are vulnerable and they can't withstand pressure. Now tell me; if u have a wife, would you let her work? Or would you cage her at home simply because you think she might cheat on you?

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@Marlet01

You’re looking at it from a wrong perspective. What am saying is that there are some jobs in Nigeria today that before any woman can get; she has to succumb to the desire of her boss (I.e. go to bed with him) most women like I said earlier can’t stand the pressure because they feel its might be their only opportunity to get their dream job.

So out of desperation, they give in. So whichever way you look at it, women are prone to all sorts of sexual assaults which may result in them cheating on their husbands.

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@ Crazykid

I agree with you, women cheat more in marriages than men, but could you pls explain the first reason you gave properly because from what I read you seem to be suggesting that women shouldn't be allowed to work nowadays because they might cheat on their husbands?

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