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Who Is a Mama's Boy? What's Wrong With Being One?

What does it take to be a Mama's Boy (is there something wrong with being one?)

Are you a Mama's Boy? If so, then your help is needed in this topic. Another discusison has brought up the issue of Mama's boys - particularly in a not so great light. Men who give equal time to their mom and girlfriend are typically labeled Mama' boys (derisively) by their - I would guess - ex girlfriends. Is there something really wrong with this? Are there different levels of Mama's boyness? Someone, please educate me.

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I am sorta dating a mama's boy for almost 2 years and he will be 39 this year, He is not allowed to come over and spend the weekend with me and my Valentine's day sucked because of that. The thing is I keep trying with this guy, and I'm a single parent so it is hard on me and my kids. Is there a way to get him to be just mine?

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A momma's boy is a man whom didn't grown up and needs his mother aproval about everything.

It is also a man who didn't grown up who will break up with his girlfriend because his mother doesn't like her, or hands his paycheck to his mother to take care of it.

Those mothers are bad mothers because they teach those boys to never grown up and look for her for protection and confort. Some of those men do get married because mommy can't give them the love that a wife can give - and another thing. But when they fight with their wife, they run to mother because she can give them ADVICES! Please! That's ridiculous!

Those mothers are usually sexually frustrated or have a really bad marriage so they become attached to their son and see them as the husband they wanted to have.

The only way to make those silly males to grown up is if they fall hard in love or if their mother pass away.

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@ Poster

Who's a mama's boy?

A guy tired to mom's apron!!

What's wrong with being one?

He's just going to continue answering his mum's beck and calls even after he has finally find his soulmate.

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I agree Arnold1. I wonder if they even realize they are a bit strange? And I think the only thing that may be worse than a mama's boy is the woman that puts up w/ his nonsense.

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One thing about Mama's boys that I don't like is they have a hard time knowing

where to draw the line between the relationship they have with their Moms and

the women in their lives.

I am not saying all Mama's boys are like this, but I believe the bulk of them are.

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I have a story about a mama's boy who happens to be my (creepy) nextdoor neighbor.  A few years ago his parents built a new house for themselves and also built a new house down the street for their son and his wife.  After 2 years he sold the house and split the profits w/ his parents and he and his wife moved in w/ the parents.  The guy is 33 years old and has tons of money in the bank but refuses to buy a house of his own.  They spend every weekend w/ the parents and if that isn't bad enough the mother buys him ALL his groceries and cooks all his meals for him.  He talks to his parents on the phone constantly.  When they go out for a little while he calls his daddy to let him know he's on his way home.  I always know they're on their way back b/c daddy opens the garage door and waits for them outside.  I don't know how the wife can tolerate that kind of nonsense but if that was me I'd have gotten out of that marriage a long time ago.

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A mama's boy is a doomed fellow who'll never make a headway for himself b'cos he thinks he needs his mother to think 4 him. period!

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WORD!!! Is there anything more of a turn off than a mama's boy? I could never go out with one. You're no longer a baby, grow up and become a man who is not still being spoonfed and dictated to on how he should live his life. Can ur mama give you what ur wife/girlfriend can?

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I cannot stand with guy who is mama's boy if he is over 30 yr old and has stable job, still live with his own mother for rest of his life and rely on his mother's decisions to be made for him all the time, he can't make his own decision himself. No way!!!

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Why won't we be mama's boy(s).

She was there while we were in the womb, while we went to school, while we were sick, while we were confused and tired of life, when we don't know what to do. When we were in grave danger. Kill your mama and see how it feels not to have a mother. I prefer my mum to any woman on the earth. She is my earthly"God".

U needn't tell all your secrets to your mum, but its better to confide in your mum than someone else.

I have this serious poser, how many women would stay when a man's night turns to day or vice-versa.

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AWW!!

NO PROBS THEN. MY LIL BRUV'S 8 AND HIS MOMMY'S BOY AS WELL

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My lil bro is the biggest mama's bwoy.

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mama's boy is every male child born by a woman!!!

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mama's boy is childish and stll in oedipus stage

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hmmmmmmmmmmmm.... i dunno wat to say. cos i dont wanna say summin wrong.

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got to give you props for that, it's nice to find guyz that ain't all about their mother. i'm not saying you should hate her or wtv, but it's good to know that you can handle your bizwax without her interference.

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I am the first son and not a mama's boy and loving it. I will be worse if I tell my mom everything i do or do whatever she says..this is becasue I am a big risk taker. I grew up being mama's boy but when I figured that my personality which can be diffrent for everyone is not my moms type..I grew up having problem with my mom..ofcourse even when my mom is wrong..my gentel dad will surport his wife...

My mom wants "plumpy but not over weight" girls for me becasue in the older times, plump huge girls are regarded to be in full maturity and they stand out in the cloud. She still have the mentality having lived in the village her whole life..

My type of girl is that slim sexy looking girl I can carry in my arms once in a while, make love in the air, bathroom, kitchen and even in the toilet.I can't carry a big fat lady.. I don't even know how to manourver a big fat lady to feel my masculinity....

Now am in the Us, I left home because my mom always wana know everything am doin.one time this girl came to our house in the villa to see me having known her from high school and she lives near my house. my mom called me when the girl left to know what i discussed with her. Why she even entered my room and what did i do to her? .this kind of thing makes me to even dislike my moms behavior even more..she puts her anus in my business and I hate it..[ I am 18yrs here]

[24yrs] Now, am in the US and I call my mom like once in a month.sometimes I don't call at all and she is not loving it.The last time I called her, I spoke to her and my bros and sisters.when I wanted to speak to my dad, she tapped into our conversation...what type of mom will do this? I did not like it for the fact that she wants to know every bit of thing about me and my secret..it is not just right..why would she tap with another phone into me and my dads conversation? ofcourse she is not doing this because she wants something bad for u or becasue she wants to secretly do it...She does it and tell u that she did it because she is the big mom.."mom who should know everything becasue she loves u"....it is just that she wants to be in the center of every family affair and it is not that she knows how to settle every situation at its best.Even when I talk to my gentleman(dad) without her, she can tell when my dad is not happy and she must force out the word from the poor guy(dad)..Last time i called my sister in victorial island, she told me that my mom and dad had a problem but they have settled..ofcourse it is mom's fault...she(mom) was over pampered being the last born and being a girl in her family. It might be surprise to u but listen..my mom is still being pampered by her brothers and sisters(65-79yrs old) a woman who is in her early 50s..My dad still pampers her and my moms brothers and sisters love it. This is why she will be pissed when no one is talking to her even for just a day. Why did she have problem with my dad? Becasue my dad got back from work and did not say a world to her and went to bed..wont the poor guy have some space my people? A guy that built giant boutique for u and makes sure you're ok everyday...just a night of not asking u for this will turn everything up and down...

I tell u am a little pissed saying this but that is the truth.I am a leader and the future of nigeria and I havent seen a leader who did not enter trouble with either parents...eventually things will get settled when money is comming in..

I love my mom more than anything else after christ and 2 other people.But I tell u if being mama's boy is being loving your mom...then mess love!!!!!!1!

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@ 60 kini, when is he goin to be independent? me thinks it's a lil too late for that now. Angelof8, i think you'll be the one to help him out when his momsi ain't around anymore cos that type of person seriously needs someone to hang on too. i'm still shocked sha(4give me Angelof8).

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He'll become independent. And you'll also help him.

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I am sure someday his mom will leave us alone. But when she does, will he be looking for me to make his decisions for him or do you think he will become more independant

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Yeah, so many people go through this. Just take things easy with your mother-in-law. Don't try to compete with her. She'll soon leave u guys alone anyways (not that i'm praying for her death to come).. But i am sure she's old.

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Awwww, sorry ... ur trying i must say. Are u nigerian?

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Yeah I can't believe all this myself but its real. What makes me upset is that the problem is not really his mom but how he Let's all this happen. To me it seems he is not taking responsibility and just allows her to make all his decisions so he doesn't have to be responsibility for anything. Now as I see it, this will pit her and I against each other. But then I would loose.

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No, not nigarian; but it is nice knowing I am not the only one with this problem; wish there were answers out there somewhere

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Well all women who have been out with Mama's Boys know how frustrating it can be. I am dating a wonderful man. I am 57 yrs old and he is 63. His mom is 98 and still calls all the shots. She has interferred in all his relationships so he never married. Now Christmas is coming and he said he has to spend Christmas Eve with Mom and spend the night there. He says he will see me Christmas afternoon.

Other than his demanding mom, he and I are like soulmates. I don't know if I should dump him. His mom is in better health than I am. My blood pressure keeps going up.

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Ummm,I cant imagine dating a mama's boy. Being the first child myself, I tend to be very independent so dating/marrying a mama's boy will be pure hell. I mean that's just something I cant ignore, it'll will definitely be a deciding factor.

No Mama's Boy for me o!

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I feel it all depends on the way one was brought up. You really don't have to blame him.

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i feel u. nightmare is an understatement. my ex was so bad he'd go home for lunch every day. was even scared of his mum sef. abeg life's too short for all those hassles.

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Hi evryone, I've dated a mama's boy (a guy over 28, who doesnt have a mind of his own) and girls its a nightmare...trust me! We were together for about a year & a bit til his mama hooked him up with some girl, they were engaged for a few mths but now he keeps calling, turning up @ ma door, saying he wants me back. Mama's boys show no maturity & u cant rely on someone like that

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Since you just want to have a good time, then wat d heck are you doin with him. It dosen't look like you're enjoyin urself with him, abeg save yourself all this stress and get someone else, Period!

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A man can't love a woman who has insulted his pride with words like "sisi". Get over him, he's not going to want to marry you. GO and find another boyfriend.

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@boocheese, If he's just a casual boyfriend, then I see absolutely nothing wrong in his acts. But if he's ur husband-to-be, then u've got issues to discuss.

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He runs off to his mum's birthday and tell you yours can come up next wk.(its not as if the days were clashing). doesnt sound like a love present relationship if you know what i mean

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I don't think she's jealous of wanting her man to spend time with her on her birthday, every girl wants that. Now when he acts like he dosen't care, that's a problem. @boocheese, since you know u're demanding, u might want to cut down on that attitude, cos that might be responsible for some of your problems, i would ask you to talk things[again] over with him[and seriously talk], so the both of you at least have an idea what you guyz want. He needs to act like a man and you need to be clear on what you want from him. remember, bossing him around won't help.

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@boocheese, u are sounding like you are jealous of his mother or something. I see absolutely nothing wrong in all you've listed that your boyfriend has done.

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Being one means to be totally dependent on your Mum for every decision you take in life. This is very bad and ruins home, most especially where a guy needs to be man in his home, but depends on 'thus saith my mama" always. It kills one's self ego and makes you cheap.

Let's be self dependent and be yourself my brothers

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To be a mama's boy simply means that u dont have a will of your own,

can't take the right initiative at the right time and possibly dependin

wholly on ya mom for evrythin in life.

That's my own candid opinion.

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You sound exactly like my elder Brother, he gets annoyed when things like that happen. I never got cautioned when i was suspended from school twice for fighting,they only asked what happened and that ended there. But my brother's case he only had a phone from school for insulting a girl.

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A mama's boy in my opinion is a boy that is tied to the strings of his mama's apron. A boy that refuses to grow up to be a man. still dependent on her for the air he breathes. his mummy says you wont marry till you are 50, you and your wife will leave with us at home, your wife must cook rice for breakfast etc. i have a friend who is married to a mummy's boy. the mum actually dictates how much he gives his wife for food per month. no big deal with your mum knowing the 411 but a boy has to grow up to be a man. personally i dislike mama's boys

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i don't want a bad kid for a brother.

if he wasn't my brother that would be a different case entirely.

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it's really annoying and words can't express how i feel about it! all kids should be treated equally and fairly!.

why should only the last kids get/do whatever they want while the older ones suffer.

if nddy was my little brother, he'd be dead. 

i can't wait for my mom to leave for work so i can teach him the lesson of his life. everyday he goes to my room and steals/misplaces my stuff if he doesn't turn the place upside down in the first place when i'm not around and i can't tell my mom because she's not going to do anything about it anyways and that's if she doesn't blame me for not keeping my things properly.

the little spoilt slowpoke got SUSPENDED from school for fighting and nothing happened at home. not even a yell!!! i'd be dead if something like that happened with me.

i always make sure i discipline him a lot so he doesn't turn into something bad when he grows up since my mom doesn't want to do that.

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Just like vexxy said, mama's boys are those guyz that can't do a damn thing without their mom's knowledge. It's good to talk to your mom and all, but there are some stuff a man has to keep to himself. We know she's your mom and that u love her and we'll never come close to takin her place in your heart, but hell! do u have to tell her every little thing ur girl does? Personally, i can't stand them.

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you're a mama's boy when your whole life centers around what your mother wants... even in your relationships

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yeah i understand you.

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I am a mama's boy, being the last child she likes to keeps an eye on me, on whatever i do, she calls me like every 6 hrs to ask how well i am doing or if i am in need. I do like the attention but sometymes it pisses me off, my elder brother thinks i am being pampared up till date. I do seek my mom's permission before dating, i dont think its wrong.

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Well, this is an interesting topic.

My definition of a momma's boy does not end at a man calling to speak to his mother. I would say that it is a man that would put his whole life away for her, including his wife.

Example:

A man asking/seeking approval of his girlfriend from his mother. If she says no, it doesn't matter how much he likes his girlfriend, he's dumping her.

If a man has a date with his wife but his mom calls and asks him to come over and change a light bulb and he blows off his wife to do it: he's a momma's boy

If he asks his mom before he does anything although he is in his late 20's, 30's, or 40's: he's a momma's boy

Does this make sense?

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