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Who Owns A Child? Father Or Mother?

There is an argument, between a couple in my compound.  The wife is fond of beating her children mercilessly, but the hubby will only intervene, when the beating is getting out of hand.

The wife said she gave birth to the children and carried them in her womb for nine months. bosom feed and nurtured them till age. So she is the owner of the children.

The hubby said he is the head of the family, the children belongs to him, the children are bearing his surname.

Please Lander who is the owner of the children, the woman or the man?

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well the case of ownership or preference is only valid till the child is 18years, then he owns himself.

both parents have joint but as-symmetric responsibilities to the the child

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If the boot got married, any child the give birth to, will bear the name of the father as a surname. If they seperated, the child still belong to the father of the child, niether Boy or girl.

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nobody owns any child, even d law tries 2 make us know dis, if there is an issue of who is 2 take custody of a child, d law usually considers who is more capable of taking care of the child in terms of safety and comfort. it does not try to find who owns d child. nobody owns any child that is why u have are punished if u kill a child, b'cos u don't own him

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God owns the child, they are both caretakers

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NOBODY OWNS THE CHILD!!!

this is why children end up being the losers in divorce or break up situations because both parents use them as a bargaining chip or to get at the other party not thinking about the children as individuals, according to my religion GOD owns the child and the parents are only temporarily responsible for the upkeep

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hey,

My submission is that both of them owns the child, period!

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it takes the egg n a sperm to produce a baby. therefore biologically both mother and father own the child. spiritually none own the child, they are just caretakers assigned by God who is the real owner of the child.

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a child belongs to both parents but since im the mother i own the child more than the father untill he or she turns 18 .period.

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Na mama get the children when they grow but whe they are kids,na papa get them.when they start making money,then mama will know that they are her children alone,she carried them for months,but when they were been trained,paying of bills,,na papa get them.this is by the way.

The man should just send his wife home and marry another wife or stay single for now on after all he has tested both sides of that thing, so we can now know who get the children.

That woman na she make me never marry till date

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it reli funny, because i knw a couple that does that as well,

neway, they both own d kids, there d nufin u can say bout that,

as a mum u can say i carried him/her for 9 month n brough 'em up,

as a dad u can say, they bear my surname, but to be honest a family is a family if they stick

together n be 1 n show sum love so that the kids can be better ppl in future, n that i wnt affect the kids in future,

nw to d beatin, i personally wnt beat my kids because thats is what they will think is right, d boy will grow up n beat his

wife because he thinks its right, or d girl becomes a wife n dsnt fear d hubby, or shows respect,

however my point they both own d kids no matte what,

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of course very one know is the father

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Na wa oh! Children are not properties like cars or TV. God gave both parents the priviledge of looking after the children in this life, so I'd say both mother and father have responsibility for children and one is no more important than the other.

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Thank God say e no dey serious. Say them no talk of DNA.

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The child belongs to me

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so I'm wrong because you say I'm wrong? All you had to say was that you disagree.

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Children are a gift from God, he owns them.

Parents are merely stewards that must raise the child.

In terms of responsibility, the parents have equal responsibility over it.

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Tell that couple to grow up

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d man is just a sperm donor! d woman carried d pikin 4 belle for 9months and risked her life to deliver d baby! d woman owns the child

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Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. Deut 5v16

Wherefore the LORD God of Israel saith, I said indeed that thy house, and the house of thy father, should walk before me for ever: but now the LORD saith, Be it far from me; for them that honour me I will honour, and they that despise me shall be lightly esteemed.

1 Samuel 2v 30

For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death.

Matthew 15 v 4

Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Matthew 19 v 19

For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death:

Mark 7 v 10

Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother.

Mark 10 v 19

Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Honour thy father and thy mother.

Luke 18 v 20

Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;

Ephesians  6 v 2

Who owns us? Only God.  We are his children not his slaves.  We have the will to be obedient or to stray. We are encouraged, instructed, guided and at times chastised.

We are warned of the consequences of our actions.  We are not beaten to be injured and we are not divided up as assets.

Courts in the western world tend to give custody of children to Mothers and then provide the woman with welfare to enable them to feed and cloth them.  In doing so they make it an easy thing to walk away from a relationship that could be righted with some persistence.  So in the end the children end up not owned or cared for but pushed from Mum to dad for weekends, holidays and overnight stays.  They play mum and dad off against each other and end up lost children.  Look on an international aircraft at vacation time small children are being shunted around like lost dogs.   Mum marries again and has more children dad does the same they make new families and these precious babies are problems. 

Its not who owns them but who cares for them.  They need mum and dad in equal and different ways. Dad throws you in the air and makes you grow strong. He teases you plays games he shows you how to work and care for your family.  Mum cleans you and teaches you how to behave.  She feeds you and tells you stories.

Ownership is for the slave traders who bought and sold humans for commercial gain and threw the old and sick to die in the oceans on the journeys.  They separated husband and wife and sold children to anyone with the money.   Can a parent desire such a relationship. 

The question should be.  Who is responsible to care and protect and discipline the child. And what level of physical discipline is necessary and acceptable in a Godly Society?

God sees both a Father and a Mother as to be honoured.

So both must be responsible to care and protect and educate a child.

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That's a joke.

Right?

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A married couple was about to divorce and they started arguing about who should have custody of their young son

Wife : He belongs to me,I delivered him

Husband : Look at it this way.If I insert a coin into a slot machine and it brings out a bottle of coke,who owns the coke,the machine or I?

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Both!, both 're responsible for bringing the child into this world.So,both must equally be responsible for the child upbringing.It takes two to tango!

You are correct in that statement, The key word there is "responsible",

Not Own!!! but responsible!

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"The word own in the bible is just a bad translation!"

This shows just one of the problems that people run into when reading the bible.

They seem to forget that the bible was not written in English, (and has a lot of

bad translations) not to mention that many of the stories are Proverbial and allegorical

and in most cases should not be read literally.They (the bible stories) were written by people

who didn't have the same ideas and values as the ones who did the translation.

If one owns a think then he/she is free to do with it as they will. This explains

why people think that they can beat the child for no good reason (other than

them having a bad day!) and all other kinds of mistreatment that they would not

want anyone to put on them.

P.S.

If God is a being unto him/herself and he/she owns us then how do you explain free will?

If he/she owns us then there would be no need for that.

There is only one way that can happen. And thats if you think that God is within you

then he/she owns you because you own yourself. if your going to keep reading the bible,

you better keep thinking or else your doomed!!!

Please visit http://GeneticMemory.Org

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Yes your parents own you until u become adult, Wise king Solomon in the bible asked the tboth women who own the dead child and the living child, the dead child mother claims she owned the living child. both parents can take autourity over they infant and teenage children until they become adult. But that does not mean they have all right to do with the child what ever they want. The LCM of these whole thing is that, GOD own us all.

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I think there is no point in who does this and who does that, children are gift from God and there is no where in the bible where it is written that father own a child more than the mother, ephicians chapter 6: vs 1 says children obey ur parents in the lord for this is right, honour they father and mother that they days may be long. there is no percentage in this sentence, so i see no reason why responsible parents should be protesting who owns a child after all, a man alone cannot bear a child like wise a woman, it is a thing of 2 ppl come 2gether. i am a mother with 2 kids i do respect hubby right each time he corrects them, up bringing of a child is not easy so both party need to play their roles.

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MY PEOPLE READ BETWEEN THE LINE AND ANS. THE QUESTION

1.who paid the health bill, school frees, house rent, food, cloth of the kid

2. who propose (between man & woman)

3. who those the kid bear the name

4. who paid for who (man or woman)

5.if the kid dies who village is the child taken to (between man & woman)

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Hmm, Good Questions. it's THE FATHER (you may say), I quite agree with u, but in some lands, they give the woman the 'ownership' of the children.

To think of it, this shouldn't be an issue if a family is in accord.

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Fisan and I have put a nail in this conversation. There is nothing more that can be said other than jokes. All should be able to see the truth in the statements! If you think there is a god in the sky then go with his reason. If not then you can go with my reason. Thinking the the government owns the child is saying that the government owns you! (or tell me how did you get free, to be as you are now?)

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whatever happened to the fact that we guys carry the babies in our system all through the days of our lives and give it to the ladies to keep for just 9months and all the credit goes to them. Sweet mother and the likes, whatever happens to sweet Father. lol!

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Both!, both are responsible for bringing the child into this world. So, both must equally be responsible for the child upbringing. It takes two to tango!

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I am new to this board. And I would like my first post to start by thanking the

webmaster for providing this forum. with that said, I also like to say that I was born

and raised in the USA so  please have some patience with me if my ideas are not

the same as your own. But I would have to say, neither the father nor the mother own

the child. They are merely protectors of the child till he or she reaches the age were

she or he can manage on their own. Anything else is to say that all people are not

born free.

Peace and long life,

After posting and checking I see that I am late with my thoughts,

so I will just say I agree with the post above, which I missed somehow!

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it is god that owns the child, both the mum and dad are just caretakers and he is going to ask both of them what they did with what he placed in their care.

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Both!, both 're responsible for bringing the child into this world.So,both must equally be responsible for the child upbringing.It takes two to tango!

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look 4 somthyn better to do with ur tym rather than asking who owns a child

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legally, i think the child belongs to the mother until she's six years old, then the father takes over

please help me ask this person where in God's name did he hear such nonsense. legally or not the child belongs to both parents.

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kemi i dnt blive ur story,u form am

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Both parents, of course!

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IMO, both d fada n moda haz got ah role 2 play in d life of d child!!!!

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this line that mothers use about carrying that child for 9 months and going through labour is getting monotonous to be honest

and quite frankly should be classed as manipulation and emotional blackmail

yes, i am a woman and i think the entire process of child birth from shag to push is a miracle

a wonderful thing even to bring a life into the earth that i cannot wait to have mine

now while both parents do their best to raise that child and give it a life they deem best

that child is an individual and not a posession, it (he/she) is not owned!!! by anyone , period.

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the child is a blessing from God and the 2 couple jointly own him. in case of separation or divorce, the father then takes custody of him. Also where the two parent hold two opposing opinions on the child, that of the father reigns supreme.

there was a case in my area. the father just converted into a religion where new baby is named on the 7th day. so, the father wantedd the child named on seventh day but the mother wanted 8th day. there was confusion. but the child was named on the 7th according to the father's wish.

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Biologically, the woman donates a egg while the man donate a sperm. The woman then carried the fertilised egg in her for 9 months , feeding, nurture, Maritain and protect. After birth the child depend on her bosom milk for survival and she sees him /her through the tender years. All this while the man is just a passive observer.

If the child were to be a company , the woman ,by virtue of her contribution would hold the majority share , over 70%. While the man would be a minority holder of between 1% to 29% , depending on his role and support.

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As far as i'm concern the children belong to the both of the parent , But father own both their mother and the kids , i rest my case

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@hilli

People are talking about bringing up kids, you are talking about how Nigerians are frustrated. What arrant nonsense. And you mean you'll woz your folks for any reason at all? Bros, please like Nairalanders always say, focus on the

topic.

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none of them,

since ther's an argument between both of them.

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thank you coolier. None of them OWN the children. These are kids not a pair of slippers!

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Is a child some kind of property?

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@chamotex

na akamu we dey talk, ? oh boy your mind dirty oh, If your wife dey claim your child sit down there they talk about akamu.

IGBIRA

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the the stress of carrying a baby for nine month, the delivery period and all those stuffs suffred by pregnant women, i surely give em to the mothers.

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