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Who,s Suppose To Take Care Of My Newbaby, My Mother Or My Wife Mother?

My wife gave birth days ago who,s suppose to take care of my newbaby, my mother or my wife mother?both are willing to come and if both comes what is your advice.

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That is a very nice question and the answer to the question depend on who the wife want, she might decide not to invite her mother but someone else, but traditional the mother is suppose to do the Omugwo for her daughter,

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Wife's mother because the average Nigerian woman relates much better with her own mom than her mother-in-law. She can speak her mind freely when talking with her mom without fear that anything she does or says "can be used against her."

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Wife's mother because the average Nigerian woman relates much better with her own mom than her mother-c cftin-law. She can speak her mind freely when talking with her mom without fear that anything she does or says "can be used against her."

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your mother-in-law is the right one. If you choose your mother there will be problem always between your wife and your mother, so is better to go for your mother-in-law.

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Isnt that kinda funny, one lil' child for 3 pple to be rotating on who will take care of the child.

The mother of the mother.

The mother of the father.

The Mother herself

Na wa oh and when the kids is grown, none of them will be willing to pay for anything, they will all send the pikin to him papa.

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they are both useful in caring for the baby. it could be rotated between two of them fof two months interval

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some of our wives may not even want the husband mother to come, because she may say the old woman is looking into there affairs at home, for that she might not want the husband mother to come, so it is an atrificial borden for her mother. she will be contended, that is women nature.

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it is a pride in yoruba land that the husband mother is the owner of the3 family.so she should be the first to come and care fort the baby provided she is alive then the inlaw can follow. but dependind the agreement of the youg couple. tyhey are both helpfuf.

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They can share the duty, 1 week one and the other week another one. Simple!

That way , they will have time to take care of their own stuffs

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your wife's mother should come becos there are some errands in the house that she can send her mother but she can't send your mother,besides mother in laws are funny at imes.

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How about the father?

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For me my mother came to stay with me first. It is always nice when we have our children for our mothers to be there. There are personal things that I would not feel comfortable sharing or showing to my MIL.

But your wife should decide who she would prefer.

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what has tradition has to do with who takes care of a baby, who gave birth to the baby? i am sure it is neither your mother, nor your mother-in-maw, so taking care of the baby is the duty of your wife, but either of the other mother could lend a helping hands, if they chose to, and you and your wife has a say on when they shd even help.

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The wifey's mum, she is the one her daughter can trust and feel free with,

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Hmmm, What's wrong with you two taking care of your child? Its better that way. You can learn the ropes together. The grannies can just come and visit.

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Huh? I don't understand this? Why can't the new parents look after their own baby?

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Bothy my mother and mother in-law are late,the thing is we don't know who will help us take care of our newborn baby when she delivers. I suggested we hire a nanny.

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The other alternative is to take of your baby yourselves,

There might be conflits in the way things should be done, bathing, feeding etc and this might just give the new mother unnecessary stress.

I have heard MIL tell DIL that I did this to your husband and nothing happened to him, why can't I do the same for my grandchild (eg umbilcal cord)

I didn't want the stress so for our two boys I didn't want anyone and I coped fine.

It might also be a good bonding time for the family.

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I quite agree with outstrip there. Seek your wife's opinion first. Whoever she wants come.

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Whoever your wife wants. It is not complicated at all. If she wants her mother now then your mom should wait until after your mother in law leaves.

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My mum stays around the corner from me anyway.  I have a good relationship with my mother in law to be and because

she lives in nigeria, she will be the one to come.  My mum can pop in once in a whil and my mama has to work anyway.

So it's my mum in law, and she's not coming to baby sit, just show me the ropes.

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I say both of them should come

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They should simply take turn. If you can explain to your mum for her to wait as the 'Elder' and for your mother in law to come first for say 1-2 months and your mum to come later and they can alternate it.

It is for you and your wife to reach a good loving decision and explain to your both mothers without bitterness.

If you sense any bitterness or they show one, you should tell them you will cancel the idea or forget it totally.

All the best and congratulations.

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