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Whose Church Should The Wedding Be Held?

Oftentimes i heard couples argue about the church they should wed in and this has caused so many problems leading to family disagreements and total annulment of the marriage plan.

please good people!

Whose church should the wedding be held in?

(Man's church or the Woman's church)

let the truth be told for once

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what if the bride no get church?

Or better still, what if the wife's family goes to a church that the groom cant go at all?

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the bride's church, simple

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Wedding is about union and not about where it is done or not done.

We make too much big deal of nothing.

So where will the ceremony take place, if the man and the woman no dey go church and yet would like a church wedding?

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GBAM!

OBVIOUSLY AMEBO IS NOT IGBO. MAYB ONE DELTA IGBO PERSON TOLD HIM ABOUT HOW THEY (DELTA PPLE) DO THEIRS. NO PROPER IGBO MAN, BORN BY IGBOMAN, WELL FED WITH IGBO bosom MILK WILL DO THAT. ANYWAY, WE NOW HAVE THE MY-PAPA-SAY-I-BE-IGBO TYPE OF IGBO PPLE. BY THAT I MEAN THOSE PPLE BORN IN LAGOS & YORUBA STATES.

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it pains me to see people people arguing on what is obtainable in igbo and writing rubbish. a lot of guys here have lived most of their adult live in lagos and have either forgotten or dont know about igbo tradition. in yoruba or west, the wedding takes place in the brides church but it is not so in igboland. once the bride price has paid(note price and not dowry) and other traditional rites performed, the girl in question becomes a wife and every other function takes place in the man`s place, wedding inclusive. the wedding takes place in the man`s church.(in igboland)

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lol

I think Nigerians should adopt this marriage partern where the brides family pays for virtually everything

This will remind the man to behave himself in the marriage since the girls family paid for his groom prize.

i know each time he remembers this it will make him treat the wife better.

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@Vanitty,

If they can pay for entertainment,food and venue, what else needs to be done? I'm an Igbo guy and if this is possible in our place then by the end of next year I'm on my way to the altar. Different tribes and people have their ways of doing things. Igbo men marry late because they take care of their wedding themselves with little or no financial help from the bride's parents. So for a man to marry in our place, he must be ready.

For instance, a man who wants to marry in Mbaise,Mbaano,Mbaitolu and other towns in Imo state will spend nothing less than half a million naira(#500,000) for the traditional wedding.

So if avoiding this type of rip-off would make me a deadbeat, i would gladly be one.

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@Vanitty,

Are you sure you're a Nigerian? because we're talking of Naija couples here. Pls tell me the parents of a bride that would sponsor a wedding(not traditional wedding) and i would gladly marry their daughter. In a few years time it'll be inevitable, so i'd like to marry now and get it over with.

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Are you the lady in the movie "28 Dresses" or how come your diary is full?

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This summer my diary was so busy, - everyone is marrying o, the ones that are not married are probably not yet ready to take on the responsibilities been married entails not necessary because of the wedding ceremony

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So how come men are not marrying then, if na the woman family go take care of the bill for the wedding?

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lol that is the tradition, the little little you contribute is just a gift but it is actually the bride's family that is meant to pay for the wedding

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You mean the wife's family will pay for the wedding?

Be serious jare . . . . .are u for real?

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Bride's family. They are the one giving their daughter away.

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They are the unwritten laws.

The bride's family is paying for the wedding and reception so obviously they might want to do it in their church

Besides ain't you asking her to marry you? so why should the wedding be done in your church?

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What section of the law book dictates this?

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mostly the wifes church,but not in all cases.

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Isnt the wedding btw the man and the woman?

So if the parents of the woman no care, why do we make a big deal out of it?

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The bride's church because you owe her parents this respect and you are coming to take her.

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The man see the snake and kill am

The woman see the snake and kill am.

Who cares who kill the snake?

All that matters is that the snake is dead and that none is injured.

So in this case, as long as both couple that are marrying could agree on one, that is all that matters

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no im from imo state.

The reason why I said this because I  was engaged and me and my fiance discussed this over and over and he is also from Imo state.

We would do the traditional wedding at my place, and do the church wedding at his church.

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@amebo,

Those guys are "my mama say i be Igbo"

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its not about being a nwafo, is it not part of marrying, tradition or not, is it not part of marriage, i know alot of people that do the wedding in the girls church after that she starts her husband church, the man is marrying her

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@amebo,

Going to the wife's house to pay the dowry is a tradition. Its the way its done anywhere in Igboland. I don't even have to tell you that if you're really a nwafo.

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a lot of anambarians believe its the guys church, if the wife no dey marry am why him dey come the girl house to pay dowry

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@Amebo no1,

Which part of Igboland? Pls i need to know. If you're talking of "my mama say i be igbo" guys, that one no follow. A real igboman will never go to his wife's church for their wedding.

Na im wife dey marry am? Hia! no talk that one again oo.

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plat are you from anambra

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which part of igbo land do you come from?anambra?

cos i know 99.9% of the igbo men do it in the womans church, which obviously looks like the right thing, cos he is planning to take her away

you are marrying the woman , why do you go to her parents house for the bride price, why isnt it done at your place

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A TABOO IN IGBOLAND. SO IF U R A YORUBA GIRL MARRYING AN IGBO MAN, GET READY FOR FAMILY FITE. IN FACT, THE MAN'S FAMILY IN EXTREME CASE WON'T COME 4 D WEDDING.

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the womans church, but diff strokes for dif folks

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