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Why Are Nigerian Parents So Overprotective?

Is it my parents or all Nigerian parents are like that.

Seriously, my parents are always on my back about everything. I can't even go anywhere without them calling and yelling and screaming for me to return home especially my mother.

My father really doesn't care. All he'll do is look at you and treaten to take my back to a boarding school in Nigeria. It's annoying.

My bestfriend is Nigerian also but her mother is the one being over-protective.

My cousin's and some of our Nigerian friends do the same thing.

Seriously is it just my family parents and my bestfriends/friends parents that are like that or Nigerian parents?

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Errrr... Could it be because of cases like:

1. The Aluu Four.

2. The case of cynthia and so on.

You see the thing about young people is that we think we are so intelligent but most of us do a lot of foolish and unwise things that leave us vulnerable to danger. Now to any sane parent, children are ultimate investments in these world; they are the part of you that is meant to stay alive when inevitable death comes along. Now, which wise investor would want his prized investment get devalued or rendered worthless... think about it.

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I believe it to form the legacy in them that was formed by their own poarents.

Also, nowadays, their is decadenc in the society and any guy can sweet talk u into doing something.

even a girl too caan sweet talk a guy into making him love her, especially when that guyis frm a well to do home.

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Hi all,

We will be studyiing this issue on our radio show called 'Lets Have A Word'on NAIJA 101.1 FM and also online www.naijafm.com from 5.30 - 6.30pm...We will be speaking about it from a biblical point of view. The topic is named 'Honour Your Father And Mother...The forgotten commandment?'Tune in and get your opinions aired lived to the world...we must tackle this issue.

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i know one girl in my church in New Jersey she isnt allowed to watch anything except for PBS Kids Not Even Tom And Jerry Or Hannah Montana And She is eight

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they should not protect you. they shd leave you anywhere there's and let you be attacked

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@iice, my mum's own was just too much back then. It used to be so so frustrating and annoying whenever she doesnt allow me to go out. You'd think that once i get out of the house, that someone (a man) was just going to grab and defile me. It used to be so embarrassing the way most people knows that i am never allow to go out, like a bird in a cage. I used to wish i was a boy then, as i got tired of listening to stories from my friends at school about how they enjoyed themselves at their outings

Thanks God i am a grown up woman now.

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I will describe my mum as being too strict way back then. She always make a rule about being sure i get back home by 7pm (that is if she has to give her consent about letting me go out in the first place) or else, i will have to go and look for a friend of hers to beg her if i stay later than the specified time. Once it is 7pm, she will be seated at the balcony of our house. by 8pm, she will start stretching her neck looking towards the end of the street, willing me to appear from around the street. If she didnt see me by 9pm, she wont be seated anymore. By 10pm, people around will know there is something wrong as she would raise an alarm. Let me dare not say this---cuz by 11pm, she will get her head tie and straight to the police station she goes! as she would start worrying and even be crying frantically.

By this time, i must not come home without a note from the parents of whoever i had been out with and also with about 2-3 of her friends else, hell will be let loose. Also, no more outing for the next few month.

Then i will start hatching another convincing excuse to give her before she lets me out again

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I won't say my parent were over-protective type

My dad is what people call the cool dad, he can't even hurt a fly,so how can he beat me

Oh Lard my mother hmmmmmmmm, she was the screaming type, all she does was yell and cuss you out still the sun rise,but i feared her sha,becos of her screaming, I hate to be yelled out.

But am glad she put the fear in me, if not i would have turned out terrible, judging by the life i was living during my youth year

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The freedom you had didnt help you and the community at all. Thats why you are so spoilt and rotten

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i tire for the matter o, i'm over 18(shame will not let me say my age here sef!) and when i'm in town and i want to stay at my friends place my mum always wants to talk to his friends mum(one of these days i'll tell her mummy dont worry her mom is in the kitchen i'll tell her to tell her mom to call u bak when she's done---she'll throw a fit, lol)

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Sauron,

Unlike your parents who gave up on you earlier when they discovered you were a lost case

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Those beating and flogging of those days made us wht we are today unlike wht we see around us as today's kids.

@ poster.

A pig asked the mother why her mouth was the way it is and the mother pig told her to chill down when she grows she will understand why.

I believe when you experience wht it takes to have a kid, you will then decide either to overprotect them or leave them live carelessly

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When I remember some of the flogging I got as I youth I still feel like crying.

if it were to be in the US, My dad would surely be in jail for child abuse.

Anytime my dad came in, you must always have a Physics, Chemistry or Mathematics book on your laps.

One day i ran home to watch soccer(Africa 95: Nigeria vs Mali) and he made me back the TV while the match was on.

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Would have had you despatched to Helen Ukpabio's nursery myself, TOH.

Naija parents are overbearing but they do ''over pamper'' us in return. Many Naija guys are still living with their parents right into their 30s.

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Im sure she wouldnt have karate chopped you if you were "well behaved" 4Play

so shush

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hahaha, my dad was a dictator.

When ever he was around everyone behaved and if mama had any negative reports for him about you, you did pray that the sun stood still so that he doesn't return from work that day.

Anyway, in regards to why they may be more protective in foreign lands, i think it has something to do with the possibility of lossing a child in a foreign land; which in igbo land it's somewhat of an abormination for a nwadiala to die in a foreign land.

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I grew up in Nigeria and Beleive me my parents are very strict. You know In other countries you cant flog children

But growing up in Naija, My dad flogged the Hell out of Me!!!!

I was so convinced they adopted me cos I can't imagine you beating your own child the way I was.

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There is nothing wrong with it just go to the inner city and you would find out and really appreciate your parents more.

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I live in America for the time being. We plan on movingback to Naija. And your right, when i'm in Naija my parents could careless what time i'm outside as long as i'm with a friend or so. If i'm by myself that's another chapter. It's like they believe Nigeria streets is safer than America(I grew up in Naija and i know that's not true).

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where do you live?

The case for me growing up wa sthat they were *nazis* when we lived here but when we were sent to Naija for secondary school, we could do whatever the hell we wanted

Apparently they believed roaming around in Naija was safer than in the states. Plus you are around fellow Nigerians so they're no "negative influences", yes parents can be that naive.

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they only want the best for you.

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Sorry about your parents. I don't blame your mum for reacting to your dad's abuse by being overprotective, though.

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