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Why Do Husbands Beat Their Wives?

why does a husband beat his wife.sometimes you wonder:if they were forced 2gether.if they had not slept together,if they never loved themselves.what causes that turning point when a loving husband starts beating his wife?are there signs to see in one's future husband?

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Chei! You reminded me of one of my exs, her tongue was razor; yet in her cool element, she was one of the very nice girls i've ever met.

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There are better ways of handling/dealing with a troublesome woman without beating her.

Real men don't beat their women - Fact. (*Rule #1 on becoming a Real Man*)

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what other punishment do you think they need too?

maybe timeout for them when they misbehave?

or taking away from their "toys"?

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you have nothing with me agreeing with her but somehow you still managed to find issue in me agreeing with her and querying me on why im thanking her.

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Hey, I have nothing against you agreeing with her"

I hope you comprehend this and stop blundering flaw

Wonder why English is too hard for you to comprehend.

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mama gee abeg carry your "issues" waka front

"all of this men and women saying that women deserve a little beating, when someone seriously beats you up. husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend, i hope you stay put and smile, after all you deserved it.

Beating is a cowardly act, there are million and one ways of settling disputes, raising your hand against anyone, man/woman makes you a coward.

I know some women have fire in their mouths, they will insult and push you to the edge, some will go as far as bringing in your parents in it, just so you hit them, but people should learn self control, if someone insults you, wife/gf and you think the only way of getting even or make them shut up and realise what they have done is by beating, it just brings you to their level."

if youre having a heartache b'cause i agreed with the sense she was making here, guess what? i still agree with her even more, so go ahead and have a double heartache. everyone else was on a different note on the issue until you stormed in with your mind boggling "thought"

Sissy is done with you.

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thank you for that mukina2.

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"they deserve a little bit of beating" remember?

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because they are the ones abused most.

i see its never going to change

beating is not conflict resolution.

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mama Gee is making some points tho.

Some men are just animal

while some women abroad are just nothing but a pain in the azz.

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Oh well, the topic tends to state the issue of violence over the wife.

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Even insulting someone is a form of abuse. There are words that can hurt really bad. . .skin deep.

In cases like that a thousand strokes can't compare to the damage those few words have caused.

Both our tongues and hands are dangerous instruments when they perpetuate violence. I don't see why we should be more severe on one than the other. Both should be discouraged equally because they can equally hurt.

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with this her mindset? i doubt it. she will probably think she deserved it because she provoked him first

yes, men and women should learn to control their angers. women annoy and provoke, men annoy and provoke

however, there is no justifications for raising on your hands on a person in marriage. there are other ways of resolving conflicts that doesnt involve abuse.

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Even mama-gee would break a chair on a man's head if he hit her even though she disrespected him.

All I am saying is that as we have said a man whould never beat a woman, women shouldn't take advantage of this to be idiots. If he must learn how to control his hands, we as women must learn how to control our tongues.

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yes, men abuse women (more) and women abuse men

there is no excuse for domestic violence be it man or woman

but i find it very disheartening that a young lady would have the mindset that most women deserve a little beating because of some silly justification. it makes me wonder the kind of thing she would tell her daughter when she finds out she was beaten by her husband for "disrespecting" him

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Women dey beat men. They give slaps and even kick them in their balls.

Fact is no woman should hide under the weak vessel label to be a nuisance.

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Mama gee you have finally lost it!

how can you say some women deserve a little bit of beating?

so women are now little kids that needs to be beaten when they misbehave?

so beating is the way to punish a woman(a little child in your opinion) when she misbehaves?

kai, mama gee, i weep for you and your future daughters

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You have no idea what you're replying about, Nigerian women tend to be disrespectful to their husbands when they go abroad cause of the law.

The law tends to protect them so they become abusive themselves to their husbands.

That's exactly what I'm trying to get across.

Stop yarning Bangladesh!!!

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Are you alright?*

So in your book, abusing your husband deserves a thrashing. Please see * above. I hope you have that type of husband yourself. Abi you've taken something? You are backward.

Personally, even if a woman attacks me physically, the worst I can do is throw her away from me. More than that is not necessary. Most violent women will then know their limit, and the majority of women are not even violent.

If a woman abuses me, I will simply tell her what she seriously won't want to hear.

I save my fighting for men who step to me.

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I know most women deserve a little bit of beating over here in the U.S. especially the Nigerian women.

The Nigerian women seem to seek defense in the fact that if their husbands beat them up, he would get locked up and charged with battery.

So, they do anything they want, some even go as far as abusing their husbands because they have the law by their side.

Really annoying!

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Some women are just incompatible in intimate relationships. Many times domestic violence is a generational problem. I have had one close relationship, and it was intense. She was very jealous and would tell me I wanted every women that walked by. We got into it one day, she ended up scratching my arms with her nails. She was begging for a fight and I threw her across the room. She kept egging me on, and I could see in her eyes she was passionate. We broke up and I said never again. She always had problems with men.

My lesson, stay away from crazy biotches. Myself, I moved on and learned to stay away from crazy women.

My friend had sort of the same problem with a hater(lady) She cut his tires up and scratched his car up with her keys. He wanted to beat her, but just broke it off.

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Duh!!!

A man would beat his wife only if he's a violent person and there are so many reasons .

It's either he's hot tempered or he's controlling ot he's just an egoistic maniac who loves being in charge and in control of everything or issue.

Not all men beat their wives though.

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wife batterers on this thread:

cold and jackbauer

husband batterers on the thread (hope they- ie the husbands- survive)

michelin

she also thinks she's funny. what a joke

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hmm, just seeing this thread.

michelin, your post has been reported and need i remind you you are a real b.astard and need to kill your mama for not raising you right?

ko ni da fun e lailai, omo ale.

cold, you will reap what you sow.

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Men who beat their wives are animals fit only for the jungle, they are cowards who cant stand up to fellow men,

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thats not entirely true. in many instances there werent [b]ANY [/b]initial sign during courtship or early years in the marriage. many develop the habit in the marriage. so abusive signs arent clear caught during courtship as many tend to believe/assume.

youre right though that many women who are "fortunate" enough to see the signs early ignore it under the pretense that "he will probably change after the wedding"

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Good talk my Dear. a lepard truly does not change.

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thats cos they are not REAL men at all. i know of 2women who receives regular beating from their partners. and its sad. to some its a sign or showing supremacy and showing who is boss, not knowing they are only exhibting their foolishness and immaturity.

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Most men who beat their wives are suffering from low self esteem or other form of mental illness. They need some treatment fast!

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Na wao. That is some loving relationship

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i wont smile at a woman who neglects the care of my children or disrespect my mother or even refuses my bleeping advances .i would beat the hell out of her

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Some women are just a pain in the Bottom. There are a few I'd give one or two punches myself.

If murder was legalized for a day, a woman would be on my list.

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This argument is lopsided,has anyone eva met witha violent woman,has a woman eva poured dangerous liquids on your prized suits,slashed your shoes,or smashed the windscreen of ur 2008 Infiniti SL4WD? Or even stood in the door way whilst u were running late for work not minding if u get sacked & insisting u xplain certain issues inspite of incessant pleas to exercise a lil patience & wait for ur returrn? Oh puliz,som women just bring out the beast in a man.

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is either he is drunk orhe is practicing his boxing skills.shikenah!

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Haha,it's ok you can say that,to each their own.You say this cuz you continually think inside the box,while i'm the direct opposite.I'm not your 'a man must never raise his hand against a woman under any circumstance' kind of man.& i hav very cogent rzns for my stance.

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@ the poster,I forgot to advice you to listen to the utterances too.

The above is a potential abuser.Choose wisely.

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my cousin beat his wife silly last Saturday and rushed her to hospital.she was discharged today.she coudnt go to work for a whole week.he was too ashamed to her colleagues what happen.it is minor 'accident' .men can be wicked!i wonder you beat an extremely beautiful woman

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People can't hide their true colors that long.

While courting if your man backs you in a corner yelling in your face,makes a fist about to punch ,intimidates you to the point that you have absolutely no voice, it's his way or no way.

He is a potential abuser

If he ever pushes you or punches or slaps you while dating,please run far far away.

he can apologize from here to eternity, don't believe a word,he'll do it again and again.

He's already shown you a sample of things to come.

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