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Why Do Husbands Get Bored Of Their Wives Soon After Wedding?

Most married men complained of being bored of their wives soon after wedding and they start nursing a feeling of getting an extra spice from outside, I mean from another woman.

What will make a man get bored of his wife not too long into the wedding?.

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a man who is not happy with himself can never be happy with anyone else, simple!

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Relationships and marriage scares me. Because human beings are never constant, the man u know today will not continue to be the same tomorrow. Everyone gets bored with a particular thing or somebody,wat will keep u two togeda is d decision u have made to stick to that person no matter what. Love is a decision not a feeling or attraction cos all that is subject to change

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And what about men? flat tummy before wedding, afo beer after 6 months! Do you think we don't want our men to look same way? You guys don't even bother to take care of yourselves anymore. Shave, mba! bar hair, mba!

All cos you have a wife. Women even have an excuse cos of childbirth. But note that women of these days look hot after even 3 kids. We are trying our best!

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My two cents:

Both husbands and wives get bored after some time. I am currently in this situation which is why I came here. In my case, I feel my husband has become complacent. We no longer go out for lunch like we used to ( although it started after I had my daughter as I now go home for lunch to check on her). I have been giving him hints about my sexual fantasies, how we are drifting apart etc. Infact, I'm the one who initiates our going to the movies most times now. It's either he has a meeting somewhere or he is busy with work. I know he isn't cheating cos I seem to know his every move so will be shocked if he is.

Anyway, sex now is a chore to me...boring! All he wants is to penetrate. pre-intimacy has moved to the background. Even the oral that he used to do well now he just keeps licking one portion. I am tempted to buy intimacy gadgets and to get a dude who will seriously appreciate me me and Bleep me well. But I will not cos I'm a woman of God and I believe I will also be cheating on God if I do that.

I have told him that we have to work on our intimacy, we are moving apart. at home, we are always on our ipads, less talk, less chats. We are just 3 and half yrs in marriage. I have a daughter and pregnant with another child. I fear that I may ignore him totally an dust focus on my kids which I know I can do.

he doesn't want to listen so that we can work it out. All he does is to point fingers at me as the cause of this whole issue. may i add that he is Lazy at home. Not domesticated and if not for my nanny/help, I would have died cos he can't even boil hot water!

Pathetic!

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Women tend to take good care of themselves and keep their appearances during the courting stage. As soon as they say the words I DO. They turn to glutton and fatten up like pigs especially African ladies, why don't you think we the men would get bored. Also, after marriage, you then truly get to see the true character you married, some women are great pretenders and are evil to the core.

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Cause they start tieing wrappers all over the house and that can really be annoying. ,

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My people, why is it always about women. when a man does wrong, he gets away with it but if it is the woman, it becomes a www.com stuff why? getting bored is not on the side of men alone, it also happens to the woman but all she does is to find a way of bringing back the sweet thing she fancies in her husband for them to continue but the man goes outside instead!

She is the one expected to keep the marriage why? are they not in it together? if it is not ok for the men, then dont propose to the woman in the first place because no matter your shape, face, staus after marriage, the woman stays but it is not the same with the man. this is not fair ooooo because in heaven, there is no male fire or female fire o, all sinners both male and female will go into the same fire, abi?

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While you guys argue endlessly over a topic that had defied an answer for enternity, you may want to read this:

5 stages of sex

1. Smurf sex: When you first marry you shag till your blue in the face.

2. Kitchen sex: When you've been together only a short while, you'll shag anywhere in the house.

3. Bedroom sex: Sex is routine and you'll only shag in bed on a occasional night.

4. Hallway sex: You pass in the hall and both say "Fu*k you".

5. Courtroom sex: Wife takes you to court and screws you in front of 20 strangers.

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After the sun comes the rain.

Man's eyes gets wide open after "i do" cos all the lovery lovery is now different

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Why should a man get bored soon after their wedding? people should stop playing with their life. Is he not old enough to know what he wants? I think that's gambling with life which is not good.

I think a man needs to settle down know what he wants before going for it as, you can't eat your cake and have it back.

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bomakris,

marketing inside marriage

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The reason why men get bored on their wives after wedding are many but to say few.

1) When a woman lost her beauty when she was a single which attracted her to the man, definitely the man is sure to get bored cos he could not find that particular quality that cling him to the wife. For instance, a girl is sexy, smart, neat, and etc. but because she is now married or given birth to one or two she decieded to live like an old woman, men if at all am a man boring is an understatement. that is why women need to maintain thierselves and always keep thier body kinkin and neat and to act like some old rag.

2) In marketing we have what we called consumer desonaice whereby a buyer or consumer always feel dissatisfy or bored with the stuff he has gotten either feeling too costly, the qualityand other stuffs even if that stuff he bought is 100% ok the feeling always comes that apply to marriage too is just a common feeling but the husband have to accept the good which is wife he has gotten the way it .

3) while some husbands face that because the wife they married cannot satisfy them like the girl they ones hard. that boreness will creep in.

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thanks all for your responses

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that means you confirm the assertion!!!!!!!!

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very funny. does that mean if we retrospectfully analyse what happen between many husbands and wives we would discover the opposites?

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this issue na serious one oooooooo.

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@ poster, because men get their pleasure from those easy conquests.

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[table]always complaining

very nagging

not sexual adventurous (Same ole back position)

very jealous, every woman is a potential threat

stop care about their appearances after they get the ring (get fat, bad hair day, ashy feet)[/table]

true talk but in my case, the nagging and very jealous is making me more consious of extra marital affairs

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because in their youth, they spent all their time going from one woman to the next or moving with multiple babes in some cases. So of course when they have to settle down with just one woman (wow. just one woman for the rest of one's life!!), they don't know how to deal with it.

This may not be true, like in my case i did not jump from woman to woman, but i feel bored and want to try sex with other women, i don't know why though

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Lifts up his face and says "forgive them lord for they know not what they say"

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Why shouldn't a man get bored of that old cow after you have seen her finish? She is already an expired waste of space after few months of marriage!

Obviously the shakara she was doing has waned and you now know how dirty she is, how irritating her periods are, how greedy she is, how jealous and abusive she is, she has released her nagging dictionary to the public, she has compounded a man's problems by dumping her personal and extended family's problem on him, she is obsessive, a control freak, a bad cook, getting fatter by the day, accumulating stretch marks everywhere, looking more like a decorated baboon, stingy, having saggy bosoms, probably barren infested and the neighbourhood gossip!

Abegi, after 2 months of marriage, everyman should start looking for option B and C and leave that old cow to watch t.v 24/7

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There is one thing everybody seem to be missing. abstinence from sex before marriage. sincerely, two who find themselves as hubby and wifey and who have never engaged in sex before marriage, would observe a different feeling for each other. They do not easily get bored of each other - not when both have strong sexual fantasies waiting to be explored; fantasies which would take a long time to remember,venture, learn and perfect over time.This learning process would not be there for those who have been "testing" - males and females.

Yes, this is hard to find in our day. But you cannot eat your cake and have it.

Yet another issue to getting bored or not of hubbys and wifeys is open communication about each others feelings - emotional and sexual.

Husbands, even if you feel your wife is telling her past when she Tells you her sexual needs, hold your assumptions that she will seek satisfaction for these needs outside. Just find ways to satisfy her as best as you can.

Wifes, una dey there? I will put it simple. Be spoilt in the bedroom, but when in public, act in such a way that your husband will be wondering if this is the wife that sleeps with me in bed.

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@ topic, i agree with tpiah, there must be some level of boredom but there are ways to get round it. Nothing helps like communication, prayer and marrying your friend This cannot be overstated. Marriage is hard work but hard sweet work. The fruits of that work is too sweet. Both the husband and wife have to work to spice things up and make the marriage interesting. Also when you marry someone you can't live without, boredom only makes you think of how to make things more interesting. Instead of boredom being a problem, it becomes a challenge to make a marriage better.

And i say this with experience. I dated my husband for three years, there is nothing we cannot talk and pray about and it has been a great help.

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I think even many women devotes most ofl their attentions to their children once then begin to arrive and totally neglect their husbands and after nursing of babies its difficult to continue with their husbands where they stopped.

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tpiah why will u say it's normal,although, ups and down will b in a marriage to know if th marriage will last but not up to that extent.this happen cos some people get married cos of the physical beauty n when tha physical beauty is gone,then the love dies,some happen cos dey dont freshing up their marriage wit kissing or rewed.the part of kissing,the husband dont kisss the wife due to mouth odor which both of u need to work out.try some new tip like this and things might work out.kiss urself every morning after brushing ur teeth,say somtin nice to eachoda,help eachoda's out and u'll see.after

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After wedding, most couples (especially the men) think it is the end of romantic outings and wooings, they tend to be too serious as husbands, wives or farthers and mothers to be. These kill the spices in togetherness shared before wedding. Both men and women can get bored of each other if not properly handled.

Marriage is sacred, sweet and honourable so should not be defiled by whatsover reason, so the men should help their wives to keep them interesting at all times

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Boredom naturally set in from routine. Same way u get bored of a routine job and look forward

to some task more interesting or just different, so also marriage will naturally become boring

because you wake, eat, sleep and see the person every single day (except one of you travel).

But does it mean we are condemned to this situation, no, we ought to find some interesting and

different things to do together. Try some new sex positions, relive the courting days, go on dates

(without the kidz), plan together, surprise each other every now and then. Men are kinda more

laid back when it comes to these kind of activities, women strive to maintain their posture, good

looks, hairdo. The men will just simply grow bigger around the middle and think to themselves 'what

on earth am I doing been married?

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i have a friend who toasted his wife best friend and chief bride's maid on thier wedding day. He even grab by the corner and squeez her bosom on the same wedding day. Men's lust cannot be controlled marriage or no marriage.

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because in their youth, they spent all their time going from one woman to the next or moving with multiple babes in some cases. So of course when they have to settle down with just one woman (wow. just one woman for the rest of one's life!!), they don't know how to deal with it.

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i think the fault comes from both coples,may be if they try to add more spicy to thier marriage it will help,HOPE SAY UNA UNDERSTAND ME .

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guys, u better grow up mentally cos marriage is not easy. but we have to try and enjoy every bit of it. Cos no man is worth deing for even ur husband

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i was told that in a marriage the love only last for about 5 yrs, after that its all about understanding and tolerance ,

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how on earth did you come to this generalisation?

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You're right.Husbands do get bored after a while (and so do women).I'm not married yet but i have been courting a girl for almost 3 years and i feel worn out sometimes BUT nonetheless, you have to look into yourself and know what you really want coz looking outside is most times, the wrong option.The couples have to do things to rejuvenate their relationship/rekindle the flame.If you've made a choice, its best to stick to it unless he/she gives you reasons to think otherwise e.g cheating.

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Marriage is not easy at all. It needs a lot of emotional, psychological and spiritual maturity to carry on. But no matter what, marriage is worthwhile.

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Usually after wedding you tend to discover each other like you are unwrapping your wedding gifts, then you discover things you did not know about the other person.

A lot of men like excitement so they cheat if they can't get it from their wives. It is usually the woman who works harder to make the marriage work.

Nevertheless, you are there to complement each other, if you are the bubbling type & he is the boring type then you have to come up with new ideas to keep the fire burning, you have to find out what makes him tick. Women work harder to make things work.

Communication is very important, but don't nag, talk to him about how you feel, cause he might be ignorant - some men don't know any better.

Always give him something to look forward to. You have to be his wife, his girlfriend, his best pal etc. Be approachable !!! be adventurous!!!

Always look good even when you are in doors. Don't look like an old woman while bosom feeding.

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every married man knows that its true,but it depends on how they live their lives, if the man is a buisnessman that travels for buisness wthout his wife, this helps the lonlyness makes him realise that his half is very importnat ,,,,,and in the other hand married couples must arrange for time outs for themselves, go out to enjoy weekends without talkin normal daily issues and also at the end of the year try go on holidyas outside the country or outside their residing states, to ave fun and renew their love

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I absolutely agree with you.

A guys who usually have his ways with difference girlfriends when he was still single will always be bored with the wife because he is used to variaties.

THESE IS STILL THE SINGLE REASON WHY RESEARCH HAS IT THAT 90% OF MARRIED MEN WILL STILL KEEP GIRLFRIENDS.

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Couples should learn to spice up their mariages once in a while. when u continue doing the same thing over and over again, you will get bored soon. so spice it up by taken her put or visiting. At least doing something diferent. have a weekend trip or lodge in a hotel and have fun. This things are important to mariages. Buying sexy clothes for her ( those cloths u like on others that atracts you). Variety, they say is the spice of life

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i dont think the eventual boredom is d problem, d problem is wat to do when boredom sets in. for me,constant communication, trying new things together each partner voicing his or her concern(no matter wat) n most importantly being reasonable is key,

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husbands get tired because of the

same siht different day rule. you have to shake things up to keep it interesting

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Men get bored because women stop trying to look attractive once they get married.

I am not sure if it's laziness or it's just the fact that they believe there's no need to dress to impress anymore.

Another pressing issue is the dramatic change in size of our women.

Size 10 on the day of the wedding, size 18(2 years later).

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you eat rice and stew 4 one week, e no go tire u?

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Note: Marriage is not about sex, love, feelings and all that, that one can get bored of but Marriage is about COMMITMENT

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Because 80% of people i know, marry for the wrong reasons!!

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