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Why Do Nigerian Married Women Discard Their Wedding Rings Too Early?

I'm just wondering. They crave for it, and when you put it on their finger they suddenly dispose of it. Like its too heavy or something. I see white women wearing their rings till they're 90. I think the ring sacred and its a symbol. Pls put it on already

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hmmmmm! after almost a year of this topic being in limbo now its being revived.

(miffed)

walks out and shuts the door. leaves thread.

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i think it is the flirting type that does that

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Well I'd say probably cos while they were single they fantasied that when they eventually get married the immoral habits they had formed having sex here and there would be broken by the magic of a wedding ring, and when they eventually find out there is no magic to the ring and they have to now tame themselves, they opt to just go with the flow and to reduce the burden of guilt they just stop wearing the ring altogether.

That's for those men that show sexually indiscipline tho; Some men don;t just see why they should wear it and would do it only ceremoniously.

To each his own; I'd say best to be prepared to wear it and love wearing it. Helps to prove strength of character and determination to be accountable.

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also probably because virtually every female of a certain age is married in naija. so they don't need ring to prove it. if people call you "iya lagbaja" you must be married lol

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I fink it's when the husbands stop being loyal and the wives do not want to burden themselves with a constant reminder

of their disloyal husbands,

that's my own opinion and contribution.[/size]

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modern interpritation of an ancient tradition. some brides use a penny in place of the sixpence durring the wedding cerimony others skip that tradition entirely. bridesmaids were originaly supposed to dress identical to the bride now in different colors and cuts of dress.

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it is a symbol of marriage, but can be removed when she wants to and put it back.

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that is fake.

It is a jewelery and u can take it off, but wear when going out.

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it is considered bad luck to EVER remove the ring regardless of reason unless due to medical reasons (goin in an MRI, hand/ring crushed by something falling on it)

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can take it off to take shower now, haba

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most of the married women i know here wear thier rings. some have even gone out to buy them when thier husbands never gave them one. i do know a few men who dont wear one even though thier wives do. i think thats kinda odd.

someone on the first page said white women wear them into thier 90's, that is because we are taught to never remove it. not at night, not when washing dishes, never. go to any hospital/coronors office/nursing home and ask the staff there how many times wedding rings have to be cut off with bolt cutters because they can no longer be removed. either the wearer has gained too much weight over the years or the knuckles have swelled because of arthritus.

there is no reason to remove it once it has been placed on your finger.

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whoa whoa whoa, this is one bitter hell of a biach

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Don't be an . I'm in university so why should I be married? I will get married when I choose to and to a man of my choosing when I like.

And there is nothing wrong with single mothers. A lot of single mothers are more hardworking and far better women than the miscreants that work their hardest to entrap a sufficiently rich man that has worked for his money.

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I don't believe Nigerian Married Women discard their rings too early. Me think they prefer to show it off so that people know they are privileged to have been married. Considering the number of single ladies out there who are praying to be married, being married is a worthy achievement as a lady. I have been married for twelve years and I cant remember removing my ring at anytime, it is pure gold anyway so I don't remove it for do any house chore.

A married woman may have course to discard her ring for any of the following reasons

if the ring is not original - gold, diamond, silver, pearl

if the marriage is an error - on both part

if there is a tendency for infidelity

Otherwise, marriage is honorable and the ring should be worn to celebrate the marital status

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i would jus say sugarbely is angry that she isnt married and try to look for a way around to blame it on something

even if marriage is so forbidden by you cos you think your future hubby will cheat,pls how do you go about having kids or that one too is imposed by the nigerian culture?

na your type dey be single mothers for town for no good reason.hissssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

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Could it be weight gain? If you gain loads of weight with childbearing/diet, it's entirely possible for your jewellery not to fit anymore

I've been married for over ten years and still wear my original one

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this will make them focus on other prey

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@sugabelly

"People like you are the ones that go around stressing the MRS in your name so that everyone will know you're married. "

Your opinion. And what is even wrong in letting everyone know I am married?Am I supposed to go around saying I am single when I am actually married? You make me laugh.

"And by the way, you who is sooooooo proud to be married, how long do you want to bet until your husband starts tapping teenage Bottom?

My guess is, it won't be too long.

Call me when your husband starts hissing at young girls passing by the road through the tinted windows of his SUV. "

Well, that time will never come cause he is not the type. Not all men do that and my husband happens to be one of those few that will not do it.I hope u get wat I mean.

Anyway, good luck to you.

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Yes ke, when u have something great, u wanna show it off now.

Femi means love me, so when u have pikin too, name the pikin Femi.

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I'm not married. And the fact that I believe that Nigerian women are brainwashed into thinking that marriage is an achievement they must strive for at all costs does not mean I hate marriage. People like you are the ones that go around stressing the MRS in your name so that everyone will know you're married. I have no desire to even attempt to change your thinking, the kind of brainwashing that goes on in our country runs too deep for me to even try.

And by the way, you who is sooooooo proud to be married, how long do you want to bet until your husband starts tapping teenage Bottom?

My guess is,  it won't be too long.

Call me when your husband starts hissing at young girls passing by the road through the tinted windows of his SUV

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@Fhemmmy

i will upload it b4 the week runs out and concerning the 'Femi' name, we'll think about it, lol

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Show us some pix now.

I am happy for you jare, and make sure your next kid is named Femi.

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@sugarbelly

Please, let everyone believe what they believe and do what they wish to do. The fact that you do not believe in marriage or may not be enjoying your marriage does not mean you should try to brainwash everybody into hating marriage or having same views on marriage as you. and yes, I am one of those women that are very proud of their wedding rings and i am proud to be married and i see my marriage as a great achievement plus i am enjoying my marriage sooooooooooo much. There is nothing anyone can say or do to change my thinking towards marriage.

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it might not be the utmost achievement, however, it is an achievement.

There are so many things to be proud of when it comes to marriage.

Knowing you have someone to share your good and bad with, knowing someone will always be worried about your movt and waiting for your return is a great thing and should be proud of it.

Knowing u have a companion is a great thing and someone to love you for you.

However, i am not saying it is the ultimate, but it is great milestone and i don think that Nigerian ladies are being brainwashed at all.

Go to western world too, and you will see a white woman worried about growing old without a man in her life.

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There are better things to be proud about. Nigerian women need to stop being brainwashed that marriage is the ultimate achievement. Yeah so you're married, so what? Will the clouds open and heavenly music begin to play?

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u must have known only mushin babes.

Cos all the ladies i know are proud to use the rings.

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yes womam discard there wedding ring because they feel it is irrelevant

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Another assumption.

Why would they throw it away cos they wanna run after babes, when babes even will date a married man knowingly?

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Nigerian married women do not discard their wedding rings at all.Men are the ones who throw it away,so that they will be running after other ladies.

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Wedding rings are not part of our culture so they are not compulsory. A woman shouldn't get flak for removing her wedding ring if she doesn't like it.

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May be their hubby is cheating on them and dey want to do d same thing back

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To me those are minute and lame excuses.

Why have a wedding band if you end up removing it?

Engagement ring maybe, just till the housework is done if its getting in the way.

Every woman to their own I suppose. If the hubby aint complaining, then no wahala.

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Yeah they do and they aint denying it. They just giving reasons from "its heavy", "its ugly"(a fact they didnt realise initially) to its uncomfortable.

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@op do they? I havnt noticed that.

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@lastpage: Wow. you just made the most idiotic statement I ever heard. God is a SPIRIT meaning that God is neither male nor female. God has NO GENDER.

Olodo rabata!

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Ab initio, let me apologize to women folk in general for my comments that would follow.

I appreciate womanhood, more so the "married category", its something you can be proud of, being an institution ordained by God.

Even more so, l doff my hat for those married women who are "fit for purpose", in the "marriage institution"!

Having said those, let me itemize a few things to "Sugarbelly".

1.) God created MAN, in HIS own image (Gen 1:27) => MEN are actually gods, so to speak!

2.) God saw that all HE had made was "BEAUTIFUL", including "MAN"! (Gen 1: 31) => MAN is beautiful, even by God's standard! , and on the 7th day, HE rested (Gen 2:2)

3.) And God said "l will make a HELPER suitable for him". (Gen 2:18) => WOMAN is a "helper" to man, and some "helpers", as seen in "Sugarbelly", are actually "not fit for purpose"!

4.) Then God made a WOMAN from his RIB, taken out of the MAN!, and brought her to him. (Gen 2:22)

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5.) And God said to the Man, "Because you listened to your wife (as against HIM) and ate, cursed is the ground because of you! (Gen 3:17)

6.) An God said to the woman, "I will greatly increase your pain in child-birth, Your husband will rule over you!(Gen 3:16)

Heavy words, but true to the letter!

Thats God's position on the issue, not mine.

So, to say "MEN are not God's gift to the world", is definitely a clear verdict on your "level of intelligence"!

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y do men luv 2 boast about d fact dat dey r men like if dey go 2 d bank and tell d manager dey r men he will withdraw all the money in dere 4 dem.

1.) God created MAN, in HIS own image (Gen 1:27) => MEN are actually gods, so to speak

So pathetic. so some fools can still try 2 liken dem selves. wen we all no wat happened 2 adam n eve and satan wen dey tried 2 b like God

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No wonder Nigerian women are "Rated as highly too-Materialistic", by other women folks!

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Who is doing the rating? You?

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How effing daft can you be? Accept what fault? So the man proposed so what? What if we had said no? Do you think it's compulsory to say yes to every man that proposes? And as for the ring, why should I be compelled to wear a silly ring that probably isn't even pretty or worth anything? Have you seen the rubbish rings women get in Nigeria? I don't want to be running around with a cheap looking piece of crap on my finger and if you're going to spend money on the wedding ring then you had better make sure it's STUNNING and that I can wear it with everything.

Rubbish, look at Nigerian men that NEED their wedding rings to REMIND them that they are married. You should know that you are MARRIED ring or no ring and behave accordingly. Upon all the bloody rings that Nigerian men have been wearing it hasn't stopped them from telling their drivers to beckon young girls to their tinted windows or from pushing their business cards between their bosoms.

Give me a damn break. If you need a wedding ring to remind you that you are married then you SHOULD NOT be married. And yes most wedding rings are bloody ugly. It's not even a Nigerian tradition so it's not compulsory. I'd rather the man use the wedding ring money and build me a damn 900 square foot walk-in closet.

Nonsense.

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@poster

You need to undertake an exhaustive research on this one, because u are not even 20% correct. Most nigerian women i know and come across everyday, hardly ever go anywhere without their wedding rings on, they love to flaunt it even when they arent enjoying their marriage. But most nigerian men are guilty of this. End of discussion!!!

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I will always put on my weeding ring.

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He made the marriage possible

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@safoly

Wow, this is great. Its good to know that you met your wife on nairaland.

I like to hear these kind of stories oh.

Congrats and may God bless your marriage.

Thanks too for the compliments.

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@mightlove.

Thanks very much. I appreciate your comments and hope you use this medium to educate guys and girls on nairaland. I met my wife on nairaland and we are happily married and living fine, The truth is that we all must of submissive to one another and trust one another. Ring wearing to me is a pride and it remember everytin we had in the course of our courtship till today that she is living with me happily. Take care

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THIS IS A VERY WRONG ASSUMPTION.

NIGERIAN WOMEN LIKE TO FLAUNT THEIR WEDDING RINGS. THEY ARE SO PROUD OF IT.

THE MEN ARE THE ONES GUILTY OF DISCARDING THEIR WEDDING BANDS FOR REASONS BEST KNOWN TO THEM.

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hi guys stop bt'n ard the bush en get straight to the point, which is that theydo that b'se they come to realise that marriage is not abed of roses as they thought it would so when ever they look at the ring they are like "iwish ihad been patient enuf to waight  for mr. right so to avoid divorce they instead get rid of the ring.

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