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Why Do Some Nigerian Men Enjoy Beating Their Wives?

i know violence is wrong and even the bible frowns against it but it seems it has become a norm in our society particularly in the south and even when it happens, the woman gets the blame. Now, i know some women can be stubborn but is this a reason to get violence? why do men do this and why does our society accept it?

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What I expect in a thread like dis, is dat Men who beat their wives will come here and state why they do it and how much they enjoy it.

I think some men on NL beat their wives.

Let's be real and hear frm d horses mouths.

Wife-beaters, we are waiting 2 hear frm U o....

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I got in a relationship with a Nigerian man he was really nice in a the start bury I've noticed now he's getting verbally aggressive, like the other week he said i will get a good beating when i come back from university. When i asked him why his answer was and i quote "i can see you have been spoiled as a child and i don't like it" he also get aggressive if i say i don't want to have sex apparently i belong to him, im 19 and his 23 he said because of the age gap its his job to beat me, and if i try to break up with him he sends me the picture of the belt to remind me.. This is in the UK where 'domestic' violence is against the law and taken seriously but the man doesn't care he will beat me more if i involve anyone..

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Common, then, tell other ladies to grow long legs.

I am sure there are some women in the society, i mean societal women that has been beaten before and yet nothing happened, so what happen, the long leg they have all of a sudden shrunk?

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What happened after the man left. Did they make sure that he provided for his wife if she left and also the children. I can bet you nothing happened after he left. He probably went back home and if she decided to stay it just continued from where he stopped. If she left he did not provide a thing to make sure that she and the kids are taken care of. Anyway lets agree to disagree. I think the issue is that it seems so heinous to you and you are having a hard time accepting it.

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Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee stop posting all these pictures.

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It is not same at all . . . . I have seen a lady and i am damn serious that was seriously beaten by her husband and she went to the police station and lo and behold the man was arrested and was behind the bars for some days, so tell me what was the difference, is it not same Nigeria and same culture?

Like you said, the parents of the woman might even screamed and halla, and these are some of the reasons why some fools with balls disguising to be a man would take advantage of something like that.

i know a woman in the western world that the husband will beat up with belt and yet her parents from freaking back home is telling her "Pele", i think that is lunacy and better for the women to stand up and reject if they think it is bad, cos i think it is annoying.

I beg, lemme get out of here before i start showing how angry i get when i see such.

how cld a man beat his wife and go to same woman and ask for food or at night now wanna have sex with her. . . . .kai, that is an animal brain

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LOL. Fhemmy that is the same as acceptable. IT IS THE EXACT SAME THING. Why would a woman bother going to court when she knows that at the end of the day she cannot have a guarantee that if she leaves she will ever see her children again, she will be ostracized by society, her own family might even accuse her of bringing shame to them. It is the same as acceptance my dear. It is condoned so it is accepted. It is a tough pill to swallow I know.

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Let me say this again . . . . . ANY MAN THAT LAY HIS HANDS ON A WOMAN IS A MONKEY AND DESERVED TO BE JAILED FOR LIFE.

Now that being said:

y'all saying Nigeria accept beating of one's wife as a norm and that is not true at all, how many court have you been to and the judge said, well we can deal with him for stealing, but for beating you, sorry that is his right?

It is not acceptable, just cos we aint doing anything about it does not make it acceptable, acceptable means something that cant be punishable under the law, and trust me, it can be, if you know the right process to follow.

Not only in the USA, even in canada, men beat and kill their wives, which is silly and ridiculous.

Yes, i will agree with you that the law in Nigeria is messed up and not forced the way it should be, but it is not same as acceptable.

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This is not a matter of a Nigerian man thing.

Italian men dominate their women

American man will rather kill the woman while pregnant and cute her into pieces and dump them into the rivers.

Please note that i am not and will never be in support of men beating their wives, however, i dont think we need to label Nigerian men as wife beaters, cos all nationality are guilty.

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Cause Nigerian men believe their wives are their slaves and they think it makes them more manly.

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Apart from from changing the Most to Few, i think they need to stop saying it is acceptable as well.

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@ poster.

Please replace the 'Most' on the thread title with 'Some'. The fact that it is done does not make ti right and family values are improving.

I dont know ANY of my friends that would think of raising their hands on their wives - they were not raised to do such.

And this has nothing to do with location by the way.

thanks.

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Men who beat their wives come in all nationalities. The only difference is that the practice is accepted in Naija society which is to be expected. After all, its a jungle out there. Try that rubbish here in the States and get reported to the cops. You will ruin your life forever after you get slapped with assault charges.

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seeing all these pix making me angry, i beg no show anymore . . . .cos that could have been my sister, could have been my mother

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You will be surprised there is a law against it

Dont we have law against beating someone in Nigeria, is the woman not human and being beaten? i think the problem is that most women refused to take advantage of that law, or at least they hide it well from them, i have seen a man that beat his wife and it was cops that woke him up from his sleep to be arrested.

there are some woman that are being beaten up even in the western world and they refuse to report it.

Women needs to stand for their right more and stop the abuse.

I am sure some men thinks it is a kool and some women think it is aiight too.

I have seen a jamaican lady in the western world that says, she feels loved when the man beat her up, cos it means the man loves her and jealous over her, and common, i think that is sickness and such lady needs her head checked up, infact, the man is in jail now for murder and the lady still went ahead and marry the man even behind the bars . . . . . .

However, cos some men think it is kool, dont make it acceptable and right

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Real men don't beat their wives; the foolish & insecure ones who have a complex do. I guess wife-bashing helps them feel like 'men' who are in 'control'. Probe well and more often than not, you will find the guy has frustrations he can't handle.

There are a thousand and one civil ways to deal with all manner of provocation from wives. Silence remains the most effective. Women hate being ignored.

It's rather unfortunate that most nigerian women who are victims of bashing, never walk away from such violence- you begin to hear such crap as -'I cant leave my children'(like they wont be left behind if she is killed); 'It was a mistake' (a mistake that occurs repeatedly); 'He loves me' ( and surely expresses it well).

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@ post

the reason lies in the same mentality why many men who cheat in nigeria and africa think its their birth right to cheat on their wives without

apologies

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if our society never accepted it, dont you think we will have laws against it, or at least some help for the victims? imagine a victim reporting to the "police is your friend" station, that her husband hit her, the next question is "na wetin you do to cause/invoke am"?

am sure it wouldnt suprise you to know that there are many people in nigeria who thinks there is nothing wrong with a man hitting his wife. many with the disguise excuse of "sometimes they just to be touched", "they misbehave" blah etc. as if, their wives were still kids.

stubbornness shouldnt mean a woman should be hit. afterall, are men angels? arent they stubborn too? how many times do they get hit?

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No. They do it because they feel that it is their right and that they will get away with it. Half those men will not hit another man even if he calls their mother a LovePeddler. They are all quick to hit their wives though. Animals

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I think most men do it out of continued provocation and nagging from a woman dat should understand and talk issues over with them. I've even heard some men assert that some women need some whipping sometimes as kids, just to drive out d naughtiness in them, I don't subscribe to that tho, but they may just be correct going by their personal experience. I walk away at the highest provocation and she comes begging with her pants down later, lol, that's more manly.

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Because there is no reparcution for such acts,if you know you can get away with something you will do it witout thinking twice.

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The societal acceptance means:

The woman has been beating and everyone thinks there is nothing wrong with what happened

It means the woman can even easily show it off, cos it is no big deal.

However, there is a difference btw accepting it and the fear of speaking up.

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Then he is wrong to say that society never accepted it. You and him are not saying the same thing. Go back and read what he wrote

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Unfortunately he is right. In Nigeria when a woman is beaten everyone goes " What did she do?" "she must have upset him" They all tell her to go and pray about it.

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Our society never accepted it, i think it is the people that just assume so.

I am sure there are some courts that will take care of such cases, there are some real cop that will jail such man.

i think it is pathetic and needs to stop

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I'd like to think use of "most" is a mistake?

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