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Why Do White People Divorce So Frequently And For Flimsy Reasons?

Why do white people divorce so frequently and for flimsy reasons?

Sometimes women divorce because they have fallen in love with someone else. Sometimes, they just dont love their partners again.

Some Africans in Diaspora are now beginning to copy the same thing. They will also suffer the depression and mental illnesses that the white people tend to have abundantly

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Because they get married easily also

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As we all know, white men are notorious for dumping their wives to marry a woman a decade younger than he is. There's no security to marrying them. White ppl all over the world have more divorce than ANY RACE.

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Hi, while I agree that reasons like marry too young, money, women having too many rights, etc are reasons for why whites divorce so much, and while religion traditions do keep many marriages together in other nations(albeit not anymore, as even religious ppl have their own problems as church marriages have a lot of divorce nowadays), the MAIN reasons for why whites divorce a lot is b/c of their infidelity and their lack of sacrifice for their spouses. In the beginning, all's well and warm and fuzzy, but when that novelty wears off, their minds stray, and they need a new partner for romance/sex. Also, it's ALWAYS about THEM, so selfishness and lack of attempt at making things work is also why they divorce. The former reason more so than the latter. I've also noticed this from non white women who marry white men. In the beginning, these white guys have a belief that we'll be together forever, "I love you forever,' etc, but wait another five or even 10 years down the road, and see what happens once that novelty wears off. Halle Berry, Garcelle Beauvois, and such actresses are women who were once married to white men but are now divorced; Salma Hayek's husband was found to have cheated on her; Prince Albert of Monaco dumped his African mistress, Nicole Coste, after he finished using her, even though they've a son together! Even in everyday life, I've met Hispanic and Americans black women who were dating/married to white men and they were dumped or had to dump their white guys b/c things didn't work out b/c these guys got tired of them, or b/c they mistreated their black/Hispanic/Asian girlfriends/wives. It boils down to white ppl's culture, where they go to bars, pick up girls and have one night stands with them. France is notorious for its party, AKA menage tois, and in Scandinavia, it's considered normal to have sex on the 1st date; we know about Eastern Europe and the mail order bride industry and prostitution being rampant there. Like I said before, all's beautiful and mushy in the beginning, but once the novelty wears off, they're gone, and need to have a new partner. it's especially worse for non white females to marry white males, b/c there's no security in marrying them. They can leave you in a heartbeat. Makes sense? I'd love to hear about your opinions.

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how many women in nigeria r happy in their so called marriages

women esp r bound by

cultural n traditional constrains

religious constrains

social constrains

economic constrains

family constrains

nigeria is a very patriacal society, where men rule and women just grovel in the mud

b4 people come her n make baseless statements, do some research

unfortunately many nigerians wld rather watch mtv base, bet, mtv cribs,ait n nigerian movies and so know next to nothing about the western culture n society

bout a month ago, the bbc showed a programmm about the changes in the british family life, i watched this programmm n i learnt a whole bunch of things that i cant be bothered to say on nl,cos its a complete waste of time. i really suggest that people read, watch documentaries, read journals to broaden their otherwise narrow perspective on issues, the bastard thing about this nl is u learn nothing, the voices of the many retards drown out the voices of those who actually have somin positive to contribute, pips sld deviate frm thinkin subjectively to thinkin objectively

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Divorce rates are higher among westerners becos the society accepts it. I mean people can divorce becos of "unreconciliable differences" this is an extreme popular reason that is often listed on divorce papers. Another reason as to why divorce rate is high is because women are no longer enticed by their role of being a 'help-meet' to their husbands. They are looking for independence while in a union and they have rebelled against the idea of them always being the one that is doin everything. One thing they are yet to realize is that in performing their role they hold a lot of power. A man cannot hold his own for long or even properly withoutthe help of a woman. And in terms of endurance there is especially a phase in marriages around the first ten year where the man and woman cannot seem to stand each other. This is the point where endurance and tolerance is required. Woman and man in a marriage have to learn to tolerate each others shortcomings. And ladies one big word of advice, DON'T ever try to change ur man, u are just calling on problems to come and pay you a long visit,

Adios!!!

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abuse, infidelity, pedophelia and criminal acts are flimsy reasons to divorce?  just because you guys brain wash women to allow you do do whatever you damn well please without her being able to complain doesnt mean everyone else would put up with it.  its far better to be alone then with someone who doesnt respect you

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Almondjoy,

As much as I hate the way many women are treated in Nigerian marriages (am not comparing with another as I do not consider myself knowledgable about how the Whites handle marriage except for what i see on TV), I believe that endurance is needed in marriage,  Not every offense  or maltreatment requires you to call the lawyers.

I have heard of many terrible marriages that turned around, It is just that in many of those cases, the huband looses his money/income and the wife suddenly becomes his all in all as there is no money to spend on other women.

But some turn around are genuine, the wife/husband (mostly the husband, cos the husband for don waka since if na the woman dey mess up) suddenly realises his folly and things begin to fall in line, if the woman had let at the first provocation, there will be no chance for this, that is why many Nigerian women try to hold on, hoping theirs too would be one of the few happy ending stories

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yup because this is 2009 no didinrin for marraige anymore

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Because they are striaight to the point

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Ceily (f) - strange - i am a woman, i have university degree, two children and to a well payed job. What I have seen in Germany was different the german to german marriage last, but many german/ nigerian couple spilt up.

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Ceily - do you have a statistic for "Bi nationale ehen" for Germany as well. What is the rate there?

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hoppers?

Yes, I do agree to bring up your children as christians or moslems might help to give them some form of values.

Therefore the partens must practise what the preach! If mummy or daddy does partner hoping, what should the child think?

They same thing goes for the church, in Europe you bring your children up in only one church - you do not hope - your child will be baptized there and if you do not move away your child will married there.

A woman and her husband go to the same church.

P.S. I am living in the UK. - London, Manchester, Liverpool or the other big cities is not the UK. Some people took a lot of shXX on. We call it broken Briten.

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German/German marriages are also subject to divorces. As I already wrote - and I am sure you know that statistics - every 3rd marriage is supposed to break, no matter if German/German or German/whatever.

Tschuess,

Ceily

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Clever! for someone how does perhaps do not know any white couple

Please talk to a woman form Italy, Spain or Poland about divorce in her own countries.

Or Germany, Austria and Switzerland.

The problem is the Naja Boy z mostly take loose woman to get there paper down and than talk rabish back home.

And naja woman in the Uk - oh gosh - divorce, divorce, ditvorce

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which white woman in her real head can take the violence of a typical african man?

african women are very patient. white women are brought up differently . . . you are an individual!

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You must also be either selectively blind or outrightly biased not to realise that women suffer everywhere in the world.

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Because they dont take marriages seriously. Lack of family values, feminism etc

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What u refer to as Flimsy, might be something big to others.

There are so much divorce now cos both man and woman has moved away from the main reason for marriage, and the true set up.

Now there are some ladies that wanna be the head of the household, and there are some men that now wanna be a "stay home" dad, while the wife is working, everything has been shifted and messed up.

From the time people started marrying for money and beauty, that was the day, real marriage has been swallowed up.

Now the woman wanna have the kids on her side to humiliate the man.

The Father is not even in the life of the kids.

So many pressure that both man and the wife has to go to work to make ends meet and that leave the kids to fend for one another at an age when they still supposed to be playing with barbie dolls.

Sometimes, i blame us, cos we seems to be piling too much on our plate than we can handle.

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Africans should look inwards and stop pointing the finger at other cultures.

The truth is I would not classify people living in polygamous arrangements in Africa as being married, so who is deceiving who.

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hahaha, the sad truth is that black people divorce more in the western world.

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they dont know what they want. They only think of the sex they get at the moment

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they don't have patient,and every human need patient to be able to stay with each other.

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Poster, i don't believe in divorce neither do I believe in dying a head of my time because of marriage

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cause they are in too much of a haste to get married,no proper courtship,theres no family network to put checks and balances on both of the couples,and the moral fabric is in tatters so its inevitable really

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They later find out they are not compatible? That means they are silly and incapable of rational thinking

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why are peeps so quick to pounce on other pple's replys.----chill pple, its only the net!

@topic, because everyone is getting married and then they rush into it and later find out that they ain't compatible with each other.

J-lo got married 3x

Pam anderson married 3x

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i dey always gbadu ur response bebelove

for una wey say because na white man sidon there,na when the tin wan kill u,u go divorce abi.me i like oyinbo style o.

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my brother don't make up what someone did not say.

The truth is that the divorce rate in Naija would be just as high if not for poverty.

All those women used as punching bags in front of the whole yard and called "ewu" by a man who pledged to love them would have left ages ago

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I see what you are saying. That is why I think that most of the marriages in Nigeria--70% polygamous should not count as marriages. They are no better than the situation with the "divorced whites" .

@poster--

Some marriages are not marriages in Nigeria so do not think that "divorced whites" are the confused ones here. Infact, they have got all their marbles intact. The Polygamists and come and go as you please marriages in Nigeria is the real joke!

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Wife beating is a popular sport in Nigeria. It's equivalent to beating your junior sister.

But I don't think it has anything to do with divorce. It's not very relevant to the discussion.

Enlightened women tend to divorce more frequently because they know they have a choice.

And I think it's ok. Divorce is not the worst thing in the world. It may be a lesser evil.

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@ almomdjoy, ure so right. Some white people are better off in the fact that they can get away from an abusive marriage without caring a hoot of whose ox is gored. Among all Nigerians I've met here in the US I dont think there are any that are really happy in their marriages cause practically almost all of them are in loveless marriages. Either the husband is beating up the wife or the wife is beating the hell outta the husband, or the wife/husband is cheating etc and they call that marriage. White people do all this stuff too but they can at least get divorce instead of being punching bags unlike among many Nigerians that consider divorce a sacrilage. So many of them dont even know what the sweet enjoyments of marriage are all about rather they would say that their parents have been married for 60yrs so that they too would do the same while at the same time they are busy cheating on each other so much that they dont spend time together with each other. Many Nigerian couples are together for the sake of that word marriage when they know there's nothing left or that could save that marriage except the grace of God. To me, better be happy and single than be married and always in tears. Couples should work on their marriages and at the same time remember that marriage is not to be endured like a burden. Happiness is priceless; it has no price tag for people to endure certain things in their lives that could be changed for the better. Personally, I also think that people should ask God to give them their life partners cause in my own belief thats the ultimate way to get pure joy and happiness in ur marriage.

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hypertension and cardiac problems ke?

has it not been statistical stated that these are much more common in the west? so how do you relate that to Africa?

oyinbo people dey beat women pass naija people sef. make you come here come see the number of domestic violence wey we dey see everyday.

oyinbo people just like to publicise any negative they can think up about africa. we are not worse than them when it comes to domestic violence

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True. Just as being stuck in an unhappy violent marriage has sent many to their graves in Africa. Management in a loveless, violent marriage. The fact that people stay together does not mean they are happy---hypetension and cardiac failure awaits these categories instead of suicide. Most are trapped all in the name of marriage. What a way to live.

Divorce is always a welcome to me if you have an abusive spouse. It is better to be single and alive and let depression kill you in your lonely old age than to die in the hands of a maniacal spouse at a young age. When it comes to a matter of life and death---divorce is the least of the problems. It is not matter a white or black matter. We all have our own perculiar racial problems with the same results. No one is better than the other.

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If you guys think is financial freedom that is is the curse of the divorce rate in Europe and America, then you must be bunch of naive people, the north east Asians like the Japanese enjoys more financial freedom than the westerners, but they don't divorce, the eastern Europeans are very poor people and their divorce rate is 90%. Is just the nature of Europeans, they are the most incompatible race, the reason for the divorce race is the me me attitude, most of the time they consider only themselves. so people don't try to copy this useless way of life, cause you might have to commit suicide in the end when you would be moving from one relationship to another till you are old and lonely, believe me this is the curse of depression and suicide prevalent in Europe and America.

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The same flimsy reasons why Black People stay together in "fake" marriages.

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Manage what? To stay in a violent marriage? From what you posted here it sounds like those women were leaving violent marriages.

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babeelove & her cohorts,

u guys had better watch your backs!

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coz they dont have strong family values

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Dear all,

be wary of babelove, she's crazy, she's paranoic,

she's a plaque.

Be warned!

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First I will lilke members on this forum to show sense of responsibility in what we say or advise.

The facts that people 'manage or endure' does not mean that they are silly. The facts women also now earns money is not an excuse not to endure in a relationship, same goes for the man. The facts that the wife submit or humbles herself is not an opportunity to abuse her.

I will say that everbody on this site should be very careful about what BABEELOVE say on this site. majority of them are inflamatory and outright irresponsible. It is a feminist nonesense. If you have had bad relationships in the past, that does not mean we have to incite people to have disregard to the covenant of God in relation to marriage or indeed anything for that matter in life.

I have read  quite a number of her posting and frankly I asked myself does her signature truly reflects her statements. Is she really serving a living God. If she is serving a living God she will always encourage good things no matter what the circumsatnces are. It is nothing personal.

Sorry darling, I love you with the love of God but also I have to reprimand you nicely even in public, if you think or see anywhere I am wrong please do reprimand me. we are our brothers keepers. Be very responsible with what you say, it may sound funny or simply humour but they are deadly for people who don't have minds of their own.

The future cannot be good if we keep saying and encouraging people to do things that we know are not right whether it is a man or a woman. The so call liberation and women feminism is just an excuse for Satan to deceive the women folks into believing they are being oppresed. I like equality but women don't even want that.

Take for example. Feminist women will say 'the mans money is for the family and the woman monies is for her'. where is then the equality in the feminist thing, it just satanic tool to re-write the Lords commandment.

I am sorry to have digress but such is my feeling for BABEELOVE that I have to write this and I prayed that if she is not yet married now after her 3 'divorces' she will get a man like the heart of the Lord that will love her and cherish her for whom she in return she will submit and share the rest of her life with him until death do them apart.

A good example of advise to always listen to and read is that of SWTNSOFLYY. The spirit of the Lord will never leave her.I prayed that she will grow in more wisdom and understanding. The goodness of the Lord will multiply in your life.

Coming to the poster properly. The whites folks rate of divorce is high because they always going into marriage for the wrong reasons and believing they will get  divorce once it is no longer working. when people divorce they simply do not have the ability to seek the face of God.

If you marry with the blessing of God in the first place for the right reasons to be frank, divorce will never be an option.

Unfortunately a lot of African women in the west are doing the divorce thingsnow( I AM  MOVING ON is their language) for so many reasons. For example in the UK, it is more economically beneficial for the women to be a single mother  so that she get more social help, and get

'phone card voucher'/top up etc from different men and pity party from others.

In the end it is not healthy for the woman or the man and more especially very unreasonably  hard on the children.

I can go on have so much to say but I may be giving epistle to a rotten generation.

May the good Lord be with us and guide all of us and give us more wisdom to live a fruitfull married life and tell satan to take his divorce to hell.

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Here in the USA the rate of divorce between Nigerian nurses and their husbands almost reach white people own.

Sadly many have also been killed by the men during or after the divorce.

Nigerians know how to endure and "manage"

oyibo women and African Americans cannot "manage"

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another yeye reason for break up is:

I wanna test the waters.

I know a man that has been married for years to his wife, and the man has been looking for 2ways to marry a second wife, but since u cant in canada, he has to tell the wife, that he needs a year off the marriage and that he wanna go and chill in UK, now even a fool knows what that means, dem be afrikans oh.

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that is realy sad then, if it is all cos they wanna copy and paste other pple's lifestyle

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Presido, leave celebrity out of this, even an average Joe blow does it, and so sad that even nigerians rate of divorce in the western world is climbing.

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Cos their love expires and once the expiring date is reached divorce becomes the case. many a time they marry cos you are a celebrity and most times no courtship(goat) just like teiry henry, chantelle and many others.

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You have some solid strong points here. Altho, i think its a good thing when someone comes into our lives and their character gives us the desire to change for the better. My pastor once spoke in church about how his wife changed. He was a man of God, and she was drinking 'wine coolers' and smoking cigarettes. She even cursed him out, and he still loved her. She said there was something about him that wanted her to change her ways. Today, they lead the congregation in some very powerful ways, and their testimony is very encouraging.

People can and do change for the better when the right one comes along, as long as it is not for the 'wrong' reasons and as u said, it creeps up on them later,

love & light

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They marry for flimsy reasons. They can marry a guy because of his dick size, they can marry a guy because he looks good, they can marry a babe because she is skinny. There are flimsy reasons for marriage which do not look at marriage in totality. Marriage is not just about the sexual or physical attractive because it is a proper relationship which requires real bonding of the parties and an ability to appreciate.

Some think they can change to what the man wants them to be but they cannot change because what they are will creep up later. If a woman is used to drinking, for instance, and she thinks she'll change when she's married, she's decieving herself. It's best to look well before marriage. Best to be sure that we can live with all the shortcomings of the other party.

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People that divorce for flimsy reasons, do not have any respect for the covenant of marriage or God. I believe in marriage for life, however when a man abuses his wife or child, God does not want the innocent person to suffer. All marriages are not of God. some people marry for the wrong reasons, money, LOOKS, etc without Gods approval or confirmation, and then wander why it didn't work out.

Patience is a virtue, when it comes to choosing the right mate to spend the rest of our lives with. People stay in marriages because their needs are being met financially, spiritually, emotionally, physically & sexually. When God is the foundation, divorce will never be an option ,

love & light.

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