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Why Do You Want To Have Kids?

Why do you want to have kids, even without the need of getting married?

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I strongly hold the following 2 reasons in high regard

1) In the old testament, one of the substances of the promised blessing to Abraham was to give him descendants in other words children who will carry on with His covenant relationship with him and continue to enjoy the effects of His promised blessing. Additionally, when God lead the children of Israel out of Egypt each time He did something for them He would tell Moses or their leaders to write it down for a memorial for generations coming after them. Human is temporal, God is eternal. The only way The eternal God continues his convenant relationship with human is through heritage. In the scriptures Jesus Christ once answered the Pharisees that God said "I'm God of Abraham, God of Isaac, God of Jacob.  I'm God of the living and not of the dead".

2) The only two greatest forces on earth are Love and faith, what greater joy could a person have than to love and be loved unconditionally the virtue which parents ought to have for their children and vise vasa.

I would prefer to have kids by a woman only when I'm married to her and/or if inevitable when I'm sure that I will definitely be with the woman for the rest of my life, because I can't farthom how and why a man would have kid(s) and won't be there and take care of them and the woman who bare them it is wickedness in the highest order. I also do not want my kids to gow up in different home settings or with different moms (God forbid).

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@Ess, thanx for going back to the topic.

and LOL, your reasons are kinda funny. hope your wife does not see this.

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AJ

At least you dey understand. That Toyo get serious problems. If she didn't like the word clone couldn't she say it instead of acting like a psychotic? It would have opened the room for a constructive debate instead we turned such an interesting topic to a battle field. I have no problem saying what I agree and don't agree with and people who can't do that should learn, instead of giving unnecessary headache.

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wat up toyin i'll like to know you

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@Almondjoy

I don't know his person u speak of from Adam, so I do not see the need to pick on her, if she learns to desist from giving smart remarks, maybe, just maybe, this will be a good year for her,

She made a smart comment to another poster on this same topic, stating that simply because the person said he/she wanted a "mini me", that that was selfish, please give me a break, I for one think its cute,

And she even went on to conclude that it was bad parenting, what nerves, since when has it become the norm to put words into people's mouth,

And for her to use the word clone in replying my comment was very inappropriate, it didn't in any way have thing to do with my response,

If she behaves her self in a civil manner, then essentially, "females will stop jumping down her throat"

[size=16[color=#990000][/color]pt]Except the wall is cracked, the lizard will be unable to penetrate

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hello Joy

hey kind of like your post,and agreements will want to be your friend i stay at lagos but school in benin. Im shola

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@Mushin Vulture 2008,

You seem to be a die hard termite,

Well what else is to be expected from a LovePeddler that has had to scavenge for survival all her life,

I see u are amused by how precise I seem to have been with your mental predicaments,

u wish in your wildest dreams u could be a tenth of the woman I am, tramp,

Talking about "Are u sure you're studying abroad", u this wretched under achiever, with no purpose in life, gullible coward that is ignorant of success, and will die impoverished, like I keep saying, my knowledge is my strenght,

All the evidence of hard life is oozing from this LovePeddler, Looking like Omorosa on steroids,

U ugly piece of human garbage,

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@Mushin whore2008,

I've gotten my beaty rest, a nice relaxing bubble bath, and I'm setrtling down with my nice cup of vanilla Latte, life is good,

See, I sent my professor an E-mail yesterday concering my reerch paper on the adverse effects of the deadly drug Methamphetamine, I informed him that I had a very good case study and he asked what the symptoms were and I stated thus,

1. Hallucination, which I've told you repeatedly you are suffering from,

2. Paranoira, it is very evident, for example yesterday alone you cursed out more than ten differnt people on this forum, silly garroyle, thinking that the whiloe daamn world is againt u and out to get u, "Be afraid, be very Afraid, I'm the worst nightmare u'll ever have in you miserable life, u wretch,

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Don't let me start with you with my Italian-you wouldn't like it at all when you find out the meanings.

As I have said I don't give a damn about your education because honestly talking, you have failed miserably. Your way of reasoning is so damn poor and you can't even recognize a debate when you see one. What have we been doing so far? I have my thesis and that is "You are an immature spoilt brat" while you are trying to force the old thesis "You are an edo prostitute in Italy" on me.

Everyone here knows that's is not true but many will agree with me you lack sense.

Thus the name "little girl" - You talk like a 13 yeard old girl.

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Now I see why you talk like that. You are very immature. Senseless I may say.

Your way of debating is horrible.

I won't get low as calling you a prostitute because I know you are not one and that I have never been one.

And who cares if u get masters for science? Will that improve my life? I don't think so. Get on with your life and stop nagging other people because they don't bow to lick your feet. Why do i have to brag about my accademical accomplishments?? Only losers do that.

Little girl, I am off now. See ya!

We shall continue tomorrow. if you have something to say, say it; I'll reply as soon as I can.

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@Sweet Smurf

I'll be right there,

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@mushin slave@2008

First off, the lingua franca on the forum is English, so u best comply, and stop yarning dust, or did you not know that in Rome u must behave like a Roman,

My parents can enjoy the rest of their days peacefully knowing that they have done their duties perfectly,

I've come to see that guilty conscience had lifted u up, spun u around and power slammed u on the ground, u have now revealed u true profession it all makes sense now, slutty LovePeddler,

Work hard enhh, yara, yara, oloshi,

No wonder u use the "B" word so much, u know so much about the "profession", u were definitely brought up inthat kind of environment and I can see that that is where u will perish.

Computers are not a luxury here it has since become a necessity, hence some professions are becoming extinct, kids as little as a year old operate the computer, people get rid of them here so fast and purchase new onesit will make you block head spin, because they are so damn cheap, (I can't count how many computer I've donated to Charity in the last two years alone),

This ode is beating her chest that she has a computer in her room.

If, u want to brag at all talk about academical accomplishment, and then u'll definitely get my attention,

See how daft u are presuming I work at a 9-5 job, or that I'm sitting by the computer, hell no, I did that when I was like 14, Right now I'm half way through my Masters in Science and I'm not even 20 yet,

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I can't answer this question because i don't know. I know how the life of a child starts but i can't say where it was before it started. I guess nowhere.

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Toyosi, its okay I'm waiting for u at the games section.

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Spoilt Brat, Spoilt Brat, u are beginning to sound like a broken record,

Come up with some thing else, muhsin salve,

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Oh yeah, and btw, why the hell are you generalizing and talking about naija girls this is btw u & I, no amor can save u fron this one, later u'll start crying that they are insulting your tribe.

Aren't u a naija gurl, a razzz one for that matter, very razzz indeed.

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@Toyosi

What happened now?

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Editing your post, shows how cowardly you are.

I can see that you have low self esteem and u suffer from inferiority complex, it is very evident.

I don't care if u were born here on this forum, that doesn't give you the guts (emphasis on guts) to say however long you think I'm going to last here, that's the most outrageoust piece of garbage ever heard.

Who the hell is ranting, you are the one acting like a dog on heat, and barking like a rabid dog, I have come to the conclusion that u need to See a shrink and fast before you become suicidal, otherwise how is one sentimental for a second and the next second very vicious, abusive and devilish.

There you go again using the nasty obscenities, the last thing u would do is to use that kind of a word on me, cos like I said earlier I'm ready to unleash the gates of hell on u this is just the begin,

"Since as from 2 I am home everyday", it's everyday I'm home after 2, so what go to some after school programme, or better yet, volunteer, give back to the community, use your time wisely, the mind is a terrible thing to waste,

Or did u not know that it is better to give than to receive.

Oops, Too late this one is already run down, with the effects of poverty, and an abusive childhood.

Oni se iru e mo lai lai,

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I can edit my post anytime I want and there is nothing you can do about it.

If you have any probs with the way i mean "head" then challenge me in the right thread.

Your rantings are giving me a headache.

Yes I said it and I mean it. Your days here shall be hard with those ways of yours.

I have been here for two years and I am not moving for a newbie who just discovered the land.

What is your problem by the way? I was simply trying to tell you why I replied you and you came up that with first lady attitude and who cares anyway if you are the boss of yourself? Did I ask you what your job was? You just looked stressed that's why I suggested a break.

You are right to say I am jobless because I am not working. Since as from 2 I am home everyday, i need something to cheer me up and my homework is simply too boring.

If there should be someone disgusted, that would be me. Maybe you read that Dam's insinuation before you replied my post but still that doesn't give you the right to act so pompous. I'd dare say u lack common sense if you took what that slow being have written about me.

hey, say hi to you? me? to someone like you? Ahahahhahaha!

Gosh, naija girls are really something else.

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Why the hell are you editing your post, did you say I wouldn't last more than a week, not as long as my Mac Book and Black Berry are still functioning, even if my only reason for logging on would be to sink common sense into your stale cranium.

This little tramp doesn't know who she is fooling with, Are you even daring to threaten me!!!!!!!

Look at this Vulture talking, ( I hate vultures they are one of the worst scavengers on the surface of the earth), E ma Gbami ke!!!!, I don't even know where to start, Let's even assume, naira land was a very difficult course I was enrolled in and You were the Professor, you would not be in  the postion to tell, me wether or not I would last for a week. Not on God's Green earth.

Not to talk of Dairyland, where ever single person, regardless, of race, creed, background, gender, or sexual preference is welcome, who the hell are you to give me a time limit on how long my existence should be.

PS. I can't believe this jobless thing went there,  go and continue arguing aimlessly now, anyone that doest have an atom of respect for the head of the family is not worth me even flinching over at all. This is someone that would say Hi to me and I wouldn't even look at twice.

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@topic,

cos life must go on!

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hey, who cares if you are your own boss?

Another one who has come to show up.

Good luck madam boss.

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I'm actually my own boss I decide when I want to back to work.

I believe that signifies the end of this dialogue.

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Do I smell hostility in this post?

Not always you detect people's feelings from what they write but my previous posts was in a apologising tone. I had no intention to attack you in anyway. As I said earlier I was just responding to a question I felt directed to me.

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I don't know u at all, and besides I'm relatively new, not undermining the fact that I've been a guest for a very long time. I read the topics and respond accordingly providing my honest opinion, so what gives.

The very last time I checked everyone is entitled to their own opinion on this forum.

Anyways non taken.

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almondjoy, i can't agree less. . . u're dead right!

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Because life tastes oh so much sweeter with kids.

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That's just selfish. You won't be good parent simply because you will sprone the little kid to become what you weren't able to become.

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I want someone that I will hand over my investment on trust.

I want some one to continue from where I stop.

I want to keep my family name going.

I love having children.

I want to see myself growing again.

I want someone who I'll tell all my secret.

I want to see my result on sex act.

I HATE MARRIAGE LIFE.

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i naturally luv kids n i wanna have mine just so i can shower love and affection on them and also bring them up in d fear of God,

I wanna be able 2 take consolation in my kids esp when marriage is rocky.

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