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Why Would A Man Go For A Second Wife?

I find this very touching when I see ex-honey no more sugar.

Men go out to look for a better looking babe after they see the ex-honey growing old.

Is it good or what else do you think could have made this women punchers always want to keep punching?

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Aahh, that is because they are tired of the old Kitty-Cat and need a new one to clear their minds.

Men should instead try as much as possible as they can to start recycling their old Kitty-Cat and make it new, because if it ain't new, it ain't good!

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majority of women would love it,if it was legal to marry two men

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I THINK WOMEN TOO SHD START GOING FOR SECOND HUSBANDS THEN WE SHALL HAVE A BALANCED EQUATION, EVERYBODY WILL BE HAPPY,

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Cause they want to legally commit adultery without being exposed and held accountable.

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Laudate-- how many barren women do you see leaving their husband even if the fault is not theirs? the choice still remain with the woman in question, either she stick with the man and hold God to rasome or walk away from the marriage. it all depends on what is in her heart.

Women don't think like men and men don't think like women. mind you, some women will stay to the end no matter what external or internal pressure may come. But for men, we tend to take procreation as a do or die affair if the fault is coming from the woman. it natural though but not to the extend of taking a second wife for the matter.

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Still no excuse. The couple could try IVF or adoption, if they have fertility problems. On the other hand, what if they have tried unsuccesfully for many years to have kids, and the fault is not from the woman? Would you recommend that she takes a second husband?

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This thread has lost it purpose. No wonder all those with meaningful contributions had left. It just appear a click now exists attacking oppositions instead of issues.

Omasheo!

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what language is amaikama?

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amaikama, u think we're oblivious to what u're trying to do ehn? u're trying to win TOH over so that u can butter her up and then she can come down to ur level. that trick is old, my friend.

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please ignore him, soul

as you can see he has now started with the juvenile responses

once a dude starts with the "that's why you don't have anyone"(how they come to this conclusion is beyond me) or "that is why you will be alone", that is when you know you are dealing with a bonafide jackass that doesnt deserve a response.

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i don't accept that kind of charity, thank you. and i take it you are joking by making these kind of remarks, right? that way, i know not to even indulge you and justify whatever crappola you spit out!

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because "y" has a long tail and 2 branches thats why. pls o, women are not charity cases that need a man to take us under his wing, and bang us along with others in the name of polygamy. that's just arrant nonsense. don't think you're doing us a favor, because not every woman is destined to be married to a man by force o. why do you think there are so many lesbians out there these days? even in naija sef, they're all hiding under cover for fear of being ostracized. times have changed, and some women don't feel it's necessary to be attached to a man. so quit making silly excuses.

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Your name had already made that clear.

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because obo don sour.

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his thing would have been dinner

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The guy was lucky that a kind fireman found his "kini" before a hungry canine did.

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eww thats just gross. but then again, that should be a lesson to cheating spouses. mess around and get ur weiner cut off! no woman in her right man would like to share her man with someone else. those people that claim to have "open relationships" or "open marriages" are just crazy in the head and setting themselves for future wahala. one person is bound to let jealousy get the best of them. it's human nature.

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dis one pass wonder oh! I guess he has her to thank. Plus the fire man who found the 'kini' in the woods where she flung it.

@ TOH

you're welcome.

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@spoilt. are u serious? poo! she practically gave him a whole new career! wonders o!

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lmao osisi. ewu man please hahhaha

You've said it all jare.

spoilt, I think Tanna has forgotten a certain AMY FISHER

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let her write a book.

nonsense

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I wonder how old the poor girl is?

what kind of upbringing did she have that gives her such a low opinion of herself.

Only an abused woman would think this way and I want to be proven wrong.

Any one in a healthy marital relationship knows that there's more to love than sex.

A woman willing to find her husband a temporary or permanent replacement needs to see a shrink before a little girl somewhere thinks this is okay.

It ain't!!

women are trying to move forward and we have people like this pulling down all the efforts.

My advice to tanna,get out if this is what this marriage has turned you into,before you turn over an underaged girl to "mr wonderful" because his restless "abunna" may be yearning for them.

Ewu man pleaser

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@ babyosisi

hehehehe. poor thing hasnt wrapped her head around sharing a man. One thing is for sure. A man can't emotionally, sexually, spiritually satisfy 2,3,4 women. Even a no- strings -attached party causes problems talk less of a live in situation! she probably means well. havent women been known to go to extremes to please their men? Hasnt it always backfired? I guess she hasnt read about sarah who married Haggai for her husband Abraham. it isnt today that strife started in polygamy. Im almost tempted to say "hope she finds out the hard way!"

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Spoilt,I hope she takes you up on that "wonderful" proposal.

Isn't that why we take cars for a test drive before signing on the dotted line?.

Let this stallion of hers sample another woman on their matrimonial bed for 30 days non stop and let's hear how "heavenly" it was.

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Tanna

You have a right to your opinion. But we are never gonna agree. The day you hear that spoilt has ascribed to having another woman move into her matrimonial home then you'll know that i must have taken leave of my senses and run stark raving crazy. Like i said before ,move another woman into your home for a couple of months then get back to us with feedback. you'll be in a better position to argue intelligently.

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let me leave here quick, fire on the roof.

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like the intelligence associated with having a strange female service your husband before his "abunna" shrinks into oblivion.

Tufiakwa!!

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go to court, I will represent your as attorney.

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Trying to discourse with Spoilt and Thief is like trying to chase a shadow - (Totally pointless and a waste of mental energy that could otherwise be spent on intelligent dialogue and opinion sharing with the other interesting minds of Nairaland).

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I have never said ONLY Nigerian women are afflicted with envy, and others vices associated with women. So far you did not dispute the fact I cited. Neither did you contested the existence of the TV programme nor it accuracy. I suspect somebody is echoing his/her mind. My knowldge of psychology is my guide here.

The guy asking after my family would naturally be disappointed. Nothing short of your physical presence can make you see reason. Since you obviously live in Naija, why not humble yourself and take a holiday? My family would be your host. Don't be shy, we won't feed you poison. Whatever you see, you can then give your pessimist friends a feedback. I won't waste time on you since it was obvious you have no issue to discuss.

I am not Tanna, so I must warn in advance that many of you would be wasting your precious time if you hope to attack me.

For the forum information, I am undergoing a research, and this thread offer me an important material I needed as I understudy human behaviour, I appreciate your stupidity as it helps alot. Please keep it going. If you are intelligent enough, you would have observed that what I posted were carefully worded. I just hope one of you read psychology.

Omoge, I am not married so the idea of a second wife does not arise unless you are interested. I must confess however, that I am not searching. When I said I choose monogamy, it doesn't mean I am married. It mean something else. My faith, my creed had been a guiding light in my decision and not people, culture, or religion. Unfortunately, none of you even bother to ask. That show how intelligent you could be. Arguing without basis for the argument, for the sake of argument. Thank God for annonymity, I would have had my best moment.

I am reading you.

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I have never said ONLY Nigerian women are afflicted with envy, and others vices associated with women. So far you did not dispute the fact I cited. Neither did you contested the existence of the TV programme nor it accuracy. I suspect somebody is echoing his/her mind. My knowldge of psychology is my guide here.

The guy asking after my family would naturally be disappointed. Nothing short of your physical presence can make you see reason. Since you obviously live in Naija, why not humble yourself and take a holiday? My family would be your host. Don't be shy, we won't feed you poison. Whatever you see, you can then give your pessimist friends a feedback. I won't waste time on you since it was obvious you have no issue to discuss.

I am not Tanna, so I must warn in advance that many of you would be wasting your precious time if you hope to attack me.

For the forum information, I am undergoing a research, and this thread offer me an important material I needed as I understudy human behaviour, I appreciate your stupidity as it helps alot. Please keep it going. If you are intelligent enough, you would have observed that what I posted were carefully worded. I just hope one of you read psychology.

Omoge, I am not married so the idea of a second wife does not arise unless you are interested. I must confess however, that I am not searching. When I said I choose monogamy, it doesn't mean I am married. It mean something else. My faith, my creed had been a guiding light in my decision and not people, culture, or religion. Unfortunately, none of you even bother to ask. That show how intelligent you could be. Arguing without basis for the argument, for the sake of argument. Thank God for annonymity, I would have had my best moment.

I am reading you.

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I have never said ONLY Nigerian women are afflicted with envy, and others vices associated with women. So far you did not dispute the fact I cited. Neither did you contested the existence of the TV programme nor it accuracy. I suspect somebody is echoing his/her mind. My knowldge of psychology is my guide here.

The guy asking after my family would naturally be disappointed. Nothing short of your physical presence can make you see reason. Since you obviously live in Naija, why not humble yourself and take a holiday? My family would be your host. Don't be shy, we won't feed you poison. Whatever you see, you can then give your pessimist friends a feedback. I won't waste time on you since it was obvious you have no issue to discuss.

I am not Tanna, so I must warn in advance that many of you would be wasting your precious time if you hope to attack me.

For the forum information, I am undergoing a research, and this thread offer me an important material I needed as I understudy human behaviour, I appreciate your stupidity as it helps alot. Please keep it going. If you are intelligent enough, you would have observed that what I posted were carefully worded. I just hope one of you read psychology.

Omoge, I am not married so the idea of a second wife does not arise unless you are interested. I must confess however, that I am not searching. When I said I choose monogamy, it doesn't mean I am married. It mean something else. My faith, my creed had been a guiding light in my decision and not people, culture, or religion. Unfortunately, none of you even bother to ask. That show how intelligent you could be. Arguing without basis for the argument, for the sake of argument. Thank God for annonymity, I would have had my best moment.

I am reading you.

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my sister I dey.

worked more than usual in recent days due to a sick colleague.

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No wonder!

Who shall we ask about this so called success you talk about?

how many tearful nights did the first and real wife have as she heard her husband in bed with other women?

Was this plan made known to the first wife from the first instance?

did you ask  the women if they felt like a piece of meat competing to be the better bedmates?

who made the sleeping roster?

How well do the offsprings of one wife get on with the others?

and which wife was the man's favorite?

My dear I don't wish to dissect your family or any in particular but there is absolutely no benefit to any child being raised in a plural marriage situation.

You turned out right,halleluia!!

Children of thieves,whores and robbers also sometimes turn out right but does that endorse the lifestyle?

The mere fact that you choose monogamy tells me you know the right thing.

You did not create your circumstances so I don't blame you for it.

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Yea wicked envy and jealousy because that ONLY happens in Nigeria

You people know absolutely NOTHING about the whole "stepmother/stepfather deal" in other countries and in tanna's case, some are actually in denial of it.

AGAIN, I love how Tanna ignore the examples I provided. I can so easily provide so many more.

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of course he'll say yeah to the sex! isnt that all they think about in polygamy? The sex, the sex, the seX! All other angles are completely forgotten.

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I think many of those attacking Tanna are not only shortsighted but diehard pessimists about polygamy. It is unfortunate that rather than probing how it work out for some and fail for others, they had personalize the issue. I believe that if we but listen to both success and failure stories we would be in the best position to make accurate judgement.

Tanna was right about the propensity of some Nigerian women killing othe people children especially in polygamy. In fact she  understated the fact. We know that she was telling the home truth. Anybody who had been following Yoruba live programme NKAN BE, AND LABE ORUN among others dedicated to exposing evils in the society every week know that she was being modest about that statement compare to the reality. Little wonder we have many vicious opponents of polygamy. That is not to say all Nigerian women are wicked and irrational. I am a product of successful polygamy. We live a one family and my step brothers even lives with my mum. I have equally seen even more successful polygamous home. I therefore would reject any attempt at making my case exceptional. That I choose monogamy does not mean I should ignore the fact that whileit ir a disaster for some couple, it works for perfectly for others. We must learn to tolerate others if we want to understand them.

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@spoilt

By saying the man would be smart to say 'yeah', you acknowledge that polygamy is beneficial to the man?

In other words you acknowledge that the real sufferers are the children, or at least, not the man himself (you still seem to feel that the woman's life will become a living nightmare)

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@ Tanna from your signature, i guess your man or husband is nigerian. Interesting but good. He may be open to this whole polygamy idea. It dont matter that you are no longer ill. Just whisper the idea in his ears and if dude is smart he'll say "yeah"!

Bring in the other woman. She doesnt have to be nigerian. Just bring in another African American woman like you (like with like yeah?)ok, Then make her preferably younger and prettier (thats what guys opt for when its wife number 2) . Play house for 3 months and then get back to us. Nobody is attacking you personally. A lot of people on this forum are from polygamous homes.Its so common in our culture. They have lived it first hand. Its not good. but i guess the saying that experience is the best teacher rings sooooooooo true.

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Ladies, ladies

it's obvious y'all have very strong opinions and aren't willing to change it so I suggest you give yourself a break. No need in continuing with this discussion because it's getting boring. Same things are being written in different ways. *yawn*

@ Tanna especially

I suggest you make an experiment. Bring in a second wife for your husband.

Come back to tell us what happens in the next 6 months.

There is always an exception in everything, and if you think of your polygamous family in a different light, then prove it!

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Point is get off this board and go whine on one that doesnt have any "evil Nigerian women". So simple

Btw good job on ignoring the examples I gave showing that JEALOUSY in such households isnt just an African thing. ok? Have fun on that island of denial, dont fool yourself to death on it though.

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Tanna is just a psycho. Gosh! How ignorant d'u tend to be? You talk about Nigerian women as if AA's are any better.

This polygamy pallaver is all over the world, even in yankee. What poo you talking about? Why is it only when you were sick you thought about bringing in another wife to "service" your husband? If it was proper to take many wives, you should have brought them in when you were not ill.

PLease, show me one American in her right senses who has taken a 2nd wife for her husband knowing how "good" you people are? This has nothing to do with Nigerian women only. You just picking on us 'cause you feel being silly pays. Clear off the wool in your face, woman!

What's your beef with Nigerian women? The men have spoken badly about us yet at the mention of "akata" they run for their dear lives. That's how good you are. Abeg, go and take care of your husband and stop being naive to a fault.

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You know what? Tanna, pack your bags & go to any Asian or African country to live in a polygamous household. Spend at least six months with them. Learn the language. Watch members of the family & how they relate with one another. Do an audit. Then come back & share your views with us, before you put your foot into your mouth again.

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Go Back and read this topic.

Several Nairaland men posters say that polygamy is bad because of what it does to the children. That the children suffer mistreatment by the wives,

and that the men die early deaths because of the women. You all keep mentioning being poisoned by one of the wives because women are sooo jealous, What kind of women are these nairaland members describing if not evil ones? And what perspective if not the Nigerian perspective of your own men and women being in the situation?

The belief is that overall polygamy is bad because the majority of the women will do something horrible to the other wife and kids in order to keep the husband for herself - THAT"S EVIL.

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