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Will U Ask Ur Husband Where He Went, If He Came Late?

some women are afraid to ask their husband , to avoid receiving beatings from him.

Or decided to close their mouth, maybe when the hubby notices that she has no time for his lateness, he will change, if he is not being fidelity.

but for me, if he comes back late at least 1 hour after his normal time of coming home, i will ask and he must tell me where he went to.

of which class are u?

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Yes. It's a matter of common courtesy. If two people share a home and life, it's common courtesy to let the other person know of your coming and goings. Not because one is insecure/nosey, it's just the polite thing to do. If I am stuck in traffic on my way home, I'll let my husband know so that he doesn't worry. If my husband is coming home late, he will let me know so I can adjust dinner time or even just have peace of mind.

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Till the door changed

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~Quite sad & a Shame if One cannot expect a spouse to tell you where he's going,why he's late or whatever the case may be. . . .

~My Hubby will always call me to let me know why he's running late. .if he's stuck in traffic. . . i wudnt have to ask!

~Communication is key!

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we don't know the nature of the man. the rest of the night might be full of tears. prevention is berra.

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If he came late and didn't say where he'd been, you would ask him, wouldn't you?

Would he keep quiet if you came home late?

This is not too complicated.

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so irish dont give attitude, or na big one dem dey give?

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hunny im Irish there is no such thing as little attitude.

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lol there was a topic about some naija wives putting condoms in their husband's traveling case.

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there is one lady I know (naija) her husband stays out til 5am. She just doesnt bother herself. I saw him cheat on her!

When she is heavily pregnant he is often out all night and goes on 'vacation' to Spain and Italy for two to three weeks. She never says a things. Mind you, this lady dresses like a complete trollop perhaps to try and satisfy him I dont know.

Me, I would always be curious of where my man is ( protect your marriage without naggin by asking).

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It's not advisable

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so if your man break that rule, will u give him an attitude? or talk to him nicely?

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we have a standing agreement in our house. when either of us go out we tell the other where we are going. if either of us is going to be back after 11 we have to call home. if one says were doing something that should take say 2 hours and it takes 4, no problem to ask what happend. why on earth would a man beat his wife for asking where he was. if he is that ashamed of what he did then maybe he shouldnt have done it in the first place.

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there is no beating case here, i don't think any man would just hit his wife simply becos she cares to know what kept him late, for me i always get informed if he will be late, i hate to the habite of letting ur man know u are monitoring him, i work too, and when i am late it's thesame thing, no sort of question and all that, confident and trust matters alot.

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very true and best way to approach it.

But i will expect the man to even tell the woman str8 up how come he is late without being asked

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he will have to call to say he will be home late, if he doesnt then i will have to ask. keeping quiet can simply mean "i dont care what you do or what happens to you."

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as terrible as my husband is at calling during the day, he calls when he is running late. and when he doesn't, he comes home looking so tired, i would have to be thoughtless to start querying. but the next morning is when i play offended till he explains his waka. after all you can never be too careful.

90% of the time, he was pissed off over other matters and did not want me to take it personally if he sounded off on the phone

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If there is love btwn the love birds, then there shouldnt be any cause for infidelity. . . .

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YES OH,

DATS DE RIGHT TIN, BUT NOT ALL WILL UNDERSTAND COS I'VE WITNESSED MANY NEIGHBOURS BEATING UP THEIR WIFES COS OF THIS QUESTION.

I WONT TOLERATE DAT OH.

I MUST ASK HIM AND HE MUST TELL ME WAT KEPT HIM LATE.

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Yes in moderation pls.

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I expect it's the right thing to do, but beating your wife if she does so is extreme.

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i totally agree with u there too. i know i would dislike it if nobody cared to know where i was. haha

don't mind them they're just forming

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lol u want to tell us why u're always advertising these ur qualities?

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In a normal relationship asking where he was is not SUPPOSE to be a problem. So I will ask and expect an answer.

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joh gbenu soun jare. i'm definitely not a harsh lover; far from it. i haven't had to deal with a woman policing my Bottom. if she did she wouldn't get very far with it, simple as that. what are you gonna do about it? whine, nag, Dam, pine, sulk, brood, leave?

maybe i should write another open letter about the most recent that i dated. it's even worse.

i know what advise to give, even though i don't always apply them when it comes to me.

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Don't do that again?  Bo ya ese iponrinponya iyalaya e ni mo fin rin ni wa so fun mi.

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I dont really like those questions

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Depends on my mood, but then most likely yes if he does not take it upon himself to explain when he comes in

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I don't know. It really depends on the situation. My wife doesn't need to be a professional home police or babysitter either.

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with the insecurity in some parts of naija, its natural to worry when your husband doesnt come home when he ought to.

which kian wife no go ask if her bobo enter house late? if i'm running late and i dont call my wife, i expect her to call me and know whats up.

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We have several tel conversations throughout the day so we each know where the other is at anytime

If for some reason he came home later than usual, I have no doubt he would volunteer what happened before I ask

For this topic, a lot depends on the relationship between the spouses. In a normal relationship, wife asking the question or husband volunteering the info would not be out of place

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yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Where is Mrs Fhemmmy oh.

Olopa helpppppppppppppppppp

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Go away jare, like u wont like such with Mr. Chaircover.

as long as it is with the right person, why not.

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The cover of the chair.

I am taken- thanks

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There is not need to ask him, but it is his duty to tell you where he has been as soon as he is coming in, or call you while still out there.

However, pls note that f he refuse to, it doesn't mean much, could be that he just doesnt wanna talk at the point, and dont go playing some nasty songs in his ears.

Men--when the woman ask where you have been to, it is out of love and care, cos she wanna make sure you are well, so be nice to her and not start claiming territory of being the man.

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my husband will know to CALL me when he's running late na. And on the odd occassion when he cant get thru to me. . . hell yeah i'll ask him!

Beatings ke? NEVER!!

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