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Will You Forgive Your Girlfriend If She Sleeps With Someone Else?

soem months back, i was faced with this situation and i chose to overlook it based on the fact that she was honest enough to tell me that it happened. and i could see that she was sincerely soory. i'm wondering if i'm the only one who could have done that?

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^Where do you people come up with reasons like that.?

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One thing ppl do not understand is its easy for a guy to have sexx wiv one girl n move on, its hard for a girl to do this (except she is getting paid for this)

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i would forgive her if she confesses and i see that she is really sorry for what she did.

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hey pls how do i post on here im new with this. tnx

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^^^ not really, the thought that another guy(s) has been through the laps of your babe will always haunt you no matter what

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It would be a never ending video playing back in my head, I would forgive but sir i can't forget!!!!!

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@all,

Have you guys asked yourselves why guys find it difficult to forgive their other part? I guess not! This is it. Guys always imagine someone else's d*ickk penetrating the hole he calls safe haven. In doing this, they find it irritating and somewhat disgusting to want to do that babe again.

And if you are aware of any guy who tend to forgive, he's probably gaining something out of the relationship, in this case, p*ssy and money. Mind you, he stopped loving the girl since the incident happened.

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Your girlfriend that cheated on you and you forgive, chai, me i yam very sowei, wen she come b yur wife nko, she will say he will kuku forgive me, so why not? hop on Brother, n then yio wa ma feyin bi sho wa lale wen they r doing it, then wen she reach yu, crocodile tears will begin comot, I am a woman of pride, its abomination for two ppl to be hoping on me @ the same time, mo taka oshi danu loruko Jesu, AMIN!!!!

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As much as I hate cheaters and their ilk, I have to say that the cheating is not what would upset me the most. I am willing to accept that some people make mistakes but the sad part is that so many people say that they made a mistake when they knew what they were doing all along.

If a boy cheated on me, I would be really upset, but it would not be the end. It would be the beginning of the end because his behaviour after that would determine whether I should stay or not.

The truth is that if a person cheats but wants to change, you can always tell from their actions.  If a person genuinely cherishes you , his remorse and his actions after the deed would be obvious. So if a boy cheats on you and still wants to be friends with the other girl he slept with,  THEN  you should leave because it means you're just an option for him and he's trying to keep the doors open for the "other girl". That would mark the end of our "relationship", not the cheating itself.

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If I had a girlfriend, and she slept with someone else, I wouldn't forgive her. It will mark the end of our relationship.

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Your more man than me.

I could not forgive. I would just keep her as a bed mate, but keep it shallow.

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You, haven't you slept with someone else?

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Well Scudamore, Yes you have forgiven that's why you are in a happy relationship now, but the fact that you still want a discussion about it leaves much to be desired. This in my mind tells me that you cant seem to forget about it and you should ask yourself why? By all means, I am not suggesting that you leave her, stay if love is still calling. Its just that she's managed to put a stain in your relationship and some stains are hard to remove. I challenge you to delete this post if you have totally forgiven and willing to move past this experience

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Forgiving her means, i have let go of the pain she inflicts on me, it means i have released her, but i dont have to be with her again.

It is like a pastor beating another bigger pastor and removes his tooth, he has to forgive the person as asked by God, but each time he looks in the mirror, he will remember the tooth that is lost.

There is a difference btween forgiving and forgetting.

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I will forgive her, wont forget and probably wont take her back.

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I will forgive her, after all "All have sinned and come short of the Glory of God"

But will cautioned him/her and quit the relationship.

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I believe sex outside marriage isn't acceptable. If you are sleeping together before marriage then why can't she sleep with someone else. Is still fornication she just chose to do with outside.

Both of you can't be trusted by God so why trust each other?

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i think it all depends on the situation in which she cheated. knowing myself, i think i will be willing to forgive her and move on. but as i said if the circumnstances are such that there is reason to suspect she may just be playing me and will likelly do it again, then it's a total door slammer.

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Me forgive? Forget? I don't know. Quess I will have to cross that bridge

when I get there. But it won't be easy.[/color][color=#990000][color=#990000][/color]

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I can forgive her, but she should not expect anything from that relationship because I would never be able to trust her any more.

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As a guy, i have always wondered why some of us may choose to die than forgive a cheat. True, i know my babe will forgive me if i cheat (which i have never done) but I am sure nothing will remain the same after i discover she cheated -  be it self-discovery or volunteered confession. I have a lenient heart but i can't understand why unfaithfulness cannot be accomodated!

Ladies, we don't set out to be unforgiving; we are helplessly made like that. I think its in the male hormones more like. I think its just like thinking why men should impregnate women; and not the other way round.

Peace all!

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inconsiderate guys,xpectin d ladies 2 4give dem while dey cnt even think of doing d sameesp if she truly regrets it.i call dat foolish pride nd selfishness.

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@efuah

simple rule. What is good for the goose is good for the Gander.

If ur guy 'does' someone else, QUIT,99 in 100 guys would do same as you have seen from the posts.

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Good talk Imani.It is sometimes difficult to explain why we love a certain person.Just the same way we can't explain why we have stopped loving them.Just one of the mysteries of life.

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There are usually many reasons why ladies cheat on their men.It will be nice to look at the situation of your relationship at the time she cheated on you before taking an action.Were you also cheating on her?Was it a loveless relationship?

Now I am assuming all was well.It will be difficult to forgive her,let's face facts.But if I love her and I didn't catch her at it,but she confessed on her free will,surely I will forgive her and get on with loving her.But the issue is ladies rarely confess until they are caught red handed.That one will be hard to forgive,but eventually yes,but the relationship will be over.

Sleeping with an ex-boyfriend,that one I can forgive easily,but not sleeping with a stranger or an ARISTOCRAT.

Why do women forgive men easily?Maybe because in Africa, it is still a man's world.You can wake up and decide to marry a second wife and if she does not like,well,too bad.This is really unfortunate but that is the truth.In the western world,women don't forgive men who cheat on them o.They sue there Bottom and make sure they claim as much money as they can.Thereafter,they forgive.

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I took a psychology course last semester, and our lecturer explained one thing most guys can not forgive is sexual infidelity, which i have come to realize is the case. but the funny thing is that most guys find it ok, for them to sleep with other girls.

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If ure the type that expect to be forgiven and be together with the person after u cheat then do the same to her but if not move on. I for one detest cheaters. To me cheating is a lack of love and respect.

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In an ideal world, we all want to be loved by people who we also love.

However, sometimes, things happen and love may be unrequitted. I know people who loved someone that could never love them in that way. Even after having a child together.

But i agree with you on one point, i have no time for any man who doesn't feel anything for me.

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The reason behind her sleeping with another guy will determine my action. Guys at times are responsible for it.What ever the case maybe, I will forgive but end the relationship, because she will always repeat that again

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if my g/f sleeps with another guy, no matter the circumstance, it's all over cos am not willing to take what i can't give. I know i cannever do that to her

that's why i can't take it from her. IT IS ALL OVER  NO GOING BACK. AS FOR ME IT'S QUIT. QED.

SHE SHOULD FACE A BETTER LIFE WITH THE GUY SHE IS KISSING

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This is what I don't get.If I loved someone and the person becomes an ahole,my love will vanish.I can't love someone who doesn't love me.That is just how it works.I don't understand people who love someone who doesn't love them

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If the shoe was on the other foot, how would you plead?

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You say you dont do love but I wonder what will happen if you ever fall in love with a particular lady but who insists on playing the field like you are currently doing. Love sucks sometimes you know.

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I'll forgive and forget because my d*ck is immune to jealousy. I can't afford to lose any of my serviceable p*ssy because of a silly thing like pride. For the interest of full disclosure, I don't live with a girlfriend and I don't do love. I enjoy the relationship I have with my girlfriends. As long as I get mine, she can do anyone on the side. I'm not possessive and expect such in return. It's a free world.

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if its in the relationship im in now NO i will not, becos since i meet her ive been 100% true to her.(three years coming)

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Men cheat and end up being forgiven, but when women cheat its a whole different issue. It's better you forgive and see to it that it doesnt repeat it self.

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Good for you brother. I must not lie sho gotta go. I may still be her friend but that's it, she may as well forget that serious relationship or marriage thing, period!.

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It happened and I had to let it go not minding I am extremely monogamous (never mind my views on polygamy) when it comes to relashionship. I figured she was sincere enough to come out of the closet. The relationship later went to the rocks because it was a little awkward. I really wasn't feeling comfortable. . . I forgive easily and I just can't change that and she knows it. I was scared she'd take advantage of that and continue the 'kiss and tell'. We hung in there for awhile to see if we can patch things but we had to go our separate ways. Bottom line: Yes, I will forgive her and bear no grudge but life will never be the same again.

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i don't regret it though, we now have a better relationship

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why cant u forgive her when the Almighty God can forgive us.

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yes! u ve done it aready,

the best of all u ve done.

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i know d reason cannot be for s.ex. so maybe i could

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