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It is sad that this happens anywhere in the world, to anyone, for any price. Ones who stated jobs and laws are needed are correct. Ones who stated it's nobody's business are wrong(just in my opinion). Those are your daughters breeding and your sons buying. It makes no difference if it's you or not, choosing not to see it is purely ignorance. Saying the west does something should be a key indicator that it may not be the best idea.

Is a child born only to a womman or to the whole tribe and community to take care of. These girls are in this position for a reason. Figure the reason, figure the solution. Seems like the girls who give birth need as much love as the babies they sell. If the lest of his children fall, we are all to blame!

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Please does anybody know how i can contact any of those ladies involved. I am seriously looking for a child and would want to take this option. Me and my wife cannot have children normally and we would like to, so this might be an opportunity for us.

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well done you all and a big thanks to femi especially. i always trust you to have my back.

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I cant blv this thread is still breathing.

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That shouldn't bother you. Just allow her do her thing. You can only appreciate a kind heart.

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Most of these girls don't get to sleep with people's husbands especially if its for the sole reason of nursing a child for them. These things are done through IVF or artificial insemination. Why would any sensible woman allow/pay her husband to sleep with a "Prostitute" as you call them? She will rather prefer the guy to do it without her knowledge.

Moreover, these people you call prostitutes are doing this hiring of womb job out of desperation. Do you think they don't want to work in airconditioned offices like me and you? They are not just opportune to cos life and the society we live in denied them that. So if that is the only way they can make money for a business or a trade or a living, maybe we should let them be so far they don't kill, maim or rob anybody to do that.

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Ive seen many people BUT they don't go around with a loud speaker announcing this

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In a society where there are a lot of evil happenings, the way to go is the legitimate and organised way of doing things. Not helping some couple all in the name of prostitution. You'll be surprised that some of these ladies will resort to blackmail to get more money from those couples. But when things are done legally, they have no chance.

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Like i said, if it to be done, as long as it is done right, then, no wahala.

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Well said, maybe you should understand that anybody who is willing to pay b/w 100-300k for a surrogate mother won't see spending extra 10k for preliminary tests as anything. Clinics where these things are done always run tests on the would-be carriers first before anything is done. Maybe you should read the article on http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/features/citysun/2006/mar/05/citysun-05-03-2006-001.htm. You will see the various tests like hepatitis, hiv etc test that are conducted before the procedure. No reasonable man or woman would want a diseased person to carry their kids for them except of course they don't want that child for keeps. Like I said earlier, I'm looking for them cos I have people who desperatley need them. It is better to have someone carry your own baby as in ur egg and ur husband's sperm than adopting. I see adoption as a last resort for childless couple.

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People have the right to live their lives, however, when it has to do with the society, then, it becomes a problem and we all have to say something about.

What you just said is like saying the Leaders of the nations has the right to do what they want and people shd say nothing, Sorry, i dont buy that, what do you think such kids from this kinda arrangement would be, chances are that such owner of the womb will be on drugs, and alcohol, so what do you expect from them.

No one stops anyone from doing what makes them happy, however, when kids are involved, then, it is a different ball game.

I do understand somehow agree that some are looking for money to start a biz and all that, but not at the expense of little kids that are innocent.

Now, if they must make money by using their womb, they can go to doctors and make sure they are well tested and now ask the doctors to hook them with families that might be interested in the "womb for hire" service, doing this, everyone will be safe and happy.

All i am saying is, if you must do it, then, do it right, else. . .butt off

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I honestly think people should be allowed to live their life the way it best suits them. If a lady decides to hire her womb for Nine months to some1 who is willing to pay her for it, I don't think anyone should criticize her cos if such a person should come to you (as a distant relative) for money to start up a business, you will readily remember ur own immediate responsibilities. That is Nigeria for you. People are always willing to cast stones for unethical behaviours but never willing to help. The level of poverty in this country can make people do all sorts of things to survive. The 4k you pay your housemaid does not mean anything to you but the maid sees it as a big money cos that is her own level. How many of these ladies do you think can boast of 5k from carrying Load in balogun market? So you can imagine what 200k means to them.

On the other hand, it might surprise you to know that most of these men don't even have to sleep with the ladies likewise most the ladies don't even have to use their eggs so the baby in question is not even theirs so what do they really have to loose? Infertility treatments have advanced in such a way that you just collect a woman's eggs, fertilize it with her husband's sperm and transfer it into the surrogate mothers womb. She is paid to carry it for 9months most times at her own price. At the end of the day, everybody goes home happy: the couple who desperately needs a child and the young girl who needs money to set up herself.

Just as some1 rightly said, nobody should be denied anything that gives you happiness. The rich couple who desperately needs children and the young girl who cannot fend for herself and is being offered a job to hire her womb for Nine months all have a chance to be happy. There are women who for one reason or the other cannot carry a child to term. Most times its really from no fault of theirs but God alone understands how these things work I have a friend who had over 12 miscarriages in her 5yrs of marriage due to negative rhesus blood group. Are we saying if that person was a relative or a friend you wont advice her to try something else like surrogacy when you know the child is still hers since its her eggs and the husband's sperm? Its just that getting these girls is not even easy, if not for forums like this I won't even know that such Girls are readily available in Nigeria so if you know where I get them, please let me know cos I have people who will readily need their services and pay heavily for it including a their medical bills.

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How many people have you seen doing this kind of job in Aisha is doing in Nigeria? I'm sure none. Stop being ridiculous.

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Haba, spare the lady! She's only trying to make you understand issues that you would not normally try to or bother about sef.

I really do appreciate her job. What greater love than someone to give of their time and energy to a young child who has no

hope for the future (and doesn't even know it).

@ Aisha

I bet the reason why Posakosa made that comment is that you have completely ignored the main content of this post. Really.

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Aisha, likes to announce that she helps POOR children by writing 500 naira checks.  I think that you should start walking around with a sign on your forehead.    Do these children have flies swarming around their forehead ? Do they have big heads and stomachs ?

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Aisha, I must commend your efforts and involvements in the care of Orphans and vulnerable children. I think however

that that is a different ballgame from what this post has suggested. As much as we would like to draw sympathy from

Nigerians to the issue of orphans/abandoned children and their plights, we ought also to be able to uphold truth, good

judgements, ethics and morals in our society.

I wouldn't claim much knowledge of orphanges operations and related statistics but I do know that most Nigerians would

prefer to remain without a child than adopt. Wealthier ones who have fertility problems would rather spend fortunes on

IVF.

Back to the issue of the post, ther's no commendation in the girls' acts at all. Let's agree on that first.

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why should i hide it? my parents aopted 4 chilren who were vietnamese in the late 70's after the war. had a teachr who adopted 3 russian children. a neighbor growin up who adopted 2 korean kids. had two co worker one who adopted a mixedchild and another who was adopted as a child. none over there cares. if nothing they hold you higher for adoptinig. i dont undestand why here it is different here. i would never hide it from my child or nyone for that matter. why should i be ashamed of it?

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As for the source of my statistic, the Federal Ministry of women affairs with help and support from UNICEF and some local NGOs carried out a survey of OVCs in Nigeria, and we all met and came up with standard practices of Orphanages sometime in September. So beyond giving AID we go to homes unannounced and inspect the practices, on one of such visits, unity orphanage Abuja was shut down for shady adoptions and other unethical practices. The former Minister, mrs. Chiroma was one of the most progressive and commiited, most of the reforms happened during her tenure supported by El rufai

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The reason for the soft approach by Ministry of women affairs and social welfare sec is not to make girls more reckless but in the best interest of the child. We prefer children becuase from our recharge and a few cases where children were reunited with their mothers, the children most times turn out better, more confidence, etc. Some mothers may decide not to have any more contact with the child and this gives the adopting parents the guaranty that after adoption, the parent will not come from the blues and claim the child.

I am encouraged by your interest in child welfare, believe me, there are a lot of people who are genuienly concerned about childrens welfare in Nigeria and work tirelessley to improve the chances of OVC, however, social welfare is grossly underfunded which accounts for the low level of information on most social welfare policies. The media always want sad sensational stories and they hardly go back to report when the child has been rehabiltated and the progress social workers make. Adoption laws are uniform all over Nigeria, every year social workers meet and plan and work on those plans, this year we met in Enugu. Most of the time, we work with personal resources as Government funding and private organizations really do not get involved in day to day activities of OVC. They just want to present bags of rice at christmas not bothering what thses children eat from January to December. I marvel at the committement of the staff of the federal ministry OVC unit, they are the most underfunded department but the most dedicated, I once had a case and one of their staff spent 26 hours with us till we could get mother and child out of the cell and into a home, she used her car, her fuel and her credit, which am sure will not be refunded. To these civil servants, only Gods reward is good enough for them.

We currently have 17.5 million orphans and vulnerable children in Nigeria alone, this includes single and double orphans, those living in households, living with care givers and relatives, believe me the situation is so pathetic and alarming especially with the rise in HIV/ AIDS, cancers, and religious/ ethnic crisis.

Parents please leave a will and ensure that your children are well cared for, I see a lot of cases where people i use to know as comfortable start coming to collect food aid a few years after the death of a breadwinner, and women you need to work, you can be a house wife and still be a business woman.

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And this is what i call an INFORACTIVE FORUM some come to exhibite strange and incredible folly other unconsciously beam intellect but in the long run you'd find out that TRUTH has spoken from both end though with one standing firmly than the other,

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I'm sorry to hear you can't have kids. But you know your kids aren't just biological ones. People sometimes bond with others and form relationships closer and richer and deeper than even that with their biological family. So it is with our children. They're out there, ours to love and cherish. When you see your son or daughter in an orphanage you just know. So you don't need to justify or explain yourself and your child to anyone. Why expose yourself or your child to anybody who'd 'look down' on you? Like much of what plagues this country and lies at the heart of most bad things, it's just a wasting disease called Ignorance. But it's not a common attitude, I don't think. People are a lot more open-minded here than we give them credit for. Just enjoy your child and don't spare a thought to what people will think.

@ aisha2

I guess it's possible to be in the same country and have different experiences of the adoption sector. Why do you assume your experiences are definitive, though? There's a website that might give you some idea of how many orphanages there are and the kids in them. It's not comprehensive though. www.linkachild.org. You're seriously telling me the majority of children in orphanages belong to women who say, hold on to my kid for a bit? A NEW social welfare system was instituted and it has completely eradicated women dumping babies all over the country?You work with  every orphanage in the country and did some research and have statistics on this? Majority of children in orphanages are wards of the state with relatives, not orphans. And so every girl who gets careless in every town in every state in the country comes to this social welfare dept and makes a deal, problem solved? And the orphans in these homes before the social welfare dept was formed? Were they weeded out of the orphanages to make room for children with relatives, or are they still very much there?

You work in Abuja and deal with adoption there, I think? It's a WONDERFUL initiative, encouraging women to not abandon their babies. You're doing really commendable work. They ALWAYS spend the rest of their lives regretting it when they know better, but by then there's no way to trace their kid and get him back. Perhaps abandoned kids are less than needy couples in Abuja, but I was talking about the entire picture, the entire country here. And please don't tell me you mean that as well. Consider the very tiny possibility I might know what I'm talking about as well. There is no way on God's green earth abandoned kids and orphans outnumber the couples who want them in a country. In ANY country on this planet. Not in the US, not in the UK, not in India, not in Ghana, not in South Africa, and NOT in Nigeria. No country.

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i was told that people here look down on people who adopt.  i cant have children and my family (inlaws) told me not ever tell anyone that i adopted a child because i will be looked down upon.  i know another woman here who was told the same thing (she is german) why is that?

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Mad Max, am talkingfrom the point of veiw of someone who goes through adoption requests everday and acts as a refree to a lot of couples. Formaly, women just dump their babies at refuge dumps or in front o a churc, but recently, social welfare secretariate has embarked on mass awarenss campagns. In most cases, the women just need to get thier acts toghter, the need time to sort thier lives out before they can care for their babies and so wemake a deal, keep your baby for some time and when you feel you are ok come back for your child. We ry as much as possible to keep parents and children toghther. Except of course parents who abuse thier children.With enlightenement now , what mostwomen do is to enter an agreement with the social welfare department to keep thier child in the cusody of the state for a while and come and take the child after she is settled. This is no reserach, this is what i do everyday, mad max. The number of ouples who want to adopt out weigh the eligible children for adoption

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I was reading about some research done on infertile couples in Nigeria a couple of years ago. Only 12% had considered adoption. There are almost a hundred orphanages in Nigeria, with kids ranging anywhere from 50 to almost a thousand. I know this for a fact. Each state has adoption laws and requirements that must be fulfilled. There's a process, as there should be. Lol I don't mean Nigerian couples aren't adopting. Though my husband isn't Nigerian, I am and we adopt and are still adopting. I adopted my son before I gave birth to his brother. I have much much older friends in their fifties and sixties who adopt.Their kids are grown and flown the coop and they felt the house was 'too quiet'. Couples from foreign countries adopt Nigerian kids. So people are adopting. But we don't have a culture of adoption here.

Most kids are wards of the state, with existing relatives? That isn't so. Abandoned children form the bulk of these kids, brought in as babies. These orphanages depend mostly on charity to survive. While one can't deny Nigerian bureaucracy can be maddening, neither they nor the orphanages have anything to gain by denying needy couples a child. We adopted and it was a smooth process, there are law firms specialising in this. Unfortunately the process here isn't transparent; there isn't a single credible adoption agency to facilitate the process and unite a couple with their son or daughter.

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We always wanna find a way to justify stupidity

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he probably gets the baby and herpes

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these women are being paid to have sex with men.  this is prostitution plain and simple. the differnce here is the man gets a baby instead of herpes

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What made the kids in the Orphanage un-adoptable?

Please shed more light into this.

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That example i gave was not much different from this situation, did you read the part where she went and abandoned the baby eve after i told i her i would help her.

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I share your sentiments. If they were conceiving for infertile couples, if it's real surrogacy, there's nothing wrong with it. They would carry the couple's baby to term and make them very happy when they have their own child at last. But the horror here is those kids are these women's, and they're for sale to anyone. Orphanages are full to bursting with abandoned children praying to have a family, but Nigeria doesn't have a culture of adoption. Yes, childless couples want children, but in most cases, they want their own, not someone else's. They will wait ten, twenty years praying for a child and it will not occur to them to adopt. They think that by adopting they have admitted defeat and have closed the door on having their prayers for their own child answered. The police should crack down on these women before things get out hand.

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The whole idea appears totally crazy and completely disturbing. Like someone commented, some of them are just regarding their babies as commodities to be bidded and sold to the highest bidder. Now, I gotta ask, "whose eggs are used for conception, they or the men's wife?" If it is their eggs, then these girls are simply abandoning their flesh and blood for money.

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Max, well stated. We must devoid ourselves from all sentiments in approaching this issue. These ladies are wicked and from the text one can detect that they do not care what happens to the children or for what purpose a person would want to purchase and unborn pregnancy. There is nothing in the text to suggest Surrogacy and i dont think we should raise that as an excuse to their abominable act, This trend should be stemmed before it becomes the vogue, 4 both this cheap fetal machines and ritual mongers.

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Max, well stated. We must devoid ourselves from all sentiments in approaching this issue. These ladies are wicked and from the text one can detect that they do not care what happens to the children or for what purpose a person would want to purchase and unborn pregnancy. There is nothing in the text to suggest Surrogacy and i dont think we should raise that as an excuse to their abominable act, This trend should be stemmed before it becomes the vogue, 4 both this cheap fetal machines and ritual mongers.

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Max, well stated. We must devoid ourselves from all sentiments in approaching this issue. These ladies are wicked and from the text one can detect that they do not care what happens to the children or for what purpose a person would want to purchase and unborn pregnancy. There is nothing in the text to suggest Surrogacy and i dont think we should raise that as an excuse to their abominable act, This trend should be stemmed before it becomes the vogue, 4 both this cheap fetal machines and ritual mongers.

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I fink there are bit nd pieces of legal provisins dat can take care of d children. Even if d women own their bodies, it doesn't giv dem d right 2 trade children like market wares. This is not Surrogacy let not b fool. This demented set of women ve means of livelihood as seen in d text, so it not a case of pov this' child trafficing in its crudest form. Those women shuld be lock away nd d kids given to social worker 2 help place in good homes. If its time 2 intro. Surrogacy them let it be done decently,

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Nigerians have a knack for taking things into dimensions you can't imagine. By the time they're done with this, who knows what it would have evolved into. If I think they're mad for selling children like chickens I certainly have a right to think so. Everything you say is coloured by your experience with a lady in circumstances not related to this. I CAN condemn a thing if it is wrong, and since this is an online forum there is nowhere else to sit but behind a computer to do so. I'm entitled to my thoughts on an issue, and I think they're heartless to offer a child to a stranger for sale, for a factory worker to act as a love-vendor and have a group she solicits this sort of thing for.

You assume every baby that is sold is sold to an infertile couple? I don't see that in the story. You simply don't KNOW that! What kind of naivete is this, in a society where people use human beings for ritual purposes? Do you have any idea how potent new-born babies are considered by these ritualists, for one silly reason or the other, and the fresher the child the more 'powerful' the 'juju'? Something about 'purity' and 'just coming from heaven'.Did they ask the reporter his reasons for wanting a child? NO. He was simply told to produce money and the baby was his to take away.

Instead of condemning them I should help them? Find out why someone with a job would have a clique of girls that sell babies for anyone with 150k? Perhaps her job doesn't pay enough? No job satisfaction at the factory? I cannot have compassion for an undeserving lot with the facts of the story as they stand, and with the things I know about what rituals children are used for. I'm not interested in asking them why. There are no justifiable reasons, plain and simple, and the case is half lost with an approach that suggests there are. Perhaps if they had mentioned the reasons they were going into selling babies to strangers, one might then consider the facts. They have ventured none and the ones you insist on providing for them simply isn't in that story. All there is is blind, unreasoning greed and callousness. I should ask them why they're doing it. When one of the infants they sold has been chopped and pureed for some richie rich to fortify himself with, who's asking WHY on behalf of that child?

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I fink there are bit nd pieces of legal provisins dat can take care of d children. Even if d women own their bodies, it doesn't giv dem d right 2 trade children like market wares. This is not Surrogacy let not b fool. This demented set of women ve means of livelihood as seen in d text, so it not a case of pov this' child trafficing in its crudest form. Those women shuld be lock away nd d kids given to social worker 2 help place in good homes. If its time 2 intro. Surrogacy them let it be done decently,

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It's surrogacy, commonly practised in the West, like the USA. India too is a hot spot, but the government is against it. I did not know, until today that surrogate motherhood is now practised in Nigeria.

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ths has got to be hands down the stranget form of prostitution i have ever heard of

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Its the same, She would have sold her baby and she would have been one of those women if she continued in that line but God gave me the grace to intervene, my point is if you feel strongly about what they do then ask God how you can intervene, condemning them online will not save the mothers or children. I forgot to add that when we were going through all this with her, she thought i wanted the baby for myself, she thought i wanted to buy the baby thats why i was helping her because she never believed that anyone would help her selflessly, thats the kind of society we live in. If at that point i said i want to buy the baby would she have refused?

Peoples lives can turn out differently if people like me and you stop condeming them but intervene and help them find a way.

Am not justifying them am saying there must be a reason for them to go mad and sitting behind a computer to abuse them will not stop the madness, their lives and the children can become different if people like you and me take a liitle more concern in not what they are doing but why? We cant save everybody but someones life can turn out different and if it is just one, like in my friends case believe me its worth it. I get fustrated with my work sometimes but when am down and i think of her i know its worth it. Believe me, you will all go to bed better if you help instead of condemning. In any case these women act as paid surrogates, it just needs a little refining and fine tuning and legalizing to make it less distasteful. I know a lot of couples who could benefit from this service, if someone can work on this am sure he/ she would make lots of money legaaly connecting surrogates to couples who need kids. I have a woman who calls me everyday becuase she thinks i can help her with the FCT social services, she has been on adoption waiting list for years and the kids eligible for adoption are not as much as those wanting to adopt. There are over 2000 couples in abuja alone waiting to get a child to adopt and just over a 100 eligible for adoption, most kids can only be fostered because there have one or more known relatives or more or some are giving to orphnages due to abuse from parents and relatives. So believe me there is a huge market of couples who would do anything to get a kid or surrogate mother. This is a reality we have to live with

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Touching story. But what has it to do with the crazies selling children? Are their stories the same? When something is evil and all sorts of excuses are found to justify it, it's entrenched even deeper and it is that much harder to combat. The girls mentioned in the story are employed, or you didn't see factory worker in the article? There's more than those girls at stake, those babies are human and no one has a right to conceive and sell them.A girl who has a baby for her lover in exchange for luxury is very different. The one that chilled me was the pregnant lunatic who was ready to sell the baby to anyone who would pay. Is there anything to indicate in the story that they were starving, is why they're doing this? Did they say so?

There's such a thing as misplaced compassion. That should be going to those children whose fate no one knows once they're sold and handed over. If a thing is evil, there are no two words for it, it is evil. There are people pouring acid on children and burning them alive in Eket because some pastors called them witches. There are parents selling children into a lifetime of servitude. Now this one. It is all we need right now. And justifications and excuses for it. Not a single one of those girls said they went into it because of poverty, or because they were hungry. It's just greed and a horrible callousness against infants that cannot defend themselves.

I deal with kids and friend, I have adopted and I'm adopting like mad and I can't stop because I feel like expanding like a balloon and covering all those wounded kids and protecting and loving them half to death. You have no idea what human beings put them through, the evil and cruelty people are capable of. Justify their baby selling all you want, assume their stories are the same as those of the very different people you've met, when nothing in the story shows any such thing. Keep handing them reasons and excusing the inexcusable.

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I seems to have missed a lot oh, damn

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Very different situation her Aisha but I thank God for people like you. God bless you. You are not thinking of the children here. You are sort of saying that it is okay for a mother to endanger her child to help herself. It cannot be justified. Think about your younger ones if you have any and think of your mother giving them to a total stranger because things got hard. If these women were that hard up they could have turned to prostitution but they chose to sacrifice a child for their own needs.

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@Aisha

Really touching story there. But I think the situation is different from the one the poster laid out.

This girl you talk about had a bf and they must have had an unplanned case of pregnancy. This is

quite different. The ladies in the post are willing to get screwed and carry pregnancy for their clients.

Anyone who is willing to do a menial task for money have got morals but like I pointed out, some

of these ladies just want to be able to paint their nails, wear nice clothes and even ride big cars

without doing any serious work except get a man to sleep with on a daily basis.

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Nigeria is bad as it is. Some issues like this just makes it totally bad. Pray tell, are there no other jobs these ladies can do? For anyone

to accept to be slept with for money, such a one must have the prostituting tendency if not already one. This goes further to allow

conception and bearing a child. Most of these ladies want to live above their means and so will never be able to venture into 'little'

businesses such as recharge card sales, fruits sales, okrika and foodstuff or even neswpaper sale. I can never start to compare myself

with people who work in a bank if I'm not literate.  I should content myself in the little that accrues to me from my 'lil' biz. But no, this is

not the case as a primary sch cert holder wants to rub shoulder with a BSc or masters holder. Such a lady will do what ever to be able

to accomplish this. While pregnant, she will still be 'servicing' the men. I think it's an innovative creation of some prostitute, Arghhh.

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Fheemy, please get off your high moral horse and come down to earth and reason with us mere mortals. These women dont do this for fun, when you are in their shoes, its not about morality, its just about survival. Believe me, when you are an orphan brought to abuja or lagos by an aunt who has promised to help you and you live in her house and you are constantly sexually abused by her husband and you run away after being betrayed by your aunt and her husband, all you have as shelter is an uncompleted building. You survive by washing plates in a restaurant where u get left overs and N200 or N100 a day. When you are in this situation, u re  rock bottom, the idea of carrying someones baby for money, and getting shelter, clothes and a chance for a better life will not seem wrong at all. I used to really think like you because i had options, i had a family i could always run too so i felt people chose to do somethings have them selves to blame. Let me tell you about my first case, I am not supposed to but i asked her permission and she said it was ok, and am so damn proud of her now, i feel like a grandma.

Two years ago, my sister was giving birth in a hospital and i was there to help her, i went down to a shop accross to get something for her and i saw a girl, very pregnant, in labor lying on the grass outside the hospital bleeding, the nurses were trying to chase her off the premises they were taunting her, " na we send you to carry Belle, shameless girl" I would have walked pass and jusitfy my action with the believe that she got her self into that situation but a sunday before my pastor had preached about the good samaritian and tha fact that he went beyound the normal everyday kindness to really care about someone he did not know. Anyway, i stopped and i told the nurses that they had to admit her because pregnancy is an emergency, and all hospitals are obligated to admit pregnant women and think of payment after she has safely delivered. Anyway i threatened them and they admited her because they knew i know the law, since my sister had extra supplies we gave her some pad, pampers and the rest, she gave birth almost immediately to a handsome boy and i paid a deposit and wrote an undertaken to pay the rest the following week. Anyway, now i had to think about what to do about this girl and her baby, i knew that if i just let her go she will abandon the baby as she had no place to stay and no money, every body in the hospital even my sisters that heard about her case already concluded how she will end up, and told me to forget her she will not amount to any good that i would waste my time money and emotions but she will still do bad stuff because she is bad, but a voice kept telling me to be the church, so i gave her my number after she had been discharged and some food, money and told her to call me on monday so we can sort out her situation, i did not get a call from her till tuesday, she called and said she was at a police station she had gone to abadon the baby by a church and she waited till they picked the baby but she had a change of heart and went back to the church and requested for her baby and the church reported her to the police station where she was detained. I was angry, i asked her why she did not call me on monday, she said she did not believe i would really help her. So we spent a week in the with the police meanwhile the babys father had turned up, he was out of town when she put to bed, he was a young guy too but unemployed. So after they got out, with the help of Legal aid council and social welfare FCT they have this wonderful resiliant staff, who is just out of this world, we put the baby in an orphanage for six month while we got the father a job and the job came with a room, she went to computer school, and by six months they took the child back. she had finished computer school and my collegue gave her a job some months later she told me she wanted to quit because she didnt have time to spend with her baby, so she quit and got a job as a primary helper in a school, then she saved up some money and started recharge card business, six months later she had two shops. Today she came to my office because she wanted my advice on school options for her son, i was shocked because the schools we were looking at were from 100k and above, she says she wants a good start for her boy. While we were doing that, some widows came in to bring their childrens school fees bills. I was explaining to the women that we may not be able to help this term because we were really stretched beyond our limit and sponsors are also broke, while i was talking with the widows, she called me aside and gave me a cheque to cover the school fees of two children. Am so proud of her and happy.

The reason for this long story is to tell you that if you have a problem with something, do something about it, I believe you are a christian and its time for us Christians to save a dying and hopeless world, give people hope instead of standing on a high moral ground and judging, get off the your computer,  The local church is the hope of the world. Why not find out the story behind these women and why the world risk their lives for 200k and then gather a group of friends who feel as strongly as you do and come up with a plan to help them. Imagine how my friend would have turned out if i did not believe in her, if i had just condemned her and done nothing, because someone had faith in her, she has made her life very good, her sons life looks bright and she can now pay school fees for other kids. Thats the Power Christ has given us, use yours wisely

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Freedom. That is what the girls are enjoying.

Besides, i dont think that such children will be potent for rituals. Just guessing.

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Precisely! Nothing is free in Nigeria. Not education, not health care. No welfare system. Even to get a job you still bribe. How bad can it be really?

Government should create jobs and let's see if anyone will still rely on some horrible means like this to make money. Only then can we call them "greedy".

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