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Would You Keep Your Aged Parents Or Inlaws With You?

with the increasing rush to make ends meet and the fast pace at with we live, can we really let our parents live out their last days with us?

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Definitely no! I would rather support them, and ensure they live in comfortable environment. Believe me, I speak from experience. My mum is not the kind of person that you would love to have around indefinitely. Moreover, she loves to be given her own space too. My mum-in-law? Well, I made the naive mistake of taking her in with some other family members of hers for 4 yrs! Needless to say, I nearly got kicked out of my matrimonial home for my 'kind' gesture. She virtually controlled my home, my husband, everything, albeit in a subtle manner. I have learnt that God is never wrong when He said in the Bible that a man should leave his parents and cleave to his spouse. Anything short of this is plainly inviting trouble.

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Not only would I do so, I will spend extra on nannies whose job it is to take care of them and a driver to take them wherever they want. It's the least I can do, in-laws or not.

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Yes, Without delay. Family is important to me, they have supported me from crawling to adulthood, My father still feels i need extra money and always sends money each month. My Mother in law is simply amazing. She has been there for me, prayed for me and with me, pratcically spoils me silly, makes sure am always comfortable. Without reservation I will take them all in

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What if you don't live in the same country and there are no relatives to look after them.  What then?

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sure y not

they are welcome anyday, anytime

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If i was to answer this b4 i had kids i would say yes to my mum not my mother inlaw but now i will answer yes to both.

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YESSSSS!!! By the grace of God. Why not? That is the joy of them having me as a child. I would do more than that to my parents and parents in-law, I mean, I will give them the best ever, the best food, take em to the best places and make sure they live a good life. I will never watch them be in need, So help me God

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There's simply no way any extended family member will permanently stay in my house if I can help it. Certain circumstances may call for it but just for the hell of it? Hell to da NO!

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I am starting to understand the value of having enough money now, it means you are prepared. Yes the topic is not about money but lets think about it, especially after hearing from responses about some people who do not get along well with their parents/inlaws.

I personaly would choose to keep them, my conscience wont allow me to hand them over to anyone. Now back to the issue of money if you own a house with a big yard then you can build them a cottage within the yard and hire a caregiver to look after them while you are at work, away on holiday or just needing your own space.  By the way this means medical costs and other stuff.

Ok Damn! I must just work hard 'cos we never know what tomorrow brings hey! This is one of the reasons why I need to get rich quick LOL!

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Actually, i've had (and to some extent still have) quite a troubled relationship with my parents.

I live with my mother and I see my dad all the time and I guess i'm close to them but they have a lot to answer for.

So I understand that some people are in situations where they can't have their parents with them but my solution would not be to put them in a home just because they are not places I could trust.

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nkeon, you are close to your parents, that's why. some people have a bad r/ship with their parents. do you expect someone who has been Molested by her father to keep him in the same house with her kids?

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I could never put my parents in home. A lot of mistreatment goes on in those places. I don't think they could annoy me enough for me to subject them to that!

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i know a friend who says she cant keep her parents with her, too meddlesome. Wouldnt old people's homes suffice? at least they wouldnt be homeless.

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Definitely yes. It's my duty to do so.

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