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Would You Marry A Girl Who Earns Twice Your Salary? If Yes/no, Why?

Guys- Would you marry a girl who earns 2ce your salary?

Ladies - Would you marry a man whose pay is only half of your take home?

If Yes/No, please state your reason's'.

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yeah right. i don't think some guys can get over the whole "breadwinner" "master of the house" mentality. they feel threatened when a woman brings in more cheese. y'all better get over it because at the end of the day, u both have to contribute to the upkeep of the family and household.

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Yes, no big deal about that, understanding is the key word.

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This mentality has cause a lot of damage, many mother In-law has killed their daughter In-law out of hatred that, she is richer than her son, by this black race has wasted many glorious daughter.

When are we going to liberate our heart? the light is shinning but we pretend not to see it.

What is wrong, when couple prayed and one of them is lifted, if the other adjust, the will both operate on a higher standard.

If i have a Benz 190, and my wife decided to buy jeep, when I appear with the jeep in the company of friends, level go change, and I can be trusted with better responsibilty (contract) that will fetch better things.

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if the love is there, why not. so long he is not lazy, i will.

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That my woman should pay for the house rent, buy the family a car, and settle all bills and still love her, yes I can b/c all is her contribution to improve the status of the family.

This will put me on my toes to get more serious and drop all the 10k - 10k (ten - ten Kobo) girl friends and look for bigger connections.

imagine all our big bros in White man country, they hunt for bigger ladies and created love along the way.

Our generation is not - modern enough, but I know the next generation will appreciate this and enjoy the benefit.

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My girlfriend was earning four times my salary till last month. I was also earning well though. I had a very tasking job that kept me in abuja most of the time. We had no issues about our income. I did my own part sha. I take her out and get nice stuffs for her. As God will have it, I got a new job last month that places me ahead of her now, I mean in terms of salary. So, there is no big deal in your girl earning more than you do. Your attitude towards life matters more.

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That's why women will remain an underappreciated lot!

Earning more than your husband doesn't mean he has to depend on you. in fact, it shoul dmean you have to depend on him less for thngs you want.

personally, i have no qualms if my wife earns more than i do. That'll leave up some of my cash for my usually impulsive buying sprees. YaY!

Seriously, it makes no difference. I dunno why educated people still keep up that myth of husbands washing their wives' undies (perhaps it comes from reading too many copies of Hints magazine?)

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lie lie, I cant marry someone that earns lower than me the woman.

how is he going to provide for the family? abi na my Money he go depend on?

Infact, I intend to stop working as soon as i marry and my husband will take care of me. that's why i am the woman.

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What matter is understanding and love. Whwn these 2 are in abundance, there individual pay package will make no difference.

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i dont really think there is a problem with that if she loves me

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@SEXYUHLALA

Nice talk

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Says Who? I can tell u that for a long time now and even as at now my Mum has been earning and still earns more than my Dad and It has never changed our respect for our Dad. It all depends on the Woman, if you have a responsible wife, then that wouldn't be a problem. Infact, we the children never got to know until we all became adults and it was even our Dad that told us. Even the car he drives was bought by my mum and we never knew cos she doesn't drive.

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@sexyuhlala

You made some serious points there. Men do act like that. But it all comes down to positioning. A successful/wealthy man doesnt consider a girl who isn't working as a liability-he sees that as an OPPORTUNITY. 'because he can make a difference in her life. Whereas a struggling/up and coming man sees her as a LIABILITY. Both men are positioned differently so they see a different thing though they are observing the same person.

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Men would never cease to amaze me.

When u start dating a girl and she not working, they always  say "l can't marry a liability", when she starts working and she earns some cash no matter how much they start their nonsense just like "Ahhhhhhhhhhh ,she earns higher than l do"

If l may ask,what is it that MEN want? Cuz l really don't understand. Well l guess everything balls down to insecurity when it comes to the MEN oh.

Of course a lady would want her man to earn higher than she does but to me the other way round don't matter at all.

The most important thing is that there is mutual love,respect and understanding.

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to me it not all about the money but the love that radiate within us,but ladies can be somehow funny sometmes when it comes to their heads and they will do anything to turn you into wife and they becomes the husband.it's just god that can  solve that problem.normally it's ok for the guy to earn more than the lady.meanwhile some case come were the lady was earning low before but later promoted and earn more than someone do you would have know your wife then.finally to mi i can't marry someone that earns more i do, so that i will be able to control my house.

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NA WA OHHH, I GO tink am 2ice ohh, because i no fit sit down 4 house make my sholy dey tell me say make i go dey arrange [wash] her ondies ohhh, insohrt to b honest, any house were woman b breadwinner the man no dey get say @ all, n na the woman the children go respect pass because na she dey provide 4 dem, there may b peace and harmony in the family bt the children go respect there mom c pass pile

bt e still get some woman wey dey find husband to help am control moni ohhh

BUT THE FACT IS THAT ITS HAS ADVANTAGE N DISADVANTAGE

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My fellow nairaland user,

Based on the topic above, I want us to be sincere wt ourself, marry a lady that financial up-right is not bad, but it depends on the lady you're dating, some lady are well trained while some are not.

Earns twice of her partner salary is nt the issue but just pray to God that he shd give you the bone of ur bone and flesh of ur flesh

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@ rowland

If this poster is that kind of guy u're talking about "wants to marry a girl for her money" he wuldnt be seeking people's opinion on this issue.

Do u know what it means for a lady to have financial advantage in a home?

She's got a very good job and believe me I dont hav a problem with that.

The problem here is that she keeps me on my toes, remember she cant remain stagnant too!

some say its a good motivation, but i'd rather move at my pace cos I believe more in my career not a job!

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@topic, what's wrong with that.

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Some guys may wish to marry such ladies because of their money which may definitely not work out good on the long run.

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In this competitive 21st century - anything can happen at any time. Imagine getting married to a lady working in a bank and you earn more than her. 1 year down the line; she gets a job with an Oil company - now her salary is like 3 times your's. What do you do? I think the best thing is to have other basis for getting married and not about the money. The scenario I painted can also happen in the reverse order. If a lady earns more than me now, it is no indication things will remain d same way for long. As far as I am concerned; earn your partner's respect in other ways! And for the very egoistic male in the house - bad news - Women will most likely be getting the juicy Marketing and sales jobs more than men. Find a way to get yourself better and also earn their respect in the real sense of it.

Well said bro, but the issue is if u are not confortable with a lady that gets paid more then u den u have no confidence in urself that how i see it,comon men bcus she gets more pay dan dose not give the rigth for her to control u,dat can only happen if u forget ur prerioty. u have to pull ur wight and do well men dats jst it forget if she dy get bah pass u men. sum guyz forget or are jst too chicken or sum go dy fear watin people go talk say na d gal money em dy find,but remeber that u shud not really be worried about wat poeple want u to be but wat u,urself want to be so do ur tin. and be bold

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@ Peju - yes it will be hard to submit to a man that is not earning as much as you. But as I said- what would you do if the man you married 'cos he has more money suddenly loses his job or you got a bigger job/lucrative business after you got married? Just be open minded and as for being desperate - it is not as easy as that. The world is more complex and remember that women at different stages of their lives have all sorts of expectation about the kind of man they will marry. Maybe when you are ready to marry and you find the love of your life - I hope you will not allow such a temporary status to sway your decision the wrong way.

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In this competitive 21st century - anything can happen at any time. Imagine getting married to a lady working in a bank and you earn more than her. 1 year down the line; she gets a job with an Oil company - now her salary is like 3 times your's. What do you do? I think the best thing is to have other basis for getting married and not about the money. The scenario I painted can also happen in the reverse order. If a lady earns more than me now, it is no indication things will remain d same way for long. As far as I am concerned; earn your partner's respect in other ways! And for the very egoistic male in the house - bad news - Women will most likely be getting the juicy Marketing and sales jobs more than men. Find a way to get yourself better and also earn their respect in the real sense of it.

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to go out with or marry a girl who earns more than a guy, the guy needs a lot of patience, sincere love and appreciation of the girl plus a strong and enviable character to earn the respect of the girl.

and that is where most guys miss the point, RESPECT is earned. it is not anybody's birth right

it is human nature to psychologically behave as if you are better than someone if u have more than them and in the case of women, they need to be convinced that the guy is a MAN who can take care of his business (family etc) and is genuinely interested in being with them, so a girl will naturally throw things at you to test your mental maturity, resilience, sincerity and love

it is your duty as THE man to understand the dynamics and earn her respect by loving her

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i do not see anything that is bad in that provided the wife is submissive and is God fearing.

With the lean change of the husband they can still achieve their aim,the husband has to be dedicated to the wife

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Been there, done that. Guys who earn less seem to have a big ego problem

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to marry a girl that earn 2wise you salary is not a big deal. reason be that, you expected to grow. is just that at that moment that thong's are not working out fine for and if she agrees to marry you that means that she is not after your pocket she married U for you you are. And with this support things will work out fine because you are full of potential so EXPLORE IT AND THE SKYE WILL BE YOUR STARTING POINT

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@ nnada. when you are in love with someone it does not matter how much he earn

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As a lady, i will marry a man that earns lower than me, if he has potntials, that later in life, he will sure make it. i will not marry a lazy man, that wants my money, and later he will not move his Bottom up, to go and work, he will remain where i met him, no way for that kind of person. Work hard for me, and no problem.

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As a lady, i will marry a man that earns lower than me, if he has potntials, that later in life, he will sure make it. i will not marry a lazy man, that wants my money, and later he will not move his Bottom up, to go and work, he will remain where i met him, no way for that kind of person. Work hard for me, and no problem.

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I won't be surprised if your definition of "respectful and humble" is unreasonable.

It may mean, "she submits her salary every month so I can spend it as I like". Nothing for you joo.

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There is nothing wrong with that , afterall it's all for the good of the family. but what are the characters such woman or lady pocesses? Personaly i can marry a RESPECTFUL & HUMBLE lady whose earns more than i do.

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@ Topic/Poster,

the more reason why i'd marry her

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Why not? What's there? If she earns higher, and so what?

Josh

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Huum,

Easier said than done, judging from the egotistic nature of man (and woman)

Very hard to see a man than will want to be a glorified houseboy. Very hard to see a woman that will want to provide easy money for a "useless" man to spend on his girlfriends and his God-forsaking families.

May be there are, May be Not. But it takes the grace of God and a lot of anointing

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There is nothing wrong with that, however, if a woman is earning than you and you as a man cant try to work harder, upgrade and just sit while you are being fed by the woman, u be lazy man be that

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I know this thread is posed at men but i thought I let you guys know in all honesty that there are very very very few women that will marry a man who earns less than them even in this day and age.

I am on my way to financial independence so in al trueness I do not really need a man to be loaded to be my man but for the sake of EGO (which is the curse of many men) I would rather my man be beta off than me.

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I get your point,

Thanks.

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I certainly will provided he is add working, like sweetiemi said he doesnt have complex problem and I love him

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@pajubaby

The fact that she earn more than u doesn't made her the bread winner. You can still provide for her if you still want to be the man of the House. I mean it PROVIDE FOR THE FAMILY if you want it to work.

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