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Would You Marry Someone Out Of Pity?

Would you marry a man or woman out of pity probably because you have stayed too long together or you know the relationship is not working out well and you don't want to break her heart. Will you marry that person?

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There is nothing like love go for someone with potential ,someone that can add value to your life and understand u.what gives u the assurance that the person you love is nt pitying you. Another scenario,if a gal sponsored u tru uni n helped u got a job and u finally realized he's nt ur type or u don't love him bt like him cos he's Mr nice

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if your love cannot sustain you in relationship, it won't keep your marriage together. period!

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So it will be Mr & Mrs Pityful, nice name

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marrying someone out of pity also means living ma whole life in pity. no can do for me

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marrying anyone out of pity is the greatest mistake anyone can make, i am saying this cos it happened to me

i married mt wife out of pity and today it is too late to do anything about it, you see she got pregrant for me

and i couldnt just leave her like that,in a way i blame myself for everything cos i only wanted a fling i never knew

it would lead to marriage,and the painfull thing about it all is that she is not learned,there are many things i would

have loved disscussing with her but we cant cos of her understanding level,most times i just end up crying

i am trying seriuosly to love her so i can least at be happy but it has not been easy. please someone out there advice

me on what to do cos i am afraid of divorce and what it can do to my handsome son she bore me

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It is not good to marry someone out of pity because it will affect the marriage. If you date someone for two yrs and you find out that you don't like the person, quite from him or her before it is to late, because if it take so long like 4 or 6yrs above, you must marry that person whether you like or not.

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It's a no, no for me.

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say wetin happen wey i go marry am out of pity?nahhh i can't.hell NO.

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Never,it will be a mistake.

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I was a vitim of this problem, at the end, i end up marrying someone that is not my star ,

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Hell NO!!! so that I would always come back to my house been happy for the rest of my life

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I am eighteen and married but most people i have met seem pessimistic about my marriage even family members.I lov my husband and he loves me i dont understand why people thinks i am joking or some can even believe it is posible.i want to know if there is anything an eighten year old woman cannot handle in marriage or is it my fault that my MR RIGHT came so early?Well so far am coping very fine and i dont see any sign of problem.I know marriage is not a bed of roses but is it that bad?

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No way. That will be like a death sentence!!

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yea i will only if he agree divorce out of pity (then it'll be me to pity)

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What God has Joined together let no man put assunder. that what the book of God siad. there are no two ways to it. Don't decieve yourself, by marrying out pity cos it will not work out. never.

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i can never do that- marry someone out of pity; instead, i wld rather go nun

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no way !!!!! there r no sentimentsin marriage.

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No way. So what happens when you get married, extra marital affairs start on the same day you say "i do" or even before then?

Let him/her know that you no longer feel it. It will be hard at that point but remember that no matter how bitter the truth is, it must be said. Time surely heals all wounds and the dumped party will surely get over it.

The person might even wonder what he/she saw in you in the first place.

Get your happiness first, not pity for others when it comes to matters like this.

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I absolutely concur with you

silly brainwashed people think love is what will make a marriage work yet all the ones who supposedly loved before marring are mostly getting divorced whereas those who did not love in the way they want us to believe stay together and make their families work.

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Yet instances of where couples have been married without knowing each other before their wedding day (in some cases, just a few weeks/months) abound. Take arranged marriages in india, pakistan and some parts of asia for example. people stay together for a long time. because they have no choice, they try to make it work and to a greater extent, suceed. maybe its an overated emotion this love. As with couples that "love" themselves, this emotion like all others, tend to fade. just like u can't be angry all your life, or cry all your life or be happy all your life, you can't love all your life.

How do you account for the fact that even after you are married or going out with a guy/girl, you still meet people that tickle your fancy and would even possibly make better partners or spouses? you make a choice not to pursue such emotions as the end could be disastrous for all concerned.

And before someone interjects saying "but you didnt even have that in a loveless relationship to start with", the answer is they build it as they go along. Maybe not love, but a form of respect that arguably performs the same purpose. Call it "mind over matter" if you will, the end result in both cases, is the same.

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no one will pity you when you get divorced

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this is interesting well i wont that either i just wanted to if there is someone out there who feels the other way round.you marry the person you love so that you can have enternal peace of mind .

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i can never marry any girl out of pity pls

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u don hear,u marry for love,to marry out of pity is the biggest mistake anyone can make,cos u'll sentence urself to longterm unhappiness.

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Never!! Its like marrying someone only for money. I will never in my life do that

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Nooooooooooooooooooooooo

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Ojelede!

Marriage has nothing to do with pity or sentimentality, Go and Watch Gardener's Daughter(AIT--9.00pm weekdays)

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marriage is a forever thing and it shouldn't be ventured into lightly. it's a wonderful thing to marry someone you love and who loves you back and even better if the person is your best friend, that way you'll never get it wrong. but to marry for pity, please don't ever try it, it will cost you, a lifetime.

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nope, thats the worst thing u can do to urself.

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Explain yourslelf please,

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No Id Rather Pity Someone Out Of Marriage.

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Please do not marry out of pity, get married to someone you understand and who understands you too, someone you know you can live with and be happy, you musn't necessarily love her.

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if u manage to marry based on pity, i wonder how u will feel when divorce shows its face cos i don't see the marriage lasting

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to me u should marry her WHY? cos it seems u 've understood  the babe. and there is no such thing as love. I dont believe in it but I believe in understanding. any marriage u see that last is build on understanding not love.

  if u leave her and marry another babe the same thing will happen when una don do the thing too much.

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No i wont cos i need happiness.

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No I wont. And i'll advise you not to marry someone out of pity.

Marriage is a sacred thing, you dont jump into it anyhow. Love and Trust are the main ingredients of marriage.

My answer is NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

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