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Would You Pay Your Children For Chores They Do?

Should parents pay their children for chores they do. Not the regular washing the dishes and sweeping the floor chores. Chores like fixing the dining chair that was getting a bit cranky, clearing the grass in the compound and stuff like that.

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Sure, if they do a good job, give them some pocket money now, but i wont call it paying them for doing chores in the house, else, they will be expecting that all the time and when u dont give them, na wahala

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I think this is a simple case of "Each to their own".

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Wesleyan, that's just a play with words. Whether you pay or reward them, it's still the same thing. You are still giving them something for their work.

For me, my parents gave us weekly pocket money so I'm going to give my children too. It's really good and makes you accountable, that's how to quickly discover traits of extravagance in your child and nip it in the bud before it's full blown - when you let them handle money of their own.

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not really. i'll reward them though. Not pay them. . .

paying your kids to do chores mean you owe them for doing stuff for you.

rewarding your kids mean you appreciate what they do for you and want to encourage them.

i'll definitely pay them though if they perform jobs for me that are not just mere chores when they reach a certain age.

if i own a store and they work for me for a certain number of hours during the summer, that would be a job that demands pay.

but if they do stuff like washing the dishes or cleaning their rooms or the house. i might reward them (if they're diligent) with things HotAngel mentioned in her last post.

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For the avoidance of doubt, I will pay my children with money. This is just to prepare them for the real world (where money matters a lot) and teach them that good work deserves good pay. Financial discipline.

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mamput, You are paying them with freedom.

Paying here does not mean giving them a paycheck, or money. paying could be in any form, like i said earlier, sometimes i get paid with BIG MEAT, or two small meats. Or get paid by sleeping later than 9:00pm on a school night, or get paid by going to the mall to watch movies.

U should pay them in some way. they are not machines. chikena

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As a single mum , There are many things that i have to.depend on my kids for.

people look funny at stay home mums and i work part time .

My kids come from school and cook lunch then they clear their plates .

Sometimes they also mke dinner.

I do not pay them with money , but with freedom.

They more they do on their own they more freedom they get from me to do what they want and go were they want.

many times i come home and meet notes telling me were who is.

Gone swimming, to the youth club , will be back at so so and so time.

This dose not mean they are wild and do just what they like. But they are responsible enough to know that going out to often in a week is not in the deal.

Only the last born she is never at home but we know her head no de house.

But i always know were she is.And she dose her own part of the house work.

There is no fixed work for anybody they just do what falls. or what is due.

But what non of them do is clean the bath or loo . They always leave that for me and say no if i ask. But i cannot complain they do every other thing.

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Thats a load of bull. Paying your kids encourages them to fend for themselves and stand on their own two feet at an early stage in life. I think it is a very responsible thing to do.

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Paying your kids for chores is not right because it might lead them into believing that being paid for work done in the house is their right and you'll wake up one day to see your shoes not ploished and your car not washed until you pay the arrears you owe.

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Germany won they dont have to go home.

The town is a mess

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GOSH, THANK YOU!! I really appreciate. Majority are just jumping up saying stuffs that doesn't even relate to the topic.

Ain't nobody saying u should pay ur child, cos s/he took his/her plate to the kitchen after s/he ate his/her food. No one is saying u should pay ur child for washing his school uniform! NAhh, that's not the question.

In short ehn, i'll just stop her, diddy already said, everyone has different views. As for me oo, i'll pay my kids if wat they do is something i'll normally call a labourer to do! Chikena.

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my kids have a bank account and a bank card . I transfer money on the account for them.

I do not ask them what they do with the money or how they spend it.

But they know their priorities.

At 16 they can get a jod in the holiday if they want. why should they work sooner or longer ?

They will work long enough in their life

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Well I do have maids, quiet lots of them , apparently I am out of the menial chores around the house to do, yet if I get to do anything. I get paid for absolutely every chore as detailed that I do. I get paid immensely, at one point I thought it was a priviledge yet I figured its an act of spoiling the kids. been there done that

I wont really suggest that the kids shld be aware that they are being paid for the chore that were asked of them, yet they shld knw that its a sorta appreciation for doing whats ought of them to do, the payment shldnt serve as an incentive for them doing the chore. They are at a certain right to do some chores, and they get appreciated, not being paid for what they are ought to do.

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Well i think thats wat monthly allowance is for.

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Hot angel's been talking a lot of sense in this thread- unfortunately it appears that a lot of people have failed to register what she is saying.

No one's saying 'pay your kid's to tidy their own room'; what we are saying is teach your children to be self-sufficient. That means looking after yourself, taking pride in yourself- taking care of your appearance and your own surroundings would be part of this.

It's just another (probably more efficient) way of teaching responsibility to your children.

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I follow tradition very much, and i change somethings i believe are irrelevant in tradition.

The main point is that children should not be paid in form of money for the things they do. When i said we never lacked anything it means we got pocket money everyweek more than enough. Which we saved

I am talking from experience, i started following my mum to work when i was 13 years old to help her and every weekends as well to help relieve her stress, while my brother stayed at home with my sisters. When i was 16 my mum forced me to go get a job just to make me know how to struggle to make money. In short i started working part time at Mc Donald's and every holiday i was on a full shift. Not that i needed money, infact i do not know what to do with my money at that time because i never lacked anything.

So my salary was always with my mum. The whole point of this is that she knew her duty as a mother to her kids and she never failed so has my dad.

I don't believe paying your kids inform of money. Their other ways of paying. You could suprise them with gifts, expensive gifts on their Bday, take them on holiday. Give them anything they desire as long as u feel its right but not money.

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well, like i said before. everyone is entitled to their own method of training. i will pay them. it will be a weekly kind of thing and it will depend on the kindda job d person did dat week. dis doesnt mean i wont discipline dem, nahhhh. i cant just start saying my plans here but im just cutting it short. this is my method, for my kids. my kids.

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So, if i have no money to pay my kids for doing something they should refuse next time abi? To me its nonsense. Their are lots of ways to teach a child how struggle to make money. You could get them a job if you are in the UK,, take them to your work place to help you out and many more.

Why should i pay my kids before they could fetch water, wash the car and other things? We never got paid money for it and never expected to get paid. We saw it as our duty and was very happy doing it. Anything we asked for was done even beyond our expectations. So in a way we got paid for it but never in form of money.

Then again what would the child do with the money depending on what age unless he or she is in higher institution. Infact if i offer to pay them for chores they do, i expect them to refuse it from me or anyone else? That was how we were brought up and i thanked my grandma, parent and those involved in training us.

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Meat was a VERY BIG DEAL THEN oo. I mean, if u eat dinner with two meat or one big meat, u are like, WOW, CHIEF!

My cousins saying, gimme meat and ish. Or on sunday, i get to buy ice-cream after church. u just have to pay the child in some way. When i was giving money, i'd put it in my KOLO, the saving box?

U can never tell, that money can come in handy one day. U can even borrow some from ur child. And of course pay back with interest. Just cos we family don't mean u get to USE me.

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@ sir kay, i beg to disagree that it's indulgience.

There nothing wrong in making your kids wash the dishes, or clean the house, and their rooms, or lay their beds, or clean you room. But when it comes to cutting the grass, fetching WATER, Going far miles to buy stuffs, give them commission, and pay them.

Children that are well brought up not to spend money any how would not take it for granted. U tell them to save, and make it known to them that, they are only getting paid because the chores are extra chores.

Fetching water shouldn't be your child's job. Call the tanker and BUY WATER. If your child carries bucket on the head to fecth water, U HAVE TO PAY THEM.

Now i didn't get PAID cash when i did house chores while i was small, But i always got the big meat or fish for dinner. If all the meat were cut small, i get TWO meats!!

I wanna add that paying ur kids in this sense doesn't mean giving them MOney alone. Or giving them A large sum of money.

U give them the money, make it known to them that they are getting it for the work they did. It builds a child STRONGLY! Trust me, it doesn't mean u are SPOILING THE CHILD.

No one will work if u use them like machines. U have to pay them, don't let ur kids be an exception. U didn't bring them to the world to turn them to ur robots.

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people are entitled to their own method of child training and yes ma dad paid me for the work i did. dats y i live alone in the US and i can fend for maself without him cuzz i already know i have to work to get something. it aint the crooked way. well, this is my own way of training my kids.

everybody has his or her own way and i respect that but i will train my kids, my way.

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Of course i'll pay my kids for doing CHORES. U said not like washing the dishes chore, which i quite agree with. If it entails something that i would normally call a labourer to do if i had no kids, then i'll pay my kids.

Like mowing the lawn, cutting grass, trees, washing the pool, or something like that. I'll pay them. My dad pays me to do stuffs that aren't the normal wash the dishes, fix ur room and my room kinda stuff.

Yes children, should have chores they do round the house, but don't turn them to machines. PAY THEM UP! BUT, when you pay them, make sure u teach them how to SAVE.

They can save the money u give them for doing extra chores.

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@ Seun and others in support of Seun's ideas,

Where your parents paying you to do housechores for them at home, while you were growing up. Dont let us spoil these children that we are bringing to the world of late, cos they are not even ready to do anything.

So paying them to work for you at home means indulgence. Training in the area of financial self belief and discipline is a thing that you as a parent must do, so that you bring them up in the will of God. Teach them how to save whatever money comes into their hands and if possible, open an account for them each. Also teach them how to tithe in the church, for this brings much more blessings than anything else.

If your children sould grow up to know that nothing goes for free, then you are teaching them the crooked way. I've been in the business of child training for the past 10yrs and I know what I'm saying please.

Never pay them to do anything for you. What happens if you dont have money to pay them later as they are growing up.

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I can't pay my kids for the chores they do at home, since i will not fail in my duty to provide for their needs. If i am to give them rewards for what they've done, it will never be inform of money.

Their are other ways to encourage kids to know they have to work to get paid. My parent forced us to get jobs as soon as we were 16 not because they needed us to help with the bills at home but to exercise how to be hard working. Infact i never touched my salary back then, mummy took care of it and we never lacked in anything before.

My parents don't pay us, but hey never failed in providing for us when we ask or not and we are very much contented.

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If parents are obligated to provide only the basics (food, shelter and clothing) for their children, then children can very well live a detached life from the family unit, and fend for themselves once they reach majority. But if parent will sacrifice to provide education and opportunity for the children to have an advantage to succeed in life, then the kids owe a duty to perform the role assigned to them in the family.

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Ok. Why I asked this question is because, we have a large compound, its house not a rented place andof course the place grows weed. I have muscles though enough to do the job and I do them. After a while though my step mom hired sombody to be doing it. And hey, I didnt complain, matter of fact I was relieved, coz when I was doing it there was no commendation for a job well done or incentives of anysort. Then the guy left, travelled to his village, somebody else came he too left after a while. Now the compound is overgrown and they wont me to weedit but I'm telling ma parents the only condition I'd o it is if I get paid for it just as the guys who camein along the line to do what I thought was my responsibilty as a part of the family and get paid for it.

We had a arguement over it and of course I lost.

Few days after I was watching Dr. Phil and there was this guywho brought his parentsto report to Dr. Phil that they(hisparents) wouldnt give him pocket money, his mother bought a new BMW and yet they complain there is no money. So instead heasked them to pay him for the chores he does aroundthe house and they said noo way.

But Dr. Phil's stance was that he desrved to be paid especially if its something they would under normal circumstances hire someone from outside to do.

More responses, this is getting interesting

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For those who are convinced: yeah!

For those who are still not convinced: don't you think it's exploitation to use a child for work without pay?

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i dont want tough love, i wann@ love 'em like dey should be loved. dat way dont wont be afraid to come near me when dey wann@ let some secrets off.

@seun

i support u man, to be independent rocksssssssss.

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wow. under 5 hours 22 replies already. now let me start reading.

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In my opinion I want to say that parents paying their children for the chores the perform for them on a daily basis is not a bad issue . It is a right thing for the parent to understand that the children needs development and as such money is not an exception towards this development. I know that the issue of perception makes provision for different ideas and understanding since human beings are diferent as well.

Currency is now our legal tender for transaction, to avoid robbery and stealing the parent should learn to appreciate their children's effort with money to assist especially in learning and securities.

I want to commend on the opinion of other members of the forum that pocket money is diferent from payment, parents can give pocket money to their children and at the same time pay them for the chores they perform for them.

Some of us are very good and talented in some areas of endeavours and as a way of encouragement from our parent towards our talent I want to say that our parent can add value to our talent through the little payment they contribute towards our welfare.

Danoe.

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Why would anyone want to whip their child?Holy Cow!

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In your world, it is. In my part of the Jungle it is a virtue.

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I have to say that I like Seun's way of thinking (with regards child-rearing).

Not that I would ever have any myself.

As for this:

You may joke about it but no doubt it happens. Either way it's abuse.

If you don't know how to reason with people then you should probably consider having a vasectomy.

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Mr. Dad: Chores or Whip?

Kiddo: Chores.

Mr. Dad: Good enough.

That's the only option in the Jungle.

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No i don't.

That they get money from me has nothing to do with the housework.

I tell them am not the houseslave .We live together and make dirt together so we clean it together.

Its only the toilet that all refuse to clean

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Believe it or not, admit it or not, guys you got rewarded one way or the other from you parent! pocket money or no pocket money! pay or no pay! My parent almost never gave me money unless I  have need for it until I got to secondary school but before then, my mum buy me cloths almost everyday even if na Okirika!

Seun and co: make sure you have contract/agreement  forms for you and your kids that way nobody will change what was original agreed on! you know as business guys!

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Exactly, the word 'pay' is confusing. This is because, if it is the word pay per se, it is very uncommon for a child to demand for his/her 'pay' in the event of performing a work which he/she is not paid. So I will still stick with the idea of encouraging such child to do that kind of work and grease their palm at a later time so that he/she will know their efforts are well appreciated.

Again, I think it is differ from parent to parent, I will relate the example of some of us that grew up going to perform hard chore in the farm. Some jobs that would have require labourer being hired to do, were executed by us. Even though the harvest are a big relief to the food storage of the family, do we still have to be expected to be paid? Having said this, times abound when we would be paid for such services especially if it involves hiring other workers who are being paid.

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my parents paid me for doing weekly chores. i think that this geared me up for life as it teaches u the worth of money and to work for it. nothing is handed to u on a plate.

unless ur born wit a silverspoon in ur mouth.

My kids will be treated in the same way.

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ask me to bring them into the world.  This is something I did for myself, because I want children.  It would be unfair to ask the children to pay for something that was done for someone else's sake.

decision to bring children into the world, I knew that I would have the obligation to feed and house them until they attain legal independence.  Therefore the cost of feeding and housing is something I am bearing for my own sake, and not for their sakes.  Since the children did not ask to be born the person that decided to bring them into the world must feed and house them until they are legally adults. 

He who makes the decision must bear the cost. Nobody forced you to have children, so you must pay!

voluntarily out of their abundance.

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@ Seun

This is most unrealistic. Pay ur children indeed! When they grow older they should also pay you for the sex that brought them to the world (afterall it was exhausting), they should pay you for all the free food and housing they are getting. They should pay you for the hospital trips, nappies used, school fees. In short, they should pay you daddy fees for fixing the broken bulbs, repairing the car, painting their room etc.

"If they are able to communicate economic literacy to you you at that late age, you will never be poor in retirement!"

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Well my parents paid us, sort of like a weekly pocket money, if we kept the house in tip top shape, I felt this was great as it not only taught us to clean up after ourselves, it taught us to respect our property. I will definately use this method with my children. I do not think it effected us negatively because we learned the value of money at an early age, so we knew if we wanted something out of our parents reach we should save the money we got especially for a rainy day.

REMEMBER NOTHING IS FOR FREE.

ALL HAIL MY PARENTS, I HAVE SOO MUCH RESPECT FOR THEM!!!!

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Well, when I think "chores" I think of them doing their share around the house, if they are doing a job you would have paid someone else to do, then why shouldn't you pay them?? Of course,I might negotiate to pay them less, but it would be their right to refuse,

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I will not only pay them, but I will allow them to reject the chores entirely if they feel that what I'm paying them is too small.  I want my children to develop sharp minds for business, and this is one way to accomplish that.  If I am able to communicate economic literacy to them from an early age, they will never be poor.   

I always feel sad when I come accross adults (including myself) who are afraid to make money because they have been decieved into thinking it's evil.  I will not make the same mistake with my children; they will be so good with business that they'll be capable of paying for their own private university education. Independence rocks!

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Nope, that is not right at all. It is like trying to teach them to always expect to be paid for any little things they are doing. But I think, such an effort should be encouraged in every child and give them rewards not immediately but on special occasions to gear them more and to let them know what they did is well appreciated.

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