Your wife or your mother who would you entrust with your money?
My people, fundmentally, once you are married, you as a man has formed another family altogether with your wife. This fact has nothing to do with neglecting your mother. Hence, your WIFE should be your 'CLOSEST FRIEND AND COMPANION' who shares your every possession and secret.
If this trust and confidence which is propelled by the genuine love that binds a man and a woman together as husband and wife is missing, then that marriage has already a question mark.
Please for the sake of emphasis, one should entrust his money to the wife and not the mother. Even if the wife is suffering from 'squandermania', she will smell it with you when the time comes. YOU ARE ONE !!!
I dey feel u jare . Many people dont like to face reality and base things on emotions. Yes marriage is to bring two people together and you can entrust some money with your wife no doubt but from the posters question it seems like the bulk of the money. As long as your wife has enough for her to live on and the kids will not suffer, the excess cash or investment you could entrust in your mum.
"till death do us part" thousands of people say this every day in religious marriages and civil as well but thousands of divorce proceedings are handled by courts at the same time. That is the reality of the world we live in. A wife could be changed a mother can never be replaced. A good mother will never betray the fruit of her womb, a good mother will always remain when everyone has left you in times of trials. This is the same woman tha laboured hard to bring you up to a stage that your wife could admire you and marry you. If your wife grew up she would expect the same from your son, Its a cycle no one loses out. The wife today is a mother tommorrow. When i look at how women suffer to cater for children , sleepless nights and crazy routines I myself will curse my son if he doesnt place his mother above everything in life including myself.
All said within the context of having a good mother which we all understand !!!
my parents have always had my banking details and they have legal access to my accounts. i have always trusted their judgments and that will never change. i am never at home so they are in charge of my banking "life".
i might open a joint account with a wife but she will never get as high as what i have with my parents.
do you expect me to void a lifetime of trust that i have for my parents for some woman i know for a few yrs?!
they are not on the same level. can never compare the two, different ball game. a wife i can loose, a wife can betray me, a wife can suddenly hate me, the love a wife gives me can never be as high as the love i get from my parents, NEVER.
and i expect her to feel exactly the same about her parents.
As a man you know the character of them both so if ya mama na wicked woman and you know say left to am your wife no go see food chop then i beg you make you hand over money mater to madam but if madam na spend drift and mama na considerate woman wey like make everything flow as normal then allow mama handle the cash. Dont in the name of she is my mother punish another mans daughter with starvation. when mama refuses to give her money to buy medicine for junior because she thinks its expensive and junior can get better by drinking agbo from iya lasisi's farm. I think the best thiing to do is to give both women separate monies to handle their separate affairs and financial needs.
What happen to your marriage vow? Tell me what is the foundation of the marriage relationship means to you.
As iyken said that your wife is supposed to be your friend,confidant, trustee. When this is not the case, then there are issues.
You and your wife MUST BE GREAT confident and SERIOUSLY compromise in financial obligations TOGETHER, because you both become one person, Not on your mother!!!!
Read this bible scripture on Genesis Chapter 2 verse 24 says,"That's why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person."