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My Boyfriend Has Turned Me To A Cook: Could This Be Love?

The outburst of a very close friend whose boyfriend has turned to a cook. It is so annoying sometimes when he calls because all he ever asks of is food and nothing else be it breakfast, lunch or supper. He doesn't even want to know whether she is busy or not.

Am not saying he doesn't love her but it is just becoming too much for this lady to bear. She has started questioning his love for her. Even when she gets back from work and she is too tired to lift a pin, he demands for food. It's as if all this guy ever wants in her is her food and nothing else, yet he claims to love her.

Now tell me, what kind of love is this and why would you allow your partner to treat you this way?

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He is your boyfriend, not your husband yet. If you do get married to him you might regret not spending time enjoying your non-married time.Plus, if he cannot provide basic human needs for himself how can he provide for you or a family. He needs to take care of himself first and when you get married, you'll prob enjoy it and want to do it since you well enjoyed your life before marriage.

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Now she's tired of cooking, Was it not food food food and food you take trip am at first? Now he can't resist the food, he wants it every time even when you are tired, If you think that's a tangible cause from your own view to judge his love for you then fine leave him. Simple!

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probably when she first started the relationship she enticed him with food day in day out so he is so used to it that he thinks it is his right for her to slave over him, if you re uncomfortable for any reason in a relationship, you should learn to communicate with your other half & if he breaks up with you then it wasn't meant to be.

I am sure there are a lot of guys that will love her food but wouldn't expect her to inconvinient herself -------- and to the love part it is so hard to say if he loves her or not. some guy loves girl for their personalities, some for their beauty e.t.c but heaven forbids if her two hands should cut off & she is unable to cook will he still love her?

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This more than food. What have we turned love to. What kind of love is that, always asking for food even if you are a glutton. haba!

This guy is just taking advantage of the girl, lets not decieve ourselves with infactuation and say it is love. Love is acring and does not hurt. Cook! cook!! cook!!! when you are not married yet, what if he gets married to her she'll become an automatic gas cooker

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i love to cook but am not an Hebrew slave, i don't know what kind of man inconvenient his lady with cooking. i can cook for my boyfriend, and i mean breakfast, lunch and dinner but if he start demanding  when its inconvenient for me, i will have to let him know we are not married yet and he didn't pay me to cook for him. and i will also let him know its his time to cook for me/us too. but has anybody asked the girl if she presented herself to the guy as a cook addict or guru? because we cannot always hear from one side of the story.

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since there r no assurances watsoever, as per being man and wifey,then maybe ur friend loves 2 cook. (there r pple like dat) or mayb she does it for d fun of it,

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How come women complain alot? If her boy friend ask another girl to cook for him i bet she will also complain by saying he doesnt like her food any more blabla.If she dont feel like cooking for him anymore then let her pass the message to him so that the bobo will look for alternative.Life can simple but sometimes we humans make it difficult.I don´t consider your friend´s issue to be a problem.

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Itz good for her to cook for her boyfriend but when food is the only thing that connects him to the girl, then something is definitely wrong

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well,since tayotina aint here,you can at leats help her, lol

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Oops! Too bad tayotina aint around.

But really, do you consider that 'amebo'?

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@tayotina

wetin be your own for their relationship?i know say u no go get boyfriend and thats why u're into their relationship, se u no dey chop the food wey she dey cook?why dont u call the boyfriend and tell him to stop using ur gurl amebo,

go and look for your own man and cook something nice too so he can take good care of you,

the only thing ur friend can do is cook and cook and thats why her man is making use of that advantage, so talk abt sumtin else and not abt their love life.

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Can you give me your friends boyfriends e-mail address so that i can advice him not to eat her food again so as to make her happy and stop complaining. It is you that did not understand her, she is actually bluffing telling you that her boyfriend only eat her food and not from mama put outside, maybe your own boyfriend do not eat your food.

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Could it be love?Yes!!Love for your culinary expertise.Could it be love for you?Well i'm not so sure about that.If he loves he would not DEMAND for food the way he does even when its obviously inconvenient.My idea of cooking for a guy is a once in a while lovely delicacy.When he starts DEMANDING,then we would have some issues to iron out.

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Me i would not have time for that rubbish.

My daughters Boyfriend wants her to cook for him but once in a rare while .

He will phone and ask her if she has time and even buy the things needed.

he will sit in the kitchen with her while she is cooking.

Sometimes his mum will ask her to come and show her how she cooked a dish because he is always talking about it.

But apart from that , we treat him like every other person if he comes when we are eating he eats with us.

I don't entertain men in my place. I go to their place.

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the gu-y aint boyfriend material, he's just a foodian

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A cok is a cook and a woman is a woman. We should try to undertand that!

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It's as easy as 'A' Quit if she's tired of it all but like the saying goes think before you leap but if i were to be ur friend then i would have to sit the guy down n ask him what he thinks of the relationship,with his answers you can tell if he's for real or not.......

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That's not love if he turns u to cook baby girl.

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are you trying to say men have 75 percent rights and women only 25 percent rights? oh please were not in the olden days of the old ruled by misogyny. it's 50-50 okay!!! it used to be 100-0 back then when there was the bible when there was sexism when the woman was the devil and the men were God's favorites. were not talking religion here okay?... now the condition is improving and women are gaining more rights. remember the time women weren't allowed to vote. yeah..sooner or later there will be female presidents and we'll see what you'll do about it. it's 50-50 okay?get over  it..

are you muslim? some muslims make their wives cover their faces in public and treat them like their property/slaves.

and by the way, no rib was taken out of nowhere to create women. the bible is just plains sexist because it was written by those authors who wrote the book based on what they believed. sexism existed largely then so they had to write the book based on that....

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Yes MUST!

If you say 50/50 then you are mistaken. God make man and woman 75/25 since only the rib was extracted from the man to make woman. But out of that, the man still carry more of the house responsibility than the woman.

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A woman's place is in the kitchen.

What do you expect him to eat? Is making love the only way of expressing love? This is not very serious.

you must cook.

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well i will be happy to cook for my guy.

But he does'nt have to see it as my responsibility cos am not his wife.

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Tayotina; u said its ur friend, as far as i'm concern, u are the person involved. My opinion will be channelled to u. You guys are not married not even living together. Now, how is it possible that this man demand breakfast, lunch and dinner from u all day? If he gets the knowledge that u are not happy over his demand and decide not to eat whatever u prepared with ur hands, how will u feel? U may probably feel better.

When men says ''she is not homely'' do u know what they really meant? U may not know because u don't want to be homely.

My dear, u should be happy that ur guy likes ur food. Maybe because I like good food too.

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Regarding this topic, I will mary a Calabar lady because they will take very good care of ur stomach and also give u 100% efficient pouncing.

Geddit?

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wat!..u guyz!

he wants u to be a gud wife dat doesnt mean he should turn her into a cook, gosh..a woman cooks at her will and de fact she loves her bf not de boyfriends telling her to

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Maclee, u r right; u know! Yes! He's training 2 bcome a wife material and not just a babe material.

So, Tayotina, u owe ur "boyfriend[b]s[/b]", oh sorry typogragra "boyfriend" "tnx"

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Maclee,

Welcome to Nairaland.

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enough. Pity the boy/man please.

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show me wat u gat bibi baby

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wel..BANG..!..i just shot u

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Bibiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii can you hear meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee?

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c'mon Bibi..abi say u scared?

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woah dere..who needs real loving

wel imma throw dat bk in ur face lol.

am already loved so boo u!

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Nike are u there? did you hear what he said?

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Gina - dont worry, you can read between the line that Nike needs some real loving.

Nike - keep it coming, Im having fun

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c'mon bibi..am waiting

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boiling hot pepper soup, with atarodo

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u damn right gurl..ur Bottom is mine bibi..bring it here

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lol..i bet u ready for it to be peeled and fried

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u gon force me to cook..wel imma cook u first

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imma stick my foot up his a$$ first

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Bibi....I am sooo gonna be ready to loose you if you turned me to a cook.

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