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What Can I Cook For My Igbo Husband?

HI GUYS! LISTEN I HAVE TRIED ALL THE DISHES I KNOW AND I OBTINAED THE RECIPES FOR SOUPS OFF THE INTERNET. ONLY THING I CAN GET RIGHT IS FRIED RICE. MY HUSBAND DOESNT LIEK EUROPEAN FOODS. I EXPLAINED TO HIM THAT I AM FOLLOWING RECIPES FROM INTERNET I AM LITERALLY THREE OR FOUR YEARS FOLLOWING THESE RECIPES AND WASTING MY MONEY AS THEY ARE NEVER EATEN (ESPECIALLY FROM HIM) I HAVE ASKED HIM ABOUT THIS ISSUE AND HE TELLS ME THAT I CAN MAKE THEM PROPERLY BUT NEVER EATS THEM.

HOWEVER, WHEN HE GOES TO HIS BROTHERS HOUSE AND IN PARTICULAR WHEN HE LIVED THERE BEFORE HE ALWAYS EATE SWALLOWS BUT WHEN I MAKE IT HE DOESNT. ITS INCREDIBLY ANNOYING. LAST NIGHT I MADE COUS COUS AS I MAKE THIS ONCE A WEEK AND HE COMLAINED. I TOLD HIM HE WILL HAVE TO GET SOMEONE TO TEACH ME HOW TO MAKE IGBO FOOD PROPERLY, BUT THERE IS NO ONE.

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@ POSTER, dont mind amber. Allowing women into your home to teach you how to cook your husband's kind of food, will evetually bring disaster in your marraige,even if your man is the most loyal of all men. Just talk to him to allow his brother or brother's wife to show you, how its done . simple.

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Find someone who knows how to cook Igbo dishes and ask him/her to teach you.

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What woman doesn`t care about the welfare of her husband?  Where are all these so-called new age bitchy women hanging out?  Because I don`t know any of them!

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take my cane and flog her! something dey worry that girl sef (amber)

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@ na2day?

The joke eluded you apparently! sorry!

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@redsun

Rare, my Bottom. Of all the wives and moms I know, there are only 2 that don't cook - and they're both asian.

My best friend also doesn't cook, although she's not married. You open her fridge and there's wine. You open her freezer and there's vodka. lol. She's Persian.

You people have such rediculous ideas about white people.

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Hello Leilah,

I would like you to try this to compliment your efforts.

On a good afternoon after preparing the food according to the recipes given by ngigbo nairalanders, the next thing is your mode of serving the food(it has to change to embarass him abit)

1 make sure the A/C is off

2 don't include fork and knife on your dining set infact dont place the food on the dining table, it has to be on the center table in the living room. while he sits on the couch

3 he has to eat with his hands so get a bowl filled with water to quarter. so as to wash both hands (trust you have hit him hard).

4 dont let him drink water/juice/palmwine form a tiny glass cup/50cl bottle  [b]IT HAS TO BE IN A 1LITER JAR AT  -5DEG CELCIUS

5 after he finish eating put on the A/C ang get him toothpick. In less thn 10mins he will fall asleep (sue me if he does not)

when he finally awakes if you both decided to get to cloud 7, I bet you he will deliver like never before (just make sure the kids aint at home cos he wount stop till rooster crows (sue me on this one too)

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Leilah,why not let your husband do the cooking for a change,he should show you how he wants it,then you learn from him.

You sound very much like a conservative old school english woman,i do see them on uk channel 4 wife swap sometimes,dotting their men like a out of this world scene,it is encoraging though,but very rare.

The new age woman is so bitchy,she doesn't even know how to heat up packaged foods in a microwave.

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Somebody just jolt my mind with BANGA soup,hell,i missed stuffs like that,BANGA SOUP AND NSALA SOUP(spicy,herb filled,oil and virtually fat free pepper soup)

The world is missing out from those natural herbs and african spices,especially the cold world,they are quite medicinal and revitalizing,they fight of cold and all the petty so-called viruses people cconstantly abuse antibiotics for.

We have a lot to give the world as africans,but same problem of misplaced priorities hinders every aspects of our life.Our food is so natural,and that is what the world need now,something diffrent from this mass killing cancerous items they call food these days,intensively genetically modified heaven knows what.

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umu igbo nwanne kwe nu! yu guys are representing and showing so much love i am going all soft. and i am sure proud yu all trying to help out our inlaw. and those recipes, o boy d thing na e me ka agu jim all of a sudden, na e mekwam akpili. God bless yu all. and for Leila, sista find who dey cook for oga broda make im come or make yu go meet am make yu perfect yur already improved cookability. also that suggestion to attach to an african kitchen with comfirmed ndigbo cooks aint a bad idea. be rest assured yur efforts will be crownd with glory and oga go soon dey look forward to coming home to chop im murrmmi wacks and wen im chop finish begin lick hand like nkita lijuu afo. nothing do yu all, yu, yur husband and BabaGod na the winning combo unu be.

As for me wey love food pass anything, it was a grand experience going to ijora underbridge with my chikala  go buy chicken, turkey and fish to stock d freezer along with other ingredients dem. men come see different different big fish dem. o boy e be like say make dey begin cook evry evry for me there and den. Womens wey recognise man place for house and d need to keep im belle happy, yu got my vote, una well done, God go sort out all other issues wey una dey face.

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Ogejoy and chisimdi, thanks again for your insight to this knotty Igbo soup. Thanks again particulary to chisimdi for that Oha Soup more grace to your elbow.

Chukwu gozie unu.

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I've swallowed all the saliva in my mouth while reading some recipes of soup here,

Gwa ya ka o mete nke mmadu ibua na mmu di kwa interested.

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chisimdi,i dey feel you oo, Biko agu na gu m ,ke ka iye si sielum Ofe nsala,acho rom iri nya na akpu. I will be waiting for your response.One LUV

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Chisimdi

Nwanelee!!!!!!! You are too much, I dey feel u

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Try out Banga soup, my dear

500g / l1b Assorted parts of meat

225g / 8oz stockfish (pre-soaked)

225g / 8oz bushmeat (washed)

1kg / 2Ib oil-palm nuts

225g / 8oz ground crayfish

1pt stock or water

225g / 8oz Okro (sliced)

100g / 4oz groundpepper

1 onion (sliced)

half teaspoonful of ground ataieko

half teaspoonful of igeriejae

salt to taste

Place the washed meat in a large pot, add a drop of water or stock

season with salt and ground pepper and boil for 30 minutes or until tender.

Add the smoked fish and stockfish,

cook for another 10 minutes.

Prepare the oil-palm nut to extract the oil by boiling the washed nuts for 20 minutes until soft.

Remove from water and pound to remove the oil.

Pass through a sieve to separate the kernels from the chaff.

Pour the strained pulp into the meat together with the sliced peppers onions' tomatoes puree and Okro. Add about half teaspoonful of grounded ataieko and igeriejae spices. Some would include dried bitter leaf.

Sprinkle in the crayfish and cook for 15minutes until the soup is fairly reduced and thickened to coat the back of spoon.

Check seasoning and serve with pounded yam (Iyan) or Usin/Egun obobo

(starch & plantain pudding).

VARIATIONS

Fresh fish crayfish and shrimps could be used instead of meat with a small amount of ground egusi added instead of Okro.

A glass of orange juice or palm wine will be great to go with this delicacy.

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Thanks my sista pls put enuff mangala, e don tee small when i neffa eat am.

Do send me the tracking numba.

Chineke gozie gi.

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Mangala mangala ojerima

mangala mangala ojirima

mangala ruo ulo elu ooh

Churos(Ojerima)

etc

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chisimdi

Please nwanne nwanyi, e' no for bad if u can arrange that soup and give it to DHL for yur bros.

God Bless you d more as you start preparing the soup now.

See as the lick ma lips already.

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Oha soup:

Ingredients:

Oha leaves

Shin beef )

Shaki

Stock fish

Dry fish (Magala)

Ogiri(optional )

Red oil

Achi

Maggi and salt

Crayfish,Fresh pepper and onions

Method

Start by cutting d beef and shaki ,den u wash dem thoroughly.Put d beef and shaki into d pot,add ur desired amont of maggi and salt,pour water and put it on fire 2 boil.Den u also put ur stock fish into anoda pot,add water and a bit of salt and allow it 2 boil until is soft but not so soft.Wash ur magala very well and shred dem wit ur hands and keep it in a plate.Den cut ur oha leaves,u wash and keep dem in a plate.Wen d meat has boiled,u bring it out and keep it in a bowl.While d water is still on fire,U add Red oil, ur blended pepper,crayfishand onions into it and stir.U also add Achi cos it thickens d water.I f u want u add ogiri aswell.But most pple don't like it cos of d smell,but 4 me i always add it cos it has an aroma 2 d soup.U add maggi and salt and allow it 2 boil.While is boiling u shred ur cooked stockfish wit ur hands and put into a bowl.Den u add ur stockish, magala and ur boiled meat into d pot,stir and allow it 2 boil.Finally u add ur Oha leaves and ur soup is ready.Enjoy wit beta Akpu or Pounded yam or Garri.

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thats brilliant thanks a lot folks. Im not looking for attention as some think. I do think it is important to be able to cook soemething properly especially given the price you pay for these ingredients in europe. Thanks for your ideas. I will try the nsala, thats the way I actually made it before and it was too thin so i added some yam flour into it to thicken it. I will try that again.

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chisimdi could you be kind enough post how to cook Ugha soup or Egusi, thanks?

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Ogejoy and chisimdi thank you very much for that information. More of that

Recommendation to orisebawo suggestion

1. Presidential Restaurant - Old Kent Rd

2. 8O5 Restaurant - Old Kent Rd

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Leila as a fellow nairalander i'll give cooking hints on Nsala. Ingredients:

Fresh fish(cat fish)

Dry fish(magala preferable)

Achi

Crayfish

Fresh pepper

Uziza

Maggi

Salt and Red oil

Method

1st u wash d cat fish very well and cut dem 2 size.Then pour water into a pot and allow it 2 boil like 2mins.Add the cut fish into d boiling water,put a little salt,cover d pot and allow it 2 boil 4 2mins.After 2mins bring d fish out, put dem in a plate and cover.D water inside d pot will still b boiling,u grind ur crayfish and pepper,and add them 2 d boiling water.Grind ur uziza and add it into d pot aswell.Mk sure u dnt add 2 much uziza cos is pepperish as well except ur husby likes pepper. Also u add achi,cos d achi thickens d water,cover d pot and allow it 2 boil.While is boiling, u wash ur Magala very well and shred it with ur hands and add into d pot.Add 2 cubes of maggi, a little salt and little red oil.Red oil is exceptional if u want u use it.As 4 me i like adding a tiny bit of red oil 2 my own.Stir d ingridents as they boil and cover 4 1min.Finally u add ur cat fish into d pot and let it boil 4 a few secs. Den u serve wit pounded yam.Ope u ll try it out.And tell me hw it went.

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I dont think i will allow my woman to cook recipes downloaded from the internet, its quite insulting.Why not get in touch with he said brother and ask him for help so that you wont be disgraced at the end of it all.

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You can use toto water to cook for him and see how it goes.

Now don't ask me what is toto water

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The feminist in me is screaming abuse right now but I have to agree with you. It does feel good.

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@ spoilt

after viewing ur profile and seeing the tomb raider pic, i finally understand ur point of view in treating husbands. i for one will start an anti-tomb raiders site to protest the abuse of men.

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I agree. She sounds like a wonderful wife and mother.

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4him is this you talking about Leilah? Shakes head to clear it. his post is still here. wonders oh!

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Leilah is every man's dream of a wife. A woman who goes out of her way to please and respect a husband who sometimes doesnt appreciate her. Many in her shoes would long have headed to the law courts filing a divorce.

Hopefully u reap the rewards of ur patience.

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@ Leilah

u and ur husband should please make a reality show, trust me it will sell, the rate at which u guys always have one issue or the other/the rate at which u seem to have a negative observation of nigerian men or culture. i some time wonder if u really just post to get attention

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Haba, people.

This question is a very simple one. It appears to me that many nairalanders are no longer treating nairaland as an open source forum that it is supposed to be anymore.

Are all that advice on her marriage necessary? Some even needs to know about her sisters when he hasnt offered any help.

@Leila,

I might help. I' ve been cooking since my secondary school days.

joachebe@gmail.com

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i did not start this thread for people to capitalise on my personal life. this thread is not about whether or not i trust my husband. what is it of your business as to why i am with him amber?, as i have said this thread is not about that. i simply want the man to eat.

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It seems like you are more anxious for him to enjoy your food than he is.

And what's with not allowing women into your home? Unless your husband is not trustworthy, this should not be an issue. And if your husband is not trustworthy, then I wonder why you're with him, let alone why you're tripping over yourself to impress him.

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having things on ones mind won't prevent one from acknowledging simple truth i think

It's a 2 way thing you might be getting it right or not, which i still strongly

suggest you taste someone else's to be sure if u getting it right

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ps: now he says im doing well and to keep up the good work. dont know, some men just have too much of football and things like that on their mind to comment on foods. ;d

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lol! so scared of pretty women tailing ur hussy

I'll suggest u do some real research about this soups, it's not enough to get recipes

you have to get the taste right. If u can't allow igbo ladies in ur home, then find where

these soups are done, learn the way and know exactly how they taste. That will put

you on a better side and he won't have to pretend it's okay when it's not.

Mind you traditional soups are not like fried rice and chicken u've just gat to get it right

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thats why i resorted to the internet, no woman can enter my home that is not a lifelong friend. especially a pretty one from his own tribe. hell no.

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they are, google onugbo, ofe nsala, ofe ogiri, oha etc.  i made a list of these, got all the ingredients and worked around it. The problem is I asked him was this the way the dish is supposed to taste and ook and he just says 'yah' it is, but however doesnt really eat much of it. I don't know whether perhaps he doesnt want to embarass me or something.

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downloading food recipe from the internet!!! wonders shall never heard

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Leila, you cannot cook Naija food from recipe until you have an understanding of Naija taste. First learn to cook rice and stew properly then Jollof rice. After you have perfected these, you will get an underlying sense of what Naija food is about. After that, you then have to learn the crayfish based foods such as soup, peppersoup, beans etc. I taught myself to cook Naija food from recipes my sister gave me but it took me almost two years to get an understanding or a flavour of what the food is about. After you get this understanding, you can easily make any food to perfection even if it is your first time making it.

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You could imagine @chrisoml

The brother is repn where he comes from, you better do somn before

he dumps you for a real Igbo babe

But, are you igbo?

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why is he complaining? when he married you, didnt he know that you cannot cook Naija/igbo dishes? Can't he cook or teach u? Can't he suggest you visit his brother's house so you can learn from his wife cuz it is beyond looking it up from the internet? He knows the solution to his problems but he doesnt want to help himself just like how he would have prevented da complaning in the first place but he didnt

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The way it went in my house growing up was that you ate whatever my mom made, thanked her for it, and there was no complaining!

I don't know what kind of man complains when a woman cooks him food. If he doesnt like it, why doesn't he make it himself?

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Leilah, at least he has brother that he goes to and eats his akpu and loilo with whatever soup. Ask him to get his brother to teach you to make whatever food he wants.

Also, he should not really complain, if food and fufu was so most of his interest in a woman, believe me he would not have married you unless he has a hidden agenda, which I believe he doesn't with the help of God

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Cook Gwote for him!

The best ever, for any man!

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Engineered, how can she marry you? She is in the UK and you are at Onitisha?

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why dont u dump him and marry me, I will eat anything european food or alien food!

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yeah thanks, he says he is not fussy about what he eats but then complains (not hugely) but says something. yeah, i am not friends with any igbo ladies i know some but they are not close enough to me. i am very good friends with urhobo ladies though so dunno, maybe they may know some things. thanks anyway.

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think u have to make friends with an igbo woman/girl or a nigerian to teach you cause cooking with just instructions isnt same as the hidden tips that u v got to know to make the food complete n edible,ill have thought having made that much effort he ll at least acknowledge it and eat n encourage you, once u get the tips and u do em a couple of times it ll be a breeze

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