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Why Do Girls Have To Cook?

I don't get this at all. I hate cooking and my mum always says that I have to learn how to cook because I'm african. As if I even want to get married!

She doesn't even tell my brother to cook. Is it a taboo for African guys to cook?

Girls do you find this with your mums as well?

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Ideally, a man supposed to work thru the day for the family. Ordinarily, he'd be tired by the time he returns from work. Now comes the HELP of his wife to welcome him back home warmly. It even helps ensure a healthier relationship n married life.

U might bring up 'me wife working n tiring out as well' but i always like to hit 1 thing. Man n Woman run the family so don't make sense when we both doin same things if there still other responsibilities to be handled. Imagine Yar'Adua and Goodluck both go on all the external trips at all times - who looks over home?

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Hey, It is not a taboo for African guys to cook;I bet you, most guys nowadays are great cooks. But, as a lady, it is compulsory that you learn how to cook. A lady that does not know how to cook is sure a disgrace to female generation, especially as an African. If you think you gonna get a maid; don't be surprised if you loose your husband to the maid or another lady outside. I have lived in the U.S almost all of mi life; But I bet you, you can hardly find an African gurl who can cook African dishes like I do. This is because I know its the right thing to do; so I learnt how to cook em all from mi mum.  Even the whites ladies here all know how to cook.  Stop being lazy and making flimpsy excuses, Go learn how to cook, before its too late.

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girls have to cook cuss they are mothers, and that is the natural instinctive thing to do. prepare food for the home

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u got one on me right there.

Do me i do you and i am sure, when i do mine, that one go sweet pass.

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Silly excuse.

I think it has been designed that way from the beginning that the man will go out there and come back home to provide for the family and the woman to take care of the home, however, all that has changed, cos we now have more woman going out there to go and work and with that, the men need to change too, at least help in the house and not make the woman to be a slave.

It irritates me to see a man sit down watching the TV and screaming that he is hungry, while the woman is running up and down, changing the diaper of the kids and making sure the food aint burning on the damn stove.

The man cld at least do something.

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because the men say if the wife cant cook then he is allowed to cheat on her cause he isnt fulfilling his every need. women think if her man eats outside the house he is automaticaly cheating on her and because men think thier hands will burst into flames or thier members will fall off if hey touch the stove

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Why do girls have to cook?

Girls have to cook because (naturally, with a few exceptions) they have nurturing in their genes. Getting pregnant and having babies lie in their domain. Nurturing extends naturally from generation to generation of females. There is nothing condescending with cooking. Many good chefs are men.

If you are the exception, don't worry. There are lots of men out there who love to cook and will love to have you for a wife and take care of you. We say they have a lot of feminine side in them; nothing wrong with that.

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cos they cook better.

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@ SVS: cooking is not a taboo but a choice. if a guy decides not to cook, he can conveniently sell for a one-stop joint and cool off. no worries. african guys always have a way around a situation and dat makes dem special

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it wasnt racist. he insulted his mom/sis, something like dat

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I hate Zidane for what he did, it's just so sad. Definately the Italian guy made a racist remark and Zizou got mad.

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I'm sad. I'm watching the news and they're talking about France. It's funny, Italy won but France is more popular. Bwhahaha. Anyhoo, I'm sad France lost.

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retro sup?

ure here again

how are ya today?

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Sadly, Svs is right. It IS addictive.

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I agree with what you said about learning it when you find youreslf on your own. good point. even when my mum was teaching me i hated it, but now that im in school on my own, ive come to appreciate it. saves me alot of money on fast food which is just so fattening,  i know a lot of north american girls here that dont know what to do in the kitchen and i feel sorry for them, because theyre mums should have taught them for when theyre on their own.

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cooking is , well not my favorites things to do, but I´m telling you oh!! when the time comes that you live on your own the it comes in handy,

You don´t have to love cooking, just use it to survive in case of emergency. Beside one day, you can use it to have you guy at your feet.

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Nia, Your debating skills are lacking. I don't know where you recieved your educational training because its obvious fact presentation is not your strong point. Its based more on philosophy and fictional inuendos and less on reality. So I will let my previous post stand until there is a better clearer arguement to respond to.  If you take that as an insult rather than constructive criticism. So be it.

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What is the crime? That I cannot state a simple preference. Men like women who cooks.

OHHHHHH the travesty for a male to say such a thing. He wants to take a womens rights. He's defining her. He's threatening her into submission by even uttering his wishes. (roll's eyes) This is a primary example of when PC culture has gone out of control.

If there is a thread Why do men have to work? Why can't it be optional.

Nia I hope you will be as fervent in your opposition.

p.s. the above post , gender n/a telling.

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I think Anigboinam has some pretty good points especially this one.

It's not a crime that she can't cook but then she should be willing to learn. If she really loves her man and family, it's not too hard to learn how to prepare food for them. But the same should apply to the man, if his wife ultimately wants him to cook too, he should also be willing to learn. Anything for your lover/partner, isn't it?

There is a similar thread here with more interesting views:

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-7287.0.html

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A nigerian woman has got to know how to cook. Its plain simple. I was groomed to cook from age 8!!!! But do i have to cook to prove to him that i am the one? NoBut i  cook cos i enjoy to cook and if he enjoys it FINE if he doesnt, SOD OFF

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me i go talk my own.

if a girl doesnt know how to cook, i sorry for her. a guy like me who only knows his stomach before every other thing, wont find it funny.

i mean, what is wrong in learning how to cook. if i can cook, why cant a girl cook? my mum had to force me to learn how to cook and every sunday i did the cooking, im grateful for that cuzz now i dont need no girl to do shakara for me when i tell her to cook.

it is one of the duties of an african woman, to know how to cook and if u cant cook, well, i wont eat hotel. so better start learning or else, you will regret ever not knowing how to cook.

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Please let me know when you've conducted the poll nah, LOL.

And why can "other women" not contribute from their own experiences? Are YOU not speaking from YOUR experiences? I didn't think one person's experience is more important than the other.

Do (some of) these women not live with men or are they not dating or married to men? No one is saying anyone should take the "easy way out". Cooking is not rocket science and it's not like walking two thousand miles. 

The problem is not having a preference for it and trying to force someone into something through "scare" tactics or claiming that your worth as a human being or a woman is dramatically reduced because you don't like to cook. (i.e. "Your boyfriend/husband will leave you if you can't cook" "You will not be respected" et cetera).

What you call "westernized thinking" I call "common sense". If a man marries you, knowing you don't want or like to cook and then decides to leave or run around for the same reason, what sense does that make? And if you're a female who knows you don't have a preference for it, why would you marry someone like that in the first place? Either you have major miscommunication going on or you're both not serious to begin with, LOL.  Because the only sensible thing to do is to settle down with someone who thinks like you do. Like I stated earlier, we're all a victim of our experiences and no one can speak for whole group of people.

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Don't mean to be so harsh, but let's get real abeg.*******

Lets get real. If we took a poll of men who want a women who can't cook, it would be extremely low, probably close to zero. Only ones saying cooking is optional are other women and if she plans on being celibate or with other women, she might want to take that into consideration.

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I think too many times people want to take the easy way out. Everyone should learn how to cook but its been the traditional role of women to prepare the food for their family. While it is the man who brings home the money. There have been variations to this theme: i.e If a womans sick, if she needs help in the kitchen, ect. a Man will help out in the kitchen,

However, If you want to make roles optional, see how a family becomes dysfunctional. Do you think certain roles that have withstood the ages of time happen by chance?

All this western thinking, if he really loves you, he wouldn't mind you cooking. If you really loved yourself and your family how can you be so selfish and so self-absorbed to not know how fundlemental the role of women are in a household ?Its this non-African me first selfish thinking that will be the detriment to the African family.

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SVS, i think you are placing a course on your self, if you are not married you do not have no respect wether in Europ or Africa, even your boyfriend will kick you out if you do not know how to cook. better learn!!!!!

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Svs, its nt like as if women are enslaved to cook, i think thats where u're gettn it wrong. It is a woman's duty n a thing of joy really. For me, i love to cook meals masef DA WAY I WANT IT.

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I do cook , i do have children 3 between 10 and 17.

All my kids can cook. But i do not allow the small one to deep fry or bring down pasta from the fire. Safty reasons so when they re done she has to call someone to help her take them down.

All these ohter jobs you called can wait. But we all have to eat.

I never said dont cook.

But i will never tell my children they must learn how to cook because of husband.

By the way there are daysi tell my kids am not cooking.But that dose not bother them ,becaue they can cook.

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What of you can you cook.

If your wife is sick will you cook for her,or will you send for yoursor her sisters to come and cook.?***********

I might cook or order out, depends.

If I'm sick is my wife going to do the lawn, heavy lifting or go to my job? Of course not.

Its if you want to say learning how to cook is optional.

Optional if you want to celibate and alone forever.

Are you planning to have kids? "oh no children I don't want to cook today." You're not being serious.

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thanx 4 all ur good advice mama put,i rily appreciate it!!!

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What of you can you cook.

If your wife is sick will you cook for her,or will you send for yoursor her sisters to come and cook.?

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Rottweiler well said. Everyone has a role in a household. Its not like men don't help out in the household, but women should learn to cook. My mother and sisters know how to cook. Women have an important role in the household.

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Its not just about cooking its about telling your daughters to learn how to cook so that they will find good Husband.

good husband my @ss.

My Kids can cook but not because of any silly Husband.

Telling thim that is for me like Telling them they are second class citizens.

They may end up cooking for Husband but they cook first for themselves

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so women should stop thinking.

An Arab man once said beat your wife first thing in the morning for anything she may do wrong that day

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Nobody is asking any woman to be a professional housewife! ladies bring up sentiments to cover their inadequacies. Why can't you cook? Where you brought up by homosexuals? I don't understand! All sorts of ideas crop into ladies head and they want them implemented. It's really crazy. I guess that's why a lot of marriages don't last these days.

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@ sweet sour

i agree wit u

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very reasonable comment

best comment ever had

thanx

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There's nothing wrong with cooking. there's nothing wrong in learning how to do it either. They do say practice makes perfect. U might not want to cook cos u r not very good at it, but u can be. I know a couple of nigerian guys that are good cooks. It's just always been sort of a tradition to have the ladies cook but it's not bad if the guy helps out.

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well it's not that bad,

some guys might not mind.

but really if u intend to marry a full blooded african (not 'westernised' african)

ability to cook will add to the quality of a wife u are.

but u'v said u dont want to get married anyway, cos u r still young

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thats xactly wat i do!!!!!!!!!

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umnnnnnnn

r u sure ur cooking is not asepo

i mean mixing everything together just to eat something

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abit, learn new stuff time to time am living on my own when am at school so have to survive u know. and all those fast food are not that shyt 4 me,

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yea, if he truly loves u then he should teach u how to cook, but i hope u know how to cook, its not good to plan to be preparing ready made food for ur husband/partner.

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@ all the girls who say they cant cook/wont cook blah blah blah blah blah. Piece of advice - no cook now. no problem. but no cry when i come cook better food for ya man and them him follow me come run away from you. knowing how to cook is an art, a talent. it is first and foremost for your own benefit and then that of your man/subsequent family. it is a GOOD thing. trust me. Ask all the men who have left thier women for the simple reason that they were rubbish in the kitchen. I know my cooking well well o! No man will run away from me when he starts eating from my pot! word to the wise,

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I don't have to cook in my house. I don't cook because I can't cook. I hate cooking.

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hi SVC

learning to cook aint bad. consider this, i hate taking responsibilities of a man, I really do. I look forward to the day I will get married to a cute lady who will do all the work, pay the bills, pick the kids from school and give me feeding allowance once a month and I will do all the cooking, scrubbing and cleaning. I dont know but l think our paths will have to cross cos I dont forsee you surviving for long without someone like me

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Well, cooking is a part of nurturing your family, It is not as important now days in modern times as it once was in the good old days. Now, you find women going out helping the man be the bread winner, than they come home take care of the kids and his behind while he sits in front of TV. Now, don't get me wrong there are still couples who share in the task and believe in fifty-fifty. And there are many who still believe in the traditional way, which I was raised and that is the man is the head of his castle and the bread winner. My mom started teaching me early, I am oldest girl, the task passed to me to prepare and cook for my other four siblings when she was away. It was pleasure to me the responsiblity of taking care of younger ones or to have them look up to me for. There is an old saying I love, and that is Men don't know how to treat a woman these days, give a woman food she will prepare a meal, give her a house she will return a home, give her your seed she will give you a child. It's all a part of being the weaker vessel and submitting to man. This is the pleasureable part of being a woman. Don't lose that part of you. Cooking and preparing a meal for your family can be a pleasurable thing a gift of knowing you are doing your God given gift, or Allah or Jah or the name u use part of being your mans helper. If you find one who knows really how to setup his home.

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It's not a degrading thing for women to cook. U know how people say "my mum's cooking is the best?".

It's not just to make a man happy, i actually dunno how to explain, but i want you to know that it's not a BURDEN on women.

Knowing how to cook should be JOY.

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svs go to bed! get up early in the morning and cook!! haba! you dis children of today!

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ya xactly,and thats wat i think is wrong.women esp african women generally ave no option than to cook.make the man happy yeah rright

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i already sed thats its not that i cant cook.the issue here is that y is it thet its girls that r mostly stuck to the kitchen?do u get me now.I CAN COOK!!!!!!!

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