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Genotype AS and AS: Can We Get Married?

hi. need some advice here.

my girlfrnd n i ve bin going out for about 3 and a half years n we recently just discovered that we are both AS.

really confused. don't know weda we should go on or call it quit.

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Blood genotypes make a pretty complicated concept. Scientists still have many things to discover, but some answers are already available. Certain blood genotypes can lead to having ill kids with low immune system and various health problems. So, if you are worried and concerned about this, you should read the article How many genotypes are there in Nigeria? here https://ask.naij.com/family/how-many-genotypes-are-there-in-nigeria-i23618.html and get more information to make a conscious decision.

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Morale of the post, part of the requirement for a relationship shldnt just be money alone for the lovers of money but also asking about genotype b4 anything.

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Dont let anybody deceive u. yes u do have a 25% chance of having an AA child but just as u can have all AA kids, u can also all SS kids. i know a couple, both AS, who have 5 kids, only one is AS, all the others are SS. so why take that kind of risk? what if u end up losing all ur kids? its not my place to tell u what to do but u really need to consider this very well before deciding to marry ur partner.all the best.

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@poster,

do you really love your babe talking about she has everything u want in a woman?do you share the same faith and truly believes in the love of God ? then go for her but make a decision on the number of kids u would like to have and tell GOD about it cos He knows the value of real love .i was onced negative about this issue and i realised thatGOD gives children and he gives the best ,ask for his will to b done. good people are hard to find.

cheers friend when u love u finds true happiness.i wish u d best in life.

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If you are really concerned, you guys can perform an amniocentesis in the 2nd trimester to determine if the baby has SS and then make a difficult decision

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@question

The test can be done in UK - UCH in Euston Street, can organize this for you through the Perinatal clinic.

The test is done through CVS - when you are 10 weeks pregnant, the result can be available between 5-7days.

If you need more infor email me at

jumekz@gmail.com

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terminating unborn foetuses, thast still abortion/murder,

dont try n cover it up with science,

simple if u are as n ur gal is as, n u want 2 get married, DONT!!,

the cost/consequencs of ur actions far outweighs the ephemeral love u think u have 4 each other

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It all depends on where you are based, my partner and I are both AS, we lived in the UK, we went for counseling and was advised there is a test they can do to find out if the fetus is a carrier (SS). If the fetus is a carrier you have the option of terminating or have the baby (your choice).

We went for this method, our first pregnancy was a carrier (which we terminate) and the next two are AS, we give God the glory that this test is available. We have two children.

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Yes its not possible from a scientific and medical point of view but it is possible with God

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pls dont get married to ur gurlfriend, i undastand its not goin to be easy to break up but u ve jus got to do it.unlike wat smone said,d SS doesnt hv to be d 4th child, dahs not tru.i kno an SS who is d second child, wateva im telling u is from personal experience.d SS child goes tru a lot of crises, added to d fact dat evryone else is growin healthy and u re not, even d entire family is goin to go tru a lot of depression and trauma uring such crises.pls,4 d sake of ur future,break up now.i m AS,i kno not to date a guy dats is AS too no mata wat, its one of my criterias in a relationship because i hv always bn aware of wat wuld happen so i dont date sumone and then hv to call it off.l8r

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From a scientific and medical point of view, it is not possible for an adult to change from AS to AA.

Changing your male child to female is even easier than changing one from AS to AA.

Testimony or no testimony, that's just how God made it.

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For all you 'Drs' in the house

AS + AS = AA, AS, AS, SS

This means statistically that there is a 1 in 4 chance of having an SS child each time there is pregnancy (25%for those who like percentages)

It doesn't mean that only one AA or 2 AS or 1 SS child can be born in the partnership or the fourth child will be SS as you can see from the posts above

Depending on your luck or if you are a Christian Gods wishes ,you may have 4AA 4AS or even 4SS children

Probability is not a stated fact that an event will occur, it is chance of an event occuring. The event does not have to occur

Question for the floor

If you have married an AS person and you are carrying an SS child will you abort?

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let them fix naija first.

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Oh for real.Well i don see and my church people dey come give testimonies too.Even HIV AIDS Positive to Negative so no be new thing.

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Well i have seen couples who knew dey were AS and prayed to God even @ dt.They were changed to AA so it depends on ones faith too but medically its best to nt risk it.

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Yeah its true people don't go looking for other carriers to marry. But it shud be a deterrment when they do find out, my opinion. They could marry if they want. But having babies to mean seems a lil cruel cause it now looks like they would be gambling a babies life. Like lala said knowing ur situation ahead of time and then expect God to help is not right

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y risk ur life cos of luv,

PREVENTION Is BETA N CURE

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Not a good idea but then it can be changed by God so pray abt it and see what happens.

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people just dont go out of their way looking for sickle cell carriers to marry. its not a fantastic idea .but some things , you just cant help. who am i to judge people's decisions? as long as they know what they are in for and are willing to do it.

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Just cause its better managed here don't make it a good idea, a disease is always a disease. If u can prevent it why go ahead with baby making, unless u feel like your love is so strong that u can overcome anything, think of that one of 4th child that could become SS and the life they now have to live. The extra hospital trips and finance. I personally haven't seen a love worth it

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of course they still have their crisis but with proper medication the episodes are reduced and contained. its amazing how in nigeria sickle cell kills so many . sickle cell is no big deal here. its just another disease that can be successfully managed and contained. but then its a personal choice. if you cant marry the person, then get a'stepping! no be by force.

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medication or not they still go thru crisis.

Of course ignorant people wouldnt care.

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i would go ahead. its only a 25% chance. besides its ironic because you could actually have all AA children. also SS children have been known to live happy healthy lives with proper medication. you dont have to be SS to die! you could be crossing the street to buy salt and a bike knocks you down .so there!

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A very close friend of mine is SS and the irony is both her parents have medical backgrounds, so u wud think they wud have known better.

U dont have to have a medical qualification to know that AS and AS should not risk getting married as they could have an SS child.

I've kjnown this SS friend of mine for almost 10 yrs now and i remeber our school days when she wud have her crisis. u cud almost curse her parents for bringing her into this world to got thru so much pain.

if u see the pain and suffering they go thru and watch someone u love go thru it, and also live with the fear that any of their episodes cud claim their lives, you wud not think twice.

I dont want to ever think of losing my friend to the cold hands of death because of her genotype and her parents ignorance.

Be wise!!

U will also save each other alot of pain as it is no joke in her house whenevr she is sick, each crisis she has affects her entire family.

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life its self is a risk, if you love your woman go for her,whats the propability of getting married to aa and later realize that she is hiv possitive , so go with your concience and let God turn your life around

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i think you shouldn't but then still miracle happens u neva know & you should visit a doctor to know the options you have got.

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Let me put it this way.

If you find out that the girl u love so dearly has HIV through maybe injection or something like that but not fornication, would you go ahead to marry her if u've not contacted the disease?

Am sure you will not think about. And you know why, its because you will feel the pain directly. But because its the child that will suffer more, you think you can pull it through. A child will curse you for bringing it pain intentionally. If you didnt know about the genotype problem before the marriage, it would have been another case.

I tell you solemnly, the love you claim to have for each other will turn to hate in the face of this kind of problems in marrige.

I beg you, do not gamble with bringing a child into this world not knowing if the child will suffer all his life or not.

Am just suggesting.

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factorchic, u go soon be doctor. try cure them of their genotype, make their love for bloosom, LOL

that was harsh coming from a soon 2 be doctor

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i don't think the kid will forgive you for bringing him/her into the world to suffer. in the past it

is accepted due to ignorance but with the advent of technology where you can know each other genotype and be able to plan accordinly it will be a crime for bringing a sickler in to the world. tell me where do you want to start from is the economic burden of having a sickler as a child or seeing the child in pains and not be able to do anything about it, or the

the fear that the child can die anytime. so don't try or else you might have child who will never forgive you for knowing the consequences of you getting married to each other and decided to go ahead with it.

the alternative is you doing selective breeding where the fetus genotype is tested and you can then abort it if is SS, though i don't know if the technology is present in Nigeria or if you can afford the cost, there is also the question of morality.

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Well u ave 2 options

u could either get married and u could,i mean would have a lot problems

or

u could go and take another chance at love

option 2 is better if u ask me

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It will be easy to say u guys should go your seperate ways but we all know that it's not that simple,but since i have seen first hand what having a sickler in the family can do,i will say u shld think twice.My cousin is AS and his fiancee was AS too,they were "madly" in love and so decided to seek medical advice.The doctor told them the cons,after then they sat down and decided that if they really loved themselves they will not bring a child into this world to suffer.Probablity is all well and good but there will always be someone else.I have a friend(she was the only girl and the middle child) who is a sickler,i saw what she went through,i wouldnt want to put my child through that

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4mike, just said it all

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My believe is,theres nothing impossible for creator.If u truely love your g/friend and u have she love u too,follow go for it God of love will back u up.its hard decision though.above all pray.

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is that what i said?? NO u find out from various sources see what peeps have to say and meet a proffesional some Doctors can just tell u rubbish to chop your money as i said this is a basic thing, its not HIV, malaria and all that

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@ topic,

my own 2 cents is that the two of u should look for someone else instead of risking the probability of pain and hardship involved in seeing a loved child die one after the other. I know a couple that were AS that got married and lost the 5 kids they had, the marriage degenrated to something else and later on the man went to have a kid outside. Anyway just pray b4 u make ur decision, May God guide u right.

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Ok, I didn't know that!

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Well getting into this marriage with this girl you love so much has a 25% chance of unhappiness as regards the baby with sickle cell.

But getting married to the wrong person is 100% unhappiness.

Well I advice you get your decisions right cos its totally up to you. Even the medical practitioner can only advice you which you can consider a mere opinion. Every marriage will always have its challenges, if it will come from a child there is absolutely nothing man can do about it. People who are AA+AA can give birth to a blind or deformed kids. Some might even be born ok but get deformed for life before their 5th birthday.

Though you can reduce your risks but sometimes some of these things are down to shear luck.

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does that mean it's better to take advise from unknown people on the internet than to speak with a medical practitioner?

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The medical staffs are still goin to tell you the same thing they would just explain further, they are some basic things about health which dosent require medical doctors.

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I concur.

are these people medically qualified to advise on this?

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I advise you to get someone else sha it hard decesion but what can you do, we were fortunate in out family both parents AS and out of 4, none of us were SS there is a chance but y risk it.

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Pls go for someone else

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The SS kid can end up being the first born, why risk it?

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This is not a medical/doctor's surgery. why dont you ask medical personnel?

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That has alot of negative ending.You Better don't get yourself involve. U should Go for AA while she Goes for AA too if not there will be no LOVE in that marriage trust me.

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if u re inlove all that doesnt matter, just make sure u dont have more than 1 or 2 kids cos thats wer the problem is, and it also depends on wer u live, if u live in the u.s sickle cell disease is not a really big problem but it is a problem, they just have treatments for it not cures.

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