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What Could You Do To Help A Friend Who Cuts?

Emma's mom first noticed the cuts when Emma was doing the dishes one night. Emma told her mom that their cat had scratched her. Her mom seemed surprised that the cat had been so rough, but she didn't think much more about it.

Emma's friends had noticed something strange as well. Even when the weather was hot, Emma wore long-sleeved shirts. She had become secretive, too, like something was bothering her. But Emma couldn't seem to find the words to tell her mom or her friends that the marks on her arms were from something that she had done. She was cutting herself with a razor when she felt sad or upset.

What does cutting mean to you? and how could you help Emma, if you were her friend?

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Sounds like emma is depressed and she needs professional help, now how old is she, adolescent, preteen, teenager? She needs to talk to a counsellor who can then further assist with some form of counselling or even self help groups where she can meet and talk with other's around her age who suffer from this disorder. As a friend dont judge or condem her try to be understanding and assist her the best you could, but @ the end of the day this is a medical mental disorder that needs to be treated as such.

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theres nothing demonic about it. She probably has been hurt very badly in her past and is yet to talk about it. Be there for her, be patient, try to understand. If you push her, she won't stop. Actually u cant even make her stop. that's a decision she'll take on her own if she can get help

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This case appear to be demonic and unusually with normal person, so they should seek spiritual attention.

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This is a classical case of self destructive behavior, An highly celebrated case was that of Amy whinehouse , a popular british musician that died last year.Emma should be fine once she visits psychiatrist, oops! i guess i now have a new topic to discuss on my blog, check out www.chainblogs-health.blogspot.com

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@Poster - it could also be a cry for help from her.

Best thing would be for her to seek professional advice - seeing a psychologist for starters would be a positive step in the right direction

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He or she maybe in a situation or one of the situations below, where they seem not to be in control or have lost control.

Let her talk to one of counsellors or you can email on her behalf ihnnigeria@hotmail.com

Who self-harms?

It happens more often in

young women.

prisoners, asylum seekers, and veterans of the

armed forces

gay, lesbian and bisexual people: this seems, at

least in part, due to the stress of prejudice and

discrimination

a group of young people who self-harm together:

having a friend who self-harms may increase your

chances of doing it as well

people who have experienced physical, emotional

or sexual abuse during childhood.

What makes people self-harm?

Research has shown that many people who harm

themselves are struggling with intolerable distress

or unbearable situations. A person will often

struggle with difficulties for some time before

they self-harm.

Common problems include:

physical or sexual abuse

feeling depressed

feeling bad about yourself

relationship problems with partners, friends, and

family

being unemployed, or having difficulties at work

You may be more likely to harm yourself if you

feel:

that people don’t listen to you

hopeless

isolated, alone

out of control

powerless – it feels as though there's nothing you

can do to change anything.

It's more likely to happen if you are using alcohol

or drugs – it may feel that these are as out of

control as the rest of your life.

You may feel like harming yourself if you want to

show someone else how distressed you are or to

get back at them or to punish them. This is not

common – most people suffer in silence and self-

harm in private.

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^^^

Yes and no.

My immediate reaction is is to agree with you.

But remember, this is a forum.

We don't know the whole story and haven't interviewed the patient.

What could snap one patient out of the syndrome could push another into total despair, so I'd advise professional help and lots and lots of love.

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I think finemocha's contribution is the best advise so far.

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This is a difficult condition to help with. Very often self harmers, especially cutters, have a deep rooted shame or insecurity at the heart of their despair. This makes it harder for them to be forthcoming about how they feel or receptive to help. Try and get close and see if you can get your friend to gradually open up and let you into what ever darkness is tormenting her. You will have to be very patient, understanding and persistent.

Hopefully, her parents are aware and are also seeking professional help for her.

Good luck

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send her to a country where people are less fortunate than she is. maybe she will stop looking for attention, and focus more on the important things in life taht matter

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You just need to convince her to see a Psychiatrist. Just assure her that they would understand her. Cheers!

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i have had some clients with the same issue, your friend needs professional help, cutting is a way of expressing emotional pain or trauma , that some how seems impossible to express other wise it can also means a whole lot more and can lead to severe depression in some cases death.

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