I have one rule in my life and that is to always say how I feel. . .
People can always say where they are with me at every moment, I dont know how to pretend.
Maybe its a character flaw but thats the way it is and some people actually appreciate the blunt honesty, I know I do.
I've got a really good friend who has people around her who've hurt her badly in the past, she never really brings it up and doesnt discuss it with them. personally anyone who has treated me badly would have no place in my life but she insists she doesnt want to hurt their feelings. she has people in her life who she doesnt really like and I am of the opinion that all this baggage is weighing her down. Unfortunately she doesnt see it this way and although she seemed to understand in the beginning its becoming a cause for concern.
Recently, she said to me that we probably cant get along if I continue to act this way. Friendship is the most important thing to me and I have accepted the fact that she chooses to keep thses people close. The thing is I cant be around people who've hurt her because I cant smile and pretend its all good. I cant and wont stop her from seeing these people if she wants to but I cant understand why she wont see i cant be that way. I can be civil when I need to be but thats about it. I believe she deserves better but she thinks I'm being stubborn and difficult. Ok so maybe I am stubborn and I can be very bull-headed with my opinions but these are the traits that have helped me succeed in very challenging situations.
I have personal standards and I accept nothing less, does that make me such a bad person?