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Do Real Men Cry?

Hi guys!

Its been said that real men don't cry! To what extent do you agree with this?

As an adult man, do you cry or have you cried before? When and what triggered off your "tears hormones"

I feel romantic men cry - can't really see the correlation between "romance" and "shedding tears"; it's just a personal opinion.

Let's hear from you.

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Of course they do cry. However like my Dad and Grandad I hardly cry.

Another reason might be cuz of the Naija school thingy.

When the boyz were caned, we weren't expected to cry and anyone who did cry was laughed at.

The girls on the other hand were expected to cry and when they did cry, we consolled em'.

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@platinumnk:

Are you speaking figuratively or literally? I ask because crying a lot can be symptomatic of health concerns.

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Yes.

For the right reasons.

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dnt know what the posters definition of real men is.

but haven't cried in 11 years and have been in die situations

that should have warranted it.

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What's there to continue? Both real men and fake men alike, cry.

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No doubt there's more to be said about this. The topic seemed to cool down, so let's continue the discussion, shall we?

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oga o!

i get tired of dis thing about "normal " or "human" ehn!! wu's to tell us wat makes us human,- just becos yu cry and i dont cry does dat make yu more human dan i am? its not about been a real man or not[wateva dat means in d first place- i dnt knw] but weda u cry or yu dnt doesn t mean jack and doesnt say u-wu dey cry are mur human dan i am-it doesnt suffice at all.

one wuld actually wonda sef- wats d real essence of cryin? some cry in pity, some cry out of scorn, some cry out of misery, some cry out of pretence, some just cry for cryn sake, so if i dnt cry now iam a faker and not human ba! i guess i must be from MARS

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bros,

the tin depend on how u see am

big boy no dey cry

why real men go kon cry

all die na die

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i don't know about being a real man but i find it difficult to cry but when i do, i feel intensely and strangely, RELIEVED! i'm not cold, just blunted and a little schizophrenic.

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why not are they not humans

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Even a warlord will cry if he loses his daughter.

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true men will cry

  but a faker wont , at one point in life or the other we are all compelled to cry regardless of sex, race, age or religion

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at 29 am already a man.am so emotional that sometimes very sad story or occurance can bring tears from my eyes.

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i cried for abt 10seconds when i lost my aunt well it really shook me but it was the women around me that made me cry but before it came out i was already in a safe place where i believe no 1 saw me. i don't like seeing people crying publicly like that because it touches me and i might just cry

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yes real men cry

becus even men go through problems sometime

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Yes, men that have feeling.

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In some countries, yes.

In amerikkka (and a few other countries), no.

so it all depends on your environment, upbringing, social/cultural perceptions. lol

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Re: Do Real Men Cry?

« #96 on: March 29, 2006, 05:18 PM »

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i never really cry except when my grandparents die but this is hurting me inside.

Stop being a attention LovePeddler, and go shed a tear, why did you even post this post in here?, if it hurts inside go have a cry, jesus christ.

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In response to some of these other responses.

and i quote " Real men don't cry in public" What exactly is that suppost to mean? Is it okay for a women to cry in public?

It's just the way people have been brought up. I personally have missed out on a few important points from my dad, and yes sometimes i do cry, it's not my fault that he neglected to mention important facts to me, go blame the older generation.

Oh and BTW the way if you think it is OK for a female to cry in public but not a male, are you sure you weren't part of that older generation?

Get with the times.

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no cos you never see wetin go make u cry.

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@Rhodalyn

@2cantango

Thanks good people. I pray that we don't cry 'cos of sorrow. If we have to, it should be for joy.

Best regards.

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I will stay away from a man who thinks he's too "macho" to cry. That can be a turn-off. Everyone should cry, we're human beings.

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i respect a guy who isnt afraid to show that he's got feelings as well, as long as he doesn't get too comfy wit cryin! lol

some time back, i had an accident, was in coma for sumtym, when my dad came to the hospital, he put a brave face in front of evryone but when it bcame too much for him, he left the hospital room and BURST in2 tears! it was my aunt who followed him and saw him(i was told) there's a real man for you! there's no shame in cryin, it helps release all your pent up emotions, so cry and be brave bout it, sorry bout your grandparents, may their souls rest in peace.

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Do real me cry?

Do real men exist?

lol.

I think that all people have the right to cry, why suppress it?

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do u have problem with my arrving on this conclusion?

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i dont know,but men aint have to cry,

if i see any men crying they look weak to me

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they dont,infact men aint supossed to cry

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A REAL MAN CRIES, why should you hold back your feelings bcause society been had it that men arnt suppose to cry. I LOVE IT WHEN A MAN SHEDS A TEAR

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Yes, real men cry in this situation. I think it will help your heart to get your emotions out. Once you can experience your emotions, you can possibly move on from them. (Been there my dear.)

Also, maybe you shouldn't see her everyday. Hang out with other friends or try a new hobby. Does that sound do-able?

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So do real men cry in this situation?

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Take heart "depressed". It is well with you.

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im so confused and i dont know what to do.

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You hang out with her everyday yet she doesnt care for you? How interesting, Have u made your intentions known to her? For all you care, she probably has not caught your drift, at least not as yet,

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i cant get her out of my head and i hang out with her everyday but she just doesnt care for me?

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Depressed, welcome to NL. You need to throw more light on your question though. Do u mean a crush or summin?

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"Do Real men cry?"Do "Real men" av emotions?If they do they could cry.I actually think its cute when a guy "sheds a couple of tears",not some serious sobbing or wailing o.

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REAL MEN DO CRY UNLESS HE HAS NO EYES OR HEART

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it's human 2 cry

but a real man musnt cry openly n look soo helpless

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I am baffled and confused. My fiancee cries a lot. A whole lot. I am the female. I've never known a man to show so much emotion so often. He doesn't cry over movies or the like. He cries whenever we get into a disagreement of some sort. I have no problem with men crying when warranted (death, divorce, taxes) but I'm starting to feel manipulated by it. Meanwhile, me being the female, can't cry because then he will cry. I just take it to the bathroom and turn the water on. I wish he would. Has anyone out there ever known anyone with this "condition"?

Thanks for reading this.

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"Real Men not crying" oh puleeeez!

Can anyone tell me what the defination of a real man is? or is it just accepted that a "himbo" is the societal defination of a real man.

My defination, i prefer not to use "real" but "good"

A good man cooks, he cleans and he changes diapers oh.... and he cries- its called being human and its also called being responsible.

Crying shouldn't be seen as a sign of weakness when a man does it but it should be seen as dignified.

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That's the word ijebuman! Macho! Hitting the nail on the head. Macho! Macho! Macho! Its all about the "M" word innit?

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especially other men)

So i think the whole dignified thing is just a macho way for men to show emotion but still show they are in control.

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