This issue is something that has been going through my mind for some years now.Friendships in reality aren't what the are hyped up to be.The last truly-unbiased friendship i remember having goes back to my primary school days in the '80s.I don't like to generalize but it seems the friendships of today border on material gains.I'll explain.Let's assume you went through school, had lots of friends (10 of the lot being those you could actually call close friends), it seems good right?Now, you're out of the university,get a good job,nice apartment or house,good car,sweet girl and all the works and then, SOMETHING HAPPENS! You lose the job,lose everything else, your girl starts talking about "needing some space",your "close friends" start disappearing one by one and maybe three months later, about 3-4 four of them are the only ones that remember you exist! Those ones hope that things might improve for you on time and you will be back on your feet and back to the good old times.Lets say life isnt fair with you and six months pass and still no improvement, the friends are reduced to just one.And even that one only flashes once a week to see if you will have credit to call back (lol).I won't continue with this narration but to people who have gone down this road, i know you can relate to what i'm saying.
The people who hurt the most are those we call family and close "friends".I mean face it, someone who knows nothing about you can't hurt you in any way and even if they do, it won't hurt half as much as someone who you "thought" was close to you.I've seen a lot of "friends" come and go and you know what?They seem to have this "radar" imbedded in their brains that lets them know when things are looking up for you.People who don't have your time anymore start calling, all of a sudden. . . they want to visit.I might be blabbing here but i know someone out there can relate to what am talking about.
So if friendships borders on what you've got, isn't it better just be on your own?Personally, the only use "friends" serve as for me are ALCOHOL DRINKING BUDDIES and nothing more.I feel it's better that way.
NL, what do you think?
NB : Matured posts please.