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~ How Do You React To Criticism? ~

~No One Likes To Be Critiqued. . .But Then No-one Is Perfect Either! You've Either Dished It Out Or Had It Dished Out To You. . Either Ways,No Criticism Is Ever Sugar Coated,9 Out Of 10 Times We Wont Like What We Hear/Read But If Valid,It Can Also Provide One With New Insights About Ones Self & Life! Bet You May Have Noticed Some People Maybe Even You! Do Not Respond Well To Criticism. . .Whether It Is Well Intentioned/Constructive Criticism! I Do Realise Sometimes If Not All,The Way Criticism Is Given Prompts Our Respond/Reaction But Do You Accept, Learn & Evolve? Or Reject, Deny & Retaliate From It?

~How Do You React/Respond/Handle Criticism Aimed At You? Constructive Or Not! Be It On NL ~Your Job/School Or In Your Everyday Life?

“It is Not The Critic Who Counts; Not The Man Who Points Out How The Strong Man Stumbles, Or Where The Doer Of Deeds Could Have Done Them Better. The Credit Belongs To The Man Who Is Actually In The Arena, Whose Face Is Marred By Dust & Sweat & Blood, Who Strives Valiantly; Who Errs & Comes Short Again & Again; Because There Is Not Effort Without Error & Shortcomings; But Who Does Actually Strive To Do The Deed; who knows the Great Enthusiasm, The Great devotion,Who Spends Himself In A Worthy Cause, Who At The Best Knows In The End The Triumph Of High Achievement & Who At The Worst, If He Fails, At Least He Fails While Daring Greatly. So That His Place Shall Never Be With Those Cold & Timid Souls Who Know Neither Victory Nor Defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

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Nah , as a matter of fact i welcome criticism very well , it makes me a better person.

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manner of approach matters, cos action brings about reaction. human being is still weak in nature. there is nobody without the instinct of reaction in one way or the other in him or her. so i sugest thst presentation should matter but in case the presenter fails to present well, self-control should be employed.

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yes, it happens only when the love you give is given back to you. I did not know that all these while he was pretending (thats the way I see it). why should he listen to citique especially when it has to do with somebody you love. Something he could not find out for almost 2 years. When the whole truth came out, every body blamed him but then it was too late.

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I don't welcome criticism, especially when it's done in a way to paint or destroy my image.

I go extra miles to defend myself. I don't find it funny wether parents, friends or whosoever that did it.

To be presiced, I hate criticising people myself and wouldn't want to be criticised.

My slogan is mind your business. Somebody that won't confront me and think the best way is criticism

is my enemy.

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CRITICISM makes the world an interesting place!! You can either accept it or ignore it. It is what makes us all re think and reflect to improve our world and life.

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I understand it can be very frustrating but hell if I love the man and he loves me too and don't really give a poo about what people say them I'ma stick around. People will always say poo but seriously our shell gotta be very thick.

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My reaction 2 criticism will depend on : how its passed on 40%, by who 20%, motive 20% , my mood 20%.

cos i ve found dat some people mostly women criticize when u dont conform to their personal beliefs or ideas. in dat case i just smile n delete it from memory

from my family n better half i listen n try 2 work on it

from boss i listen n work on it wit appraisal in mind.

from friends i listen n ignor

but my advice 2 any1 lookin 2 critisize me is package it properly n gag my mood. n make sure u ve removed d IROKO from ur eye be4 u try 2 remove d PECK of wood from my eye.

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My reaction 2 criticism will depend on : how its passed on 40%, by who 20%, motive 20% , my mood 20%.

cos i ve found dat some people mostly women criticize when u dont conform to their personal beliefs or ideas. in dat case i just smile n store it for reference later

from my family n better half i listen n do my best 2 work on it

from boss i listen n work on it wit appraisal in mind.

from friends i listen n ignor or store 4 later.

but my advice 2 any1 lookin 2 critisize me is package it properly n guage my mood. n make sure u ve removed d IROKO from ur eye before u try 2 remove d PECK of wood from my eye

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Yes i didn't because it turned to a big problem. I told them am not interested. till date they are still perching around me and I do everything possible to avoid them.

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U didn't marry the man eventually or what?

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I disagree with you here.

Some people criticize out of jealousy. I have this lady who spoiled my marriage with her critique. she doesn't know me too well, though I was to get married to her inlaw. Months later she came looking for my help.

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As far as constructive criticism, I listen to it whether it is right or wrong. Then I decide if it is right or wrong.

As far as criticism meant solely to hurt me, well, opinions are like *ssholes. Everyone has one just like I have the right to think that they are idiots and ignore them.

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The "yabis" never kill anyone till date on NL or in even in real life!! So make una continue to "YAB" all u want!! Otherwise NL go put me to sleep!!

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Very nice way to look at things BUT please never CRY as you should use it to reflect and learn if valid. If not just ignore.

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Criticism makes me run a check on myself valid or not ,there is alwaz an element of truth in it.Most times I cry but it has alwaz brought the best out of me.

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i believe you have to be doing something wrong before someone criticise you and how you take it is all up to you i know nigerian guys hate it lol

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Don't assume that everyone on NL is normal. Certain folks certainly need their heads checked.

But to take it soo seriously is a waste of time, energy, and space.

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If yabbing people (not jokingly) was my idea of fun, then I would need to go check my head-on and offline.

I would never have respect for anyone (on NL) who thinks it's funny to cuss other people out, esp race/tribe, for argument sake. EW!! Totally distasteful character they've got.

But this place sure would be dull if we didn't have such.

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You know what, I think it does depend on the criticism, how it's put across and also who puts it across. So yeah, I guess all the options have been applicable to me @ some point.

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I think people on here YAB FOR FUN. its nothing personal in my opinion.

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I tend to be defensive for a few seconds, trying to justify why I said or did what I did, but I then realise the reason why I was criticised and then I take it on board, if it's worth taking on board though.

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~Personal Attack Critiquing i dont rise to at all!! I flip into "damned if you do damned if you dont" mode! There's nothing to learn from it!

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To be fair, a good number of people, not excluding this writer react badly to criticism. We are often fierce in the defense of our ideas, to the point of

being belligerent.

I, for one don't mind being criticized, especially if it is constructive. I might squeeze my face and even be genuinely offended, but after reminiscing on

the suggestion of the critique, i decide whether the criticism was fair or otherwise. If fair, i try to adjust. If otherwise, then i discard it.

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nobody likes critics/criticism cos it hurts esp when it's true!

but we love to give it, !

also, how can one criticize in a compassionate way (constructive criticism)?

loving or not it hurts!

so i stick my lips out n cry (secretly of course!) then i try to justify then i repent n hope to be better, and can't wait to criticize someone else too lol!

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Criticisms by friends are welcome but there are some people who use them as a weapon against you. They try to destroy your self-esteem.

I don't tolerate those hypocrites. And most times they really have nothing to show for themselves expect their empty vessel.

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i cackle, i cuckoo and i give a damn right answer. . .

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Be positive to all criticism!

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I will be cool if it is constructive, and I decide what is constructive!

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As a matter of fact, i appreciate it when someone has the guts to criticise me. But definitely not in a way to riducle me. I sit back work on it and make sure i come out better.

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but doesn't it strengthen you?

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[i]WEE, [/i] Everybody has his or her own way of responding, i like to behave marturely and accept the way the critics go, one thing i no for sure is that i am a man of loyalty and i dont want to get scouge outside but if the situation calls for it let them say, everybody has a mouth, and i will always remember what my mama used to say: "Talk is cheap:, the real point hear is leet them say

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am patient wih those that advice not criticise, cos i ve realised that most people dat do criticise r mostly out to destroy. to me, there is no such thing as a constructive criticism.advice is like bringing out trash from the disposal wiping it off n painting over the ugly picture n presenting it as more than its worth

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it depends on the mood im in,if im anoid forget it

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~Quite Interesting! It can be very painful coming from loved ones. . .

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If its my boss at work, I figure out how I can improve by over analyzing my actions.

If its my parents, I cry: sometimes

If its a significant other: I ignore.

If its any of my siblings: I take it soo seriously.

If its a friend: I dismiss them.

for me, it depends who is presenting the information and how I receive them to be of worth in my life. i

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~Taken into account that fact,how have you responded?

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It depends on how the criticism is presented.

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