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3 Years Older Than My Boyfriend: Is It Ok?

we are really in love and we hope to get married soon but i wonder what both families will say when they find out.i wonder if there are great disadvantages getting married to someone younger

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As far is the man that is CLIMBING u, he is now ur senior.

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wow...

but i expected to hear that u two got married at the end and ur saying u dated.. pls what happened to the relationship?

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Pls much hav been said on this.... but YOU have to make the marriage work... It's no probs

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if both of u are honest about ur relationship, sure it doesnt matter, almost married a babe 5yrs older than, actually dated a couple of older sis, its a mental thing if u both can deal with it responsibly u'll enjoy life 4ever.

best wishes as u gooooo.

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Firstly, i would say age is nothing but a number as it is pretty obvious, . What matters is the feeling and respect we have for each other,  I think the problem that we Yorubas are having is the age issue, for goodness sake can't we just get that outta way and move on with life as it comes.

Me and my baby girl are planing something great for our lives,  remember you get your live to live,  no let any family put tradition for your head,  Age is just a damn number we respect and love each other,  even she respects me most,

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if there's love, there's hope!

if u love her, carry go.

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goodluck

i guess u forgot that^^^so i helped you completed it.

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love is all dat matters in a relationship or marriage, as far as u ppl love each other, then go ahead and marry him but one thing u shld do is 2 respect him being the head of the family like he was olda dan u. wish u the best life and marriage has 2 offer.

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@poster.

You are lucky cos even if 3yrs aint that much, you've got fresher blood. Your love making should be great, men! You are getting what many married women would cheat on thier husbands to have. So keep on loving me dear!

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GOOD DAY GUYS<

I SEE KNOW REASON WHY THIS ISSUE SHOULD BE FLOGGED I THINK IT IS VERY SIMPLE AND STRAIGHT FORWARD.

EMEKA

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My current babe is 2 years older than me but i couldnt ask for anyone else,shes really great

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Hey what's up.What you said might be a very big problem because you are talking about going into marriage and in marriage ,there are very many challenges you need to pass true.Example all your husband's friend might be older than thier wives thus trying to influence him.But with love and understanding you will be able to make it.The most important thing is understanding each other.

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Age is nothing but a NUMBER. When he is making love to you ,you fel he is 10 years older than you, slo why the confusion? If both of you are in love please go ahead and marry him, Whatever you do in life ,people MUST talk,so why considering what people will say when you know that they MUST say something afterall.

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age is just a number. there's no big deal getting married to a lady older than you. as long as you love and trust her, go ahead. you are only as old as you think you are. a marriage would break up despite the age diferrences, if the right things are not done. if you love her enough, marry her.

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Well dis is quite dicey. Though ultimately, d decision to go ahead or not depends on the couple. Check all other areas of ur lives and if its okay, den d decision is up to you guys. Belief me, final say has to do with both of you with d lady havin a little edge. I ve experienced it.

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3 years is not that wide a gap in comparision to extreme cases

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to me i dont see anytin wrong in that.go ahead if u guys love each other,age is just a number.

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Age is mere number, what is age, age is not a factor, Most men be older than their wives, its this african way of thinking that we have, My wife can be 10 years older than I am, i dont care once we find true love,

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Age is mere number, what is age, age is not a factor, Most men be older than their wives, its this african way of thinking that we have, My wife can be 10 years older than I am, i dont care once we find true love,

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dat guy or man dat u senior wit 3 year can be more mature  in mind den sumbdy who senior u wit 5 years,so age is jst a figure which white pple tech in school n market while luv is rite 4rom beginin ok

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Hi, to me age is just a number. age doesn't matter. So far u love him and he loves you back, My dear please follow your heart, at least your own is not the first, Whitney Houston is 2 years older than bobby brown and they got married.

follow you heart my dear. I wish u best of luck.

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if d luv is dere no matter cus age is jst a numba ok,jst hav d luv and d respect is ok

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If you no dey comfortable about the difference then make you pull out; Adam old pass Eve. But if you no mind, carry waka

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"A woman is never bigger than a man" afterall a woman is created with just one rib from a man. Age diff may not be a prob atimes.

In some cultures it is a tradition that when a king dies the successor takes over the wives. Atimes the successor may be the prince, he goes on to inherit the wives who may be older than him.Though this is absurd any way.

Simply put its not a taboo many people have married in that circumstance and heaven did not fall. Go ahead if u love urselves.

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I'll be brutally frank here. If y'all live in Nigeria, you're bound to meet a lot of resistance from both families, because the general beleif is that younger guys aren't mature enough, which generally speaking is probably true. But there are exceptions to every rule.

I once dated a woman who was 4 years older than I was. I'll say here and now, that it was far and away the most stable relationship I have had to date. There was much more tolerance and understanding than I had gotten previously. I see absolutely nothing wrong with dating/marrying a younger man.

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i advise u go ahead and get married provided u r ready to submit to him!!!!

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age ain't but a number abi?

keep deceiving yourselves.

if age ain't but a number why don't you go marry a 75 year old man/ woman while y'all at it.

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what of d guyz "EGO".Is the guy ok wiv the age difference?

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a lot of nigerian men I know "tricked" their older (by a year or two) wives to marry them , I wouldn't worry if I were u!

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****U pips r not speaking d real facts here ooooo, dis na 9ja no bii US or UK ooo*******

Someone should please answer this question[b] including the poster[/b]

WHEN SHE UCLOCK 30 AND HE'S STILL 27, AINT SHEU GONNA CELEBRATE HERUR B.DAY IN A GRAND STYLE?

HAVING IN MIND THT UR FAMILY WILL WANT U TO DO B.DAY

my answer oooooo*****************na den wind go blow and fowl yash go show

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Thank God for him

Respect him as much as u can because he has taken a wide range of burden out of your life.

Dont mind your parents in this matter

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see,dnt let me deceive u my guy.Im into d same system.Even she took 4 good years to senior me. but wat i think matters most is wat u have said dat u both love each other.With love all things are possible, GO ON SOUN omo iya

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allowing a woman to get away with keeping your car keys = emotional immaturity? hmm, needst I say more?

What would you suggest as a reaction to the action? beat up on her? begin a war of words with her? what? emotional immaturity my pubic hair.

Let's assume now that the woman is as wealthy, or wealthier than the man, add onto that her age-factor, do you think she'd let the man be "in control"

it certainly doesn't happen in most of these western countries, especially now that we have feminists running the show.

If you want to discuss this topic topic we're on with factual backing, come with it, I don't mind, otherwise we can continue this chattering with generalizations.

Since you're here defending love over age-consciousness, you shouldn't mind defending love over height-consciousness.

Laudate, I'll give you one thing, minute age difference doesn't matter, but when you start speaking of a gap over 8 years, etc, better check yourself.

I suggest you read what Lady TI posted above, true talk.

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Forget about the age, focus on his goodness. If that brother is good to you, then his man enough to be your man !!!

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[quote][/quote]  Hello my dear age is just a number and what you should care about is love.

@ kingss

Age is NOT just a number. That is just a reckless proverb with no depth to it, because whether you like it or not age has a strong impact on our everday activities, especially the LAW. You try having an intimate relationship with a 14 year old girl and you'll know better!!!

@ omidav

Your concern about the age difference between you and your boyfriend is normal. It is always expected that the man should be older than the woman espeacially in our culture. However, this is only an IDEAL. It is not written in stone anywhere that it should be so, not even in the Bible!

The only reason most men are older is that it helps the woman in her role of submission to the man and the man as the head.

This is my advice:

      - Be sure that the 3 year-gap will not stop you from respecting him as your husband

      - Be sure that he is as mature as you are -mentally, emotionally, financially, etc, because women tend to mature faster

        than men their own age and this gap tends to widen even more when the man is younger

      - Be sure that he is ready for marriage.

      - Be sure that any insecurities you may have because of the age gap are dealt with before you marry

     

If you can address the above issues and similar advice given by others on this forum, then you will be fine. But if it bothers you that much then it's probably best to reconsider and wait for an older man.

It is not a good idea to hide your age from his family because they will eventually find out one day and it will create problems for both of you then. Perhaps you could inform just his immediate family and reassure them that you are both okay with it and that it will not stop you from being a good wife to him.

All the best!!!

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A woman won't let you drive your own f.ucking car, because she is stingy? lololol, good lord, are you daft.

Isn't it "his" car, after all? they're supposed to be a couple fool, being stingy doesn't excuse the act.

A simple observation of human behavior would also reveal to you that older women are more likely to exploit younger guys than older men with younger girls.

What is so tangible about your vocabulary, ehn? numskull, I used your words as a way to disprove your buggy logic.

You were pulling statements out your Bottom, while @ the same time telling me to go conduct an in-depth research

We're not debating right or wrong here, we're talking about the issues that may arise as a result of the chosen scenario, don't be an

This happens, el grande.

Maybe she needs a boi toy.  Come to think of it, everything you listed above isn't usually the case with all men.  They're lacking in one or more of the categories, don't be deceived.

Even gan paapa, if the guy loves his woman as you stated, why chooseth he to come here and ask if dating a woman 3 years older than he is, is okay?

perhaps a little insecurity there, se you see it?

The guy chooses to date a woman older than himself, you claim love conquers all, the chick claims she doesn't want a shortie, then what?

Why don't you go on there and start condemning them, let's leave that one.

Assuming you're 25 by the way, you shouldn't have any problems with handling a 47-year-old woman, I hope you fall in love with one.

3-years isn't that big a difference by the way, it ain't bad at all ya heard me, but age does matter, agree or not.

the greater the age difference between the two lovebirds, the greater the possibility of manipulation by one of the parties.

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my dear love doesnt also comes in juicy bags it comes in various bits of stones u must grind into jucy bags that u can easily carry so i fel if boith genuily love each other and u think u can respect him as a husband and he thinks he can cope with that then 4 me io see no qualms with that i once dated a gil older than me i must confess it was a nice experience u wud be matured in ur dealings

wish u the best of luck and tells us the day of your marriage

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i dnt think the age thing shld be a problem as long as u both feel comfortable abt it and why do nigerians always think of what family will say when it comes to their personal lives.

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Hmmm, age is nothing but a number and number is nothing but a thing.It is only a thing of the mind so if you dont mind then it doesnt matter

Besides, if you dont tell his family members your age no one will know. i cant remember my father of mother in law asking me for my age when i got introduced to them neither can i remember my folks asking my husband for his age when he met them as well.

Marriage is not built on age but love, The bulk of the responsibility lies with you the woman in as much as you dont show it to him that you are older than him when it comes to making decisions. You have to be submissive to him

I can marry someone i am older than as long as we are compatible and comfortable with the age thing between us. Go girl and do you thing

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HI, IT'S A NORMAL THING IF YOU GET MARRIED TO EACH OTHER REGARDLESS OF THE AGE DIFFERENCE. " U'RE AS OLD AS YOU THINK YOU ARE" WHICH BOILS DOWN TO THE FACT THAT AGE DOESN'T REALLY DETERMINE IF ONE IS MATURED TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY AS A HUSSY/WIFFY, RIGHT

I AM ALSO IN A RELATIONSHIP WHICH MY LOVER (GF) IS OLDER THAN ME WITH THREE YEARS, WE'VE BEEN SEEING EACH OTHER FOR THE PAST TWO & HALF YEARS (SINCE OUR PRE-ND) DAYS AND WE'RE PLANNING WALKING DOWN THE AISLE TOGETHER IF IT'S GOD'S WILL FOR US.

ON THE ISSUE OF MAKING THE AGE THING A SECRET, IT'S A BAD IDEA COS AS REGARDS TO ME, SHE REBUKED ME OF TELLING MY MUM HER REAL AGE, BUT THE FACT IS THAT I CAN'T JUMP INTO SOMETHING WITHOUT GATHERING ENOUGH INFORMATION FROM THOSE THAT HAVE SEEN IT ALL. AND SHE APPROVES OF IT COS SHE (MUM) KNOW SHE IS MY JOY AND EVERYTHING I LIVE FOR. (THERE'S NO WAY U CAN HIDE THE AGE UNLESS U'R MUM IS BLIND SHE WILL DEFINITELY NOTICE SOMETHING ABOUT HER)

IF YOU RESPECT AND LOVE HIM, GO AHEAD WITH YOUR PLANS AND ALWAYS ASK FOR GOD'S FAVOUR & GUIDANCE.

CHEERIO

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My sister, to answer your question, yes. It is okay for both of you to marry. I think the work lies on you to submit to your husband as you would have even if he were 10years older than you. I think you know this is attitudinal. I know people who can rubbish any body whether the person is older than their father or not and yet there are others who would treat you with respect despite being older than you. My girlfriend is older than me and by December(God's willing) we are marrying in Edmonton, Canada. Age has never become an issue and cannot be. We disagree at times, but it is normal and our disagreements would still have happened even if the age bracket were the other way round. I sense a lot of respect from her voice and that is all I need from my wife- age or no age. Her age has even been a blessing to me because she is mature and so we don't fight over petty things that plague people of my age with much younger girlfriends. Please check within yourself and ask" Do I respect him?" If the answer is yes, go ahead and marry but if it is no then family becomes an issue.

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I thought you said he loves you and you love him return,then i will think age is nothing but a number,but thats if and only if you are so sure that you will still give him all the respect he deserves as a husband even though he's younger than you.

If you think you won't feel bossy and refer to it when misunderstandings arise between you two,then its alright.

Concerning the issues of your parents,they don't need to know your age and if they must know,they don't need to know your real age.So you can always get away with that.All the best.

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Call me ignorant, but I dont seem to understand what the problem is. I have gone out in the past with people even 12 years older than me and we respected each other, I think the mentality that what the family would think about it is crazy.

Older women not only show a good time, the added benefits of the fact that are proud and ok with thier body is a great relief, there isn't that silly question of do I look fat (which younger girls are bothered about).

I think you should get on with it, the families wont be there forever you know!

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Its between you two ok, let the love and passion flow deep inside, wish u the best , awww! bless ur poor heart my dear .

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The problem has to do with you personally. Accepting this issue on a positive psychological stability and as well stydying her to an extent, for any traces of egotism will help. If this is settled and the submissive aura will be eternally cast on her, then ride on in the path of thy choice. PACEM

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Left for me friend. There is nothing bad two of u coming together. Age is not the main thing but if she or he's the one God has prepare for ur life partner definatly u are made to be together. have a 1daful day.

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what is love if not to be enjoyed by the TWO people involued.from your note,both of you love each and what else do you want. you dont mind the age difference neither does he.i am in love with a lady 6 years older than me and we are doing the traditional weeding hopefully next month.people raised a few eye brows but knowing that it is what we want, they could do nothing about it.so, go ahead and marry your guy before you end up regreting it.

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