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Abstinence, Does It Exist?

You talk with people everyday everytime or let me say every now and then and wat you discover is dat no one seems to tell you he or she is abstaining from sex,

am beginning to feel nobody abstains but why now?

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well in abuja

there is no known relationship

that do not have sex

thats not true.i stayed in abj for about one year and i am still very much one.

@poster,

its very possible.i am 27 and still one. my bf is 33yrs and still one.

its just a mind set and sincerely God makes all the difference.We have the fear of God and wouldnt want to jeopardise the relationship with God.

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Na wa o. But you cant be that sure. There may still be one or two persons who still practise it

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well in abuja

there is no known relationship

that do not have sex

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it does exist, just of a matter of self control and being in control of your thoughts and actions

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I dont know about you, but I tend to respect a guy more who is not all about a sex in a relationship. Even if such a relationship breaks up latter, I find myself wanting to keep on being friends with the guy. The respects is just profound and unexplanable.

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Actually, I practice abstinence. I have not had sex since last August.

In fact, two more days will make a year for me since I have given a girl the pleasure of enjoying me in bed.

Sometimes, it can be challenging to resist temptation because I am such an attractive guy, and because I live a lifestyle that constantly brings me into contact with so many beautiful women. But, I am so disciplined that I am able to abstain from sexual behaviors.

I have learned that this self-control actually makes a man more attractive to some women, so the more I commit myself to being abstinent, the more women respect me and are curious about me in a sexual way. Needless to say, it is a wonderful perpetuating cycle.

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Abstinence do exist bt i believe that girls or guys dat are into it do supplement wt self-service. Bt to tel me dat total abstinence including self-service exist is a lie. Unles u hav problem sexually.

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Absolutely. . .abstinence exists! as difficult as it may be. . .

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I just responded to another post like this one. Yes, abstinence exists and I am another example. It's been 10 years since I had sex and I was married then. I am engaged now and he is waiting for me. It is all by God's grace and power alone because once you've had a taste of love, it's difficult not to want it again.

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Yes,it does exit and will continue to exit.

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sex is so overrated imo

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It definitely exists, it completely depends on your friendship circle, a bunch of really focused Christian friends will be used to the idea, whilst if you're chatting to a couple of guys and girls in a bar, even if they ever considered or thought about it, most probably than not they would not feel comfortable to say so.

It's become an anti-current/cultural movement, but it exists.

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i love peoples interpritations of western ideas. in western culture you are judged by how many partners you have had. over 10 for women or 15 for men is considered disgusting and that person is no longer considered relationship material. preferably more then 2 less then 7 by western ideas

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from what i have been told here if a guy doesnt bring home a girl his neighbors and frineds will "look at him somehow" whatever the hell that means

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@topic, it exists.  Learnt the hard way, you first, alwayz.

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yeah ,no wonder we have so many unfaithful men,i dont blame them,cos their wives aint ready to satisfy them @ home

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there is never a perfect sex,dats d simple fact

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Here is the problem of the flesh

ROMANS 7VS

21 I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. 22 I love God’s law with all my heart. 23 But there is another power[e] within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. 24 Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death? 25 Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God’s law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.

Here is the solution

Romans 12 vs2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

and u will be Alright

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especially when you are married

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even wen u r married?

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nawa o, sex sex sex is it a must? shioor

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it does not exist jor. i abstained till i wuz 19yrs,dat wuz until i met my nu gf she hypnotised me with her wicked body.

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It can be done. My husband and I abstained until our wedding night and it was perfect.

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@ poster, my boyfriend and i are abstaining by God's grace. its soooooooooo possible, and there are many other people who are too!

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Yeah,it does exist.

Its the best.

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Yeah I was beginning to get the feeling that Nigerians male and female had now accepted this western idea that casual sex before marriage is the way. I speak to my friends and they will always ask, 'did you have sex with him' 'oooh' 'maybe he left you because he loved you (HAHAHAHAHAHA! Sorry I just had to laugh) But was too tempted or sexually frustrated, but didn't want to cheat on you', Fair enough that a guy doesn't want to cheat so he'd rather end the relationship, but now I am being made to feel as if I am the fault of the relationship when from the start I had explained that I was very committed to my faith and that I was trying to get closer to God, that also I wanted to experience something that wasn't just merely physical,

Oh well, I must have been asking too much. Women, I advise we all sleep with 'our men' or fear losing them to girls who will! ***SARCASM***

Yes, I am also abstaining but my is it hard, especially when these days, you are made to feel as if your relationship does not mean anything if you and your boyfriend have not had sex and committed the 'final act of love' with each other.

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ibkaye u wey never try am hw u tk knw say u no dey miss ehhh?

abi u wan pos?

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Yeah it does but with great Self control and a strong spiritual life

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Abstinence does exist, and there are more abstinent people than you think. I am abstinent, in fact.

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ib, prove say di tin still dey as we keep am

how i fit c am?

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Do Ants still exist.

pls if you have seen one recently pls hola

Thanks!

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Am clear that abstinence exist both with few people cos some pple are making clear that they cant abstain not for even one day. I sometimes wonder why that particular commandment is hard to keep, we are all "God fearing" but at the same time our desire comes first in everything we do, be us christains, muslims, whateva we claim to believe in that self control is a difficult thing. Well it has to do with you disciplining yourself cos my bro and sis it is not easy except with God on your side

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Abstinence does exists. I'm a witness to it. I got married some years back, but my hubby travelled out of the country immediately and since then i've been abstaining, though we have gone our different ways, but i'm still abstaining.

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Abstinence surely does exist but i think it's a thing of the mind, if one is not strong enough to resist then there is no way for that person,

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abstinence does exist. it may not be easy when one is not virgin but I believe strongly that it's a thing of the mind. Right now I am celibate and I believe God's Grace would be sufficent enough to keep me.

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yes it does exist because i have been a virgin all my life. and dont plan on giving it up

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@9cent

how do you want me to prove it?

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@poster

 What is abstinance? Omo e hard o!! but it is possible at least i was able to keep myself till age 18!!

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i dey good ooo

i be virgin

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I'm proof abstinence exists oh! 1 whole year and counting! Someone that's abstemious doesn't need 2 b a virgin even though many may contest that cuz I'm like a sex doctor to my friends. They are always asking me questions like I'm some sex encyclopedia even back when I was still I virgin (my eye don tear reach back tay tay! LOL)! *shakes head* I met a bunch of girls and guys like me in this respect growing up. We just inherently know stuff about it and feel free to speak about it without flinching or putting on false modesty.

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m kool ohh.wats up wit u?

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shuo na by force?

Welli u don start again o, how u dey anyway? quite a while.

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Looks likes you gals are high on pseudoephedrin.

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Abstinence, does exit for those that can't perform.

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not me. . . . maybe d nxt person to post

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I am not a virgin but I thought it was good for me to abstain just to discover dat the word does not exist or or is it that i am always going for the wrong set of people or let me say pple who dont that word close to them and do not beliv in it. It is terrible trying to abstain cos you lose friends too you feel they are dear to you or dont you think so

landers is somebody feeling me at all?

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