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Abuse On Women : Is It Justifiable?

It has been a common phenomenon all over the world that most men abuse their women one way or the other. I have been witnesses where a man brutally hits his woman and rendered her hospitalized several times. Some men can be very verbally abusive and talk down their women anywhere, private or public. This has been an ongoing incident everywhere in the world. Sometimes I say to myself, is it a good idea to argue a lot with a woman when we all know it must lead to something else? I can't fathom that. Women have been subjects of abuse than men and it's worrisome that when women want to enter into a relationship with any man, that is the first thing they look out for - not to be hurt. At the same time, I have further understood that some women can be provocative, they push the man to the most unbearable limit and he reacts often very tense and terrifying. Who do we blame in that situation? Not forgetting the fact that women are very fragile in nature and should be treated with utmost care I do believe there are a few occurrences we have to step down for and act matured but some of us haven't. I need your opinions on how abuse can be controlled? Can it be stopped, if yes, how? What are the causes? Is it right for a man to abuse a woman in the most extremely unfavorable conditions? Sorry if I may have sounded incoherent, grammar deserts me as of now.

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From your post, u didn't present yourself as a saint at all.

Of course, it's not planned for, but can be managed. Solving the problem from the root doesn't necessarily has to go to the extent of abuse dont' you think? It's like saying just because you hate the fact that your wife or gf nags, give the right to abuse.

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Exactly my point!

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They have seen their fathers do it and think it is the right thing.

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Abuse is never an option

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@FL Gator Really! why do you think so?

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Topic should not even be up for discussion

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In some cases yes it is.

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never.

is it justafiable for a woman to bat her husband? nope. so why would it be the other wayaround?

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As a Man, there is absolutely no reason to hit a woman, there might be clashes or quarrels in the home but hitting a female, whether sister/girlfriend/wife/neighbour is not right, period,

we know women can talk and say things, but the true strength of a Man is internal strength and control,

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if he/she is not threatening your life, you have abso-bleeping-lutely no right whatsoever to hit the person

i mean, damn fool! its another human being you dip stick!

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If they aren't ready to see a therapist and their women aren't leaving . . . .

How then would change come? Most times, the abused helps the abuser continue the act

and that's why I recommend severe enlightenment for both parties.

On no account must one accept abuse of any kind; sexual, physical, emotional etcetera.

yes i agree-where is the need to change if the person is abusing and abusing and having no consequence for their actions.

if my child does wrong and he has no consequence he will continue to do wrong until he has punishment for that act and a reason to not let it continue.

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Sadly-and i know this from first hand experience, being in a relationship with a violent man-be it verbally,sexually physically or whatever-it kills your self esteem and more often than not you get to the point where you think-what is the point, i might as well stay-i'm never going to be free of this person.

It f**ks with your head and its SOOOO important you seek counselling to get out of that trap of not feeling worthy of being with a decent,loving man.

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How then would change come? Most times, the abused helps the abuser continue the act

and that's why I recommend severe enlightenment for both parties.

On no account must one accept abuse of any kind; sexual, physical, emotional etcetera.

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Exactly, something many of these poor women seem to be unable to do in such situations, say 'goodbye', some of them believe that 'with time he will change'.

C'mon now, it's good riddance to bad rubbish.

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If You love him so much and don't want to let him go. . . .Make him see a therapist.

Some of these men don't even know these acts are abusive. If he

isn't ready to see a therapist or repeats same act after once . . . .It's a Goodbye!!!

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You are right on point. What kind of actions can be taken against an abusive man?

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How much of a man is he, if he can't master his temper?

There are better ways of dealing with people without being an animal.

but it can be reduced if the abused takes proper steps against the abuser. . . . .

I still recommend austere edification. . . .It will go a long way.

Example: A child who watched the father abuse the Mother is likely to grow up becoming an abuser, thinking it's normal because Mama never took any step against it.

Anatha factor could be ones enviroment:In African for example where alotta women are subject to abuse in the name of submission (Not that I'm against it tho it has its limit).

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