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Affair In Nysc,should I Forgive Her?

Hi guys,in less dan 3yrs,i wil mary dis girl.we hv bin 2geda 4 5 yrs.i suspected that something was wrong while she was in service.when i complained she says i am too pushy. She came back to spend christmas with me for 2 weeks.during those two weeks she told me that she did a bad thing in camp and that she was really sorry about it and i should forgive her.i told her to tell me what she did but she said she cant tell me because she loves me and she does not want to lose me.she promised to tell me when we get married.when she got back to her state she changed her location and she promised never to go back to what she did.my question is this? Should i continue with her,though i still love her like hell.should i forgive her totally.please help me out

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my broda she has been screwed

kick her out like polio~

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i'll suggest you tell her that if she doesnt confess you'll have no choice but to move on. i bet u, if she truely wants you, she will do it.

if she cant confess her deeds then its not worth moving on with her

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poster can you please answer this question

what if she didnt mention it at all?

i'm not in any way saying she did a right thing by cheating, but issues like this needs to be carefully dealt with.

dont just make any how decision or else u'll regret it sooner or l8ter

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dude when i read this, warning bells went off in my head. why is it that she will only tell you when you guys get married? it is obvious that what she has done is really bad to the extent that she fears she might lose you if she confesses now. my guy how can there be forgiveness where there is no confession of sin? she must tell you the whole story and if you are sure that it was just a one off thing that will never repeat itself then continue the relationship without making mention of it again. Since she was repentant to enough to confess that something did go wrong and she took steps to rectify the situation it would appear that she she really cares for you and when she sees that you have forgiven her out of true love her love for you will only increase.

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You guys are fightn wit urself.only d first guy helpd me a bit,pls ya all talk to me

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^^

welcome to africa

we r in the 21st century girl

where its allowed for guyzz 2 do what they want

and ladies to sit down @ home and watch guyzz do the play

we met it like that and it would kontinue like that

u ladies kant be trusted enough to go out there and have fun about

you would all be carried away

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I am not advocating cheating in any way or form, but your post pretty much says that MEN ARE ALLOWED TO CHEAT ON THEIR GRILFRIENDS/WIVES, BUT WOMEN SHOULD JUST SIT BACK AND TAKE IT because we are such emotionally fragile creatures. Unban, I am sorry, but thats egotistic.

We are created with our sinful flesh, and there is bound to be temptation for both men and women, its how they handle the tempation that matters. It is never okay for a man or woman to cheat regardless of the circumstances. If my future husband cheats on me, i know i will be close to commiting murder, thats how strongly i feel about cheating.

I can't speak for any other women and their motive for sleeping with anybody. As for me, I can't and won't be intimate without someone I don't have feelings for. I don't care if he is rich, poor, has a long schlong or not. If i don't care for him emotionally, it will not happen.

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^^

theres sometin u dont understand

even if a guy should cheat and sleep about

if its you he loves even if he sleeps with 1000 women

he would still stick with u

even if he goes to nysc and beyond,sleeps with the whole world

if he has his mind on you~ NO lady can change that

But the case is different with ladies

if they meet a bigger fish in the ocean or a man with a bigger and longer third leg

you simply would loose your place in her life~hence the reason why its not allowed for ladies to cheat~

they dont use their heart instead they use their heads and eyes~

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@unban, judging from your past posts, it seems a girl must have cheated on you while at NYSC, cos you seem obsessed with the topic "Girls in NYSC" abeg my guy chill jare. Not only girls sleep around at NYSC, guys do too, so whats your problem?

Girls do nt know how 2 close their legs to just 1 single guy

Do guys know how to zip theirpants up too, maybe you should blame guys too and not just Girls Girls Girls.

Look I neva went to NYSC, I left home right after secondary school. My whole point here is that please stop blaming girls like naija guys are all righteous.

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yeah

exactly what i said about GIRLS and NYSC

this is why HIV aids would always continue

Girls do nt know how 2 close their legs to just 1 single guy

I am really tired of this whole trash

super eagles dey mess up

Nigeria dont know where their president is

and the babes are all sleeping about

such makes the GREAT NATION OF NIGERIA

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Depends on u bro, if u really luv her, u forgive her but try 2 make her tell u although it quite clear she must have cheated on u, have u prayed about it?

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@poster, you are the one who knows your girl, and you have claimed here that you love her like hell. Yall have been dating for quite a long time, yes she commit ed a crime against your relationship, but the question you have to ask yourself is "are you willing to throw away the history you have with this girl for greener pastures that might necessarily not be sweeter? are you willing to start playing the dating field again toasting and looking for another suitable girl. I personally think you should forgive her, keep your eyes open and try to the build back the trust you once had. If you feel you can never trust her again, then I guess the relationship is over. The ball is in your court.

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