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Am I Confused, Selfish Or Just Being Unreasonable?

I have a girlfriend whom i love very much. . .[b]thats BASIC. . .in fact, i have never loved any lady besides her in my entire life and in the entire span of my relationship with her. (NB: I haven't said i have stopped loving her),

. . .but while i was in school, i had a very close female friend who's still my very good friend sha. . .

Here's the matter. . .It seems am losing control of my emotions. . .i have a strong likeness (don't know what to call it) and even fantasies about this girl (my school friend) due to our closeness even years after we graduated from the University. . .but the problem is that i don't even know what i want from her. . .MAYBE sex. . .and she has said clearly that she likes me as a friend but has never had the slightest pinch of feeling for me. . .

What really is my problem

How can I overcome it

I need to get back to straight thinking. . .Can anybody help me decipher what may be wrong with me

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Oh yeah my bad. But still I tink u are putting urself in dat situation. For u to actually ask for a kiss means u've gone beyond merely fantasizing or wateva.

Stop seeing u n d lady in question in bed. U say she's ur friend den tink of her as 1 instead of a bedmate. U need to reorient ur thots dats why I say it's a trap u've built 4 urself. As for her knowing ur GF u better b careful cos if she ever blurts it out dat u hit on her 2 ur GF or she gets 2 know some way u know u'd b in trouble.

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Try reading the bible from GENESIS to REVELATION; by the time you are finished, understanding on this matter will come to you.

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my broda,it is possible 4 her not 2 have feeling 4 you(i had same experience) which is better if you still love your lady and want 2 marry her because any further step with close female friend will back-fire and jeopadice your relationship and marriage with the real lady, !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! pls try i control yourself now because your close female friend will still come back to give you more than what you expected from her when there is nobody to give her what she want again and that action will want destroy your marriage totally(WORDS OF ADVICE FROM ELDER)

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Lemme start by saying u are silly. Sorry but I just had to do dat. U asked the friend of ur girlfriend whom u claim u luv 4 a kiss?? How dumb can u get??!!

I was going to straight up give u advise but I see now dat u trapped urself so d only advice is dismantle ur own trap b4 sometin turns around n bites u on d Bottom n u'll b crying life is unfair.

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All of the above. Oops! sori, just playing.

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you are confused, selfish and unreasonable, simple. I wonder why you need another opinion of yourself

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everyone with different cases in Nairaland court, as you can see 190 don judge you. so do as he said maybe your brain go correct my the time you receive the HEAVENLY HARD KNOCK ON HEAD (HHKH)

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my suggestion: pick the girl, convic her to make love to you politely and BOOM!!!

That feelings gos away. it is called LUST.

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On a second thought, i just did what u suggested but it didnt help . . .LOL. . .seriously this is not as funny as it looks to you. . .isnt there something sincere n helpful u can say to me?

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LOL. . .u re not serious. But seriously, its not as funny as u think it is.

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Give yourself 5 heavy knocks on your head

That should get you back thinking straight!!

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