I'm sorry, this is quite long but it can be longer. please read and advice .
I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for about 18 months now.
The story is----
Hmmnn. I love him (at least I think so) and he tells me he loves me every time he gets the opportunity to say it.
Don’t get me wrong I said think I love him because of the circumstances that surrounds our relationship. We are from different religious background and as I grew up my parents never fail to remind me to not to marry outside my religion.I always put that in mind before I date, it was different when I met him. I avoided starting a relationship but he was very persistent like his life would end if I did not agree. Somehow we started dating not because of his persistence but because I felt different with him (call it love): he is not a trouble maker and he seems much matured to me unlike other guys that have tried to ask me out, Plus he is good looking too (though not a point for me but that’s the physical aspect my friends see, can’t stop hearing, He looks so sweet and nice. Don’t leave this guy o.
We are at a stage where everybody that sees us together ask us why we are not married yet, like when we get an i.v. for someone’s wedding, his friends will jokingly say it's you guys' turn o. he has not asked me to marry him and I don’t want to press him but he has shown gestures like he calls me “iyawo mi” and has a pet name for me that means my beloved.
My problem with our relationship-------
Despite my parents wish. I want to marry the person I love and that loves me too. They are having a fit already and to them I’m not seeing anyone. I meet guys every now and then my cousins even want to introduce me to rich nice guys that have shown interest in me but of course I’ve declined. As I said earlier, he tells me he loves me but I believe he just says it but not show it. He is always busy, at first I understood because I know how tight his schedule is. He is also trying to set up his own business which explains why he’s always broke. I understand so I hardly expect gifts but a girl needs affection ad needs to be pampered too, no matter how little, don’t u think? We never go out. His idea of being together is me coming over to his place, when I want it vice versa; he reminds me how he has to plan a strategy to meet my parents so they will accept him and his idea of showing affection is talking to me on the phone everyday. I loved that at first as he’s always checking on me but I’m getting bored, we never do anything fun. When I try to complain, he will be apologetic and melt my heart by saying he agrees and he’ll change but he never does. He didn’t call me on my birthday and I was very sad because my toasters kept calling to take me out but my dear friend was no where to be found only to tell me he had been extraordinarily busy and didn’t forget and he would make it up to me, it’s been over a month, no outing, no gift? I’m not materialistic (that may be a problem because I don’t ask him for things) but a gift means a lot to me even if it’s just chewing gum. It means I’m in the person’s mind. Ask me do i give him gifts, yes I know the surprise I gave on his last birthday.
[I know my parents want my happiness and will give their consent if I do not bring home anyone else and they are sure he’s the best person for me. Note, I have not told him this so he doesn’t take advantage of it, I would, if I see more seriousness. I’m not very happy at the moment and I can’t boast and say he can always be there for me. I’m ready for marriage and if you ask him the same, he’ll say yes. I’m confused here. What should I do now? Am I expecting too much?