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Are All Nigerian Girls, Especially Abroad, Really Like This?

As you read, understand this is not a thread bashing anyone. You have a right to be pissed off but also give some meaningful response if you could. I do realize everyone is different but this sentiment has been expressed by a lot of my friends, Nigerians and otherwise. So, here it goes:

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I have read some of the comments of NL and I quite agree that something is biggerly so wrong with Nigerian girls. I had my first Nigerian girl here in Canada and what an immature Dam she is! Trust me, I am a very patient person and I so have my life together, young, well-educated and successful. I have no problems spending money for a girl but Nigerian girls (or maybe women generally) seem not to understand that a guy spends and will spend anything for a girl he LOVES and CARES about. Therefore, never place your attention NOT on the money and gifts but on the (his) heart which controls all the other things: time, gifts, loving, etc.

Well, she went from someone I liked to someone I really liked to the utter opposite! My first gift was expensive and before I bought it she found out the cost, she said, wow, this is so expensive. Fast forward a few months later, I was going to take her to my company's annual christmas dinner. I could go alone or go with another girl but I thought, well she should be the one. She was girlfriend.

She told me she wanted $120 to make her hair and how surprised I was when she said: why have a girlfriend if you can't afford to pay for her hair?? That is the most idiotic, ignorant, naija-mentality statement I have heard recently. I was patient with her because she has just moved here and doesn't know this is not Nigeria. I had bought her more gifts, spent time with her and lots more. She suggested splitting it 50-50 and I thought that was fine. Then, she claims I was the one who said so. In short, the drama that followed in the next few weeks was so irritating and childish. She was immature and just a Dam! Stay away from Naija girls abroad - with the exception of the unusually well brought-up few who have not lost their brains and decent family values.

But I know what will happen to her and others like her: They will be f.ucked and dumped by every guy of every color until they are in their 30s and 40s and desperate for marriage. And even after the marriage, the guy will still get a divorce somehow and leave their sorry Bottom. After all, they always claim to be single by choice and loving it! May they rot away in the boredom and colorlessness of singleness. Low-life, classless bitches. Interestingly, we will always meet again and then, they are so ashamed to face the guy who now has no regard or interest them. Losers!

So guys, don't be so considerate and find you only wasted your precious time. F.uck her and f.uck her until you are tired and then pass her to all your friends and someday she will realize it is because of the typical Naija girl attitude that has given her such bountiful results. Let no naija girl abroad complain about no-husband, scarcity of men, etc - it is all your fault so suck it up!

Well, fast forward a short-period of time, I met another lady from the carribeans and her complimentary on Naija girls was really ugly and not so different from the terrible image these girls have created for their families and a whole country. (Yes, she said something about Naija guys too but she added a compliment - something she admired). Anyways, if a girl will be a loser, it doesn't matter who she meets! Ori ti o je iya, bi won da lekun, ko ni gbo! (A destined suffer-head is irredeemable, no matter what you do to help, she must still suffer!)

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same as chinese girls and their guys, i v not been to african clubs in the states but in uk a zimbabwe or south african or ghana girl will ask for only alcopops,beer,cole e.t.c if a fellow zimbabwean,south african e.t.c guy was buying them a drink so why is it different with nigerian girls out of the whole of africa?

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[b]this is what we call induction i.e arguement from particular to universal.even though you've met 100 9ja girls it is not enuff for you to generalise, 90% of 9ja babes are lookin for a conducive platform to exercise their feminism,they are not opportunist like you did painted them.it is you that was unfortunate to experience the bad version of 9ja babes.[b]

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@quuenafrica

first you accuse me of generalising but my quotes which youhave highlighted says otherwise, like i said before"not all nigerian girls are like that"im reffering to the large numbers who are like that not generalising

and btw if you go to wales,england,northern ireland,scotland nigerian girls are the same all over and yes a large percentage are like that

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You were referring to girls that you met in London who ask you for phone credit, then why do you have to generalise by saying a whole lot of girls in UK? You should have been specific beforehand. Mind you, the United Kingdom is a unitary state consisting of four countries: England, Northern Ireland, Scotland and Wales.

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i must say that not all nigerian girls are like that but a whole lot are, at least in uk,you meet a nigerian girl and the first demand is phone credit,then nandos(headquarters of naijas)

You are absolutely right!

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some comments are right,i know nigerian women have this money issues just like any other nationalities,but they deserve some credit.Have been there,done that,to me nigerian women are very homely,i see them as a wifey.if u meet a bad woman use your sense and walk away.

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the day i start stepping to girls who r crackheads is the day you ll need to start praying for a man,sit don there n continue lashing out instead of changing your ways typical insulting ppl instead of facing issues!!

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Finnally there is someone taking some sense about naija chicks.  Congrats man!

@poster

The only reason there are so much threads bashing Naija babes is simply because its more interesting to talk about. In the media, negative propaganda sells quicker faster and juicier than Positive news. What kind of communication will precede thread beginning with '' OH!! my NAIJA GIRLis the bomb, what y'all think''

Also, this is the romance section which simply means most of the discussions on here will be Agony Aunt types. (You get my drift?)

You have no right to generalise cos you met ONE naija chick who under these circumstances births the penitent question: Where and how you met her!!!

Mind you; I have come in contact with loads or Caribbean girls and majority of them are not a lot to write home about either. (no offence to any on this board)

This is the bigbiggeste I have ever heard. Phone credit is not a demand naija girls or girls in general in the uk make. If you are telling the truth then the girls you hang around with are crackheads, . . but i think credit is the last thing they'll be asking for.

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I've seen lots of topic goin on abt ladies and gift and i find it funny! This kind of girls ar just being a disgrace to we others. But veri few girls act like dat here in london cos london guys hav strategies and play smart. Once a guy had spent 20pounds on a lady and he keep seeing more sign of demand. He checks out straight. He no even need fu*k am cos she fit get diseases

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make u take your time oooo!

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See this one, wey never leave his papa's farm, too dey talk.

Baba suwe feeling funky

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Nigerian Girls abroad are all twats, retards and unadulterated multifacet bitches!!!!!!!!!

They so disgusting!!!! Wal 'alai!!!!!!!!!!!!

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@ Poster I can see u r very bitter; I can categorically tell that not all are like this; u 've stated the problem already, that she was inmature, Stop dating people that are inmature, before u go splashing out on a girl get to know her first, becos if u dont u r basically bribing her to be with u; moreover if as u said about ur situation u should have no problem getting another girl, u also should be grateful to her as a relationship is a lot easier to break than a marriage

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@Poster: Some strong words up there - where it hurts most.

I know a good number of girls who are from good families and who are abroad, i have also seen a number of girls who sadly fall into the description above.

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@Poster

Get closer to the elders. They will teach you the ways of women.

And when your eyes are opened enough, you will know how to discern a pure materialistic Dam from afar.

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so i think with this,

we guys need to find out a little about the girl we want to go out with. if not everybody will sink 4 naija girls hand

lol

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I appreciate all the meaningful contributions and time to do a write-up to my post.

Let me quickly indicate that there's nothing like bribery here, in the sense like giving a gift to achieve an objective. NO! I am sure that a lot of people will agree that if you really like someone, and something is within your means, you would buy it for the person. The person may ask or may not ask but on the merit of that situation, you can decide if it is a reasonable and good thing to do. However, when a girl begins to 'demand' things like it's her 'right' and makes a big deal out such things, it is 'manipulation'. Someone made a point here that she was acting and this was my personal conclusion when this issue unfolded.

Again, thanks for the contributions that addressed the issue.

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@ poster,your thread shows to things,1. That you are funny.2 you are just , for a guy.

You claimed that you showered her with gifts did you do that to get her or did she really deserve it?Next time be careful.

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@poster

i agree with you on that as well,while i must say that not all nigerian girls are like that but a whole lot are, at least in uk,you meet a nigerian girl and the first demand is phone credit,then nandos(headquarters of naijas) then gradually from there graduates to more expensive,

for the girls that do that,i think its the nigerian mentality and also the guys that make out as if they r adnan kashoggi's grand son,if a man is down to earth and real with a girl then the worst she ll do is walk off and look for a sugar daddy if thats what she s into

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CyberG

You obviously chose the wrong naija babe who was after nothing but your money.

That is not saying we don't have the bad nigerian girls, but i can tell u we have quite a sizeable number of good Nigerian chics all over the world.

Just open your eyes wide and don't be deceived by their beauties. Get to know them real good and their intentions before spending your cash on them

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Dude, I'm sorry to hear about your unfortunate encounter with this particular naija babe. I'm currently dating a naija babe & it's best thing that's ever happened to me in dating after I almost swore off naija babes based on my prior encounter with them.

I tried talking to a couple in the past & I've have to say it was less than thrilling, between the attitude or maybe mentality that some of these babes have never ceases to amaze me. Okay, NL naija babes before you gang up on me please understand that I'm speaking from my personal experience here.

About the father christmas mentality being synonymous with the naija men I have to agree. I always tell my girlfriend that from growing up in naija before moving to the west & seeing the naija guys here, their idea of toasting a chic or courting her is all about how much money they can spend or gift they can give.

Now my people don't get me wrong about spending money or gift giving which I do myself, but there's a time & place for this. My girlfriend gets gifts from me, not because she's asked for it but because she deserves it.

After a naija babe has dated a couple of naija guys that splurge on their asses until they get that pum-pum & move on leaving them in the cold, they now expect all naija guys to be father christmas. @ poster, you'll will have to sift through the garbage before you find that diamond. Good luck man!

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Some people just watch too much TV. ooooy!!!

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I've thought about it and I came to the conclusion that the problem did not start now, it arose from you guys, hence the father christmas response. Nigerian men have been known to use material goods just to ordinarily woo a girl. Such an act is synonymous to bribery, anyway. Men like that shouldn't complain when these girls demand endlessly.

Now to your case, it's good you give and that's nice of you. It would take some time before the mentality of placing emphasis on the gifts rather than the reason behind it is destroyed because some of thess girls have dated the aforementioned men. Despite that, I really do not want to blame it on the men because I believe that we are individuals and we should take responsibility for our actions. The fact is these girls have parasitic and greedy leanings, so I'd rather blame them. You just have to be watchful next time.

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I think what the poster is trying to point out or ask is this:

Do women who come from Nigeria to America or any other conutry, study the customs, talk to locals and try to figure out how things work there?

If in fact they had/have done thier proper research they will learn that in most cultures outside of Nigeria it is not a GIVEN that guy will pay for everything but women, esp. in America (speaking here not of chickenheads) like to pay thier own way, accepts gifts as gifts and never expect for thier man to hand them jack.

The above question also applies to the men. To be totally honest the one thing that turns most American women off about Nigerian men is the fact that they like to throw money at women and when independent women have money thrown at them red flags go up becuase this usually means the man wants to control them.

This is in no way an attack on Nigerian women/men because just like there are Nigerian women who dont know how to act, so true for every single race and creed of people. There are people with class and those without. just trying to have an honest conversation here.

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@Stillwater

It's good you responded to my post and I appreciate that. This is nothing about turning to father Xmas and there's nothing wrong in giving even to someone who is not a GF or BF. However, the point is Naija girls, with very few exceptions, are just materialistic and gold-diggers! This is the point and a guy will give anything for someone they care about but girls seem to place emphasis on the gifts and money but not the heart that controls the giving and such acts. This is the point here and don't get it twisted. You can give without loving (this is useful for trapping gold-diggers) but you can't love without giving. Think about it.

@Tatase, I am not bitter in that sense but I spoke the truth I know and what I see happen, overtime, to girls but they never seem to understand this is the cause of it. A good, decent and balanced strong guy is hard to find and that is what girls complain about. However, things like this make guys to go from real men brought up by good parents in a respectful home to something girls end up crying about. Any wonder why girls may never get such a guy's sympathy or pity when she's used and abused??

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You guys have turned yourselves to father christmas that is why these girls see every reason to leak you dry. If a girl have respect for herself, trivial things like hairdo, would be done herself. If you think the situation is different in Nigeria, think again. Newsflash---> It's worse.

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It's always interesting when someone whose judgement failed them when they were picking a girlfriend chooses to tar everyone with the same brush. I have many Nigerian friends who are abroad and they are nothing like the girls that NL guys choose to report in the romance section.

I don't know where you guys find these effed up girls or why they're the ones you choose to go out with and that you allow to make you bitter but I like to think that there are many good-mannered Nigerian girls in naij and abroad.

In life people have good and bad experiences in relationships. It's not like Nigerian guys are all so perfect and we ladies have nothing to complain about. There are always good and bad eggs. Just look at it as a lesson learned and move on.

You're so very simple and easily flattered. She obviously knows NOTHING about anything and is talking smack. Why does she think she can comment on Nigerian girls in general. Is it that Caribbean girls are one and all so excellent. I know horror stories about them but it's not like because of that I'm tarring all of them with the same brush. The two of you are obviously very simple-minded.

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