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Are Men Really Scarce?

Are men really scarce? or could it just be the ones ladies think are responsible enough for marriage (I mean husband materials as they are referred to in local parlance) that are difficult to come by? Otherwise why would it be so much of an achievement for a lady to be hooked these days.

Guys, are you really scarce?

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nope, just that good ones just like good people generally are scarce

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I hav com 2 accept a sad,sad truth-men r like parking spaces,d good ones r al taken.

Back 2 d topic,i dnt tink gud men r scarce,its jst dat a lot of gud grls,lik urs truly,hav had d mis4tune of meetin d rong ppl.most of d time,some women dnt evn knw wat dey want,i mean dey go into a r/ship wit pre-conceived ideas,dey hv dis image in dia heads of a perfect guy & a perfect r/ship & wen tins dnt wrk out dat way,dey quit,losin som1 who might hv bn dia mr. right.

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WELL,,,,, all of the above

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@ post

For where? Nor be men dey Ghana, Pakistan, Iran, India, GB, ect, ?

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be good

Men are not scarce

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No,

I am not married.

Single and seriously searching. I learn a lot about live then I share what I think I have observed.

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you know now!

d way u talk and all.

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chikend

why do you want to know if i am married?

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Onyinye,

You see, nairaland is not a forum for baby class where every kid makes their own rhythm.

Most times I discover you just reply off point to a topic. You absolutely have not had experiences in life and should really let people tell you.

Better still, stop winding aloof and come into the circle so you can see for yourself.

Learning and reasoning can never be subjective.

Some how we seem to have more prepared women than men. A woman is a cost centre and would on the average not worry about income.

A man without good income would not worry about marriage. Worse still is a situation where good pocket men are on the look out for gold diggers that disguise as good wives.

It is complique.

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The kind of replies some of the guys are giving on this thread trully shows that real men are scarce. Men are not scarce, they are everywhere. But responsible, intelligent and focused men are not too many. Sad

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@ Forbidden.

True talk!

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Tpoup,

From the first time i read your post, I had this inference that you must have problem with men, i.e. you will not easily get your self adjusted to a guy. I felt you have broken up well.

How many hands have you changed?

When women have this I dont care attitude, If he doesnt want, let him go to hell now.

That is an attitude of a divorcee wife.

Relationship is a task that takes the two involved taking responsibility to make sure it works.

When there is an issue work it out together.

Try a few of these and may you may be fixed up(assuming you are not exceeding the age limit)

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not from where am sittin

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i don't believe they are scarce

the problem with naija ladies is that they don't believe in sowing

they just want too reap,

REAL MEN ABOUND

just that some are not really attractive financially

the rich,cute ones live on a fast lane

they love to grind possibly every pretty Lady

Judging from experience

WHEN A MAN IS RICH AND HANDSOME ,LOVING A WOMAN BECOMES ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE

why?

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Women want what they want, there is nothing wrong with that. Tall handsome blah blah blah. And "real men" too also have criteria. Perhaps when the woman has finished checking all the boxes, the guy just started and she might not even be what the guy wants.

Reality

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aaaamen, cos am planning to

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Even some of them gyls when 30 still behaves like 18.

Mostly them born/leaving away. Its pathetic to say the list.

Real Men/Women are scarce, you will not notice this until you want to get married.

Its only God that will help us when the time comes.

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Age 30? These days once a girl has crossed 25 , she begins to get worried and intensifies the 'search'. As if sumtin miss b4?

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lmao! I knew you have sth up your sleeves, but you talk true sha

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When girls are in their late teens and early 20s,their bosoms still firm and their butts tight, they think they are on top of the world. Once age 30 dawns on them,they suddenly discover that men are "scarce".

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I'm not saying i hate how nigerian girls talk oh. ruby don't push words in my mouth. Naija girls talk okay apart from the phonet forming ones. I can not stand fake accent. if you are talking to white people you can speak phonet but when you start speaking phonet with your fellow nigerians, then that becomes a problem. i simply hate fake accent

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I keep telling everyone, I have never and will never date a white girl. not even by accident. I just like the way they talk. nothing more.

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omg Ruby, I totally love it when you use the white girl's voice

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Why won't guys be scarce. When all these women keep bringing their drama; for what?

Guys need to stay away from stress-inducing babes, and go for the stress-relieving ones. Let all those "I too know" ladies sort themselves out.

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and handsome . . . well there's plastic surgery but as we've seen he still has no control over that also.

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Those qualifications shouldn't be so impossible apart from the height which the man has no control over.

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*white girl's voice* Like omg, Like why are you quoting me?

Like omg!

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Women that are ready to settle down look beyond trivial issues like being handsome.

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Seconded. Ladies if you find a dude that has the basic qualities of a good man, GRAB HIM. Then you can, if I may borrow Onyinye's terms "mold him" to be the man you want.

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Tall

Handsome

Rich

Confident

Responsible

Honest

Non drinker

Non smoker

Non womanizer

Great sex

to name a few. If you dont meet the minimum requirements, you won't even be invited for the interview

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Qualifications like what?

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Whatever fuels your "Man-eating urge".

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@post

You see, you got it all wrong. We have alot of men. . . . . physically. But we have very very very very very very very few men mentally. What we have is an infestation of Men with a Boy's mentality.

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men are not scarce, all ready made men are scarce n thats what most women are looking for, they want to reap where they did not sow.

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Ladies, you have been warned. Grab your copy today. Tomorrow might be too late.

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Guys are scarce o!!

Infact, very soon ladies will only be able to find husbands only on the black market.

By 2015, it will no longer be bride price but rather groom price.

All ladies are hereby warned.

Grab your copy (MAN) now

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Men are not scarce but responsible MEN are!!!

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Real men are scarce if we're looking at boys, I'm ~ 20, so these are still boys, when I get to the age ~25 - 30, they will become more plenty. Life makes boys into men (well most).

I now know better what I want, because I'm getting better at seeing what I don't want.

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Good men are actually not scarce. the problem is ladies who spend their time drawing up bizzare and almost unachievable qualifications for the type of man they want. These qualifications automatically disqualify the few good men around thereby increasing the number of husbandless and boyfriendless ladies in our society.

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Yes,

fine, mature, responsible, honest, etc men are very scarce.

Don't know why the previous generation bothered to have boys, knowing they'll have no time to teach them properly.

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Hmmmm i wouldn't say they are scarce just not abundant and sometimes, you just need time to get to the bottom of him well atleast deeper than the surface.

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I guess everyone's looking for different things, but I know the general idea is that a lot of great guys get ignored because you get the non-marriage material ones pretending to be great but with that extra edge i.e. Bad boys, this extra edge just makes the women think they have the perfect guy, but then when it comes down to it, it was all pretence.

It takes a while before people know exactly what they want in a guy, and that's when stability and reliability start becoming really importance, and things such as physical attraction and swagger start to decline down the list.

I'm speaking for myself though, though to be honest, I have known what I wanted in a guy ever since I was 15.

Also, knowing what you want in a guy also implies that you know what you don't want in a guy, in fact I spend more time learning about what I don't like than what I do. What I don't like are the things that I think are the most important to find out, but these I find that only experience will really show these to me.

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Nope, guys are not scarce, but good rich ones are.

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Thanx, the signature inspires me in a way. (Dont mind how)

Back to the issue. It kinda strange that someone would get into a relationship without knowing what to get from it, or where the relationship should head.

So, it's the choice ones that are really scarce? I dont think it's peculiar to men then, it's both ways, because choice ladies are difficult to come by too, it's just that it's difficult to tell who's fake from the real ones at first blush.

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Nah, it's just a lot of women, like myself, end up in the wrong relationships because they didn't know what they were looking for before the heartbreak, after the heartbreak, they realise it, and all the flaws in the guy and the relationship.

I believe with every break up, I refine my search criteria, and it's good knowing that I'm getting closer to him.

I know there are plenty good men, I surround myself with them, however, sometimes I fall into the habit of thinking my good guys have good friends, but that isn't always the case.

I know so many great guys, maybe it's because they are also Christian, but I know so many focused guys, and I know all I'm looking for a the specifics, e.g. physical attraction, and interests in common, otherwise, if I wanted a basic good guy, I have several to choose from.

P.s. I love your signature!

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