Most of my friends say that nigerian men are possessive. Is this true and
When a man is not possessive, he doesnt love you.
When he's possessive, he's insecured.
What do you all want from your men? You want someone that will not care about how you live your life? How would you women feel when you see your man constantly exchanging pleasantries with other women?
Food for thought,
Does my Naija want to know where I am and what I'm doing 24/7, no, is it a problem for me to show reasonable affection to male friends (his and mine) - no. Does he have a issue when I go out on my own to a club looking as hot as hell. A definite yes - so he makes a point of going with me. But isn't that all men.
It just takes a while to break him into understanding that his word is law for only as long as you approve of it.
There is no good or bad men because he's Nigerian, South African or American. A man is possessive or not possessive because he just is.
Don't let people's opinions rob rob you of life experiences.
And might I add, a Nigerian man will treat you the way you want him to treat you. So you decide on what you want to show him and he'll move on from there.
from South Africa
Hmmm, I see what you mean.
Well, I know a friend of mine who been married for some time who always complain that her husband calls her every minute and if she doesn't answer the phone he sent out the calvary looking for her. Most time she deals with older people because she is a nurse. She always having to deal with a dementia patient or a schizophrenic patient. I mean she deal with CRAZIES five days a week. Bless her heart.
The older ladies in our circle always tell her that When he stops calling then you worrying. To me that bullshit, because that possessiveness. Possessiveness is a sense of entitlement and MOST NIGERIAN MEN ARE POSSESSIVE because of the animalistic trait and they are naturally skeptical. Go figure.
Yes they are sister jay!
Dsense doesn't like it when men look at me. I mean we were at the store getting some shoes. Dsense were massaging my toes because it was hurting from playing a game. A guy walked passed and looked back Dsense caught the guy and lunged at his Bottom. I mean he was like a pantha in the night after a juicy prey.
Yes Nigerian Men are generally possessive.But for some of them who have allowed a paradigm shift in there mind they can be quite liberal.It is based on individuality,so before you get involved have a talk with him and let his words reveal his mind and please don't let them use the bible as a cover up for there inherent issues that would not just allow them be liberal towards there wives.
I dated this AA chick once who threw it in my face all the time about how African men (not just nigerians cos they count us all the same) are very possessive and all. Well it turns out that when we dated, she found out that I was far from that and ended up complaining that I could "take her or leave her" because I wasn't a possessive drama king like her thugged out AA ex-boyfriend. She on the other hand happened to be the possessive one always threatening to beat up any chick that talked to me.
Well that's why she's an ex because I don't do drama.
In a bad way. The guy I am seeing is nice looking. I am going to get to know him regardless of my friends, but it would be nice to know about the culture from someone who is Negerian and not have to read about the culture. I am very open minded regarding this relationship. It's very new. He has been in America for some years and I believe he knows our culture, but since I have never dated a man from Africa. I do not know his culture.
America is not the middle East. I am more concern about the men in America. I told my friends that I was talking to a man from Nigeria. They started telling me that they are possessive and right now I am just trying to learn the culture. I have asked him questions about his culture and he just replied the Nigerian men follow the bible. Men were allowed to do a lot of things in the bible, so right now I am just asking questions.