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Most of my friends say that nigerian men are possessive. Is this true and

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it is arab men dat r posesive,hav u seen hw dey treat deir wives?? some of dem cant even talk 2 other males or even shake hands sef. dey have 2 wear dar sinister outfit wen dey go out,so he d only one dat sees d whole face of his wife

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(singing the Negro spiritual) "Swing low sweet chariot coming for to carry me  home"

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Very funny.

When a man is not possessive, he doesnt love you.

When he's possessive, he's insecured.

What do you all want from your men? You want someone that will not care about how you live your life? How would you women feel when you see your man constantly exchanging pleasantries with other women?

Food for thought,

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Does my Naija want to know where I am and what I'm doing 24/7, no, is it a problem for me to show reasonable affection to male friends (his and mine) - no. Does he have a issue when I go out on my own to a club looking as hot as hell. A definite yes - so he makes a point of going with me. But isn't that all men.

It just takes a while to break him into understanding that his word is law for only as long as you approve of it.

There is no good or bad men because he's Nigerian, South African or American. A man is possessive or not possessive because he just is.

Don't let people's opinions rob rob you of life experiences.

And might I add, a Nigerian man will treat you the way you want him to treat you. So you decide on what you want to show him and he'll move on from there.

from South Africa

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R.O.T.S.L.M.C.A.O

Xmas Joke of the day!!

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Hmmm, I see what you mean.

Well, I know a friend of mine who been married for some time who always complain that her husband calls her every minute and if she doesn't answer the phone he sent out the calvary looking for her. Most time she deals with older people because she is a nurse. She always having to deal with a dementia patient or a schizophrenic patient. I mean she deal with CRAZIES five days a week. Bless her heart.

The older ladies in our circle always tell her that When he stops calling then you worrying. To me that bullshit, because that possessiveness. Possessiveness is a sense of entitlement and MOST NIGERIAN MEN ARE POSSESSIVE because of the animalistic trait and they are naturally skeptical. Go figure.

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Yme,

Cos the men be possessive because they fear women can leave them? What do you think?

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Yes OP,but most of them are possessive for the wrong reason,may God help us women.

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Yes they are sister jay!

Dsense doesn't like it when men look at me. I mean we were at the store getting some shoes. Dsense were massaging my toes because it was hurting from playing a game. A guy walked passed and looked back Dsense caught the guy and lunged at his Bottom. I mean he was like a pantha in the night after a juicy prey.

Ooooh lawd!

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Kai. . . . . . they are way too possessive!!

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Ooooh! Yes! They are some possessive fockers! Especially to their wives and significant others. Oooh lawd! Some of them mean well, BUT OOOH LAWD. Don't let a man cut an eyeball at you. It on and popping!

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"I think men in general, irrespective of their nationality, CAN BE possessive. "

Roger that one!

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Most of them are, some more than others. My ex was a no. 1 psycho, I had to pack my stuff and run when e be like say me sef wan begin crase!!!

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Yes Nigerian Men are generally possessive.But for some of them who have allowed a paradigm shift in there mind they can be quite liberal.It is based on individuality,so before you get involved have a talk with him and let his words reveal his mind and please don't let them use the bible as a cover up for there inherent issues that would not just allow them be liberal towards there wives.

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i am not. but my girl is

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I think men in general, irrespective of their nationality, CAN BE possessive.

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Downright.

Most Some anyway.

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They simply dont want anyone to eat thier meat. But arnt most men like that?

When getting into a r/s with a Nigerian man one should be fully committed and not half Bottom it.

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Very possessive , and when you do the same to them it will turn to “you are not giving me breathing space”

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They are  if you give them the chance to.  You be a hardass and they not gonna try no $hiet with you! simple as ABC

Not just naija men, Men in general, and hey! some women could be posessive too.

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There are millions of Nigerian men out there. They cant all be!!

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My man takes top prize for possessiveness oh, no man dey allowed to sniff near me. Fone calls o, internet/emails, my whereabout im go monitor!!

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@ poster

I dated this AA chick once who threw it in my face all the time about how African men (not just nigerians cos they count us all the same) are very possessive and all. Well it turns out that when we dated, she found out that I was far from that and ended up complaining that I could "take her or leave her" because I wasn't a possessive drama king like her thugged out AA ex-boyfriend. She on the other hand happened to be the possessive one always threatening to beat up any chick that talked to me.

Well that's why she's an ex because I don't do drama.

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Last comment was addressed to Sissy.

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In ever culture, you can find men that are possessive. But in some culture, you might find a common traits. Example: Asian women are more submissive the most women, not saying that they all are. Just a large number of them. Due to their culture.

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In a bad way. The guy I am seeing is nice looking. I am going to get to know him regardless of my friends, but it would be nice to know about the culture from someone who is Negerian and not have to read about the culture. I am very open minded regarding this relationship. It's very new. He has been in America for some years and I believe he knows our culture, but since I have never dated a man from Africa. I do not know his culture.

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possessiveness doesn't settle with a particular kind of group. just like some nigerian men are possessive like other men from other countries are, some aren't. it is an individual thing.

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yea right. . .I second that good luck!

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America is not the middle East. I am more concern about the men in America. I told my friends that I was talking to a man from Nigeria. They started telling me that they are possessive and right now I am just trying to learn the culture. I have asked him questions about his culture and he just replied the Nigerian men follow the bible. Men were allowed to do a lot of things in the bible, so right now I am just asking questions.

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I know nothing about the culture and if they are, why?

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I don't know because I am american woman.

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Are Nigerian Women more possessive?

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