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Are Some Women Just "Unlucky” In Love?

Are Some Women Just

“Unlucky” In Love?

Now… I’d like to ask you another question… and I’m asking that you be totally honest with me here…

When you are alone and thinking about the pain and frustrations you’ve experienced in life and in love… what do you attribute to be the CAUSE of it all?

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People often times invite the trouble.

But yes i think sometimes people get unlucky - i'd say it's a one time deal.

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em, am still learnign

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U seem to have read ma comments wrong

I never did say knowing oneself will stop u from getting a broken heart, far from it, but knowing who you are will help u deal with some situations that sometimes might seem frustrating.

The reason i said the choices u make matters is cos, i have witnessed friends who date people in the circle of those that have dumped them (hope dat makes sense), so nothing changes, they keep on getting heartbreak upon heartbreak.

When u know urself, u know wot u are looking for in a man, then u go for that, u just dont hop onto the next guy that gives u a wink just to get into your pants.

Opening ur heart to another one is always a risk.

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neither is it made of stones honey

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My heart is no glass that can be broken o

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Knwoing who you are still dosent stop your heart from getting broken.

Going for what you want is not a crime. Whatever choices we make in life still doesent change the fact that sometimes people get unlucky and meet the wrong person. Its not just women, men too.

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Most nigerian girls are materialistic. Thats d number one major cause of heartbreak for girls.

They see a guy with flashy clothes, nice ride, sweet words, fine face and dey throw all caution to winde mistaking lust and infatuation and greed for love.

Point taken.

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I dont believe in ''unlucky in love''

I do however believe in the choices one make .

As per ur other question, the cause of it may be a bit of digging into ur childhood and ur upbringing in general.  Take for instance if u were wrapped up in cottonwool all thru ur life.  The first time u go into the real world without ur parents holding ur hands, it will either make or break u!! B4 pointing the blame @ someone else (cos it is obviously easier to blame some else 4 ur frustrations) y not search urself? Knowing who u are is the beginning of a wonderful relationship with another.

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@ ammamat, Yes there are women that refuse absolutely to,(1,) try and rationalise+ understand men and their wants and take recourse to the easy way of either blaming LUCK or MEN for their malaise

(2) some don't know who they are and, in effect the kind of men they should be with.

These are flaws that could be corrected.

But what happens if a woman's flaw is that she is just too good? How do you rectify such a flaw within societal and moral boundaries? It's a toss up. Some end up wiv the sticky end. Even if they're stoic and refuse to blame "luck" and lie down and pine, deep inside they all know it is.

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I for one, think that nigerian girls dont like to face reality until it bursts open right in their faces. All the fairy-tale talk of the perfect guy seems to have left the wrong impression on them for way too long and the earlier they wake up from that slumber the better for them.

When u go around looking for what u want, spare a thought to ask yourself if u will be be what someone else wants too. Those guys u talk about all the time are human too, they will study u in the same way as u study them, they will discover those things u hide, they will run when u give them cause to. . . No woman is unlucky in love, some are too fast and some are too slow, some are too smart and some are plain dumb, some are too neat and some are filthy, some are very current and some are just old-school.

A word is enough for the wise.

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O yes!, I think some women really are. You'd see some that really, really ticks all the correct boxes in terms of what a lady should be, yet at the end of the day, they get repeatedly marooned with the most odius of men. I don't think it has an explanation. It just happens. Sadly.

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Unlucky in love?? Yea some women are.

It's Life. . . . Not everything works for Your favor.

So far . . . Love has been fair to me but I'D say

Most women are the architect of their problems.

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Unlucky ke? I don’t think so. When I sit down to look at my past, I just know that I’ve not met the guy who deserves me. Because when I meet him, he won’t need a prophet to tell him that. The others were just ‘side attractions’.

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I think The truth is that the thought of being “unlucky” is a dangerous one… because it allows to you overlook what is probably the REAL source of the problem…

Think about this for a second…

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yea, even when am heart broken, cause it could have been worse , so why cry over a spilled milk .

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Hav ben hat broken 1ce, i c evrytin as a masage 2 lern 4rm, and is also a stepin stone 2 move forword.

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'Unlucky' in love, I don't think so. I think sometimes we just make unwise choices. I think many women like tend to love from their hearts rather than their heads, and so sometimes fall for the wrong type of man because we try to place more emphasis on the little good points rather than face the large amount of bad. Saying that I don't think I've been unlucky, I've received love and given love and I am happy I have known it in my life, even if it does not knock again, now I'd be happy with a great, upbeat, loyal, caring, uncheating companion in my life, I had my great love but whilst he loved me he was a dog, just couldn't help himself no matter what was at stake cheating.

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i simply see it as a blessing in disguise, cause every disappointment in life is a blessing.

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@ emilyone are u saying that even when u are heart broken is a blessing?

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